I dont get this, was I wierd, was she.... really dont get it - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

Strange Famous · 10-31-2004, 11:05 AM

Ok, apologies if this is wrong place, I wasnt sure if it was living or sexuality, but I guess it is kind of a relationship thing, in a way...

So, what do you make of this AIM convo? Was I being wierd? It seemed to get pretty uncomfortable pretty quick... this is a girl I know really well, and maybe Im just being over sensitive, but the way it went seemed to come out of leftfield to me, I dont really get it, does it mean anything/nothing?

thingsthatbreak: Ive been drinking a lot recently, whch I dont suppose helps :-(
M: ADAMMMMM
M: what am i going to do with you
thingsthatbreak: dunno
thingsthatbreak: I guess you dont want to get drunk with me
M: nope
thingsthatbreak: not sure then
thingsthatbreak: Im a bit of a loser I guess
M: but then again if you and i hung out you wouldnt want to get drunk or drink
M: because we would find fun things to do
thingsthatbreak: =-O
M: lol
M: not that
M: dorko
thingsthatbreak: ok... I have a new sig ;-)
M: it better not be
M: whats that?
thingsthatbreak: O:-)
M: you better be nice
M: ur such a brat
thingsthatbreak: I would never make a sig when I misquoted you ;-)
M: you better not put that in
M: lol
M: yeahh right
thingsthatbreak: but if I am just quoting what you said, whats wrong with that? O:-)
M: because you're not telling the whole story
thingsthatbreak: well, there are sig limits
M: lol
thingsthatbreak: I can only post so many lines
M: ur such a brat
thingsthatbreak: ok, I wont make that my signature
M: good boy
thingsthatbreak: we could play GTA San Andreas... that would be fun?
M: whats that
M: or we could go to movie
thingsthatbreak: Grand Theft Auto
M: take a walk...show me the countryside
M: go to dinner
M: hmmm
M: a lot of things
thingsthatbreak: oh, so many potential signatures!
M: stop itr
thingsthatbreak: oh, Im only trying to be funny
M: i know
thingsthatbreak: its the only thing I can be
M: but just have to make sure
thingsthatbreak: oh
M: i like talking to you
M: so it really doesnt matter what you say
M: now i have to shower and eat...
thingsthatbreak: ok, well cya later
M: alligator
M: in a while crocodile
M: thats what ur suppose to say
M: hmmm
thingsthatbreak: yeah, it was a song
M: any way talk to you later
thingsthatbreak: bye
M: bye bye
M signed off at 18:59:05.

wilbjammin · 10-31-2004, 11:29 AM

Well, all I can say from that is that it was a little strange that you were being so self-negative. It sounds like she's the kind of girl that would rather have fun than get drunk and wallow in self-loathing. She said she liked talking to you, so I don't see why you should worry about it. I'd just suggest that you spend less timing giving her self-depreciating lines and take her up on those late night walks and such. She obviously wants some romance, rather than just sitting around playing games, watching movies, and talking about sex. Take her out, be spontaneous. Next time she says, "Well, we could do something..." Respond with, "Ok, how about right now, I'll pick you up in 10 minutes" or something. That's my take on it... hope it was of some help.

maleficent · 10-31-2004, 11:32 AM

Can I smack you really hard upside the head?

Why would you call yourself a loser? She doesn't want to get drunk with you, but she appears to want to do other things with you -- like go for a walk, and talk...

From the little bit I see here, she appears to like you , and it sounds like she's interested in perhaps dating you. But you seem to be interested in your signature.

NegativeNine · 10-31-2004, 11:36 AM

if it does mean anything, this would be it

Quote:

Originally Posted by adam

M: take a walk...show me the countryside
M: go to dinner
M: hmmm
M: a lot of things
thingsthatbreak: oh, so many potential signatures!

Thats when she stopped the LOLing.

She may be serious and annoyed by your joking. The problem is that without knowing her, I haven't a clue. And it doesn't help that its an IM convo... cant tell tone of voice or anything... (threaten to beat her if she doesn't use emoticons

)

Most likely, you're just over reacting. Most likely, she won't think any thing of it, especially if she thinks you were drunk(?).

My two cents.

