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Beccarain · 01-13-2006, 06:39 AM

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Originally Posted by little_tippler

The intelligent women will be the ones who don't "go with the crowd". For example, I like to take my time choosing or doing things. I will often be alone calmly going about my business. I will take as long as I need to get something right for me. If there is a crowd, I will be the person walking a little faster and efficiently managing my way out of a crowd and placing myself apart from them. I won't be the person almost falling into the train line to see if the train is coming, I will be the person standing back behind others waiting patiently - I hate to have others standing behind me breathing down my neck. I will smile to myself in public because I have my own little world and don't care about what others think. I am not always talking, I often will be the person in a group listening attentively and when answering I will choose my words carefully. This may seem a strange way to say it but I think intelligent women are more pondered and calm. I guess this may come off as arrogant but that's how I feel about it. I hope I don't sound nuts and some other girls can identify with this! lol

OMG, you just described ME! I avoid crowds, too, even when I'm driving.

CoachAlan, there's lots of good ideas here. Also keep in mind what Impetuous1 said: "I think when you're at a place in your life where you are happy that you then attract more happiness." When you feel good about yourself, you will attract more good in life, people, and good in general. It's that whole you-get-back-what-you-give-out thing; it's really true.

CoachAlan · 01-13-2006, 09:51 AM

Incidentally, I'm going for a Jeopardy tryout/screen test today, and I'm pretty excited about it. This will be the second time I've tried out. I came pretty close last time, but wound up missing two too many questions on the written test. I feel much more prepared this time, but we'll see. Now that I think about it, this tryout will probably be a pretty solid place to meet smart women. Wish me luck in both endeavors!

CoachAlan · 01-13-2006, 03:11 PM

Alas, I am a failure.

Of the 60 people in my tryout, only 8 passed the test and moved on to the screen test. I was not one of them. I was, however, one of two people to win a Jeopardy DVD, so I guess that's something.

Brilliant Idiot · 01-14-2006, 02:08 PM

Where do smart women hang out?

Here, at my house.

Gilda · 01-14-2006, 03:35 PM

comic book shops
upscale universities
trendy clubs near said upscale universities
drag clubs
used book shops
specialty organic produce markets
my living room

Gilda

nitelyfe · 01-19-2006, 02:00 AM

Book clubs. Very few men join them but women who like to read are there by the dozens. I've found a few book clubs through Meetup.com and through some local non-chain bookstores. And don't worry; most of them don't bother with the romance novels. They're more interested in the best-sellers on the Fiction lists.

Be sure to read the assigned book all the way through. If you can offer one or two bits of insight regarding a character or a plot line, you will be identified as a "thinking man" and can find one or two women to join you for more discussion after the book club meeting ends.

I've met a number of interesting women this way and it's so much easier when the odds are in your favor. Quite often you will be the only man in a group of a dozen women. The only way you can screw up is by not reading the book.

CoachAlan · 01-19-2006, 02:03 AM

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Originally Posted by nitelyfe

Book clubs. Very few men join them but women who like to read are there by the dozens. I've found a few book clubs through Meetup.com and through some local non-chain bookstores. And don't worry; most of them don't bother with the romance novels. They're more interested in the best-sellers on the Fiction lists.

Be sure to read the assigned book all the way through. If you can offer one or two bits of insight regarding a character or a plot line, you will be identified as a "thinking man" and can find one or two women to join you for more discussion after the book club meeting ends.

I've met a number of interesting women this way and it's so much easier when the odds are in your favor. Quite often you will be the only man in a group of a dozen women. The only way you can screw up is by not reading the book.

That is a money suggestion. The only question is whether it's worth it to read fiction (I almost exclusively read non-fiction) to meet smart women... Yeah, it proabably is. Thanks for the advice.

Martian · 01-19-2006, 10:07 AM

It's been my experience that smart women like to hang out at the same places everyone else does. This may not be universally true.

biznatch · 01-19-2006, 03:31 PM

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Originally Posted by ngdawg

Seems to me a lot of fake smarties hang out at Barnes and Noble, ie; they think they're intelligent, but are just smartly dressed.

Soho syndrom anyone? we see tons of those in NYC in lower east side, they're annoying...but fun to watch nonetheless.

