Is there such thing as sexual withdrawl symptoms? - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

HoneyPot · 08-24-2005, 11:35 PM

So I haven't gotten laid in about a month. I would consider myself to be on a major dry spell, if you must call it. I feel like I'm cranky, my self esteem has plumated and I'm just overall feeling damn ugly. haha Could this symptoms of withdrawls from sexual pleasure? Help!!!

Suave · 08-24-2005, 11:56 PM

Cranky: possibly. Feeling ugly: possibly. Self-esteem issues: possibly.

I wouldn't attribute these to being "withdrawal symptoms" as such, since those are normally in the vein of direct physiological dependancies upon a substance or activity. However, your sense of self-worth, attractiveness, confidence, and happiness are very likely tied into how often you have sex. There are constant messages from different areas of society about how sex/romantic involvement is the main goal in life, how people who do not have it often are in their position because they're not as 'fit' (in Darwinian terms) as others. It creates quite a stigma around lack of sex, and these values are likely integrated within the vast majority of the population to some degree.

In short: yeah, it's probably part of the reason, but not because you actually physically need sex in the same way you'd need cocaine were you an addict.

And yes, I realise you didn't need this long or detailed or tangental an answer. :P

Daniel_ · 08-25-2005, 01:25 AM

The only withdrawal problems I get relate to her dripping after a really long session.

(Not totally true, but hey - you line 'em up, I'll knock 'em down).

visotech · 08-25-2005, 01:33 AM

I think I get really cranky when I don't get sex lately. Its been 7 days now since I had sex, even though I only live a mile from my gf - she never seems to be in the mood. I've been really cranky the last 5 days...meh

mandy · 08-25-2005, 03:44 AM

i dont get cranky as much as i get really really horny and so does my bf.but i think there are withdrawls associated with lack of sex...

lucky me i have yet to experience them.

maybe you could try a search on the net and try to get soem insight there

shesus · 08-25-2005, 07:34 AM

I think that there are withdrawal symptoms and you mentioned them. I also get very, very agressive. I would shove a little girl in a pink dress in front of the El Train, if I could get away with it.

Extreme horniness is also an effect. Hope it rains soon for you!

StuckinRow · 08-25-2005, 09:32 AM

There is definately something that changes when one hasnt gotten any in a while. For about 5 months me and a group of about 150 were sent several states away from home, without our S/Os. After a few weeks you could just tell that peoples' moods were changing. Fights started breaking out and petty arguements flourished. We all got to go home for a little over a week but had to leave again. We have now been gone for another 5 months and it seems that the anger is starting to dwindle...

Lets just say everyone was cranky for quite a while. Sure we still havent been able to have sex in quite a while... but we are getting used to it, unfortunately.

I can't wait to come home...

hambone · 08-25-2005, 09:56 AM

Its all mental. You can get over it by just focusing on other things. Having a lot of free time to reflect on it is what gets me trying to convince myself that I 'need' it.

World's King · 08-25-2005, 10:16 AM

The only symptom I can think of is masturbation.

HoneyPot · 08-25-2005, 12:00 PM

I'm finding myself to be in complete beeyotch mood. Like with my boss at work, my friends, just everyone....

HoneyPot · 08-25-2005, 12:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ohh_shesus

I think that there are withdrawal symptoms and you mentioned them. I also get very, very agressive. I would shove a little girl in a pink dress in front of the El Train, if I could get away with it.

Extreme horniness is also an effect. Hope it rains soon for you!

AWESOME! ME TOO! I hope when it rains it FREAKIN' POURS!

YES.....

Sugarmouse · 08-25-2005, 06:26 PM

[yeh i think there is..especually if your sex drive is high.ifeeling unnatractive and undesired conjures up all sorts of emotional problems and getting no sexhas other symptoms..such as built up tension and aggression..and/or a very sore wrist...

noodle · 08-25-2005, 06:34 PM

Oh yeah. I definately think so. My coworkers accused me of being on drugs and/or "PMSing". The only thing I could attribute it to that had changed in my life, was the cessation of sex. Honestly, it helps to find another way to release endorphins. After awhile, the self-doubt, horniness, frustration and irritability can find a new outlet. I had to learn the hard way.

