shazbotus

Ok, well I am submitting this for my roommate, and I hope this is the right category. Essentially, after my 21st birthday this past weekend, my roommate got to know this girl that was there. They kind of knew each other a bit before and now it seems they are hanging out a lot. Nothing intimate has happened yet, but he says that she has seemed very interested. She has invited him to a concert, to dinner, and tonight she asked him to return to her room to listen to her play cello. Several people who know the girl say that she is a big tease, so my roommate really wants to know if this girl is for real. Any help is appreciated...

Jinn

Foolhardy to assume that invitations to talk and listen to a cello are invitations for sex (which seems to be his goal). Likely she's gotten the label of being a tease because those going in expecting sex don't get it. In other words, for him to expect sex is foolish in this case as well as others. That, and its pretty impossible to gauge her promiscuity from a four line description..

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Any girl inviting you up to listen to her play cello wants one thing and one thing only and I think we all know exactly what that is....
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She wants you to listen to her play the cello.

Seriously, if he wants to know if he gets to have sex, then he should say, "Okay, but after you play the cello, do we get to have sex?" That way he'll know for certain.

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raeanna74

Has he invited HER anywhere??

When I go with a guy to a concert - I'm looking for relationship goals.

When I got with a guy to a club - I'm looking for sexual goals.

To me it sounds like she's looking for a relationship and not sex (at least to begin with). If he's willing to do the relationship and isn't just looking for a one night stand he should probably just sit back and enjoy the ride. If a relationship develops then maybe he'll get sex. As for a one night stand - I dunno - my instincts tell me - It ain't happenin.

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Charlatan

Listen to the cello... if it develops into anything more it will.

But don't go listen to her cello playing with any real expectations (ones in the back of your head are acceptable). If your friend likes hanging out with her and her cello there is a real possibility that it could lead to something...

Of course the whole evening could end up with your friend and his cello playing nymph riding her cello case down a snowy mountain side... no wait. That was the Living Daylights...

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shazbotus

WHAT?!?! Who ever said anything about sex (that's why I wasn't sure if this was the correct category, let me know if it isn't). I sure didn't, and no, thats not what my roommate is looking for. And its a bit offensive that you implied that. My roommate is just curious as to how to approach this. When I said she was a tease, I meant it in the sense that she seems flirtatious. He really just wants to know what to take of this attention towards him, which is not normally used to. Keep the advice coming.

JumpinJesus

Okay, let's break this down: nothing intimate has happened - yet - but she seems interested, she's known as a tease, he's wondering if an invitation to her place means anything and you find it offensive that we implied sex?

In most people's parlance:

intimate = reference to sex
tease = reference to sex
invitation to one's place = reference to sex
posted in sexuality forum = reference to sex

If you took offense, then I would suggest that you look to your own verbage for any confusion.

If what you meant was, "do you think this may mean she's interested in pursuing something?" then you would have gotten more responses along the lines you were looking for.

In which case, I would direct you
here.

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shesus

Well, I was going to respond, but I'm not sure what the problem is...
I was referred to as a tease because I wouldn't have sex with every guy who wanted it. I was looking for a relationship, but others just wanted to have sex.
An invitation up is full of sexual innuendos. *shrug* The guy should just enjoy the company then. I have never known a guy though that was not out for sex. Even the sweetest guys I know had motives.

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To me, it depends on what kind of tease she is. If she's anything at all like my best friend, she doesn't have the slightest intention of anything with your buddy, she's just wanting some attention. If she's like ohh_shesus, well, she might just be looking for a relationship and has been unfairly labeled a tease in the past.

Perhaps, and this is going out on a limb here, he could just *ask* her what's up!

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Bob Biter

Well, unless she likes to show off her cello skills to everybody, I would take it as a definite sign of interest that she invited your friend to a private demonstration. It's a skill she's probably proud of, and playing an instrument with decent ability usually means expressing one's emotions through it. The fact that she asked your friend to watch her is certainly a good sign. Not necessarily for sex, but surely of serious interest. He should ask her out to a nice dinner.

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777

When you're doing the teasing

Just tell you buddy to have some fun with the cello gal. Who knows what'll be come of it.

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air45

i think she want the member of your friend very much!

the cello is the shape of woman body. she take the bow which is like a erect member and stroke the cello. this is sign of horny lubrication!

the friend should prepare for much sexing of his penis! this is good news! way to be fine! ok!

dlish

sounds to be she wants to 'blow' the trumpet

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kangaeru

"come over and listen to me play cello"

means what it says.

"come over and let's watch a movie"

could mean let's get it on like roger rabbit.

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todd

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Ustwo

She wants a long term relationship.

On the other hand if I listen to a girl play cello I better get to second base at least

Women get drilled into their heads that you can't have sex early in a relationship if you want it to be a long term one. I don't know why they get this evil information, but they do.

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drewpy

your roomates reading way to much into it. The chain of events - dinner, concert, and cello - sound like she interested. That's too many events to be tease. Now on the other hand if the aforementioned "rumor mongers" implied more with the label tease - then what's a issue could be very different. Let's say the rumor mongers had intended some action - didn't get it and slapped on the label "tease". I say avoid second hand bullshit and hang out with this girl - and see what happens. But by all means have your roomie get pictures of any action involving that cello ...

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guthmund

Just tell him to ask her if she'd like to go for a cup of coffee. If she says "yes," then sex is on, yeah? That's the unwritten rule.

/Izzard

No, seriously. It's not like this is that hard to figure out the signals, which your roommate seems to have failed at, or you just ask her what it is she wants. Sounds to me like they got a good thing going, so, warn him to approach the conversation carefully. It'd be a shame if he blew this one...I mean, a girl? with a cello? tres interesting, no?

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analog

I completely agree with the above from Ustwo, also referencing the section from the original post.

cptgreedle

I like my woman like I like my coffe.... pale and weak.. and with a spoon in them.

LOL... another Eddie Izzard quote!

But seriously. If people say she's a tease, they prolly mean she's not interested in sex but they thought she was. If she was interested in sex, then asking him to listen to her play the cello (my favorite instrument btw) is a weird way to do it. Besides, if sex was an issue, letting it happen spontaneously and out of the blut is a good thing too
What I think you should tell him is that he should enjoy her company and stay close to her. Ask her out and maybe take her to dinner. If she is interested in sex, he'll know, if she's interested in a long term relationship, he'll find out. Just keep open with her and communicate. Find out what she wants from him and that will make everything much easier!

el_soulman

By "out of the blut" do you mean "out of the blue" or "out of the butt"?