BigDonkey2

A little background first. I just broke up with my girlfriend of 4 months last week and her best friend feels the need to butt in and talk shit about me. Thats about it, so here it is.. (its the same one that posted in the Ladies Lounge)


I don't even know where to begin. The nerve of some people is ridiculous. Why is it that some people feel the need to fight battles that aren't even theirs? Why is it that somebody must always stick their nose in business which is really none of their own? Then to take cheap shots at that person (me) by talking about my career (professional baseball). My career has nothing to do with my relationships with other women so I don't get where that comes from. I know I hurt someone, but what do you want me to do? Sit here and cry about it? Shit happens and you just have to go with it. Oh and apparently I'm gay because thats what her best friend said and she is the all knowing of everything in this world. When I read that last night on her blog on myspace I was fucking furious. You can say that I'm an asshole or whatever but when you talk about something that has no fucking relavancy to the subject thats when I just got fucking pissed off. This whole thing is fucking stupid. I don't care if you talk shit about me, thats fine. Tell me I'm an asshole, prick, whatever. I know I hurt somebody, but I'm not going to sit here and mope around about it. Yes I know I hurt someone and I'm sorry. I know that shes never going to trust me again and I'm fine with that. She can do whatever she feels. Just dont have your best friend sit here and talk shit about me.

Thats my little rant. I don't know what I'm looking for in the way of responses but I guess just post how you feel about the subject. Thanks everybody.

ShaniFaye

So...your best friend wouldnt talk shit about a girl that had dumped you I take it?

__________________
I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!

BigDonkey2

Hell no. He wouldn't say shit because he knows its none of his business and hes not the type of guy that would do that.

Bill O'Rights

To quote Manny, from Ice Age; "Because...that's what you do in a herd".
In other words, she feels "the need" because of her status as best friend. That's what best friends do.
And, Shanni's right. It's not exactly gender exclusive, either.

__________________
"I distrust those people who know so well what God wants them to do because I notice it always coincides with their own desires." - Susan B. Anthony

"Hedonism with rules isn't hedonism at all, it's the Republican party." - JumpinJesus

It is indisputable that true beauty lies within...but a nice rack sure doesn't hurt.

ShaniFaye

Well if thats the kind of friend you like then great for you.

I personally wouldnt want a friend that wouldnt commiserate with me and agree with me on what a rat the "other person" was.

There is a reason they are called best friends....thats because when you hurt, they hurt right along with you

__________________
I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!

cyrnel

What goes around... could it be you brought it on yourself?

You know you did something and say you're sorry, but you don't sound remorseful. Words don't mean squat without actions and people react accordingly. Best friends especially so.

__________________
There are a vast number of people who are uninformed and heavily propagandized, but fundamentally decent. The propaganda that inundates them is effective when unchallenged, but much of it goes only skin deep. If they can be brought to raise questions and apply their decent instincts and basic intelligence, many people quickly escape the confines of the doctrinal system and are willing to do something to help others who are really suffering and oppressed." -Manufacturing Consent: Noam Chomsky and the Media, p. 195

ShaniFaye

Oh and as a girl....Im gonna address the "gay" comment.

Knowing what we know here on tilted....your mother repeatedly trashed your g/f (to her face I might add) and you asked for advice and then up and broke up with her...therefore making yourself look like a BIG momma's boy. In girl speak some one that "appears" (not saying if it is or isnt true) to be the hung up on their mom's and what they think...are usually thought of as gay by a lot of women

__________________
I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!

Jinn

Girls will be girls, and bitchy girls will be bitchy girls. By giving credit to her and her friend via your anger and vehement disagreement, you give credibility to her argument. If you're an "asshole," you screaming and being upset about the things she says is only adding fuel to the fire. It makes her (you claim) outlandish insults more real and believable. If you stand back and don't say a word, she appears to be the insult-spewing whore that she is. If you move on and get a new girlfriend, her "insult" of being gay becomes an unlikely statement coming from HER mouth. She loses credibility by you ignoring her.. you gain credibility by being above her foul and slanderous mouth. I know that in elementary school (yes, this is elementary behavior) if I said "NO I'M NOT" when the bully called me gay.. he kept saying if it. If I just laughed at him and kept playing basketball, he suddenly looked like the fool and stopped.

Chalk it up as one more irrational girl being what SHE thinks is a good friend. Hell, your ex-girlfriend might even tell her to stop once she realizes how unfazed you are. Don't let her bully you or control your emotions.

__________________
"I'm typing on a computer of science, which is being sent by science wires to a little science server where you can access it. I'm not typing on a computer of philosophy or religion or whatever other thing you think can be used to understand the universe because they're a poor substitute in the role of understanding the universe which exists independent from ourselves." - Willravel

Jinn

And also -- you can't expect your ex-girlfriend to stop the behavior of her friend. While I might not agree with it, if a friend of mine feels like he's defending me by slandering another person, I'm likely not going to stop it. Initially, because it feels good to have someone defend you, but also -- because the only person whose behavior I can control is MINE.

__________________
"I'm typing on a computer of science, which is being sent by science wires to a little science server where you can access it. I'm not typing on a computer of philosophy or religion or whatever other thing you think can be used to understand the universe because they're a poor substitute in the role of understanding the universe which exists independent from ourselves." - Willravel

tecoyah

If by chance....one decides to air laundry in a public setting, it should be expected that they will have said laundry discussed, at times energetically (depending on how dirty the wash is). Personally, I dont really care how nasty you two are to each other, as I dont know you and after this little disp[lay have no desire too, But.

If this begins to get out of hand....and we are forced to watch a personal bashing session, I WILL ACT ON IT.

This thread is done....take it somewhere else

__________________
Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. - Buddha