Proxybabe

There seem to be a few threads talking about this type of stuff
but i was just curious to know what you girls think about threesomes,
with men or women.
I've been in a few, but i can't figure out whether i enjoy them or not!
What do you guys think - is three a crowd?

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JustJess

I like them.

That is all for now.

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mixedmedia

I've never had one...but I fantasize about it alot. Two men, two women...both scenarios. I'd like to try them out one day and I've discussed it a little with the man I am seeing now. One day perhaps I will have an interesting journal entry about it to share.

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abaya

I am not sure if this counts as a threesome... well, maybe a selfish one. I fantasize about a 2 + 1 situation (the + 1 being my husband, watching me with another woman). But a true threesome, with everyone fucking everyone regardless of gender... naah, I don't know if I'm up for that.

I'd still be willing to try the 2 + 1 in reality, if we get to that point (and can find a suitable participant, for both our tastes). Still enjoying just the two of us, at the moment.

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onodrim

The opportunity has never presented itself, but I know that if it did it's something I would be very interested in. Ideally I would want it to involve my current partner and either another male or another female.

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Proxybabe

yea i definately reckon its something good to try!
alot of you talk about threesomes with your partner and someone else...
when i tried this, for some reason it made me insanely jealous, even though i knew my boy loved me to pieces...
do you reckon maybe its better if you're single? well thats what i reckon
let me know what you think

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Bacon Symphony

I've never done it before, but I think I have a tad bit of a jealous streak. If he's eating her pussy, that's fine, but the second he kisses her... I'd probably stalk off crying.

I'm a pussy.

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Sultana

Naw, you're not! Everyone has their limits. It's good to recognize yours in advance!

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yelizaveta

I have, with two jamaican men who were not doing anything with each other but with me, and i have to say it was interesting, but probably not something i would pursue again. I am glad to have had the experience though..and it was possible that i didnt enjoy the 3some solely because the 2 guys weren't really too great in bed, although they were both gorgeous!

surferlove007

I've never done one before although James and I have discussed it. I'm not opposed, actually I'd like to do one with him however we're uncertain of when the opportunity might arise before he goes... if ever.
Also I would be concerned about another woman being involved somewhat, perhaps green eyes might come out if she crossed the line or something. Basically I would want the focus to be us, with no kissing from her at all, she's there for decoration basically.
It is scary also to think about what it could or couldn't do to our relationship.
Overall I wouldn't mind, would probably fun with someone I care about and trust.
Also the trust thing, finding someone who's clean and trustworthy would be hard which is probably why we haven't had one...yet

Grasshopper Green

Although I've never technically been involved in one, I would be open to one, but only with 2 women and a man. I'm not interested in 2 men and me.

After 7 years of marriage and 11 years of togetherness, hubby and I have started to redefine our sexual boundaries, and I'm happy that jealousy hasn't become an issue in our relationship. I really don't think jealousy would play a part in any 3some we may have in the future.

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cadre

I'd like to try it some day but realistically I won't until I'm single, if I'm ever single again. I also think it's not something for couples. At least not for me, it would bother me too much and I know that it would bother my current boyfriend. One day maybe our opinions will change but I don't know.

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Grasshopper Green

So...if you ever tried one cadre...you would want it to be with two unattached people and you?

I'm not slamming you in any way, just curious

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cadre

Oh yeah definately. I mean, I've had "friends with benefits" before and it's not something that bothers me so I think something like that would be the best way to go about it. I also forgot to mention that I'd do basically anything from two guys to two girls. I have always loved experimenting.

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36DDDmilf

Hmmm..lets see..I have had a few experiences with this...a long-term relationhship with a married couple of 13 years..I REALLY liked her - him, ahh not so much, but our friendship was a "package" deal...
Previously to this, when I was around 22 or so, I had a bf who always wanted me to hook up with im and his friend...finally after a few months I gave in..It was very disappointing..I think it was MORE for him instead of me...NOW, I want two men and two women (not at the same time) and I want it the way I envision it!

SiN

3some, either direction, is still waiting on my 'to-do-before i die' list.

i like to think if it as, not just fun, but as a test, of ... being evolved and mature?

as in, sure, a drunken whee lets all get naked and fuck ... would be fun, but would it truly count?

in the sense of being able to transcend all of that 'stuff' ... traditional insecure blah-blah.

i'd just really like to be in a position, physically and mentally, to do it.
sometime in this lifetime, i will.

