attracted to geeks
 

okay, after reading another thread and thinking about my past experiences, i had to start this thread.

why are people attracted to geeks? several people mentioned stereotypically nerdy guys are attractive, and i have a gay friend who is also attracted to geeky guys. what's the deal?

if you are attracted to geeky members of either sex, let us know why. thx

They're smart. Beauty fades, but stupid is forever.

Given a basic level of hygiene and attractiveness, I'd take a geek over somebody who works out any day.

Lurkette, you just summed up my first wife as succinctly as anything I've ever heard.

brains have a beauty/sexiness all their own, Id rather have a geek than a "hot model" type anyday

I've always concidered words like "geek" and "nerd" to mean socially inept as opposed to smart.

mmm i love geeks, its just so fun to be challenged mentally.

Word meanings have certainly changed and are changing faster than ever now. At one time the word "geek" was synonymous with "Circus Freak." Then like you said it changed to mean socially inept.

"Nerd" at least to my mind, has always meant the same thing; it's the antithesis of "Jock." That is to say, someone more insterested in acadamia than athletics.

But I digress, both "geek" and "nerd" seem to mean the same thing now.... and I am proud to be one (and engaged to one :)).

Yeah, this whole fascination with geeks really torques me off now.

20 years ago, I was a geek in HS. People found my fascination with computers and techy stuff to be a real turn off. If I mentioned video games, techy toys (watches and calculators were about it at the time), modems, BBS's, and later the Internet, to any member of the opposite sex and, man, watch her run for the hills.

If I were in HS now, I'd be the f*cking king of the hill and I haven't changed since HS.

:confused:

Actually, I think my smarts intimidated them more than anything (I had an older girlfriend of an older friend tell me that once).

I guess I was just ahead of my time.

I nominate this quote for hall of fame.:lol:

I laughed my ass off at that!

Geek does mean socially inept, and it also means smart because generally (and unfortunatly) the smarter someone is the less adjusted socially they are.

Im at my job right now (tech support for a college) and we all are glad not to ever have to talk to people.... fuckin people...

Usually smart people overthink the actions of other people (who are mostly dumb and whose actions actually require no analysis). Also, smart people are more contemptuous of the daily stupidity from living in a society run by monkeys (yes its more than just the main monkey). And that doesn't always make for someone fun to talk to...

My ex girlfreind likes geeky guys. I finnaly thought I was cool when I got a girlfriend (especially since shes a 10), but then I started to noticing who else caught her eye... god dammit.

I'd say that normally I'm not attracted to the geeky type. But my boyfriend is that type. And I hate to even say that he is a type. Classifications are annoying.

Anyway, I love my geek :) He's smart, he's into different things than I am, he makes me laugh, he's really driven with his job. I admire those things about him.

I think we all have a bit of geek in us. We just geek out over different things.

I dont really know about that, i hate to sound like i'm sucking my own dick, but I can sit down with someone and hold my own in a discussion about metaphysics but at the same time, i can sit down and watch a football game, and i know/spend a lot of time with plenty of people who live in fraternities.

My hunny is a geek. I tell him that all the time. But that doesn't mean he's 'socially inept'. He has a brain, but he's also a giant dork, and again, he's very social with all types of people. :love:

My girlfriend has a shirt that says Dork Magnet on the front. So I guess she qualifies. As to why, well, I'm still trying to figure that one out.

I'm attracted to goth chicks. While not a geek, necessarily, they are certainly in the "outcast" category.

Also, the geeky people are so desperate they are more likely to hook up with you!

Geeks are the best type of people. They're more interesting, more fun to talk with. Also, though I hate stereotypes like this, I find that, more often than not, they're not afraid to be themselves...

A friend from university once told me that she spent all of highschool trying to hide her dorkiness/geekiness and that I've made her embrace it, just because I like to flaunt my dorkiness. I personally take that as a compliment. :p

I just dig chicks with glasses.

well, I consider myself a nerd, so like calls to like, I suppose.

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I'm sure there are about 999 billion women who wish they dated Bill Gates in high school.

I'm actually very attracted to women with glasses, but I attribute that to the fact that I'm very open in my choosing of women. Don't get me wrong; I'm very shallow, but I'm also one who chooses inner beauty over outer beauty, and I guess I'm like Shallow Hal, where inner beauty usually projects itself to me as if it were outer beauty.

I am a geek myself (also notably a woman with glasses) and so it's only right that I would be attracted to my kind. :) I mean...I really dig all kinds of geeky things--I like to read, I can fix my own computer, I am NOT hopeless when it comes to technology, and I love Star Trek. :P

Being an intelligent woman (I'd like to think I've established myself as such here at TFP) I am genuinely attracted to intelligent men. Nothing turns me on more than a man's ability to be intellectual. It's just so hot. Really.

Ok here's the straight dope. I am smart. I like to have conversations and I don't like to talk about simple things. Regular people BORE ME. Give me a geek who can entertain my brain, please.