Martel · 08-26-2005, 08:06 AM

Sage and I definitely get a bit weird when we go for too long (4-5 days) without sex. It can be tough getting over the hump of actually getting into it when we're both feeling aggravated at each other, but as soon as we let go and let ourselves enjoy each other everything is just sooooooooo good and we say "damn, why do we ever go this long without sex?"

legolas · 08-27-2005, 12:15 PM

no i think it definetly affects people. one time i did a seinfeld contest with a group of friends and lasted over two months... i was not the same person at all.

Ustwo · 08-27-2005, 12:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by HoneyPot

So I haven't gotten laid in about a month. I would consider myself to be on a major dry spell, if you must call it. I feel like I'm cranky, my self esteem has plumated and I'm just overall feeling damn ugly. haha Could this symptoms of withdrawls from sexual pleasure? Help!!!

There have been studies shown that in some women, no longer being exposed to seminal fluid caused the symptoms you described. This was compared to women who only had sex with condoms. So yes it it quite possible provided your sex was 'unsafe'.

HoneyPot · 08-27-2005, 03:27 PM

Well since I usually am safe about sex, I don't really think that fact has nothing to do with my withdrawl symptoms. Maybe, but I'm careful about that whole subject.

justjt · 08-27-2005, 07:29 PM

Dr. justjt prescribes..

One large prescription of "INTENSE, GOOSE BUMP GIVING, SWEAT INDUCING, LEG WEAKENING, MAKE THE WALLS SWEAT.....SEX SESSION!"

Dosage: Overdosing on this prescribed treatment is recommended!
(note: If prescription runs out please feel free to call the doctor and I will gladly give you a re-fill...always happy to make a house call!)

Side-effects: Loud outbursts of sexual profanity due to pleasure and intense much needed orgasms!
Oh...and the sheets have been known to stick to you while taking this prescription.

Prior personal studies have shown this is a sure cure for what's gotta ya feeling bad...and guaranteed to put a shit eating grin on your face for the whole next day!

Hope you feel better soon...(and so does everyone around you currently)

"Dr. justjt".....The doctor who believes in hands on medicine!

Mr_Tickles · 08-28-2005, 05:41 PM

the girls in the office can definately tell when I'm in "season"... *sigh*

I think my basic senses become a lot more sensitive as well... For instance, when i'm getting it regular, i walk past people in the street not thinking anything... during a dry spell, I could be walking down the street, a girl walks past and about 2 steps later I catch a whiff of her perfum/spray, and my mind instantly thinks "HELLLOOO NURSE!"

Enough to make me turn around in some cases... (now THATS embarassing)

I gotta get out more...

*sigh*

this_is_vince · 08-28-2005, 09:39 PM

you know what you should do? masturbate... my girlfriend masturbates and she said that it helps her get throughout the day.

hobo · 08-28-2005, 10:20 PM

i definately feel a little down whenever i haven't fooled around with my girlfriend in a few days. i don't know if i would call it withdrawl, but its definately something.

texxasco · 08-28-2005, 11:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by HoneyPot

So I haven't gotten laid in about a month. I would consider myself to be on a major dry spell, if you must call it. I feel like I'm cranky, my self esteem has plumated and I'm just overall feeling damn ugly. haha Could this symptoms of withdrawls from sexual pleasure? Help!!!

Yes I think there is such a thing as withdrawal symptoms. A lot of it is mental, as another posted, but I also think it is partially physical as well. I also think it has more to do with the companionship and close interaction with the opposite sex, than it does with the actual act of sex itself. I find my self confidence drops, as well as my energy level as well during "dry spells".

I can completely understand where you are coming from because it has been a little while for me too, but not as long. I was divorced in the spring of '04 and believe me, returning to the dating scene, etc is a hard jolt to take. A bachelor's (or bachelorette's) life is pretty complicated these days. I've never paid for "it" in my life, but I find myself wishing I lived in The Netherlands, where prostitution is legal. It sure would make things simpler.... a nice thought, but definitely not realistic.

Ohh, and BTW.... I saw your profile picture, if that is indeed you. Too bad we don't live closer, or we could discuss a little mutual therapy. And, one more thing...from where I am standing, I can see that you are definitely NOT ugly....but quite the opposite. This is no pickup line, just an honest observation.

Good Luck!

bobillydylan · 09-07-2005, 04:48 AM

yes i do believe in sexual withdrawl symptoms, since festered finished with me i cant look at other women, i miss her and the only relief i get is from the knuckle shuffle my arms are getting quite big now, she thinks im doing pull ups! but the only thing im pulling is my john thursday. i miss the sex so much that it aches, i feel frustrated and tense all the time.

balinksi · 09-07-2005, 07:21 AM

I get headaches if I don't get sex on a regular basis, once I am relieved of my "build up" the headaches go away.