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cellophanedeity

I would love to try a threesome again. We sort of tried when I was in high school, but it was just oral sex and kissing and such, and it wasn't that great because of choice of partners.

My Love and I are polyamorous, so jealousy really wouldn't really play a part. We're just a bit shy in finding partners.

CaliLivChick

Since I've been single, I've been the third in MANY threesomes, with couples, two men, and two women... my ex and I were looking for another woman to join us while we were together, but just never found her. I've enjoyed it, and don't have any plans to stop right now. Mixed, are you bringing your man on the 6th?

I've always been respectful of couples... when they have their side discussion about whether or not they agree that they like me (haven't had any complaints yet ), I look away, wander away momentarily, whatever works. I would want the same if I was part of a couple, so that's what I give.

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Lady Sage

I will be the prude of the group and say HELL NO.

Cudos to those who want them and like them but none for me thanks!

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eileenbunny

I've tried it in my younger and crazier days, but it was never as great as I imagined. Now I'm married and I don't think my husband would go for it, so I guess those days are over. I'm happy as things are.

Sweetpea

To each their own. It might be something I would consider with another woman and my husband, but I'm really not sure.

If you're single... threesomes may be a good way to express you'rself.. but if you're in a relationship...
I think it takes a very stable relationship to be involved in adding other sexual partners. It takes a lot of discussion, understanding and setting boundaries Before getting involved in this kind of thing, even just "one night of fun" can take it's toll on a relationship later on if honest discussions are not had a head of time.

If you're in a great relationship, why fuck it up with a threesome?

If youre relationship can handle threesomes.... why not?

If you're single and it suits you, go for it, just be Safe no matter what you decide.

sweetpea

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BlackKittyKat

I have done this before and it's great fun. I enjoyed it with to guys(hot looking) we were all friends at the time. We were young and ready to try new things one of which was a 3some

I wouldn't want to try this with someone that I could be dating......

oFia

I would like to have one some day (add 1 girl). And in fact the boyfriend and I just talked about it recently. We both have some of the same concerns and are unsure we could/would handle it - personally and on a relationship level. The biggest concern was knowing that the other person was "clean" and how to handle safe sex. So, one day.

amire

penis in the ladies room

mx5me

I haven't, but would definitely be open to it. I'd rather be involved with two people I'm not in a relationship with, rather than my boyfriend and a third. I wouldn't be up for an all out swap with my boyfriend for a few reasons: I have a jealous streak (wish I didn't), I'd feel guilty (even though he'd be fully aware of the situation), and I just feel like it would change the relationship. We've talked about bring another person or couple into our play a lot, though, and I think it could happen someday if the opportunity were to arise. I like abaya's 2+1 scenario, in particular.

This thread and the potential lesbian thread got me wondering: How do those of you who have had these experiences meet the people you have them with? Is there a safe and relatively unsketchy way to meet like-minded people?

mixedmedia

awwww, Cali

Actually, when I first started thinking about a threesome with the man I am seeing now and another woman, I didn't think I'd be able to watch him fuck another woman. It wasn't the kissing for me, although I'm sure I would have felt the same way about it...it was sexual intercourse that made me want to bust out crying, lol. But as time has passed, I feel much more secure about the whole thing. I know how he feels about me. I feel secure in that so the thought of bringing another woman in is more purely sexual than it was before. It also helps to know that he feels the same way about bringing another man into the scenario. He doesn't hold a double standard on the issue. We love each other and are so excited to have found partners in each other that are so perfectly apropos, in many ways, not just sexually. There's little jealousy or fear in our thinking about it. At least that's how it is in my head. The bets could all be called off once it actually happened, who knows. I do believe, at any rate, it would have to be something we both considered and planned very carefully.

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Sultana

It's not something I fantazise about or want, really. Either way (MMF or FFM) just doesn't do anything for me. I don't think think there'd be any payoff good enough for me to want to go this route.

Not that I'm in any way discrediting those who are interested.

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mx5me - http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthr...=107802&page=2

There's a post near the bottom of the page that I put up with three of the sites that I used to find people. Keep in mind that these are swing sites, and finding a single female is next to impossible, but if you do find one, more power to you. =)

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PrettyPoison

I'm not against it, my fantasies consist of more of two men/one woman..but I'm not against 2 women/one man...it just depends on what mood I'm in, lol

lurkette

They're fabulous, in any configuration, as long as all parties are willing, have clear expectations and rules, and communicate MILITANTLY before, during, and after as necessary. They're not for everyone, but when everyone involved is acting like an adult and as fully self-aware as possible, whoo boy!

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