06-04-2005, 10:18 AM | #81 (permalink) |
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Location: Calgary, AB
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I think breast feeding is kinda ruined for me. One of my best friends growing up's little sister was breastfed until she was five. The first time I saw it happening was when she was about two and a half (which I personally think is too old). The toddler hopped on her moms knee and told her that she wanted her "nummies" now. So in disbelief I asked my friend when we left the room "Does your mom still breastfeed Kelsi"? And her reply, "yeah of course...I was breastfed until I was 4, and she wants to feed Kelsi until she is at least 5".
I am cool with breastfeeding, but my god, why would you breastfeed your kid that long? I understand the health benefits, but I just cant believe that it is in any way appropriate for a five year old whether in public or at home to be doing that. I now have no intention of breast feeding my future kids, because of how this disturbed me. It actually creeps me out now adays to see a women feeding in public.
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06-04-2005, 02:42 PM | #82 (permalink) | |
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06-04-2005, 08:41 PM | #83 (permalink) | |
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Virginia HB1188. Enacted in 1994 "No person shall be deemed to be in violation of indecent exposure for breastfeeding a child in any public place or any place where others are present." Also, the comparison of a small child's need for food to some drunk's need to urinate on a park bench is assinine.
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06-04-2005, 09:43 PM | #84 (permalink) |
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In a few months, I'll be breatfeeding, and to be perfectly honest, when the baby's hungry, he's going to get fed. Because I'm shy, I'm going to be modest about it, but he's going to get fed in public, I'm sure.
In regards to what age breastfeeding is apropriate, I lived with a mormon family in Arizona for 2 years, and in which time I met a family relative of theirs who was still breatfeeding her child at 2 years. I found this a little strange, however, it is their family and she can do what she sees fit. The husband aproved. Apparently, this was how they had been raised. According to my mother, it was after I bit her that I was not allowed to breastfeed anymore, at about 7 months. My SO wants me to breastfeed until our son is 1 years old, and my mother is shocked - in her eyes, this is WAY to old. In all honesty, I believe I'm going to use her rule - I'll breastfeed unti one year, OR until I'm bit. :-D ~Liz |
06-04-2005, 09:46 PM | #85 (permalink) |
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Sexymama puts a towel or baby blanket over herself when breastfeeding in deference to anyone who doesn't want to watch.
I personally think that anyone who has a problem with it beyond this accommadation has exactly that, a problem.
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06-04-2005, 10:13 PM | #86 (permalink) |
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Even though my wife currently breast feeds, there is something about people doing it in public that bugs me and I have absolutely no idea why.
I really can't explain it, hell if you want to beast feed in public be my guest, but it still makes me uneasy for whatever reason. My wife won't breast feed in public because she is oddly shy. While breast feeding is something that should be done in private (to her thinking) she will go full monty on a nude beach. Its all about the context for her.
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06-04-2005, 10:56 PM | #87 (permalink) |
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Location: Lone Star State,USA
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My feeling about this is that the woman can do the right thing by taking the baby
into the women's rest room. Don't they have sofas and or chairs in just about all restaurants? If she thinks the table full of her friends will not mind,proceed and have at it at the table. I would imagine most adults are not opposed to seeing a nice looking breast and besides....a napkin could be draped over the lunch area with out hurting a hungry baby ....right? |
06-05-2005, 01:27 PM | #88 (permalink) | |
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Gilda, you're a freakin' Eloquent woman! I wholeheartedly agree that any activity in public should follow rules of common courtesy- you shouldn't let out massive farts in the middle of a crowded mall, you shouldn't burp like a volcanic eruption at the dinner table, and you shouldn't pick out your wedgie in view of anyone. I think breastfeeding is great- it's natural, it's healthy, and it's very benificial to mother and child. However, if you're doing it in public, there's some common courtsey to observe. Some people have hang-ups about breasts (like the SIL who made the "sucking on a sexual object" comment), just like some people have hang-ups about burping in public. So, throw a blanket over you, and burp into a napkin. I think that if more women breastfed in public in a polite manner, then it would be another small step towards the silly USA getting rid of the stigma that surrounds sex. Man, I can't wait to move to another country....