May I suggest masterbation to take care of your needs until a sutiable mate is found

HoneyPot · 09-11-2005, 08:54 PM

Okay its been 6 weeks and counting since I've gotten any... I'm defintely thinking about commiting myself to a nunery.... Hmmm yeah that sounds nice, right about now.... haha I defintely need to get 'tagged'.... Any other suggestions? Well besides self pleasure. Am I doing something wrong?

analog · 09-12-2005, 01:21 PM

I don't know if it's "symptoms" so much as a psychological chain reaction. You feel horny, you want sex > you can't get sex > you wonder why > you think maybe it's because you're ugly > you decide you must be ugly, it's the only valid explanation.

As for agression, the above will easily cause you to feel stressed, and anyone who is stressed can become agressive. I feel your pain. I haven't had any in almost a month myself, and it's starting to grate on me.

Go buy a toy, a good one. If you have one, maybe try a different kind of toy. Or masturbate more. Unless you're already doing it 2-3 times a day, there's room for more (for some people, it's even more than that).

calvin88 · 09-13-2005, 01:01 AM

Id have to agree and say there definitly are. My gf's been gone like a week and since school hasnt started back up, ive been doing nothing all day. Thank goodness there is basketball or else i think I would go nuts. The other day i had to drink with a friend to fall asleep..... (my comp died so no porn)...haha. But yea, definitly more stressed and feel like something is missing

Markboy · 09-14-2005, 04:37 AM

Well, so far my dry spell has been about 3 1/2 years... for a variety of reasons. I dont think my personality is majorly affected by it, apart from the occasional self-esteem issues, but I have definitely noticed an increased pre-occupation with sex...

HoneyPot · 09-14-2005, 02:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Markboy

Well, so far my dry spell has been about 3 1/2 years... for a variety of reasons. I dont think my personality is majorly affected by it, apart from the occasional self-esteem issues, but I have definitely noticed an increased pre-occupation with sex...

I'm at 52 days, I can't imagine 3 years to say the least! I think my self esteem has taken a tumble, no matter how pathetic that sounds...

doncalypso · 09-15-2005, 05:48 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by HoneyPot

So I haven't gotten laid in about a month. I would consider myself to be on a major dry spell, if you must call it. I feel like I'm cranky, my self esteem has plumated and I'm just overall feeling damn ugly. haha Could this symptoms of withdrawls from sexual pleasure? Help!!!

I've been celibate for over three months now and it's been about a month since I last masturbated. I know how you're feeling, but I can guarantee that if you keep your mind busy with other things (hobbies, work, school, ect.) and abstain from porn and erotica you'll be alright.

It's all a question of mind over matter.

08-24-2005, 11:35 PM	#1 (permalink)
HoneyPot Crazy Location: Nunya	Is there such thing as sexual withdrawl symptoms? So I haven't gotten laid in about a month. I would consider myself to be on a major dry spell, if you must call it. I feel like I'm cranky, my self esteem has plumated and I'm just overall feeling damn ugly. haha Could this symptoms of withdrawls from sexual pleasure? Help!!! __________________ Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder.

08-24-2005, 11:56 PM	#2 (permalink)
Suave Twitterpated Location: My own little world (also Canada)	Cranky: possibly. Feeling ugly: possibly. Self-esteem issues: possibly. I wouldn't attribute these to being "withdrawal symptoms" as such, since those are normally in the vein of direct physiological dependancies upon a substance or activity. However, your sense of self-worth, attractiveness, confidence, and happiness are very likely tied into how often you have sex. There are constant messages from different areas of society about how sex/romantic involvement is the main goal in life, how people who do not have it often are in their position because they're not as 'fit' (in Darwinian terms) as others. It creates quite a stigma around lack of sex, and these values are likely integrated within the vast majority of the population to some degree. In short: yeah, it's probably part of the reason, but not because you actually physically need sex in the same way you'd need cocaine were you an addict. And yes, I realise you didn't need this long or detailed or tangental an answer. :P __________________ "Few people are capable of expressing with equanimity opinions which differ from the prejudices of their social environment. Most people are even incapable of forming such opinions." - Albert Einstein "Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something." - Plato Last edited by Suave; 08-24-2005 at 11:59 PM..