Key · 01-22-2006, 02:19 AM

classes are always good, especially dance classes. "smart" women seem like to learn to do things the right way, and have more fun doing it proper. people who don't go and just wing it (not just dancing, any hobby) are generally more interested in just doing the activity and less in learning about how to do it. salsa dancing's a great way to meet women, the "smart" ones will go alone if they have to- if their friends don't want to go they'll go by themselves because they're independent, and if they want to learn they'll go by themselves if they have to and not care what anybody thinks- they operate on their own perrogrative apart from the crowd as indicated by the responses in this thread. to enroll in a class you have to have 2 things: the want to learn, and the ability to follow through on it regardless of stigma of going alone, two traits "smart" women i've noticed have.

also, those with "smart" jobs in places like the tech industry, accounting offices, law and mortgage firms, seem to like to either relax at home (nothing you can do) or cut loose (dance) or grab a drink in their spare time rather than try and find more (volunteer) work. so you can actually find smart women in bars- just make sure they're the type of bar a person would want to stop by for a drink after work or something. a nice jazz bar in the middle of several high tech offices would probably be a good choice to hang out at for example.

777 · 01-22-2006, 02:37 AM

Hey, I just went out with a gal who's got her masters. And of all places, I met her while I was working at the mall.

Now there's a strong correlation with intelligence, and humor. Most professional comedians did well in school. So I'll fire a few jokes at the gals to test them.

Now here's what I recomend. Yes, go to Starbucks and Barnes & Noble, and chat up the staff. These type of businesses have a tendancy to employ students, as well as a lot of other social gatherings near colleges.

If your looking for someone closer to your age (late twenties), fine an area with a lot of office buildings, and take your lunch breaks out there. On the 11-o'clock news, a dating expert recommended talking to people as they're waiting to be seated. If your hitting it off, join them, or get their number and leave. If things aren't going well at that restaurant, then move on to the next one.

And a lot of people have recommended to me to take a dance class to meet single women.

feelgood · 01-22-2006, 03:49 AM

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Originally Posted by Stiltzkin

Is it weird that I'm 20, and I think *exactly* the same way? Tina Fey is amazing, and so is Rachael Harris ... and Patricia Heaton >.>

I'm 22 and I'm in the same boat as you guys are

Delivery Girl · 01-22-2006, 11:18 PM

but one question after all this discussion still sits in my mind....what type of smart woman are you looking for? There are so many diversities out there that you may need to narrow your search...I do recommend taking a class at the local university. It should be something you're interested in and something that is offered either late at night or on a weekend, because the age of woman you're looking for probably already has a career and is either brushing up on new skills or just taking something for kicks. This will also pose a perfect entrance for you to volunteer, as college's have great volunteer opportunities.
You see, I am 25 and just getting back into school after marriage, 2 kids and a divorce, so most women who attend these later classes are "world smart", and usually VERY dedicated to their education.
By the way...do you have a degree....a graduate degree? This might be the time to go to grad school!
PS, there are also a TON of HOT young grad students and fresh instructors...

by the way....where do you go to find smart men....and not the self-centered, "I'm smarter than you are" type?

777 · 01-22-2006, 11:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Delivery Girl

by the way....where do you go to find smart men....and not the self-centered, "I'm smarter than you are" type?

On TFP, duh.

Min · 01-22-2006, 11:33 PM

All of the areas listed I enjoy except I have no time to volunteer with work and I'm not one for dance or drink. I prefer quiet places to be left alone and enjoy the atmosphere. My problem is I'm relatively anti-social, I'd rather be left alone than have a chat with a stranger.

CoachAlan · 01-22-2006, 11:36 PM

I like the idea of taking a dance class, with subjects like salsa and swing. Even if I don't meet a woman in that class, it's VERY useful to know how to dance, which I don't. I just started a new job, and I'm finally working days. Once I settle in to my schedule, I will definitely start taking classes again.

I was on my way to becoming a teacher, and I had enough credits that the counselor essentially said, "Hey, give us $15 and we'll give you a couple of associates degrees." Which I did. Then I found a job which, of course, paid much better than being a teacher, so I stopped going to school.

Regarding what "type" of smart woman I'd like to meet, I'd say it's one who thinks deeply. Someone who is introspective enough to know why she does the things she does, why she feels the way she feels, and someone who has the ability to express herself to me. There are few things I find more stimulating than deep conversation. I'd like it if she had a passion for learning and experiencing new things, which is why I think taking night classes is such a great idea.

Valentina · 01-22-2006, 11:39 PM

Stripclubs.

I'm dead serious.

And the Internet.

And CoachAlan, I read almost exclusively non-fiction too...I'd pass on the book club thing unless you can find one that assigns the kind of books you like to read. The next NPR pledge drive, though...that might be worth a try.

Mattbastard · 01-26-2006, 08:31 PM

Why only "smart" women?

It's been my experience that a signigficant amount of these smart women you speak of are only that, smart.

No insight. No curiousity of life. No interest in outside experiences. You get the idea.

I'm not saying a "dumb" woman is the answer, but dont just sell yourself short on only smart women. Smart or dumb, it's all relative.

joemc91 · 01-26-2006, 09:04 PM

You'll run into them at bars too. Just because they're smart, doesn't mean they don't like to drink and party. Edit: I've gone out clubbing and bar hopping with many med students and of course regular college students. The med students I met at a random bar in the city.