Where the hell were you girls when I was getting the shit kicked outta me by guys and stuff thrown at me by girls all the way up to fifth grade and part of 8th and 9th?

It's amazing how shallow people are. I lose the glasses and all of a sudden "Who's that guy?" and now I'm "HOT!" but they're just some stupid metal frames over my eyes. My face still looks the same as always, I'm still the same guy personality wise but girls wouldn't give me the time of day till I got contact lenses. Then for whatever reason my contacts tore I'd have to wear my glasses again and certain girls think "Wow you look even hotter with your glasses on!" I don't get women. :| Makes me think if it was really the contacts or not then...or if thats just what made them notice me and after that it didn't matter anymore.

Yes I was kind of smart but not a genius...I was able to carry conversation with the "cool" people and make em laugh and wanna have me around and all that. So I don't think it's the smarts...I really just think it's the freakin glasses. People associate them with being smart. Not "Oh he must be visually impaired" Case in point..I was in summer school (SUMMER SCHOOL!) and we're all doing a test and this girl and guy are just painfully obviously leaning over to look at my test. I told them "You know I don't really know these answers right? I'm just putting down any answer to get it over with." They said "Oh I don't care." I can't see you assholes I'm not a freakin genius! :p

I was a little smart though..I can write well and things like that..I'm terrible at math..typical "nerds" and "geeks" excell in math over every other subject. I liked Science..animals & bugs n stuff...still do. No smarter than your typical intelligent person but I had a little thing called common sense that just BLOWS people away you wouldn't believe it. BAH! I need a cookay! :|

Asta!!

Dude, I was always attracted to the shy, quiet, geeky types. Problem is, they're frequently scared away by loud, assertive, aggressive women. So there we reach a bit of an impasse. But luckily I've found ways past it now!

So true....so true.

Asta!!

what about someone who has a basic level of hygeine and attractiveness, is a geek, AND works out?

Would that be the perfect guy?

i'm a reasonably intelligent person and i am attracted to the same. i enjoy a few stereotypical geeky activities and i want a partner who shares my interests.

my hs didn't fit the hollywood stereotype though. we didn't have a group of people set aside as "geeks" or really any other group. we didn't even have a "popular" crowd. the only people i remember getting made fun of were the ones who had questionable personal hygiene.

Gee I wonder if he's describing himself..hmmm :hmm:

Asta!!

You have no proof! :thumbsup:

Where were you when I was in highschool? :confused:

Man, where were all you guys who like smart women in glasses when I was in high school, captaining the Knowledge Bowl team??? :lol:

Haha we were too nerdy to be noticed.

Asta!!

I mentioned to a gal that I'm a math major, and she gave me her number!

I supose it's the strong correlation between intelligence and humor. Just about all successful stand-up comedians did well in school.

So I guess it's because we're smart and funny too.

Yeah, really... :rolleyes:

I'm going to have to go against the crowd here and say I'm not at all attracted to geeky/nerdy/dorky types. I don't want some girl who wants to sit at home on a saturday night and read or watch documentaries on tv. I want a girl who go out and have fun. Confidence and outgoingness are two traits a girl must have if I am to date her and you generally won't find these with the geeks.

Sure you will--I know PLENTY of geeks who want to get out and party. I'm one of them. Geeks are usually just looking for opportunity to do so...

maybe if they had some CONFIDENCE they might get the opportunity.

nerds haven't had that many girls, so they know to cherish a woman when they hook up with one. as to where all these guys who's been through woman after woman so they don't cherish them, but rather take them for granted. in the end nerds treat the ladies better.

My Gf and I are happy being geeks, it just means we can have stimulating conversations about anything. And be smart around eachother, brains over being attractive anyday.

Hmm.... Nice abs in pictures, great for intellectual discussions and a Heinlen Sci Fi fan.... gaming nerd .... do we need more evidence? :p

I've just found that most of the nerds and geeks I meet have their own personality and opinions and do not just become brainwashed by whatever is most popular in pop society. As a result, they hold my interest, keep my mind active and curious, and make time FLY by.

Believe me when I say that is NOT the case at all. The whole geek love thing is definitely more of a 20+ phenomenon, when people are less insecure and psychotic. If you were in HS now, you'd be in a similar boat to before (maybe a little higher in the water, but very similar).

I think one of the reasons people are attracted to nerds is that they're passionate about something generally. Nerdliness is sort of defined by unhealthy obsession with something or another (you can be smart an un-nerdly, and you can be lacking in social skills and un-nerdly; they just happen to stereotypically come with the territory), and as such, most of the nerds whom I've known who stayed true to form were very energetic when probed in the right way (I may even fit into the category ;) ).

Plus, I personally think nerdy girls can be really cute. I like people who might seem a little strange or akward, because then I don't feel quite so akward and strange myself.