Interested in being Interesting? - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

Amnesia620 · 03-04-2005, 01:57 AM

Here's a question that I've wondered about as I meander around the web and I, randomly, chit-chat with friends on my messengers. This thread will help you learn more about other members...something you don't get to know much about unless you are in Chat with them often or take to a conversation with them outside of TFP.

When you are in a conversation, whether in person, on the phone or online, which of these two matter more to you? Please read carefully, and answer honestly. Also, give a reason why.
Would you care more about them being more:

Interesting - great stories about themselves, friends, family, smart and well thought out opinions, goals, or ideas, etc.

OR

Interested - in what you have to say, your past, friends, friends, your dreams, goals, wants, etc??

kramus · 03-04-2005, 02:20 AM

Interesting. I want to be engaged, to find something that stirs the sludge pot of my inner being and allows the sparkly bits that settle to the bottom a chance to enjoy another moment of light.

To be interesting is like to be competing against the world for unknown goals and using by-guess by-golly methods in that competition. Instead of enjoying a flow of chi I would be cranking up my Rube Goldberg forebrain and trying old tricks and new to accomplish a tired and unchanging goal. Uh-uh. I'd rather be interested than be working at being interesting any day.

K-Wise · 03-04-2005, 02:22 AM

To be honest. Both...but in truth the first conversations people usually have with me whether online, on the phone, or in person are usually just idle chit chat and me being funny.

Asta!!

Slavakion · 03-04-2005, 03:34 AM

Interesting. I usually can't think of what to say until I know the person pretty well. And making up index cards with topics is so not cool for IMs.

maleficent · 03-04-2005, 03:50 AM

Interested. If I am not intererested, it would get pretty boring for the person I am talking to to continue talking, and they'd cease to do so.

Amnesia620 · 03-04-2005, 04:48 AM

I didn't post it in the original post because, in my mind, it seemed to take away from the effect of the topic.

Interesting. I know that I do have quite a past - one helluva story to tell about myself and my life. It's not that I don't like telling people about myself but for once I would really like it if once I stop talking, the other person keeps the energy going by a story or joke of their own.

Squishor · 03-04-2005, 06:43 AM

Interesting question.

It's funny because I almost think I'm more concerned about whether I'm perceived as interested or interesting, and that's what I thought you were asking at first. How self-centered.

Anyway, to answer your question, I'd have to say "interesting." There can be a shortage of those in my experience. That'd be the answer when it comes to myself, too. I spend a lot of time on the internet I could be doing other things with, so when I meet interesting people I feel like it's been worthwhile.

hambone · 03-04-2005, 07:41 AM

Interesting. I can listen to people jabber on about themselves for hours.

Carno · 03-04-2005, 07:50 AM

I always seem to run into the problem where the other person has nothing to say.. So I usually end up rambling up inane shit and/or trying to be funny. Actually I hardly ever talk online or on the phone unless I'm talking to my roommates who live down the hall.

I think I would rather have the other person be interesting. I don't really like talking about myself, and I'd like somebody else to have something to say for once.

Amnesia620 · 03-04-2005, 08:19 AM

Awesome. Very good reasons for it. I look forward to reading more posts!

Squishor - not self-centered at all..."cynosurally concerned" perhaps??

Off the top of my head. Like anyone cares

lurkette · 03-04-2005, 08:49 AM

I think both, when appropriate. Usually I'd rather talk to someone interesting because it takes the pressure off me to come up with something to talk about, but I also don't like being steamrolled when I do have something to say. When it's "my turn" I want the other person to be engaged, not just waiting for their turn to monopolize the conversation again. It's the difference between having a "conversation" and alternating monologues.