[edit]

Two posts whilst I was writing. I disagree on the negativity part of both. Once again, I cant tell seeing how its the interweb, but it sounds like you were just joking around about the loser part, and she caught onto it. Re-reading the convo though, I agree that she is interested in you, and if you are in her(interested, that is

) be serious when she says stuff like

Quote:

Originally Posted by her

M: take a walk...show me the countryside
M: go to dinner

My four cents?

SecretMethod70 · 10-31-2004, 11:49 AM

I really don't think she was actually bothered in any way at all. To be honest, you're reading way too much into it. She seems like a person who is friendly with you and would like to hang out a bit more in person. And who just wanted to be sure you were joking

boredom · 10-31-2004, 04:31 PM

Ick your starting to sound like me. Well you can apologize then make a move that could jeopordize your friendship.

But that makes Profit, baby, Proffit!

null_duality · 10-31-2004, 11:24 PM

go go go go go go go go go go.

Or maybe she's just trying to talk you out of getting drunk and trying to fly.

take her out for dinner, see what she does.

but dude, unless she's a member of a Online Clan or D&D group, leave the video game controller at home, in the cupboard.

mandal · 10-31-2004, 11:33 PM

yah.. i don't see anything wrong with the convo. Although like someone said, without knowing the person it's kind of hard.

I would say that she seems interested, at least half interested, even if she has a bf or whatever. I'd say joke around with her, but next time she mentions going out or doing something seemingly romantic you take her up on it.

skier · 11-01-2004, 12:52 AM

Women will not let themselves be seduced by a fool.

I think the conversation went south when you kept making jokes during a "serious" time. She gave you 5 things to do for a serious date but you skipped around it, continuing to joke- which seems a little cowardish to me.

I think confidence (no "i'm a loser" talk) and honesty (sincerity) would have won you a date or something very much like it.

slimshaydee · 11-01-2004, 01:53 AM

yeah the ideal thing to do with a girl is play GTA

sorry when i read that I had a bit of a laugh

/maleficient said everything I already wanted to say

guthmund · 11-01-2004, 06:14 AM

For the love of god, why are you having bad IM conversations with a girl whose willing, no, asking, to hang out with you?

I'd cut back on the negativity crap as well.

For chrissakes, stop hanging around here and give her a call.

10-31-2004, 11:05 AM	#1 (permalink)
Strange Famous follower of the child's crusade?	I dont get this, was I wierd, was she.... really dont get it Ok, apologies if this is wrong place, I wasnt sure if it was living or sexuality, but I guess it is kind of a relationship thing, in a way... So, what do you make of this AIM convo? Was I being wierd? It seemed to get pretty uncomfortable pretty quick... this is a girl I know really well, and maybe Im just being over sensitive, but the way it went seemed to come out of leftfield to me, I dont really get it, does it mean anything/nothing? thingsthatbreak: Ive been drinking a lot recently, whch I dont suppose helps :-( M: ADAMMMMM M: what am i going to do with you thingsthatbreak: dunno thingsthatbreak: I guess you dont want to get drunk with me M: nope thingsthatbreak: not sure then thingsthatbreak: Im a bit of a loser I guess M: but then again if you and i hung out you wouldnt want to get drunk or drink M: because we would find fun things to do thingsthatbreak: =-O M: lol M: not that M: dorko thingsthatbreak: ok... I have a new sig ;-) M: it better not be M: whats that? thingsthatbreak: O:-) M: you better be nice M: ur such a brat thingsthatbreak: I would never make a sig when I misquoted you ;-) M: you better not put that in M: lol M: yeahh right thingsthatbreak: but if I am just quoting what you said, whats wrong with that? O:-) M: because you're not telling the whole story thingsthatbreak: well, there are sig limits M: lol thingsthatbreak: I can only post so many lines M: ur such a brat thingsthatbreak: ok, I wont make that my signature M: good boy thingsthatbreak: we could play GTA San Andreas... that would be fun? M: whats that M: or we could go to movie thingsthatbreak: Grand Theft Auto M: take a walk...show me the countryside M: go to dinner M: hmmm M: a lot of things thingsthatbreak: oh, so many potential signatures! M: stop itr thingsthatbreak: oh, Im only trying to be funny M: i know thingsthatbreak: its the only thing I can be M: but just have to make sure thingsthatbreak: oh M: i like talking to you M: so it really doesnt matter what you say M: now i have to shower and eat... thingsthatbreak: ok, well cya later M: alligator M: in a while crocodile M: thats what ur suppose to say M: hmmm thingsthatbreak: yeah, it was a song M: any way talk to you later thingsthatbreak: bye M: bye bye M signed off at 18:59:05. __________________ "Do not tell lies, and do not do what you hate, for all things are plain in the sight of Heaven. For nothing hidden will not become manifest, and nothing covered will remain without being uncovered." The Gospel of Thomas

