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Old 07-04-2007, 10:04 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Have you ever been to a strip club with your husband? Advice needed...

Hey Ladies:

My husband and I have been married a long time. Part of our success in marriage I attribute to our good communication and openness in bed.

Recently my husband mentioned that he would like for us to go out of town, get a hotel room, and visit a strip club.

I quickly clarified that I was not into threesomes (as he knows)...and then asked him what he had in mind.

We spent some time talking about it, and I am open to the idea. The one thing that has me a little anxious is that I have never been in a strip club before and am not sure how to act.

I just needed some advice. I talked to my husband about this (i.e. Do women frequently go? Will I be the only one? What should I do) but then felt he was getting a buzz kill from the questions and my anxiety...

So, I am turning to you...Have any of you ever been to a strip club with your husbands or boyfriends? What does one do?

I feel like if I can enjoy the experience he wants to share with me then the "after" part would be well worth it....

Thanks for your info...

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Old 07-04-2007, 10:27 AM   #2 (permalink)
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you might want to read thru here to see what some of us have said on the subject

http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=113389
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Old 07-04-2007, 02:04 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Old 07-05-2007, 07:49 AM   #4 (permalink)
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Umm.... I have been to quite a few strip clubs with my ex-bf... not current, though.
The first time we went I was a bit nervous but he made me feel like i was a million bucks, and that this was purely for fun (as it was his best buds bday)... So we went...i was one of the only chicks not dancing on stage, in the club... and of course that brought attention to our table/area...cause all the other guys in the club were amazed that whoever these guys were would bring a chick with them!! I dressed hot, and have particularly large breasts...so some of the guys in the club were looking at me!! Not even paying attention to whomever was on stage!
One of my ex's friends decided he wanted to buy ME a dance!! So...i was game. I thought, what the hell...not a big deal... As soon as everyone in the club saw me sit down on the couch for the dance... every chair turned my direction, every face/pair of eyeballs watching...cause duh - two girls practically feeling up on one another is hot apparently. so...

Got my dance. Got over it...actually it was quite hard not to touch her... I'm not a lesbian and in no way am i bi-curious... But itwas just the sexual tension of it all and watching boobs be put in my face. Made me horny!

That was our first time..... the second time i took my ex out with a close group of our friends for HIS bday...same club. This time it was three guys, three girls incl. myself in our group. The other two ladies were nervous as all hell...and didn't really ever get comfortable. That night, I think I spent about $100 getting MY BF - at the time - about 4 lap dances. I sat there and watched as some other chick.... who was hotter than me, i'll admit... (hey, they're strippers!) dancing on my bf ten feet away from me. I was actually not bothered by it at all!! Suprisingly, I was completely comfortable.

In a nutshell that'd be our second time.... OH...and he even let me choose the girls on alll his dances. HAHA!! That was fun.
I guess it just really depends on how secure you are in your relationship/marriage. From what you said it seems like you'd be fine going with him and perhaps even watching him get a dance, or receive one yourself!!! You never know until you try. The best part about the club though....was it got him...well really, it got us both all worked up.... and when we got home at the end of the night - it was like, Crazy Sex Fest 2006..... it was fabulous.

NOW... with my current bf...i know i definitely could not go with him...idk for some reason I cannot picture feeling comfortable with him getting a dance. I hope my personal experience story helped. Any more questions...let me know!
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Old 07-05-2007, 10:29 AM   #5 (permalink)
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I've never been with my husband, because he doesn't really like strip clubs, but I did go with my ex-boyfriend several times in college. It is a lot of fun as long as you aren't uncomfortable with your body (and I say that because in a strip club, every woman in there is gorgeous, perfectly toned, made up, etc, and we all know that we're competitive with one another to some degree).


Interestingly, the other day I found myself on a forum for strippers (don't ask how... I don't remember how I got there or why I stayed, lol), and I was reading an extremely long thread about how much strippers generally HATE women coming into their clubs, unless they're lesbians. Why, you ask? According to the thread, women who come with their husbands/boyfriends generally:

Don't tip well (or not at all)
Glare at the women and their husband the whole time
Take away attention from the strippers*
Via glaring, distract the husband from buying dances/drinks/etc.
Make it uncomfortable for the strippers.

* I mention the attention because I had never thought of this before (crazy me). According to the girls who posted here, many of them have lost significant money in any given night because of bachelorette parties or large groups of guys who bring their girlfriends. Basically, when nobody's paying attention to the strippers, nobody is paying them, either. And these strippers all said basically that they don't ENJOY taking their clothes off, they do it for the money. So standing around naked all night for no money really bothers them. As I can understand.

I don't know whether you care that you'll be hated by a roomful of naked chicks or not, but my advice is to behave and keep the glaring to a minimum, and if you dont' think you can do that, then don't go. Just out of courtesy for the girls who are up there dancing, I suppose.
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Old 07-18-2007, 10:06 AM   #6 (permalink)
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a good time!

I went to my first strip club when I was 18 as a girls night out. There were 3 of us and we had a blast! The only akward part was all three of us being newbies- we didn't know a damn thing. But the girls explained on what a lap dance was- how much they cost- how to tip the the girls and just to relax and have fun. We got all the attention- from the strippers and the men. There are probably many many reasons behind this from something different for the strippers, to better tips from the men- and well just the attention.

I had planned on going back and having more fun with it but just haven't had the right time to do it yet. Life got in the way of all my fun time- but I will- sooner or later
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Old 07-19-2007, 08:40 AM   #7 (permalink)
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I've been to strip clubs many times with my boyfriend. We enjoy it very much. I've noticed that it's not that uncommon for girls to go to strip clubs. In fact, the times I have gone, I will usually see a few couples.

I've heard from strippers first hand that they don't like the fact that women come in to the clubs because they don't spend money. Usually when I go I will tip a few of the dancers. It's really not fair for me to just sit there while all the guys spend the money.
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