Cynthetiq · 03-04-2005, 09:13 AM

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Originally Posted by lurkette

I think both, when appropriate. Usually I'd rather talk to someone interesting because it takes the pressure off me to come up with something to talk about, but I also don't like being steamrolled when I do have something to say. When it's "my turn" I want the other person to be engaged, not just waiting for their turn to monopolize the conversation again. It's the difference between having a "conversation" and alternating monologues.

balanced... that's what i like too.

tecoyah · 03-04-2005, 09:30 AM

INteresting....and fun.

I have found that in a chat setting, I am more prone to become involved when some level of humor is involved. Although I must admit flirtation often is an underlying factor.

Guess I would add a third category:

Entertaining

wannabenakid247 · 03-04-2005, 09:49 AM

I would say interesting otherwise i just get bored of talking about my self or the conversation just ends.

Gilda · 03-04-2005, 11:31 AM

Balanced, but leaning more towards interesting. It's easier for me to maintain my side of the conversation if the other person takes the lead and I can respond, comment, or expand on what they say. But I also want to be a participant. It depends upon how much the other person dominates the conversaion; I'm perfectly willing to let it be all about them. This is why I like message boards; it's too easy for me to be passive in live conversations, and here I can take my time to think and express myself without being lost or drowned out by others.

BigBen · 03-04-2005, 02:34 PM

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Originally Posted by hambone

Interesting. I can listen to people jabber on about themselves for hours.

Me too. I already know my stories, and I know they are interesting... What I am looking for in conversation is to be engaged by the other party. I could care less if they like MY stories. I want to like YOUR stories.

Amnesia620 · 03-04-2005, 02:50 PM

So far all the posts here and their reasons are awesome. I notice there are a lot who would rather the other person be interesting. Maybe this shows a non-egotistic lot or those who don't want to admit they have one helluva ego here on TFP.

J/K. I can't help but wonder what kind of interesting things another person would talk about...

To make them interesting do they talk about the present, or the past? I've known some people who are awesome as far as their past goes and lull-you-to-sleep-boring in the present...and in other cases, vice versa.

I look forward to reading more!

Amnesia620 · 03-04-2005, 02:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by lurkette

I think both, when appropriate. Usually I'd rather talk to someone interesting because it takes the pressure off me to come up with something to talk about, but I also don't like being steamrolled when I do have something to say. When it's "my turn" I want the other person to be engaged, not just waiting for their turn to monopolize the conversation again. It's the difference between having a "conversation" and alternating monologues.

Excellent description. I agree. This may be a detail taken for granted, but it's a point that needed to be made.

K-Wise · 03-04-2005, 02:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Amnesia620

I didn't post it in the original post because, in my mind, it seemed to take away from the effect of the topic.

Interesting. I know that I do have quite a past - one helluva story to tell about myself and my life. It's not that I don't like telling people about myself but for once I would really like it if once I stop talking, the other person keeps the energy going by a story or joke of their own.

I think I have 1 too many stories. Just ask anyone who's talked to me before. I tend to go on forever sometimes

Asta!!

Amnesia620 · 03-04-2005, 03:02 PM

It's happens to the best of us, by the best of us.

At least what you are saying has a direction and has a point, subject, etc...not like me when I've been up for 48 hours + and start babbling insane b.s. to the circle k guy as I'm fishin' out exact change for my drinks and candy bars only to realize once I leave the store that I don't give exact change and then the bomb drops and I realize that I not only was babbling inside the store but that none of it made any sense...kinda like this post...looking forward to readin' more! Ta ta!

K-Wise · 03-04-2005, 08:18 PM

^ Man do I know exactly how you feel.

Asta!!

Manuel Hong · 03-04-2005, 09:15 PM

I think I like to be stimulated in order to join the conversation, then I'd be pleased if someone thought my contribution was interesting too. So, I guess it's both. Having the Qi flow among all involved in a discussion is the best way to keep my interest.