08-25-2005, 01:25 AM	#3 (permalink)
Daniel_ Evil Priest: The Devil Made Me Do It! Location: Southern England	The only withdrawal problems I get relate to her dripping after a really long session. (Not totally true, but hey - you line 'em up, I'll knock 'em down). __________________ ╔═════════════════════════════════════════╗ Overhead, the Albatross hangs motionless upon the air, And deep beneath the rolling waves, In labyrinths of Coral Caves, The Echo of a distant time Comes willowing across the sand; And everthing is Green and Submarine ╚═════════════════════════════════════════╝

08-25-2005, 07:34 AM	#6 (permalink)
shesus Fancy Location: Chicago	I think that there are withdrawal symptoms and you mentioned them. I also get very, very agressive. I would shove a little girl in a pink dress in front of the El Train, if I could get away with it. Extreme horniness is also an effect. Hope it rains soon for you! __________________ Whatever did happen to your soul? I heard you sold it Choose Heaven for the weather and Hell for the company

08-25-2005, 09:56 AM	#8 (permalink)
hambone Zeroed In Location: CA	Its all mental. You can get over it by just focusing on other things. Having a lot of free time to reflect on it is what gets me trying to convince myself that I 'need' it. __________________ "Like liquid white from fallen glass, Nothing to cry over"

08-25-2005, 01:33 AM	#4 (permalink)
visotech Insane Location: San Diego, CA	I think I get really cranky when I don't get sex lately. Its been 7 days now since I had sex, even though I only live a mile from my gf - she never seems to be in the mood. I've been really cranky the last 5 days...meh

08-25-2005, 03:44 AM	#5 (permalink)
mandy Addict Location: Port Elizabeth, South Africa	i dont get cranky as much as i get really really horny and so does my bf.but i think there are withdrawls associated with lack of sex... lucky me i have yet to experience them. maybe you could try a search on the net and try to get soem insight there

08-25-2005, 09:32 AM	#7 (permalink)
StuckinRow Upright	There is definately something that changes when one hasnt gotten any in a while. For about 5 months me and a group of about 150 were sent several states away from home, without our S/Os. After a few weeks you could just tell that peoples' moods were changing. Fights started breaking out and petty arguements flourished. We all got to go home for a little over a week but had to leave again. We have now been gone for another 5 months and it seems that the anger is starting to dwindle... Lets just say everyone was cranky for quite a while. Sure we still havent been able to have sex in quite a while... but we are getting used to it, unfortunately. I can't wait to come home...

08-25-2005, 10:16 AM	#9 (permalink)
World's King Here Location: Denver City Denver	The only symptom I can think of is masturbation. __________________ heavy is the head that wears the crown

08-25-2005, 12:00 PM	#10 (permalink)
HoneyPot Crazy Location: Nunya	I'm finding myself to be in complete beeyotch mood. Like with my boss at work, my friends, just everyone.... __________________ Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder.

08-25-2005, 06:26 PM	#12 (permalink)
Sugarmouse Insane Location: Preston lancs(i know i know)	[yeh i think there is..especually if your sex drive is high.ifeeling unnatractive and undesired conjures up all sorts of emotional problems and getting no sexhas other symptoms..such as built up tension and aggression..and/or a very sore wrist... __________________ Sugarmouse=Festered

08-26-2005, 08:06 AM	#14 (permalink)
Martel Insane Location: Sage's bed	Sage and I definitely get a bit weird when we go for too long (4-5 days) without sex. It can be tough getting over the hump of actually getting into it when we're both feeling aggravated at each other, but as soon as we let go and let ourselves enjoy each other everything is just sooooooooo good and we say "damn, why do we ever go this long without sex?" __________________ Anamnesis

08-27-2005, 12:15 PM	#15 (permalink)
legolas shit faced cockmaster Location: CT	no i think it definetly affects people. one time i did a seinfeld contest with a group of friends and lasted over two months... i was not the same person at all. __________________ "To alcohol! The cause of, and solution to, all of life's problems."

08-27-2005, 03:27 PM	#17 (permalink)
HoneyPot Crazy Location: Nunya	Well since I usually am safe about sex, I don't really think that fact has nothing to do with my withdrawl symptoms. Maybe, but I'm careful about that whole subject. __________________ Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder.

