anleja

Maybe an odd question, but a friend and I were at a bar a couple nights ago, shooting pool. The dance floor was full of women, to which my friend said to me "why don't you go out there and dance?"

I said "hell no, I dance like a retard."

He said that no guy actually ENJOYS dancing, they just put up with it to get close to the women.

Is this true? Now that I think about it, I've heard many women say they "just wanna dance," while I've never heard one guy say it.

onodrim

Well, I know my brother and some of his male friends like to go dancing, and not *just* for the girls. *shrug*

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anleja

The concept of guys not liking to dance is a new one to me... but when I was at the bar, I saw only girls on the dancefloor, except for one guy who was dragged out by his girlfriend. The guy was just dancing like a dork, dancing like the Jackrabbit Slim's dance in Pulp Fiction.

euphoricdork

dancing on ecstacy is fantastic. i love dancing.

ledsam

I admit the main reason I dance is for the girls but I enjoy it at the same time. I can generally only get going when I have a few drinks though ...

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Suave

I love dancing, but I am the first to admit that I am absolutely horrible at it. Luckily, 85% of the male population dances nearly as badly as I do (or worse) so if I decide I have some nuts that night I'll dance it up in public too (although for me to dance in public, the majority of the time I need an incentive such as a lady).

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Willravel

If I was a good dancer, I would dance all the time. But I look like a dog jumping for a snosage. I always end up watching a guy who looks like he knows what he is doin g, and I simply copy him. I realize how sad that is, but I don't currently have time for lessons (which is my only hope).
Maybe it'll be like "Shall We Dance" (the Japanese one, not the crappy American copy)!

noodles

i think i had a traumatic dance experience when i was younger that i must've repressed
because i know that i was a dance fiend when very young
but i avoid it like the plague now, no matter who asks me or how much money they offer
(yes, i've been offered large sums of money to dance with girls)

Dizzet

Well dancing is not my thing but i do it if someone asks me... But well as former breakdancer i think its more fun to battle people on the dance floor...

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Stiltzkin

In the town that I live in, if you're male and you enjoy dancing for dancing, there is a high chance that you're gay... or at least that you'll be called gay.

I actually used to like dancing when I was around five years old. This has since been drilled out of me over the years.

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arch13

I enjoy dancing. Growing up in Miami where not knowing how to dance amongst a population of males who where taught to dance from birth may have something to do with it. You simply cannot be of any gender in Miami and not dance. Every family get together is one large excuse to put on salsa and dance with every aunt and uncle you never knew.

That being said, I once was of the opinion I could not dance. My Fiance fixed that quick.
I believe I said "I'm a white guy, I can't dance."
To which she replied "And I'm Honduran and you'll learn to dance if where going to keep dating."
That was 4 years ago. Now I dance at every bar and club I encounter. I grew up with mostly latin freinds, and all my guy freinds go dancing every friday and Sat on South Beach. Drink a little, dance with a nice young lady or 10, laugh, be merry.
If I wanted to get drunk, I'd do it at home for a lot cheaper.

I lived in the Yankee bastation of Providence for a while, and went dancing with a young cuban guy from my school. In a place where the guys line up at the bar while their girlfreinds dance, I got a good laugh at how girls would dance close to me, get frustrated at me, then just turn around and dance with me. Sometimes girls would walk up to me, pull up my sleeve to see if I was 21, then dance with me. That was just hilarious in my mind.
I remember one young woman who though I should go home with her because "Thank god, a guy who's confident enough to dance." She wasn't happy to find out I was taken. For some reason she thought I was a tease for being straight and dancing while taken.

I somehow suspect I've typed this for the sexuality forum before, but maybe that was V3.

Anyway, learn how to dance if your male, and remember that it's actually okay to just go up and start dancing with a young woman dancing. Don't cut her freinds off, just dance next to her and see if she's interested. that means actually making and maintaing eye contact with her, not the ground. Most young woman are happy to encounter a guy who enjoys dancing.
And for the love of god, don't just try and rub your crotch on them. Unless you like being kicked in the nuts of course. Becuase your just saying "Please assault me for being a perv towards you."