Good discussion.

bad jane · 03-04-2005, 09:38 PM

balanced is preferred, lurkette summed it up very well i think.

but if i had to choose one or the other, i'd also go with interesting. i'm boring (to myself), if i found myself really interesting i wouldn't feel much need to talk to anyone else

that said though, the conversation isn't interesting if it becomes completely one sided. i can listen to an interesting person a long time, but eventually i'm going to want to input some of my own thoughts and opinions. if they won't let me do that, they'll cease to be interesting and just be annoying. interested works the same way though--how long could i stay interested in a conversation by myself?

IC3 · 03-05-2005, 04:21 PM

I'm the listening type..If somebody engages me in a conversation, I will converse with them. If nobody says anything, I will usually keep pretty quiet.

So what does that make me? Not very interesting i would say. Guess i'm interested in what others have to say.

I guess being told when i was younger to "Speak when your spoken to" plays a part in my quietness.

AfterBurn · 03-05-2005, 06:16 PM

it's way better to be interested instead of interesting. it's less work for you (dont have to come up with stuff to say) and it makes the person youre talking to feel good. when you talk about yourself most people dont care but if you can at least show you care then youll go a long way.

IC3 · 03-05-2005, 07:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by AfterBurn

it's way better to be interested instead of interesting. it's less work for you (dont have to come up with stuff to say) and it makes the person youre talking to feel good. when you talk about yourself most people dont care but if you can at least show you care then youll go a long way.

I agree.

I would much prefer to be able to go out with a friend with a bunch of his friends and sit back and observe them all than have to talk with them (Once i get to know people, I open up alittle and talk). If i am going to talk to somebody for the first time, I'm much better one on one. I have been told before that i am just anti-social..There is some truth to that, But it's not always the case.

I even try to read some people on TFP..It's a bit more difficult online when it's just words though.

Beefimator · 03-06-2005, 01:09 PM

Interesting. I would much rather listen to someone talk about themselves, then listen to me talk about myself. If that makes any sense at all.

Suave · 03-06-2005, 01:46 PM

I'd rather have someone whom you term as "interesting", simply because I'm not generally that talkative. I can carry a conversation to be sure, but I prefer to do more listening than talking. They don't have to have crazy stories or whatever though. As long as they're not talking in great detail about the full extent of their baseball card collection for six hours straight, or berating the government for allowing "darkies" to drink from our water fountains, I can enjoy pretty much any conversation.

todd · 03-08-2005, 05:14 PM

When i'm having a conversation, I'm more worried about what I'm going to say.

If the person i'm talking to is my friend, I guess I subconciously think everything they have to say is interesting, because I've never really thought otherwise. My problem (when on the phone) is thinking of interesting things to say to keep the conversation going.

I hate talking on the phone these days. I'd much rather have a casual conversation online than on the phone. I look foward to the day that chatting completely takes the place of the telephone.
I have a lot easier time thinking of things to say while typing, I guess because I know I'm not keeping the other person waiting. I'm the same way in arguements. I'm a horrible debater in person. But as soon as i'm sitting at my computer and typing, either on instant messaging or a forum setting, I'm a 'master-debater.'

So to answer the question, I guess i'd have to say i'd rather them be interested in me. I'm interested in them no matter what. If they wern't interesting, I wouldn't make it a point to talk to them so much.

raeanna74 · 03-08-2005, 06:10 PM

I love to tell stories. I type fast too. So in chat coversations I often end up doing more of the talking. Then I start to feel bad and start asking specific questions to draw the person out to tell me a story or get involved in the coversation. I dunno I usually begin with trying to be interesting and then remember that I need to be interested in them too.

cierah · 03-09-2005, 02:59 PM

With a question like this, I want to say that I want to be interested in the other person but in reality I am just a self-centered bastard who wants ppl to be interested in me - in my life- in what I am saying. Everyone wants to be the center of attention. That is only true for me if the conversation is causual though. If the conversation goes anywheres near a personal, in-depth, serious conversation then I remain interested in the other person but no longer care about being interesting to the other person. I basically shut up and let them talk about the serious aspects of the conversation but when the convo goes back to causual I'm okay again.
I think about some of the best coversations that I have ever had it's usually when the other person is giving you their undivided attention, with perhaps a few pearls of wisdom in there, but basically they just let you go. Half a conversation is listening.

krwlz · 03-09-2005, 07:38 PM

Its really gotta have both for me to stay interested in the conversation as a whole. If one or the other lacks, I usually stop talking.

