Robaggio

Well, my girlfriend is in Hawaii for a year- she's beein there since the beginning of the summer. She's quite the lucky girl to land such a trip. She's doing ecology research at the parks there. What's best about it is that she's originally from Hawaii, so it's a nice trip home to her childhood. Meanwhile however, I'm stuck at home in Wisconsin bored and lonely off my rocker.

My girlfriend and I do all we can to communicate. Unfortunatly, we cannot talk on the phone as much as we'd like (darn Hawaii'an mountains and 4 hour time difference!). We write each other constantly, but it doesn't come close to one on one human interaction. Now, don't get me wrong here.. I'm not complaining about my relationship.. I'm just lonely. It's my lack of relationships with other people that's the problem.

Although I'm in college, I am unable to find anyone intelligent enough to hold a conversation with. I'm aching for someone to talk to- to complain to, to just do something with. Someone I can sit down with and talk about politics, philosophy, or anything really. Hell, anything other than football or whatever the hell normal people are supposed to talk about. My social life has deteriorated into endless hours of videogames with my old highschool buddies- Who offer little more than a comedic release from normal life. Unfortunatly, socializing with them is the norm right now and I can feel myself becoming exponentially 'stupider' with every passing moment spent with them. They're nice guys, but they are no where near mature

I know what you guys are thinking. "Hey man, go to a party and meet people." Unfortunatly, parties only make me angry. I don't drink, smoke, or do anything of the sort. Most of the people at parties I don't want to socialize with anyway as they're either drunk or not mature enough to coverse whilst sober anyway. On Thursday, the "big drinking night" you can find me sitting in my dorm or at my buddy's place playing videogames- hiding from all the idiot party drunkards- which is precicely what I assume the other decent people are doing. I can't meet anyone I'd like to meet because they're hiding behind closed doors just the same as me.

For the record, my situation has nothing to do with my social skills. I'm very personable and comfortable in large groups. I excell at public speaking and I'm generally the center of attention when I'm engaged. If anything negative would result from my interactions, it would probably be that I intimidate and scare away potential "cool people". However, it's not like I pour my heart out on the first occation. I think the reality is that most people just can't handle a true heart to heart, one on one conversation. So perhaps rather, it's the heart to heart itself which is intimidating, not me.

[howard dean] Yeearrrrggh! [/howard dean]
Any suggestions?
Anyone else lonely and want a friend?

Suave

Well first I want to say that social skills aren't just what you list there. There's a guy in one of my classes who is intelligent, learned, outgoing, and no less personable than the average guy, yet he lacks charisma. It's not to say that there aren't people who like him, so much as I don't know that there are many who do. Not knockin' ya though, since I obviously don't know you.

I suggest finding some people who are older than you are. Whether it's through some sort of on-campus club, a job, or what have you, you might have a better chance of finding this maturity that you seek.

I'm not entirely sure from your description that it is actually "maturity" that you find so lacking in others, but merely common interest. There is a HUGE difference.

unregistered092

get a video game.

asaris

Your campus might have some sort of philosophy club; it probably has public lectures and the like. These can be good ways to meet more intelligent people. Most of the intelligent people I met in college I actually met through my classes and/or while studying in the Philosophy Department.

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Blackthorn

I tend to agree with asaris. There has to be a club or something of a social nature that you can participate in while on campus. There has to be an organization somewhere on campus that doesn't involve the debauchery that colleges are becoming more notorius for every day. Check it out and let us know how it goes...

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transient

I was at that point in my life once. Different circumstances, but still found myself lonely a lot of the time. The answer for me was chess. I knew how to play, and was a decent player. I did however lack a full understanding of the game, start to finish. Took a year of pretty intense study, but it paid off. You should be able to locate some like minded players. It's a great game for excercising the brain and staying sharp. Good luck.

Regards

Manic_Skafe

With an attitude like that it's not surprising that you haven't had a real connection with anyone yet - if you have to define people and put them into groups based upon their activities then it's shocking that you've managed to pull a girlfriend.

I agree with those who posted above and I also suggest you open your mind and embrace people from all facets of life. There are some amazingly multi-dimensional people out there and as long as you continue to meet people on this superficial level you'll be missing out on a lot of great experiences and relationships.

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Robaggio

You're assuming a lot about me from such a small comment. For the sake of argument, it's much easier to explain the broad situation in terms of such stereotypes. This is especially the case on a message board where nobody knows me personally. Just take my word for the record that this situation is mostly out of my control.

I'm not the one meeting people on a superficial level. I'm the one with the open mind getting burned at every step of the corner. Just when I meet someone and I think "hey, this person could be an 'amazing multi-dimentional person'" red flags get thrown in my face. This post of mine was more of a rant against society than a cry for help. So take it as such, regardless of how surprising it may be to you that I have a girlfriend.

WillyPete

How about a sport.
Loads of different sports to attend, support or take part in.

Or even a service club.
It's very easy to lose one's worries when you see what misery is really out there.

Zeraph

Robaggio- You might say I'm in a similar situation. It's very hard to find people your intelligence level AND have common interests/personality. Nothing you can do about it except keep on keepin on. Something like probably 99% of people you meet will be crap, but it's worth it when you do meet the good ones.

Good luck, and remember, follow the yellow brick road.

Manic_Skafe

If you took offense to what I said then you should remind yourself that all I had to go on was your original post. Although my post wasn't intended to hurt anyone's feelings, I can only call it as I see it.

But now that you've clarified the situation, I've run into the same problem quite a few times. I find that it's best to remind myself that although there might be red flags a person can still surprise you.

Keep an open mind, let a few things slide and do whatever it is you do. The situation will sort itself out but if all else fails there's always this.

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Rodney

Okay, I have a suggestion. Volunteer for something. Volunteer for something hard where you meet a lot of people who aren't like the people you meet everyday. Work with the homeless. Work with disadvantaged kids. Work with old people. Work with the poor.

You are angry because you do not find intelligence and reflection in the places you expect it from. I guarantee you this: if you take on a volunteer slot like this, you will find intelligence and reflection in places you roundly don't expect to find them in. It can be a mindblower. And emphatically worth doing.

onewolf

Step 1. Get about four or five long balloons. Fill them with warm, not hot, water. Tie the ends so water will not squeeze out. This also works with hot water bottles.

Step 2: Take a pillow; roll it up like a tube and tie a string around it or even use your belt. Push the warm water balloons into the opening of the pillow tube. Take a small plastic kitchen trash can bag. Push it in between the balloons in the pillow. Put some lubricant of your choice inside the plastic bag that is being tightly squeezed by the balloons.

Step 3: Your fleshy warm vagina is almost ready. Put the pillow on bed. Put your dick inside this plastic vagina. You will feel the warmth, slipperiness and tightness you only dreamed of.

AfterBurn

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OFKU0

Learn how to meditate properly and understand what your 'self' is. Once you do that you will never be lonely again.

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thinktank

wander. thats what i do when i'm loney. i go downtown or to some shady bum park, and let them bless you with their schizophrenic inteligence. bus hubs are also a good place for this if you live in a larger city. A couple years back i had a guy tell me about ewoks for about 20 minutes, good times. That or go with onewolf's idea.