CoachAlan · 01-26-2006, 09:47 PM

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biznatch · 01-29-2006, 05:44 PM

I'm really not sure as to what you mean by smart woman. *refrains to suggest that it's an oxymoron*
No seriously, though, what do you mean? I know there are unintelligent females out there, but I believe most are able to handle a conversation...right? Or maybe I'm just lucky. I think the thing is you have to catch them in a conversation, seious mood, and find a common point of interest.

01-13-2006, 09:51 AM	#42 (permalink)
CoachAlan Psycho Location: Las Vegas	Incidentally, I'm going for a Jeopardy tryout/screen test today, and I'm pretty excited about it. This will be the second time I've tried out. I came pretty close last time, but wound up missing two too many questions on the written test. I feel much more prepared this time, but we'll see. Now that I think about it, this tryout will probably be a pretty solid place to meet smart women. Wish me luck in both endeavors! __________________ "If I cannot smoke cigars in heaven, I shall not go!" - Mark Twain

01-13-2006, 03:11 PM	#43 (permalink)
CoachAlan Psycho Location: Las Vegas	Alas, I am a failure. Of the 60 people in my tryout, only 8 passed the test and moved on to the screen test. I was not one of them. I was, however, one of two people to win a Jeopardy DVD, so I guess that's something. __________________ "If I cannot smoke cigars in heaven, I shall not go!" - Mark Twain

01-14-2006, 03:35 PM	#45 (permalink)
Gilda 32 flavors and then some Location: Out on a wire.	comic book shops upscale universities trendy clubs near said upscale universities drag clubs used book shops specialty organic produce markets my living room Gilda __________________ I'm against ending blackness. I believe that everyone has a right to be black, it's a choice, and I support that. ~Steven Colbert

01-19-2006, 10:07 AM	#48 (permalink)
Martian Young Crumudgeon Location: Canada	It's been my experience that smart women like to hang out at the same places everyone else does. This may not be universally true. __________________ I wake up in the morning more tired than before I slept I get through cryin' and I'm sadder than before I wept I get through thinkin' now, and the thoughts have left my head I get through speakin' and I can't remember, not a word that I said - Ben Harper, Show Me A Little Shame

01-22-2006, 02:37 AM	#51 (permalink)
777 drawn and redrawn Location: Some where in Southern California	Hey, I just went out with a gal who's got her masters. And of all places, I met her while I was working at the mall. Now there's a strong correlation with intelligence, and humor. Most professional comedians did well in school. So I'll fire a few jokes at the gals to test them. Now here's what I recomend. Yes, go to Starbucks and Barnes & Noble, and chat up the staff. These type of businesses have a tendancy to employ students, as well as a lot of other social gatherings near colleges. If your looking for someone closer to your age (late twenties), fine an area with a lot of office buildings, and take your lunch breaks out there. On the 11-o'clock news, a dating expert recommended talking to people as they're waiting to be seated. If your hitting it off, join them, or get their number and leave. If things aren't going well at that restaurant, then move on to the next one. And a lot of people have recommended to me to take a dance class to meet single women. __________________ "I don't know that I ever wanted greatness, on its own. It seems rather like wanting to be an engineer, rather than wanting to design something - or wanting to be a writer, rather than wanting to write. It should be a by-product, not a thing in itself. Otherwise, it's just an ego trip." Roger Zelazny

01-14-2006, 02:08 PM	#44 (permalink)
Brilliant Idiot Tilted	Where do smart women hang out? Here, at my house.

01-19-2006, 02:00 AM	#46 (permalink)
nitelyfe Upright Location: Long Beach, CA	Book clubs. Very few men join them but women who like to read are there by the dozens. I've found a few book clubs through Meetup.com and through some local non-chain bookstores. And don't worry; most of them don't bother with the romance novels. They're more interested in the best-sellers on the Fiction lists. Be sure to read the assigned book all the way through. If you can offer one or two bits of insight regarding a character or a plot line, you will be identified as a "thinking man" and can find one or two women to join you for more discussion after the book club meeting ends. I've met a number of interesting women this way and it's so much easier when the odds are in your favor. Quite often you will be the only man in a group of a dozen women. The only way you can screw up is by not reading the book.