Amnesia620 · 03-10-2005, 05:04 PM

Very cool to read the difference in preference between those who need to remain interested and those who are focused on being interesting. This thread has remained interesting with all the people who are interested in knowing who prefers what. Does anyone notice that everyone here has had something interesting to say and that I've remained interested in it?

I can't help but be interesting in knowing what the most interesting topic a person has chosen to keep the other person or audience interested in what they have to say...

kramus · 03-10-2005, 05:17 PM

Ask them about their children. Read intellectual progeny if the genetic sort is either non-extent or lacking in sharable qualities which can reflect positively on the parent.

03-04-2005, 01:57 AM	#1 (permalink)
Amnesia620 Forget me not... Location: See that dot on the map? I don't live there.	Interested in being Interesting? Here's a question that I've wondered about as I meander around the web and I, randomly, chit-chat with friends on my messengers. This thread will help you learn more about other members...something you don't get to know much about unless you are in Chat with them often or take to a conversation with them outside of TFP. When you are in a conversation, whether in person, on the phone or online, which of these two matter more to you? Please read carefully, and answer honestly. Also, give a reason why. Would you care more about them being more: Interesting - great stories about themselves, friends, family, smart and well thought out opinions, goals, or ideas, etc. OR Interested - in what you have to say, your past, friends, friends, your dreams, goals, wants, etc?? __________________ For example, I find that a lot of college girls are barbie doll carbon copies with few differences...Sadly, they're dumb, ditzy, immature, snotty, fake, or they are the gravitational center to orbiting drama. - Amnesia620 Last edited by Amnesia620; 03-04-2005 at 01:59 AM.. Reason: My fingers are dyslexic.

03-04-2005, 02:20 AM	#2 (permalink)
kramus loving the curves Location: my Lady's manor	Interesting. I want to be engaged, to find something that stirs the sludge pot of my inner being and allows the sparkly bits that settle to the bottom a chance to enjoy another moment of light. To be interesting is like to be competing against the world for unknown goals and using by-guess by-golly methods in that competition. Instead of enjoying a flow of chi I would be cranking up my Rube Goldberg forebrain and trying old tricks and new to accomplish a tired and unchanging goal. Uh-uh. I'd rather be interested than be working at being interesting any day. __________________ And now to disengage the clutch of the forebrain ... I'm going with this - if you like artwork visit http://markfineart.ca

03-04-2005, 02:22 AM	#3 (permalink)
K-Wise It's All About The Ass!! Location: In a pool of mayonnaise!!	To be honest. Both...but in truth the first conversations people usually have with me whether online, on the phone, or in person are usually just idle chit chat and me being funny. Asta!! __________________ "I love music and it's my parents fault (closing statement)." - Me..quoting myself...from when I said that...On TFP..thats here...Tilted Forum Project *It ain't goodbye, it's see ya later! I'll miss you guys!* - Asta!!

03-04-2005, 03:50 AM	#5 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	Interested. If I am not intererested, it would get pretty boring for the person I am talking to to continue talking, and they'd cease to do so. __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.

03-04-2005, 04:48 AM	#6 (permalink)
Amnesia620 Forget me not... Location: See that dot on the map? I don't live there.	I didn't post it in the original post because, in my mind, it seemed to take away from the effect of the topic. Interesting. I know that I do have quite a past - one helluva story to tell about myself and my life. It's not that I don't like telling people about myself but for once I would really like it if once I stop talking, the other person keeps the energy going by a story or joke of their own. __________________ For example, I find that a lot of college girls are barbie doll carbon copies with few differences...Sadly, they're dumb, ditzy, immature, snotty, fake, or they are the gravitational center to orbiting drama. - Amnesia620

03-04-2005, 03:34 AM	#4 (permalink)
Slavakion Mjollnir Incarnate Location: Lost in thought	Interesting. I usually can't think of what to say until I know the person pretty well. And making up index cards with topics is so not cool for IMs.

