Randle2I

I normally don't do this but right now I really want something I can't have. I know I can't have it, I know I won't get it, but I still go after it. Eventually the desire will of course subside, but in talking to my friends we all have been in the same situation and/or know others that have as well. As I said I'm normally not the kind of person that wants what I know I can't have (with few exceptions like cars, computers, and electronics in general) but why do we do this to ourselves? Gah! Anyways, I just needed to vent. If you have any suggestions on how to make this pass more quickly I'm all ears.

Willravel

Plan9

Consider it motivation to keep you from killing yourself due to taunts on MySpace.

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You want material possessions? Too easy. Money is your boss, money is your whore.

Very often the things we want and cannot have are the things we cannot buy.

Like companionship, understanding, friendship.

Things like love.

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Whatever you can carry.

"You should not drink... and bake."

abaya

Will, that comic is fucking awesome.

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And think not you can direct the course of Love;
for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
--Khalil Gibran

Willravel

TY, it was on Reddit the other day.

Crack

You can't always get what you want
You can't always get what you want
You can't always get what you want
But if you try sometimes well you just might find
You get what you need
Oh baby, yeah, yeah!

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Crack, you and I are long overdue for a vicious bout of mansex.

~Halx

Plan9

HAHAHA! Excellent!

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Whatever you can carry.

"You should not drink... and bake."

Sion

the things I want but don't have are certain kinds of experiences. and I know that I can get them, but I don't like the way I'd have to do it. so I just do without.

besides, how boring would life be if you had nothing in the way of fantasies?

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He's the best, of course, of all the worst.
Some wrong been done, he done it first. -fz

I jus' want ta thank you...falettinme...be mice elf...agin...

Charlatan

Will... that comic was perfect. It's the kind of thing I wish I'd written myself.

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"My hands are on fire. Hands are on fire. Ain't got no more time for all you charlatans and liars."
- Old Man Luedecke

Willravel

Yeah, I've bookmarked it.

Baraka_Guru

I want you
I want you so bad
I want you,
I want you so bad
It’s driving me mad, it’s driving me mad.


Sorry, I'm more of a Beatles kind of guy.

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Knowing that death is certain and that the time of death is uncertain, what's the most important thing?
—Bhikkhuni Pema Chödrön

Humankind cannot bear very much reality.
—From "Burnt Norton," Four Quartets (1936), T. S. Eliot

ngdawg

If people wanted what they have, then they'd have everything they wanted and wouldn't want for anything...sorta like the "it was in the last place I looked" syndrome...Of course it was-it was in the first place you looked, you'd have stopped.

Randle2I

This is a flawed argument. I want everything that I have, from my car to my clothes to my friends all the way down to my pet and all that lies between. Where does it say though that I can't want more?

willravel, as already stated that comic is pure gold

healer

Being content with what we have is, IMO, the best place a human being can be. I imagine it being a zen-like state with no wants or needs - pure bliss.

Wanting more is something I struggle with as well. More money, better job, more free time etc. mandy's helped me realise that appreciating what you have and treasuring the things you love is very important and go a long way in helping you get to 'contentment'.

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Plan9

Some Buddhist crap: "Without want you have stopped your journey to happiness."

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Whatever you can carry.

"You should not drink... and bake."

ngdawg

It's not an argument. Didn't say you couldn't want more. We're all greedy. I said if we have what we wanted, we wouldn't want for more. Ya read it backwards

Sion

I do not want what I haven't got.

Want in one hand, shit in the other. See which one fills up first.

I want you to want me.

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He's the best, of course, of all the worst.
Some wrong been done, he done it first. -fz

I jus' want ta thank you...falettinme...be mice elf...agin...

MSD

So is she out of your league, married, or with one of your friends?

Fast Forward

Probably because you believe that bullshit about "you can have anything you want, if you want it bad enough". OR "If first you don't suceed ...."

Elegia

Maybe because there's always that one thing called 'hope'.

For all we know of our lives and of this universe, nothing is impossible and everything is possible. Therefore, one can always hope for something to come true, even if the chance for it to happen is incredibly small.

Plan9

*tears off shirt, starts dancing in thread*

"Relax, don't do it, when ya wanna go through it...
Relax, don't do it... when ya wanna come!"

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Whatever you can carry.

"You should not drink... and bake."

Randle2I

Indeed I did. Oops!

While I wouldn't go so far as to call it complete BS, I agree partially with your first point, but not so much with the second. Obviously one can't have anything they want, no matter how hard they try. That should never keep one from trying again though if at first they don't [i]succeed[i]. One just has to know when to throw in the towel.

albania

I'll quote the Simpsons for this.

It just wouldn't be life without suffering.

World's King

Cause it makes no sense to want something you already have.

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Redjake

Every once in a while I get this disgusting, hollow feeling that makes me feel nearly dead. I'll get it for like months at a time - I have no clue what it is, or why I feel like it, but I finally figured out what it was a couple of years ago - it's the realization that I have everything I currently wanted. I hate the feeling, and I yearn for the days when I have a long list of things I truly want, but can't have.

Pathetic, sad, but true!

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Willravel

Maybe you need some Imulsion, Marcus Fenix!

Plan9

Or an enema.

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Whatever you can carry.

"You should not drink... and bake."

duncan614

wow, maybe

snowy

I actually used this song as a teaching tool with two small children. Later, when her brother had a tantrum about not getting a bagel, big sister told him to remember the Rolling Stones.

Part of being an adult is being able to make wise decisions without being ruled by desire.

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If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau

Fast Forward

That's it, of course. But I'll take it one step one further ..... one should (from experience) begin to see when not to bother making an effort in the first place.

An example: I've never once chased a "hard to get" woman to find she was worth having. One might argue that she uses that ploy merely as a tool but such games reveal a character twitch and the games she plays never stop no matter how long you put up with her. Once you've "got her" she'll begin "the jeoulsy game". My advice is "if she's tough to get - she'll be tough to live with."

The same theory goes with other things in life. If it's tough to get - it'll be tough to keep/maintain. Not all of them (naturally) but many. The trick is to know which ones ae worth having and which ones are not.

Redjake

Or an Imulsion enema!!!!!!

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Kpax

Maybe because we haven't really convinced ourselves, in our hearts, that we can't have it.

I've often thought of humanity as a huge TV show, which is why were are made to live life to the very limits of our abilities to both achieve, and endure.

Money can't buy the things I want. Well, I suppose it could, but I definitely don't have enough for it. I think it's more a matter of knowing how to ask, rather than having the money. I would neglect my bills per month if I could spend my money on something that makes me happy, continuously.