back in highschool 1982-1986, back when I was actually cute, the only guys I hung out with were the "nerds" other wise known as the gifted students..the ones in the latin club, and the chess club etc. I've ALWAYS loved guys like that

so...intelligence, passion, and the ability to be oneself?

You've got it :)

So some girls like geek( for real??? )

My pick up lines from now on:

You are just as awesome as the half life 2 source engine...

Hey girl you want to be my linux server tonight..

Hey girl are you open source or do i have to buy the rights for you...

Hey there what p2p program do you use...

Hey want to team up and capture the flag at my place...

I just think i diddent make a sucess save on youer charm level 19 spell

sure im gonna pick up girls tomorrow night :hmm:

LOL those are awesome :D

I dunno, I've never been attracted to geeky girls. I prefer people who are more active. I go to a technical college and all of the women here are geeky, just too different than me.

Excellent. Nancy did say she wanted an FFM this year. Go out there and find a 3rd! WIth these lines you cannot fail. :thumbsup:

It drives me nuts that being a geek is cool and trendy now. People want be geek now, and make that their way of being "cool", but don't want to go through the pain of getting beat up and picked on in school all the time, or being truly socially awkward. I am probably just jealous, because I totally missed the boat.

That being said, my current girlfriend, while not necessarily being a geek, definately has her geeky qualities, and is very much an individual, which is a huge turn on.

Everyone has geeky qualities. When you get so passionate about something that all else falls away, you are 'geeking' out. :)
Being a geek has always been cool or trendy. It just doesn't hit until people are in their 20s or 30s. High school is socially awkward for everyone. High school is 300 people shoved together for four years all trying to figure out who they are. Tough stuff there for sure.

Stunning cunts!!

Asta!!

Indeed..


What the hell does that mean? :confused:

i just skimmed this thread but for me smart is BEYOND sexyness. :crazy: :crazy: :crazy: my first three g/f's were beyond smart. I LOVED THAT!

What should i go out and score a girl that nancy and her BF could use sexsualy hell no!!!

I call 'BS' on this theory
 

Somehow everyone professes to love the geek, yet they don't live up to it. Most of this is mere talk and theory.

True story:
I once knew a guy who might have been described as a geek (and no, I'm not talking about myself). He was quite smart and a political science major, as well. A very sharp, very opinionated guy. Not only that, he was also quite handsome (at least as far as I can judge, looking at another guy). He wasn't overly shy or socially inept; he had a great sense of humor. And no, he wasn't a homosexual. Yet somehow, he couldn't get a girlfriend to save his life. Why is that? Why did someone who was in every way a perfect 'candidate' for a relationship always end up alone?

If you ask me, a significant part of 'finding someone' is pure luck and some people just don't have it.

yeah, i've never heard anyone say "i'm attracted to geeks" or anything like that.

I'm pretty sure it has to do with the fact that a lot of women are geeks themselves and people are attracted to like minds. I'm a self proclaimed geek dating an "in the closet" geek.

She will deny that she's a geek and in the same breath go on about her love of fantasy novels, astronamy, and DUNGEONS and DRAGONS.

hmmm, i've never played D and D before. i hear a lot about it though.

Dude you just described me. Cept for that political science shit.

Asta!!

Well actually one time at a party there was this girl i had met once before and well i were sitting there talking to hear... well all of a suddon one of man buddys comes over and says hey we are playing DnD at my palce tomorrow night and then this girl says.. You play roleplay... Well im not afraid to admit it so i says yeah I do... And she says dont you feel a littel like a geek... so i say if doing the things i like make me a geek so be it... Well at this point it thought okay well she may not be that nice person i thought she was... But the funny was that she got more interested in me and we are very close freinds now...

Observation: Women who spend time posting messages on an internet message board are, by definition, going to be geeks.

Of course they're going to be attracted to geeks. Bird of a feather and all that jazz.

Find me a stripper who's attracted to geeks and we'll talk.

:lol:

there is a limit to which u can 'look' at a person and it pretty much sucks if the sum of what they can say is 'gigglegiggle' or 'duh'...i would rahter have an average looking partner with whom i can talk for hours on end

That's deffinately true for the most part

Ok, while I am all for geeks (I myself desperately seek that title), I have to say that geeks are being slightly misrepresented here. I think that the geeks we've been talking about are merely a SUBSET of the true range of geeks out in this world. We've been talking about the Social Geeks, those who aren't necessarily gregarious but are competent in casual conversation, day-to-day life, etc.

From my experience, there are many other geeks out there that are not nearly as well-developed socially. They have huge problems talking with other people, or if they do talk with others, they drive them away with their personalities. I can think of two specific examples of people very close to me, off the top of my head.

The first guy is "David". He is either first or second in my high school class, scored somewhere above 1500 on the SAT, takes all AP classes, yadda yadda yadda. He's a geek. Yet he doesn't have tons of girls flocking to him for his intelligence. Why is this? Well, he's extraordinarily arrogant and self-centered. I LITERALLY, LITERALLY have NEVER heard him talk of ANYONE or ANYTHING not directly related to him. It's horrible.

This proves that native intelligence doesn't necessarily attract girls. There are other factors. Now for the second point, that there are other types of geek other than the social geeks (Alex is a semi-social geek...my next example is the antithesis of the social geek).