03-04-2005, 06:43 AM	#7 (permalink)
Squishor Frontal Lobe Location: California	Interesting question. It's funny because I almost think I'm more concerned about whether I'm perceived as interested or interesting, and that's what I thought you were asking at first. How self-centered. Anyway, to answer your question, I'd have to say "interesting." There can be a shortage of those in my experience. That'd be the answer when it comes to myself, too. I spend a lot of time on the internet I could be doing other things with, so when I meet interesting people I feel like it's been worthwhile.

03-04-2005, 07:41 AM	#8 (permalink)
hambone Zeroed In Location: CA	Interesting. I can listen to people jabber on about themselves for hours. __________________ "Like liquid white from fallen glass, Nothing to cry over"

03-04-2005, 07:50 AM	#9 (permalink)
Carno Junkie	I always seem to run into the problem where the other person has nothing to say.. So I usually end up rambling up inane shit and/or trying to be funny. Actually I hardly ever talk online or on the phone unless I'm talking to my roommates who live down the hall. I think I would rather have the other person be interesting. I don't really like talking about myself, and I'd like somebody else to have something to say for once.

03-04-2005, 08:19 AM	#10 (permalink)
Amnesia620 Forget me not... Location: See that dot on the map? I don't live there.	Awesome. Very good reasons for it. I look forward to reading more posts! Squishor - not self-centered at all..."cynosurally concerned" perhaps?? Off the top of my head. Like anyone cares __________________ For example, I find that a lot of college girls are barbie doll carbon copies with few differences...Sadly, they're dumb, ditzy, immature, snotty, fake, or they are the gravitational center to orbiting drama. - Amnesia620

03-04-2005, 08:49 AM	#11 (permalink)
lurkette My future is coming on Moderator Emeritus Location: east of the sun and west of the moon	I think both, when appropriate. Usually I'd rather talk to someone interesting because it takes the pressure off me to come up with something to talk about, but I also don't like being steamrolled when I do have something to say. When it's "my turn" I want the other person to be engaged, not just waiting for their turn to monopolize the conversation again. It's the difference between having a "conversation" and alternating monologues. __________________ "If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." - Anatole France

03-04-2005, 09:30 AM	#13 (permalink)
tecoyah Illusionary	INteresting....and fun. I have found that in a chat setting, I am more prone to become involved when some level of humor is involved. Although I must admit flirtation often is an underlying factor. Guess I would add a third category: Entertaining __________________ Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. - Buddha

03-04-2005, 09:49 AM	#14 (permalink)
wannabenakid247 Registered User Location: Wales, UK	I would say interesting otherwise i just get bored of talking about my self or the conversation just ends.

03-04-2005, 11:31 AM	#15 (permalink)
Gilda 32 flavors and then some Location: Out on a wire.	Balanced, but leaning more towards interesting. It's easier for me to maintain my side of the conversation if the other person takes the lead and I can respond, comment, or expand on what they say. But I also want to be a participant. It depends upon how much the other person dominates the conversaion; I'm perfectly willing to let it be all about them. This is why I like message boards; it's too easy for me to be passive in live conversations, and here I can take my time to think and express myself without being lost or drowned out by others.