08-27-2005, 07:29 PM	#18 (permalink)
justjt Tilted Location: O.C. California	"The doctor is in!" Dr. justjt prescribes.. One large prescription of "INTENSE, GOOSE BUMP GIVING, SWEAT INDUCING, LEG WEAKENING, MAKE THE WALLS SWEAT.....SEX SESSION!" Dosage: Overdosing on this prescribed treatment is recommended! (note: If prescription runs out please feel free to call the doctor and I will gladly give you a re-fill...always happy to make a house call!) Side-effects: Loud outbursts of sexual profanity due to pleasure and intense much needed orgasms! Oh...and the sheets have been known to stick to you while taking this prescription. Prior personal studies have shown this is a sure cure for what's gotta ya feeling bad...and guaranteed to put a shit eating grin on your face for the whole next day! Hope you feel better soon...(and so does everyone around you currently) "Dr. justjt".....The doctor who believes in hands on medicine! Last edited by justjt; 08-27-2005 at 11:08 PM..

08-28-2005, 05:41 PM	#19 (permalink)
Mr_Tickles Upright	the girls in the office can definately tell when I'm in "season"... sigh I think my basic senses become a lot more sensitive as well... For instance, when i'm getting it regular, i walk past people in the street not thinking anything... during a dry spell, I could be walking down the street, a girl walks past and about 2 steps later I catch a whiff of her perfum/spray, and my mind instantly thinks "HELLLOOO NURSE!" Enough to make me turn around in some cases... (now THATS embarassing) I gotta get out more... sigh

08-28-2005, 09:39 PM	#20 (permalink)
this_is_vince Upright	you know what you should do? masturbate... my girlfriend masturbates and she said that it helps her get throughout the day.

08-28-2005, 10:20 PM	#21 (permalink)
hobo Archangel of Change	i definately feel a little down whenever i haven't fooled around with my girlfriend in a few days. i don't know if i would call it withdrawl, but its definately something.

09-07-2005, 04:48 AM	#23 (permalink)
bobillydylan Tilted Location: uk	yes i do believe in sexual withdrawl symptoms, since festered finished with me i cant look at other women, i miss her and the only relief i get is from the knuckle shuffle my arms are getting quite big now, she thinks im doing pull ups! but the only thing im pulling is my john thursday. i miss the sex so much that it aches, i feel frustrated and tense all the time. __________________ Yes and only if my own true love was waiting, And i could hear her heart a softly pounding, Yes and only if she was lying by me! Then i would lie in my bed once again.

09-07-2005, 07:21 AM	#24 (permalink)
balinksi Upright	I get headaches if I don't get sex on a regular basis, once I am relieved of my "build up" the headaches go away. May I suggest masterbation to take care of your needs until a sutiable mate is found

09-11-2005, 08:54 PM	#25 (permalink)
HoneyPot Crazy Location: Nunya	I'm flipping out! Okay its been 6 weeks and counting since I've gotten any... I'm defintely thinking about commiting myself to a nunery.... Hmmm yeah that sounds nice, right about now.... haha I defintely need to get 'tagged'.... Any other suggestions? Well besides self pleasure. Am I doing something wrong? __________________ Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder.

09-12-2005, 01:21 PM	#26 (permalink)
analog Banned	I don't know if it's "symptoms" so much as a psychological chain reaction. You feel horny, you want sex > you can't get sex > you wonder why > you think maybe it's because you're ugly > you decide you must be ugly, it's the only valid explanation. As for agression, the above will easily cause you to feel stressed, and anyone who is stressed can become agressive. I feel your pain. I haven't had any in almost a month myself, and it's starting to grate on me. Go buy a toy, a good one. If you have one, maybe try a different kind of toy. Or masturbate more. Unless you're already doing it 2-3 times a day, there's room for more (for some people, it's even more than that). Last edited by analog; 09-12-2005 at 01:23 PM..

09-13-2005, 01:01 AM	#27 (permalink)
calvin88 Tilted Location: socal	Id have to agree and say there definitly are. My gf's been gone like a week and since school hasnt started back up, ive been doing nothing all day. Thank goodness there is basketball or else i think I would go nuts. The other day i had to drink with a friend to fall asleep..... (my comp died so no porn)...haha. But yea, definitly more stressed and feel like something is missing

09-14-2005, 04:37 AM	#28 (permalink)
Markboy Upright Location: Auckland, NZ	Well, so far my dry spell has been about 3 1/2 years... for a variety of reasons. I dont think my personality is majorly affected by it, apart from the occasional self-esteem issues, but I have definitely noticed an increased pre-occupation with sex...