Booty dancing is great, but learn how to control and move your hips without moving your upper body before you try. Same for any latin dancing.
Not possible you say? Bullshit, I do it every weekend, as does every latin male in the world.

Now stop wondering why latin guys have the reputation they do and read between my lines already.

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Suave

*starts whistling and trying to look innocent*

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Stick

I've never liked dancing. Even before puberty came along and turned every innocent action into a supremely embarrassing one.

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stickyrice

stick a couple of drinks in me and I'll dance

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K-Wise

I like dancing. It's fun. Most guys don't do it because they think they can't dance good but if they'd look around the dance floor they'd notice none of the guys really dance good. For the most part girls don't care...they just want to dance thats why they just say fuck it and dance with each other. Because no one desirable has asked them to dance...that or they have a SO and don't wanna dance with another male. But I have noticed girls don't care if you're not the greatest dancer in the world as long as you'll dance with them. They just wanna have fun and a good time...you show her yer cool with doing that she'll love you for it. Last time I checked they didn't want the guy stealing the show away from them either it's more like "Look at me I can dance! I'm sexy!" If ya can dance though it's even better...cause when ya have both a guy and a girl who can actually dance all eyes are on them..ladies love that too and every girl will wanna dance with you if you can dance haha. Just say fuck it and go out there I mean any jackass can at least do the rock away haha.

Asta!!

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d*d

with a cigarette in one hand and a bootle of beer (or whatever alcopop is fashionable at the time) in the other, find your ideal woman and go up behind her (do not ASK to do this invariavbly you will get a no answer, this should not put you off) now grind away in the closest semblence to the beat of the song as you can manage. If this classic show of male dominance and confidence does not impress your chosen prey just move swiftly onto your second choice. Repeat this until you are successful (or you run out of potential victims, a fight is a good way to relieve any tension you may have built up if this happens).

macmanmike6100

I didn't select an answer because my option wasn't up there. No, I'm not a hermaphrodite, I'm a guy who doesn't consider himself a "dancing machine" but also likes dancing. The music has to be right but, of course, if there are women involved I'll compromise.

On a side note, I won't dance to pick up random women, I would do it on request for a women I was talking with already or if the music were good enough.

-Aaron-

Yeah, I am with the, "I'm a guy, I like to dance, but suck at it group." Yes, ladies make it more fun.

high_way

yeah i like dancing. i go out with my female friends and we usually start dancing around in some weird way... we will hold each other like we are going to dance a waltz (you know, the close factor) then go nuts... but i dont dance much if im not drunk


i think you should have put a "i like dancing when im drunk" one in there...

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Haha, fuck dancing....my sentiments. I don't know any guys who dance for the sake of dancing. I will personally put forth the bare minimum required dancing effort in order to get a phone number, after which time I will sit my ass back down and talk about how much I hate dancing.

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ratbastid

I don't know what you guys are whinging about. Dancing is fun! I don't care how I look when I'm dancing. It's not about how you look. I'm not performing for anyone. I'm letting myself go and DANCING.

We should clarify what we're talking about. I like club dancing, though I don't do it much. I like swing dancing, and I do that at least a couple-three times a month. Many of my friends I met swing dancing.

And look, if you're only interested in the ladies... Well, it says a lot more about you that you're out there boogying. All this self-consciousness that gets in the way of you dancing is NOT a turn-on for the girls.

high_way

^^^^

i agree ratbastid. although i go out clubbing with my female friends a lot (im the only single male guy in my group of friends) and im in it for the fun, not to pick up. there has been many-a-night when myself and my lady friends have been the only ones on the dance floor dancing... ahh many a great night had..

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Charlatan

I love dancing and don't do it nearly enough...

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anleja

After reading these responses I've decided to go out on a limb and actually consider dancing next time. My main concern is that, yes, I do dance like a retard (for lack of better comparison), but it seems the opinion of many people here is that dancing is just dancing... not a skill contest, right?