10-31-2004, 11:29 AM	#2 (permalink)
wilbjammin * * *	Well, all I can say from that is that it was a little strange that you were being so self-negative. It sounds like she's the kind of girl that would rather have fun than get drunk and wallow in self-loathing. She said she liked talking to you, so I don't see why you should worry about it. I'd just suggest that you spend less timing giving her self-depreciating lines and take her up on those late night walks and such. She obviously wants some romance, rather than just sitting around playing games, watching movies, and talking about sex. Take her out, be spontaneous. Next time she says, "Well, we could do something..." Respond with, "Ok, how about right now, I'll pick you up in 10 minutes" or something. That's my take on it... hope it was of some help. __________________ Innominate.

10-31-2004, 11:32 AM	#3 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	Can I smack you really hard upside the head? Why would you call yourself a loser? She doesn't want to get drunk with you, but she appears to want to do other things with you -- like go for a walk, and talk... From the little bit I see here, she appears to like you , and it sounds like she's interested in perhaps dating you. But you seem to be interested in your signature. __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.

10-31-2004, 11:49 AM	#5 (permalink)
SecretMethod70 Human Administrator Location: Chicago	I really don't think she was actually bothered in any way at all. To be honest, you're reading way too much into it. She seems like a person who is friendly with you and would like to hang out a bit more in person. And who just wanted to be sure you were joking __________________ Le temps détruit tout "Musicians are the carriers and communicators of spirit in the most immediate sense." - Kurt Elling

10-31-2004, 04:31 PM	#6 (permalink)
boredom Insane Location: California	Ick your starting to sound like me. Well you can apologize then make a move that could jeopordize your friendship. But that makes Profit, baby, Proffit! __________________ Wiggum: Find anything this time, boys? Cop: Uh, no sign of him, Chief. Wiggum: Princess Opal? Opal: I see nothing here, but I'm afraid it's splitsville for Delta Burke and Major Dad. Wiggum: But they seem so happy! -- ``Bart the Murderer''

10-31-2004, 11:24 PM	#7 (permalink)
null_duality Tilted	go go go go go go go go go go. Or maybe she's just trying to talk you out of getting drunk and trying to fly. take her out for dinner, see what she does. but dude, unless she's a member of a Online Clan or D&D group, leave the video game controller at home, in the cupboard.

10-31-2004, 11:33 PM	#8 (permalink)
mandal Crazy	yah.. i don't see anything wrong with the convo. Although like someone said, without knowing the person it's kind of hard. I would say that she seems interested, at least half interested, even if she has a bf or whatever. I'd say joke around with her, but next time she mentions going out or doing something seemingly romantic you take her up on it.

11-01-2004, 12:52 AM	#9 (permalink)
skier Rawr! Location: Edmontania	Women will not let themselves be seduced by a fool. I think the conversation went south when you kept making jokes during a "serious" time. She gave you 5 things to do for a serious date but you skipped around it, continuing to joke- which seems a little cowardish to me. I think confidence (no "i'm a loser" talk) and honesty (sincerity) would have won you a date or something very much like it. __________________ "Asking a bomb squad if an old bomb is still "real" is not the best thing to do if you want to save it." - denim

11-01-2004, 01:53 AM	#10 (permalink)
slimshaydee If you've read this, PM me and say so Location: Sitting on my ass, and you?	yeah the ideal thing to do with a girl is play GTA sorry when i read that I had a bit of a laugh /maleficient said everything I already wanted to say

11-01-2004, 06:14 AM	#11 (permalink)
guthmund big damn hero	For the love of god, why are you having bad IM conversations with a girl whose willing, no, asking, to hang out with you? I'd cut back on the negativity crap as well. For chrissakes, stop hanging around here and give her a call. __________________ No signature. None. Seriously.