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Old 10-23-2005, 06:20 PM   #1 (permalink)
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So What Happens Now?

For those of you who follow my rendevous... Heres a followup to 'Maybe a Nice Guy?'
Blondie came over lastnite to my house for some wine and some fettucine alfredo. He gave me a huge hug and told me he had a dream about me the other night, about how I was sleeping right next to him in an Army t-shirt (he used to be in the army). We ended up watching an excellent Adam Sandler movie and just hanging out. We talked about growing up, moving, our parents and how my mom passed. It was awesome convo, haven't had that in a long time.
He ended up staying the night. What an amazing night. We've known each other for a few weeks and the tension was building, if you know what I mean? The next morning he got up and made some coffee, we finished the movie from the night before and just chilled. He made some lunch for the both of us and we watched a couple more movies. He didn't leave till 3pm. I was sad when he left, don't know why. I know I shouldn't become attatched, but theres just something about him that I can't get over.
Last weekend he had told me that he didn't want a serious relationship because his last gf of 3 yrs cheated on him!!! Then everything happened lastnight... I asked him about it last night and how I didn't want him to feel any pressure and he said "Sometimes things just come up"... relating to him and I.
I don't know what to do now? What comes next? I don't remember how this whole 'game' works or even how to work it!!! HELP!!!!!
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Old 10-23-2005, 06:46 PM   #2 (permalink)
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You need to stop bedding down every guy who remotely looks like 'the one', take everything said to you with a grain of salt and step back and look at what you are projecting...if you can't simply have sex for the fun with no looking to a second time, you shouldn't be having it.
you say you've 'known' each other a 'few weeks', but how well? In what context?
Now that I got the preaching out of the way....
This only happened last night. You need to slow down, really and let this build naturally. If it's meant to be, it'll be right. If not, it should be taken as a lesson learned to apply next time.
(Personally, if some guy told me that dream thing, I'd giggle, say, 'yea right' and hand him the parmesan, cause that was cheezy )
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Old 10-23-2005, 06:47 PM   #3 (permalink)
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You got him. Now, pressure him into marriage as soon as possible!
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Old 10-23-2005, 07:01 PM   #4 (permalink)
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You got him. Now, pressure him into marriage as soon as possible!

What the heck is this suppose to mean? Jeez
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Old 10-23-2005, 07:08 PM   #5 (permalink)
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You need to stop bedding down every guy who remotely looks like 'the one', take everything said to you with a grain of salt and step back and look at what you are projecting...if you can't simply have sex for the fun with no looking to a second time, you shouldn't be having it.
you say you've 'known' each other a 'few weeks', but how well? In what context?
Now that I got the preaching out of the way....
This only happened last night. You need to slow down, really and let this build naturally. If it's meant to be, it'll be right. If not, it should be taken as a lesson learned to apply next time.
(Personally, if some guy told me that dream thing, I'd giggle, say, 'yea right' and hand him the parmesan, cause that was cheezy )

O great, I'm a slut now... good. Jeeesh!!! I'm going slow. My brain is just filled curiousity, nothing serious. I'm just a thinking person. Maybe I think too much, but I just like to know whats going on. I probably won't contact him... I will wait for him to contact me... Its like if I wait on the sidelines, people are going to pass me by... But if I actually think about someone more than a friend, I'm known as someone who sleeps around and thinks too much.... What the heck? Am I missing something here?
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Old 10-23-2005, 07:38 PM   #6 (permalink)
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No disrespect, HoneyPot, but you seem to fret an awful lot about this boy..known a few weeks? Your first post was made on October 10 that you saw him Friday, which would have been Oct.7, so 16 days is NOT a few weeks, it's a few days. And, to quote from that thread, " He called the next day 3 times... I was totally stoked. We met up that night again. I ended up going to an after party and had a blast with him. I went back to his place and stayed the night. I behaved myself... he was very sweet about it... Don't get me wrong we did fool around and have a little fun, but I couldn't go all the way because I was surfing the crimson tide."
So, yea, you're going way too fast, specially if you keep thinking and rethinking and wondering about 'the next move'.
And I would respectfully ask that you not put words where I did not say them. I'm pretty upfront. If I was to use that word, I would have.....All I'm saying is, slow down.
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Old 10-23-2005, 08:50 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Yah, take a deep breath. Half a month is not enough time for a solid relationship to develop. You squeeze him too tight you might scare the crap out of him. Especially if he declared that he didn't want a serious relationship to start with.
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Old 10-23-2005, 09:06 PM   #8 (permalink)
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no one accused anyone of being anything. what ngdawg is trying to say is sometimes the clearest moments in a relationship is when your not having sex. so slow down and things will become clearer. being rash about a relationship can be detrimental if he really isnt the 'one'.