Fuck it, next time I'm at a bar, and I feel the music, perhaps I'll shake it for a song or two.

What are some more dos and don'ts of dancing? I got don't rub your crotch on them, and don't just cut in. Ah, am I making too big a deal out of this? Last time I danced was about a half year ago, but that was with only 5 others in someone's living room, with people I know. Maybe I should drink more when I go out.

lurkette

I love dancing, and I'm so glad ratbastid has finally come around Used to be I'd hear some music come on - at home, at a friend's house, in the mall - and say "oooh, oooh, dance with me!" and he'd mumble and grumble and maybe do a couple of half-hearted steps. I'd say "fuck 'im" and just dance by myself It's so much more fun now to dance with my honey. Although I still dance by myself all the time. Belly dancing, swing dancing, just boogeying down when I'm cleaning the house.

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Redlemon

I hate dance music. I don't mind dancing, if it is music that I can actually listen to as well.

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pinkie

I love dancing, and usually dance alone unless it's slow dancing with my husband.

kurty[B]

I chose the middle one, even though I like certain types of dancing. The whole hip-hop let's go to a sweaty club where you can barely move and end up just rubbing your crotch against any girls ass I don't enjoy (the rubbing up on girls isn't a problem, just the guys out looking for fights to start).

I'd much rather do some swing dancing, or some nice slow dancing holding my girl comfortably and moving together with the music.

radioguy

i'm not a big fan of dancing, but will do it if needed. i'm 6'6" and stick out on the dancefloor. i have no moves and everyone would see that.

anleja

Yeah, I'm 6' 3", so not quite as tall as you, but tall enough to be noticed if I dance badly.

StanT

I'd rather have a root canal.

I have the grace of a ox. I really don't have any desire to demonstrate it in public.

Homey_V

My level of intoxication is directly proportionate to the amount of dancing I do

That doesnt mean that I like it however, that just means that Im willing to do it when Im less sober. I cant stand dancing.

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Untitled

And this pains me to no end. Though I've managed to get some slow dances out of him, I think that's all I'll ever get...

inharmony

I enjoy dancing. Have to say though, don't see many guys doing it...dunno

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Schwan

As a guy, I don't llike to dance. I also think that dancing men look... well, bad in some unidentifiable way. Most of the time I think guys go for dancing to get close to girls, but some of them do enjoy it. Also, I think there's nothing sexier than a dancing girl.

herostar

Did someone say dancing!

I love dancing. All kindsd. Swing, ballroom, line, club... everything. My friends always make fun of me b/c I'm prone to bust a move just about anywhere, even if it doesn't look good...

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skier

I like to dance at clubs. I used to suck at it and so I hated looking like a fool. But I kept going out onto the floor and now i'm alright at it and it's fun.

A fun way to learn to dance though is to meet a girl in the club and then get her to teach you how to dance a bit. Often it descends into grinding but not before you pick up a few things.

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st33lr4t

really i only like to dance when my woman is there...cause its damn sexy. other then that it would never pop in my mind to go dancing....come on im a guy

yatzr

i said dancing machine, cause I like dancing....but i don't really do it alot. I took ballroom dancing lessons in high school (mostly swing) and that was pretty awesome. I think that dancing that takes skill is cool, but a lot of the dancing that takes place in clubs is kind of dumb (if you've seen what I've seen you'd agree), and since I have no dancing skills other than swing dance, I don't do it a lot. I wouldn't mind taking more lessons in real dances though.

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Cimarron29414

Me too! My wife and I have been swing dancing (Lindy Hop, East Coast, West Coast, Balboa) for about 2 years. I suspect that most people are thinking of dancing as grinding in rhythm to a beat.

For those of you that don't know - you should take some Swing lessons from a local club - you don't have to go to Arthur Murray or Fred Astaire. In fact, that is a really bad idea if you want to swing dance.

Most importantly, the ladies love it.