03-04-2005, 02:50 PM	#17 (permalink)
Amnesia620 Forget me not... Location: See that dot on the map? I don't live there.	So far all the posts here and their reasons are awesome. I notice there are a lot who would rather the other person be interesting. Maybe this shows a non-egotistic lot or those who don't want to admit they have one helluva ego here on TFP. J/K. I can't help but wonder what kind of interesting things another person would talk about... To make them interesting do they talk about the present, or the past? I've known some people who are awesome as far as their past goes and lull-you-to-sleep-boring in the present...and in other cases, vice versa. I look forward to reading more! __________________ For example, I find that a lot of college girls are barbie doll carbon copies with few differences...Sadly, they're dumb, ditzy, immature, snotty, fake, or they are the gravitational center to orbiting drama. - Amnesia620

03-04-2005, 03:02 PM	#20 (permalink)
Amnesia620 Forget me not... Location: See that dot on the map? I don't live there.	It's happens to the best of us, by the best of us. At least what you are saying has a direction and has a point, subject, etc...not like me when I've been up for 48 hours + and start babbling insane b.s. to the circle k guy as I'm fishin' out exact change for my drinks and candy bars only to realize once I leave the store that I don't give exact change and then the bomb drops and I realize that I not only was babbling inside the store but that none of it made any sense...kinda like this post...looking forward to readin' more! Ta ta! __________________ For example, I find that a lot of college girls are barbie doll carbon copies with few differences...Sadly, they're dumb, ditzy, immature, snotty, fake, or they are the gravitational center to orbiting drama. - Amnesia620

03-04-2005, 08:18 PM	#21 (permalink)
K-Wise It's All About The Ass!! Location: In a pool of mayonnaise!!	^ Man do I know exactly how you feel. Asta!! __________________ "I love music and it's my parents fault (closing statement)." - Me..quoting myself...from when I said that...On TFP..thats here...Tilted Forum Project *It ain't goodbye, it's see ya later! I'll miss you guys!* - Asta!!

03-04-2005, 09:15 PM	#22 (permalink)
Manuel Hong Addict Location: Land of the puny, wimpy states	I think I like to be stimulated in order to join the conversation, then I'd be pleased if someone thought my contribution was interesting too. So, I guess it's both. Having the Qi flow among all involved in a discussion is the best way to keep my interest. Good discussion. __________________ Believe nothing, even if I tell it to you, unless it meets with your own good common sense and experience. - Siddhartha Gautama (The Buddha)

03-04-2005, 09:38 PM	#23 (permalink)
bad jane Insane	balanced is preferred, lurkette summed it up very well i think. but if i had to choose one or the other, i'd also go with interesting. i'm boring (to myself), if i found myself really interesting i wouldn't feel much need to talk to anyone else that said though, the conversation isn't interesting if it becomes completely one sided. i can listen to an interesting person a long time, but eventually i'm going to want to input some of my own thoughts and opinions. if they won't let me do that, they'll cease to be interesting and just be annoying. interested works the same way though--how long could i stay interested in a conversation by myself?

03-05-2005, 04:21 PM	#24 (permalink)
IC3 Poison Location: Canada	I'm the listening type..If somebody engages me in a conversation, I will converse with them. If nobody says anything, I will usually keep pretty quiet. So what does that make me? Not very interesting i would say. Guess i'm interested in what others have to say. I guess being told when i was younger to "Speak when your spoken to" plays a part in my quietness. __________________ "To win any battle, you must fight as if you were already dead" -Musashi Last edited by IC3; 03-05-2005 at 04:24 PM..

03-05-2005, 06:16 PM	#25 (permalink)
AfterBurn Psycho	it's way better to be interested instead of interesting. it's less work for you (dont have to come up with stuff to say) and it makes the person youre talking to feel good. when you talk about yourself most people dont care but if you can at least show you care then youll go a long way. __________________ smoking weed everyday keeps the doctor away

03-06-2005, 01:09 PM	#27 (permalink)
Beefimator Tilted Location: Philly 'Burbs	Interesting. I would much rather listen to someone talk about themselves, then listen to me talk about myself. If that makes any sense at all.

