woody18228

Met a girl about 2 weeks ago, we talk every day. We kissed the first night, only have seen her once since, but we've been talking/texting a ton lately.
Well the other day she was saying how she was out w/ her friend and they got hit on by some 17 year olds (she's 24, I'm 23) and was laughing and joking about how she never gets hit on by people around her age, always kids, never gets hit on by "normal people", etc..

My question is this, any advice on her motives regarding why she'd say this? It's evident we're into each other, we're both making an effort to get to know each other, but what is she looking for when she tosses something like that out there?

Thanks in advance, Loyal TFP'ers

TM875

She might just be plainly making a joke. It's possible that she sees being "hit on" as a blatent, if pathetic, attempt to just get her to want to hook up / go home / sleep with the guy.

In your case, she sees what you two have as more relationship-based, and less of an attempt in you just trying to get her in bed.

Unless you see anything else, I'd just as soon let this go as just an offhand comment, and not worry about it too much.

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Sugar&Spice

I think she probably didn't have any motive. She just found the situation humerous and decided to share it with you. Whenever I go out its a guarantee that I will get hit on by a man in his 50's and up. Very rarely does anyone my age hit on me. I laugh and joke about it with my friends. Just something to talk about.

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Ishmal

can i just ask if your my alternate personality???

because up until you stated the ages i felt like i was reading a post about myself...

sorry no advice, but i'll be reading this thread for help with the same situation though!

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MSD

She's probably like the guys who complain because they don't notice any flirting other than the blatant stuff. When people are older and a bit more mature, they go about things somewhat differently.

Val_1

I agree with S&S. It doen't really sound like she's got any motive and was just sharing the humorous experience. I think most girls are use to getting hit on and just take it all with a grain of salt. Don't read too much into it.

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Martel

Maybe she's saying she would think it was enjoyable for you to "hit on her"... It sounds to me kinda like she's saying nobody her age ever notices her and that she would like it if they did.

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Suave

Why does she have to be looking for anything? I'd probably make the same comment in her position. Take what people say at face value, and if they're trying to hint at something or they expect a certain tacit reaction, then they can go fuck themselves for not being forthright.

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woody18228

Sounds good, it's Friday, she's off to a baseball game w/ girlfriends, says she wouldve taken me had she not been around the girls all day (tickets were a surprise extra from fam) and I'll talk to her tonight/tomorrow.
Maybe it was nothign, just haven't had a girl say something like that...thought id ask.
Thanks though, shall keep ya posted

analog

Honestly, I don't think it means dick. I think she was just making conversation, relating a story of adolescent lusting directed at her.

If she said, "i never get that kind of attention from YOU" or something similar, that'd be a different story... but it sounds like she was just talking to talk, not to really say anything.

There's a huge difference between talking and saying something.

justjt

Yeah no biggie bro.
It's a stretch but she may be hinting she would like to be hit on more or maybe she is making it known to you that she gets hit on often.

But more than likely she is is just sharing with you what happened.

zen_tom

It's called conversation, you tell people what you think, and then sometimes you get a response. You are over thinking this, she meant nothing, except to fill a couple of moments with a story about herself. Relax, and just talk to her naturally, or you will start coming across wierd. I have a friend who constantly thinks there are 'things' behind what I'm saying, and it's starting to get annoying, I shouldn't have to censor myself before I speak because someone else is reading things into what I say.

woody18228

true analog, zentom, i understand what youre saying. I never mentioned it again or anything just sorta curious what others thought...hence the reason im here.

Things are decent b/t us, she's weening off an old relationship so im being careful to not fall into that friend role too much, but we've been getting a long great.

5757

I disagree with just about every person that has commented on your sitation. I absolutely would be willing to bet that she had ulterior motives. Obviously it's a little to soon for you to be upset or jealous over a little bragging. But, if she ((continues)) pointing out that 17 year olds are hitting on her, or anyone of any age for that matter.. then I think it would be safe to assume that she wants you to know that shes getting plenty of attention from other people. The reason: She has got to make sure that you know that she's basically like a raw piece of meat in a pit of hungary wolves. Shes wanted. So, maybe she is telling you to step it up. Make her really feel wanted. Pursue her more. The reason I think this is because I've done it myself, for those of you who will disagree with me. Then again, she may have just been making conversation.



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Jinn

I agree with 5757 as well.. I'd say a comment like this probably goes 50/50 on its intended audience. The first (and benign) is that of simply telling a funny story in the middle of the conversation. The second (and arguably still benign) is an effort to elicit jealousy and action. I must admit that when I was single, saying something like that would've meant I was trying to say "see -- look -- other girls think I'm pretty so you better get this while you can."

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surfi3

Have to agree with Jinn.. I think she's mentioned it to get you a bit on the jealous side so that you will hopefully make more of a move with her. I know I've done it before

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wdevauld

Maybe she's ugly.....

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Lead543

I think you're reading into this... a lot. Not everything she says will have some deep, mysterious meaning.

legolas

um... you could always just ask her. honesty is so important in all relationships, especially if you are looking to go that little bit extra with her.

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