I have another friend, "Thomas," who's definitely a big time geek. He's obsessed with Star Wars, computers, math, etc. etc. He's quite bright, and he's literally the most creative person I know. Thomas has a problem, though...he just can't relate to people. His quirkiness and creativity are so potent that they somehow override that part of the brain (frontal lobe?) that stops him from saying socially unacceptable things...he has such a PASSION for his convictions that he'll forget that he lives in a society. For example, I once went to an IMAX movie with him, and he complained loudly and persistently because he couldn't see what was probably the bottom 2% of the screen because of our angle. He doesn't understand social coventions.

I know that I might be pandering to the slightly stereotypical version of the socially inept geek, but they DO exist, and the girls are definitely not flocking to them.

Nothing wrong with liking geeks *cough* :)

For me, it's all about the common interests. I just can't effectively communicate with a guy who doesn't get why I have a wifi detector on my keychain or why I want to use the computer to turn on the lights. Doesn't mean that a guy has to share every geeky interest, but when you're a serious nerd, it's like having a strong political affiliation, or parenting style. It's very difficult to reconcile those opposites in a relationship. A brain makes a guy attractive to me. It's how I fell in love with my SO before I'd even met him in person. Not to say that I've ONLY ever been attracted to geeks, but there's certainly a bias in that direction. It's a very fundamental personality type.

OK, I can be considered geeky not by the things I do, but the way I look, ie specs, average sized body, straight cut hairstyle etc. I was also pretty good in school and can be considered with the decent crowd. Things weren't so good when in HS and got a lot better as I grew up. The cool guys who used to skip classes and got all the chicks are now bums with little future. In turn, we come across as more cultured, educated and matured. Attracting women are much easier now than it has ever been.

Historically, I had always gone for nice decent (but still good looking) girls, but sometimes I wish I had some relationships with slutty chicks for a bit. :P

wtf does a persons body type have to do with their personality?

I just prefer someone who is smart, am influenced by my past experience.

Stupid people are seemingly shallow to me, because they are unable to bring themselves to a higher level of thinking to improve themselves in terms of knowledge, thus being shallow in thought :)

Plus, mommy asked me to find a smart girl :)

and yeah, what Halx said, entertain my brains. :) normal is boring =D

i'm a shy, quiet, geeky type. i've only dated women who are at least reasonably assertive, loud, or whatnot. i would be hard for me to start a relationship with any other type, since i'm going to need some prodding to make a move.

then again, i'm not a stereotypical geek. i'm tall with a reasonably athletic build, been doing sports most of my life sans lifting. i can trick some people into thinking i'm not a geek.

i'm attracted to geeks for the same reason as everyone else. brains are hot. they're not the only thing, but they're a major factor, for sure.

took the words right out of my mouth

What does working out have to do with anything? I work out all the time, and I'm sort of a geek. I had someone recently call me a "geekie hottie" because I were argyle and plaid all the time... :p

Hey, so it I guess this should all turn out well for me now that I've passed the 21 mark. Some advice for all you other nerdy/geeky guys, build confidence. It sounds scary, but it's worth it. Just talk to people; don't be so introspective. The first few times it was awkward for me too, but I'm getting the hang of it and starting to see some real progress. So just go for it. I know you've heard that thousands of times from far cooler people than yourself, but take it from a fellow nerd. It works.

Was he actually looking? Kind of hard to have a girlfriend if you aren't interested in the first place.

Conversations are a great thing to be able to have, intellegence is beautiful, and passion (what many nerds have... for something) is a great thing to see in people.

and more driven people i know are nerdy. go them.

okay, many people have stated intelligence has a lot to to with those you find attractive, do you feel at all arrogant thinking "hmm, he's/she's too dumb for me"?

several times i've had the chance to be with someone only to decide against it because we did not have similar levels of intelligence. i had a hard time letting myself consider that an acceptable reason to not pursue relationships.

No. I can be staring at the most gorgeous girl in the world, but if she opens her mouth and blabbering comes out, I'm turning the other way.

Well what is an acceptable reason then? If you don't like someone, you don't like them. You don't have to deliberate over the reasons and try to justify it. A relationship is a mutual condition, and there is no reason that is unacceptable for breaking it off; standards differ between people (someone might think you're shallow if you break it off because of looks, or whatever) but it's a personal choice and the opinions of other people, aside from that of the other person in the relationship mean jack shit.

so, are turning someone away because they aren't physically attractive and turning someone away because they are not intellectually stimulating the same thing?

does "shallow" even exist?

what about the people above who are like "brains have a beauty/sexiness all their own, Id rather have a geek than a "hot model" type anyday" or "Beauty fades, but stupid is forever"?

It's only different preferences. Shallow simply refers to the fact that they base it on superficial aka surface traits, rather than those found "within" or "deeper". It's only been given a negative connotation because society has decided to do it. The vast majority of people will pretend that looks don't matter, and go on in denial about their attraction to the way someone looks. There may be some people who honestly don't care about looks at all, but on the whole of it, I'd say they make a difference more often than not, even if there are other traits that may override them.

I agree. I met (who I thought was) the woman of my dreams, Aria Giovanni. When she opened her mouth I knew that there was no god. Sigh.

I always have been, and always will be more attracted to women that are "geeky" or "nerdy". Women with brains and the ability to hold a conversation are far more interesting than any other woman I've met.

Not to mention my husband is such a hot geek, and I'm so attracted to him it should be illegal! :D