03-06-2005, 01:46 PM	#28 (permalink)
Suave Twitterpated Location: My own little world (also Canada)	I'd rather have someone whom you term as "interesting", simply because I'm not generally that talkative. I can carry a conversation to be sure, but I prefer to do more listening than talking. They don't have to have crazy stories or whatever though. As long as they're not talking in great detail about the full extent of their baseball card collection for six hours straight, or berating the government for allowing "darkies" to drink from our water fountains, I can enjoy pretty much any conversation. __________________ "Few people are capable of expressing with equanimity opinions which differ from the prejudices of their social environment. Most people are even incapable of forming such opinions." - Albert Einstein "Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something." - Plato

03-08-2005, 05:14 PM	#29 (permalink)
todd Addict Location: Chicago	When i'm having a conversation, I'm more worried about what I'm going to say. If the person i'm talking to is my friend, I guess I subconciously think everything they have to say is interesting, because I've never really thought otherwise. My problem (when on the phone) is thinking of interesting things to say to keep the conversation going. I hate talking on the phone these days. I'd much rather have a casual conversation online than on the phone. I look foward to the day that chatting completely takes the place of the telephone. I have a lot easier time thinking of things to say while typing, I guess because I know I'm not keeping the other person waiting. I'm the same way in arguements. I'm a horrible debater in person. But as soon as i'm sitting at my computer and typing, either on instant messaging or a forum setting, I'm a 'master-debater.' So to answer the question, I guess i'd have to say i'd rather them be interested in me. I'm interested in them no matter what. If they wern't interesting, I wouldn't make it a point to talk to them so much. Last edited by todd; 03-08-2005 at 05:18 PM..

03-08-2005, 06:10 PM	#30 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	I love to tell stories. I type fast too. So in chat coversations I often end up doing more of the talking. Then I start to feel bad and start asking specific questions to draw the person out to tell me a story or get involved in the coversation. I dunno I usually begin with trying to be interesting and then remember that I need to be interested in them too. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.

03-09-2005, 02:59 PM	#31 (permalink)
cierah Crazy Location: Canada	With a question like this, I want to say that I want to be interested in the other person but in reality I am just a self-centered bastard who wants ppl to be interested in me - in my life- in what I am saying. Everyone wants to be the center of attention. That is only true for me if the conversation is causual though. If the conversation goes anywheres near a personal, in-depth, serious conversation then I remain interested in the other person but no longer care about being interesting to the other person. I basically shut up and let them talk about the serious aspects of the conversation but when the convo goes back to causual I'm okay again. I think about some of the best coversations that I have ever had it's usually when the other person is giving you their undivided attention, with perhaps a few pearls of wisdom in there, but basically they just let you go. Half a conversation is listening.

03-09-2005, 07:38 PM	#32 (permalink)
krwlz Fledgling Dead Head Location: Clarkson U.	Its really gotta have both for me to stay interested in the conversation as a whole. If one or the other lacks, I usually stop talking.

03-10-2005, 05:04 PM	#33 (permalink)
Amnesia620 Forget me not... Location: See that dot on the map? I don't live there.	Very cool to read the difference in preference between those who need to remain interested and those who are focused on being interesting. This thread has remained interesting with all the people who are interested in knowing who prefers what. Does anyone notice that everyone here has had something interesting to say and that I've remained interested in it? I can't help but be interesting in knowing what the most interesting topic a person has chosen to keep the other person or audience interested in what they have to say... __________________ For example, I find that a lot of college girls are barbie doll carbon copies with few differences...Sadly, they're dumb, ditzy, immature, snotty, fake, or they are the gravitational center to orbiting drama. - Amnesia620

03-10-2005, 05:17 PM	#34 (permalink)
kramus loving the curves Location: my Lady's manor	Ask them about their children. Read intellectual progeny if the genetic sort is either non-extent or lacking in sharable qualities which can reflect positively on the parent. __________________ And now to disengage the clutch of the forebrain ... I'm going with this - if you like artwork visit http://markfineart.ca