as for uncle pony..he's just being sarcastic....just ease up just a notch honeypot! i found uncleponiy's comment quite amusing actually. i guess if you wanted to test the guy..do what unclepony said..but dont expect him to be round for next mornings coffee and movies with you in his army tshirt.

all i have to say is..slow down girl! and dont take that shit about the dream too seriously..guys will jazz things up just to get a rise out of you and maybe get laid. he probably saw you in his dream somewhere...so what.
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Old 10-23-2005, 09:38 PM   #9 (permalink)
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no one accused anyone of being anything. what ngdawg is trying to say is sometimes the clearest moments in a relationship is when your not having sex. so slow down and things will become clearer. being rash about a relationship can be detrimental if he really isnt the 'one'.
Well...

I'll throw in my two cents.

Given your attitude about past relationships as seen on this board, you need to slow down. However, if you feel that this is worth gambling on, shit, go for it. But you seriously need to CALM DOWN. He's never going to want to be with you if you read too much into it. Let him be needy, not you.

It works out better that way, trust me.

Don't overanalyze every little move. It's not worth driving yourself crazy over. Men are like...well, I'll use my dad's analogy...streetcars. There's another one every fifteen minutes. No worries, eh?
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Old 10-23-2005, 11:27 PM   #10 (permalink)
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street cars huh snowy? ....i think im taking that one iwth a grain of salt...
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Old 10-23-2005, 11:30 PM   #11 (permalink)
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No disrespect, HoneyPot, but you seem to fret an awful lot about this boy..known a few weeks? Your first post was made on October 10 that you saw him Friday, which would have been Oct.7, so 16 days is NOT a few weeks, it's a few days. And, to quote from that thread, " He called the next day 3 times... I was totally stoked. We met up that night again. I ended up going to an after party and had a blast with him. I went back to his place and stayed the night. I behaved myself... he was very sweet about it... Don't get me wrong we did fool around and have a little fun, but I couldn't go all the way because I was surfing the crimson tide."
So, yea, you're going way too fast, specially if you keep thinking and rethinking and wondering about 'the next move'.
And I would respectfully ask that you not put words where I did not say them. I'm pretty upfront. If I was to use that word, I would have.....All I'm saying is, slow down.
16 days is more than a few days. A "few" is generally considered to be no around three (certainly no less). :P

Honeypot: it sounds like you're overthinking it a bit. To quote an "urban poet": stop thinking with your head, and start thinking with your heart. It sounds like you're analyzing this thing far too much to me. I'm prone to the same thing, and since I learned to somewhat shut off my insane amount of overanalyzation of situations, I am a much happier person.

edit: I see snowy beat me. That rascal.
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Old 10-24-2005, 01:32 AM   #12 (permalink)
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As has been stated, slow down, take your shoes off and don't get so attached. He said he's not ready for anything serious, but then again I know people that weren't and have gone from being in a bad relationship into a great one and then have gone and got married.

So yeah, take it easy, don't scare him off, yes it's hard I went through the same thing, scared the girl, but she saw what I was doing and just told me to slow down. I did and everthing is good

Take care of yourself
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Old 10-24-2005, 12:58 PM   #13 (permalink)
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Okay I've got it slow down. I guess I've just got this crazy mind of mine, in a good way. I think way too much. Its a horrible habit of mine. I wasn't taking anything personal, I guess I just got ticked because I know its the truth. Sorry for being overly sensitive. Thanks guys for the help.
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Old 10-24-2005, 01:05 PM   #14 (permalink)
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The only thing that struck me from the OP:

We ended up watching an excellent Adam Sandler movie



Other than that, take it slow, but have fun!
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Old 10-24-2005, 01:25 PM   #15 (permalink)
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Next time you see him ask him if he minds if you see other guys. If he says "no others" or something similar you've got him. If he says "no problem," move on.
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Old 10-24-2005, 03:43 PM   #16 (permalink)
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