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06-05-2005, 02:18 PM | #89 (permalink) |
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Ok, I'm no professional breastfeeder here, I've breastfed once in public, at the table of which I was eating, with my Mom right by my side telling me to quite caring what other people think, the baby is hungry. But there are a few things I would like to point out here...
#1 as it has been said, I'm not going to eat my dinner in a bathroom stall, and no not every bathroom has a sofa let alone are they clean, smell pretty just cuz it's for 'woman' or any of that, it's a place of elimination and the thought is just gross. #2 Some woman feel to use a towel/blanket to breastfeed is like throwing a big sign out there...HEY LOOK BABY IS SUCKING ON MY BREASTS!..now give me your stares and quizzical looks and even angry faces. Some would much rather do it discreetly and with as little notice as possible, and whether you believe it or not, it does and can happen without everyone knowing. #3 I don't care what anyones opinion is, I DO NOT at any point in breastfeeding my kids feel my breasts are a sexual object. PERIOD. The second I associate my kids sucking on my breasts as sexual, is a very bad day. So I have to lay that to rest right now. I also don't feel anyone has the right to look at me while breastfeeding and think about sex, as quite frankly that's kinda gross. This is all I can type about this for now... #4 Yes a woman can express her milk and bottle it, and use it later to feed, BUT that same woman is going to have her milk come in on a schedule, and her babies crying will make that happen even faster. This is a very uncomfortable experience for me. I would much rather let the baby eat and save myself from having to leak breastmilk all over my cloths and be uncomfortable so a few select people with a problem can feel better about it. #5 I am pregnant with my third child and have been empowering myself to believe I can breastfeed longer with this one then the other two and get over the whole 'society' thing. That I can live my life and let my other kids still be able to go out and have fun in 'public' places like they are used to, and if it means taking the baby and feeding in public, then so be it. Then I see this thread and it really really makes me mad. So what...with two other kids in tow I'm supposed to curl us all up nice and tight in a smelly toilet or choose to stay home all the timein order to 'hide' something that is perfectly natural?? I don't think so... There are ways to nurse while no one even knows, they make cloths for this kind of thing, baby slings that allow you to nurse while walking and so on. These things I would use, but I don't feel I have to wear a sign all the time like using a towel or any other shield if I'm not showing anything anyways... I do agree that there are some extremest's out there who will just whip it out without 'consideration' but those kind of people are not me, and therefore I have nothing to say about it.
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06-07-2005, 01:05 PM | #90 (permalink) | |
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Well, the breastfeeding I think is perfectly fine... if I can eat at a table, why can't the baby? The changing in not... if I can't pee at the table, why can the baby (well... you get my point I hope). |
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06-07-2005, 08:45 PM | #91 (permalink) |
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Location: California
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I don't really care if women breastfeed in public, but I think someone with good manners would not be flamboyant about it. When on private property (like a store or restaurant), the owner of the property has a right to require that the feeding be discreet or even not allowed at all, if that is how he or she feels about it.
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06-08-2005, 05:43 AM | #92 (permalink) | |
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I don't care if women breast feed in public. For me it kind of falls into that "if you don't want people staring, don't do it" category. If you don't want people staring at your ass crack, wear pants that fit. If you don't want people looking at your breasts, wear a shirt that they don't hang out of. If you want to breast feed in public, go right ahead, but don't get all bent out of shape when people start staring. Just remember, you're the one who whipped it out. To add a bit...It also depends on the situation. I mean, you shouldn't expect the same response from a group of teenage boys in the mall and the old folks in the park when you breast feed. People are going to look, but after that initial thought of "Mmmm...boobie," which forces its way to the forefront, the vast majority of men and women are going to be about business as usual.
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06-08-2005, 08:54 AM | #93 (permalink) | |
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Found this in the New York Times today....
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06-08-2005, 09:44 AM | #94 (permalink) |
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Location: NC, USA
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IMO, as long as the woman is not obvious about it, I probably wouldn't notice and wouldn't really care. It's something that has to be done...like burping. Doesn't have to be made known to everyone, but it has to happen.
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