01-22-2006, 02:19 AM	#50 (permalink)
Key Crazy	classes are always good, especially dance classes. "smart" women seem like to learn to do things the right way, and have more fun doing it proper. people who don't go and just wing it (not just dancing, any hobby) are generally more interested in just doing the activity and less in learning about how to do it. salsa dancing's a great way to meet women, the "smart" ones will go alone if they have to- if their friends don't want to go they'll go by themselves because they're independent, and if they want to learn they'll go by themselves if they have to and not care what anybody thinks- they operate on their own perrogrative apart from the crowd as indicated by the responses in this thread. to enroll in a class you have to have 2 things: the want to learn, and the ability to follow through on it regardless of stigma of going alone, two traits "smart" women i've noticed have. also, those with "smart" jobs in places like the tech industry, accounting offices, law and mortgage firms, seem to like to either relax at home (nothing you can do) or cut loose (dance) or grab a drink in their spare time rather than try and find more (volunteer) work. so you can actually find smart women in bars- just make sure they're the type of bar a person would want to stop by for a drink after work or something. a nice jazz bar in the middle of several high tech offices would probably be a good choice to hang out at for example.

01-22-2006, 11:18 PM	#53 (permalink)
Delivery Girl Upright	but one question after all this discussion still sits in my mind....what type of smart woman are you looking for? There are so many diversities out there that you may need to narrow your search...I do recommend taking a class at the local university. It should be something you're interested in and something that is offered either late at night or on a weekend, because the age of woman you're looking for probably already has a career and is either brushing up on new skills or just taking something for kicks. This will also pose a perfect entrance for you to volunteer, as college's have great volunteer opportunities. You see, I am 25 and just getting back into school after marriage, 2 kids and a divorce, so most women who attend these later classes are "world smart", and usually VERY dedicated to their education. By the way...do you have a degree....a graduate degree? This might be the time to go to grad school! PS, there are also a TON of HOT young grad students and fresh instructors... by the way....where do you go to find smart men....and not the self-centered, "I'm smarter than you are" type? __________________ Catch 'em if you can! Delivery Girl

01-22-2006, 11:33 PM	#55 (permalink)
Min Crazy Location: Louisiana	All of the areas listed I enjoy except I have no time to volunteer with work and I'm not one for dance or drink. I prefer quiet places to be left alone and enjoy the atmosphere. My problem is I'm relatively anti-social, I'd rather be left alone than have a chat with a stranger.

01-22-2006, 11:36 PM	#56 (permalink)
CoachAlan Psycho Location: Las Vegas	I like the idea of taking a dance class, with subjects like salsa and swing. Even if I don't meet a woman in that class, it's VERY useful to know how to dance, which I don't. I just started a new job, and I'm finally working days. Once I settle in to my schedule, I will definitely start taking classes again. I was on my way to becoming a teacher, and I had enough credits that the counselor essentially said, "Hey, give us $15 and we'll give you a couple of associates degrees." Which I did. Then I found a job which, of course, paid much better than being a teacher, so I stopped going to school. Regarding what "type" of smart woman I'd like to meet, I'd say it's one who thinks deeply. Someone who is introspective enough to know why she does the things she does, why she feels the way she feels, and someone who has the ability to express herself to me. There are few things I find more stimulating than deep conversation. I'd like it if she had a passion for learning and experiencing new things, which is why I think taking night classes is such a great idea. __________________ "If I cannot smoke cigars in heaven, I shall not go!" - Mark Twain

01-22-2006, 11:39 PM	#57 (permalink)
Valentina Upright	Stripclubs. I'm dead serious. And the Internet. And CoachAlan, I read almost exclusively non-fiction too...I'd pass on the book club thing unless you can find one that assigns the kind of books you like to read. The next NPR pledge drive, though...that might be worth a try.

01-26-2006, 08:31 PM	#58 (permalink)
Mattbastard Upright	Why only "smart" women? It's been my experience that a signigficant amount of these smart women you speak of are only that, smart. No insight. No curiousity of life. No interest in outside experiences. You get the idea. I'm not saying a "dumb" woman is the answer, but dont just sell yourself short on only smart women. Smart or dumb, it's all relative.

01-26-2006, 09:04 PM	#59 (permalink)
joemc91 Insane Location: Chicago	You'll run into them at bars too. Just because they're smart, doesn't mean they don't like to drink and party. Edit: I've gone out clubbing and bar hopping with many med students and of course regular college students. The med students I met at a random bar in the city. Last edited by joemc91; 01-26-2006 at 10:03 PM..

01-26-2006, 09:47 PM	#60 (permalink)
CoachAlan Psycho Location: Las Vegas	deleted. oops. __________________ "If I cannot smoke cigars in heaven, I shall not go!" - Mark Twain

01-29-2006, 05:44 PM	#61 (permalink)
biznatch Junkie Location: France	I'm really not sure as to what you mean by smart woman. refrains to suggest that it's an oxymoron No seriously, though, what do you mean? I know there are unintelligent females out there, but I believe most are able to handle a conversation...right? Or maybe I'm just lucky. I think the thing is you have to catch them in a conversation, seious mood, and find a common point of interest.