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longbough · 12-21-2004, 09:55 AM

I must admit that lousy head can be a deal-breaker with a girl no matter how nice she looks.
It'd be great to know these things in advance - before the moment of truth, but that's not possible... or is it?
I've noticed a tendency, among the women I've dated, for their oral skills to be inversely proportional to their "chattiness." Put another way - the women who talk A LOT (i.e. gossip about anything and everything - you know, the ones who do more talking than listening - where you catch yourself thinking, "Please just shut up!") tend to give terrible head.
The best head always came from the women with whom you can have a "normal" conversation - who don't seem to need to project a "socially adept" persona.

I'm curious if other guys have found this to be true (or untrue). I won't confound the topic by trying to explain it for now. But what's your experience, guys?

(Please don't attack me for being sexist. For the record, I'm not saying that either of these qualities (chattiness vs. normal) is specific to the female gender - I'm just offering an observation to some of the men.)

theburner · 12-21-2004, 10:02 AM

Longbough.. I have to agree to an extent, only because I can only remember the absolute worst head giver I ever had (Girl from Boston that yapped like a poodle!) and the best head (girl from Florida that was shy and reserved in public!).

So, I do agree.

Glory's Sun · 12-21-2004, 10:03 AM

I haven't really noticed a trend like that but that's usually just because I don't pay attention until I start getting head..

ok just kidding. I think it's just really all about experience. I've had girls that were quite chatty that gave exceptional head and vise versa. So I guess to answer your question I find your theory to be false.

Stompy · 12-21-2004, 11:31 AM

I vote true.

Cynthetiq · 12-21-2004, 11:34 AM

I vote NOT TRUE

I never liked oral until I met this gal who just loved it.

she was really good at it and had NGR (no gag reflex) It was great initially but then got tiresome because I'd come home from a long day and just plop onto the couch to read or watch TV and she'd just pull my dick out and start sucking on it.

Acetylene · 12-21-2004, 11:37 AM

As I girl, I can imagine this to be true because most chatty girls are somewhat insecure and compensate by being ultra-friendly. Whereas shy girls may also be insecure, but they would compensate with actions, not words. So you'd get a chatty girl who tries to make you like her by talking nicely and telling jokes, and a shy girl who tries to make you like her by baking cookies and giving head. It's no surprise the guys don't like chatty girls, if my theory is true.

[edit] plus also when you take a break to say something, it kind of ruins the flow.

ShaniFaye · 12-21-2004, 11:40 AM

Im chatty (not gossipy) and I love giving head.....and Im told Im the best....so I have to disagree

noodles · 12-21-2004, 11:41 AM

i vote probably not for the hypothesis, but the results as per my experience prove it true

edit: whoopsies, forgot. i can think of a counterexample, i now vote false

Coppertop · 12-21-2004, 11:49 AM

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Originally Posted by Cynthetiq

she was really good at it and had NGR (no gag reflex) It was great initially but then got tiresome because I'd come home from a long day and just plop onto the couch to read or watch TV and she'd just pull my dick out and start sucking on it.

Yeah, sucks to be you.

I'm sure there are plenty of guys here who'd swap places with you in a moment.

edit - as to the question at hand, I'm not sure. But I am leaning towards true. More research is needed. I'm off...

KirStang · 12-21-2004, 12:10 PM

Well, I've heard that the shy ones are the freakiest ones...Maybe this applies to giving head too?

I wouldn't know though =P

snowy · 12-21-2004, 12:38 PM

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Originally Posted by ShaniFaye

Im chatty (not gossipy) and I love giving head.....and Im told Im the best....so I have to disagree

Same goes over here...I figure talking so much gives my muscles and tongue a good workout--something I can put to good use while giving head. :P

pinkie · 12-21-2004, 12:41 PM

I'm pretty chatty, and I've been told I give head better than a guy.

Cynthetiq · 12-21-2004, 12:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Coppertop

Yeah, sucks to be you.

I'm sure there are plenty of guys here who'd swap places with you in a moment.

edit - as to the question at hand, I'm not sure. But I am leaning towards true. More research is needed. I'm off...

sure...but when one just wants to just sit and be it doesn't work. Everything is great in moderation.

Vincentt · 12-21-2004, 02:54 PM

I vote false.

I'd say it has more to do with upbringing.
I've had more then one girl say "only sluts do that", or "i'm not dirty".
These girls were quieter types.

brianna · 12-21-2004, 04:16 PM

are we seriously having this discussion? i'm embarrassed.

AquaFox · 12-21-2004, 05:45 PM

i wish i had enough experience with enough diffrent women to confirm it.... but sounds like it could be mostly true

Ruse · 12-21-2004, 06:28 PM

I would imagine the more the girl is into it, the better its going to be.. that being said, I (sadly) have yet to meet a girl that enjoys it.

longbough · 12-21-2004, 07:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Ruse

I would imagine the more the girl is into it, the better its going to be.. that being said, I (sadly) have yet to meet a girl that enjoys it.

I hear your pain...
Some practical advice - go out of your way to learn how to go down properly on a woman and learn to love it (read books, look for pointers from lesbians etc.). Many women will return the favor with as much enthusiasm as you demonstrate on them. It sounds silly, but it works.

Blackthorn · 12-21-2004, 07:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Cynthetiq

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It was great initially but then got tiresome because I'd come home from a long day and just plop onto the couch to read or watch TV and she'd just pull my dick out and start sucking on it.

Yeah...I get that. NOT!

snowy · 12-21-2004, 10:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ruse

I would imagine the more the girl is into it, the better its going to be.. that being said, I (sadly) have yet to meet a girl that enjoys it.

That bites.

Enthusiasm is the greatest tool I have in my toolbox. It is the number one essential to giving good head, and that goes for both women and men. If you're happy to do it, and seem to enjoy it, your partner is more at ease and more likely to enjoy it as well. I certainly never thought I would enjoy it, but God...it's addicting!

duck0987 · 12-22-2004, 12:09 AM

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Originally Posted by pinkie

I'm pretty chatty, and I've been told I give head better than a guy.

I would have to agree with you on this, from my experence girls give better head than guys.

kutulu · 12-22-2004, 10:25 AM

My wife is chatty and she gives great head.

Coppertop · 12-22-2004, 11:55 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by longbough

I hear your pain...
Some practical advice - go out of your way to learn how to go down properly on a woman and learn to love it (read books, look for pointers from lesbians etc.). Many women will return the favor with as much enthusiasm as you demonstrate on them. It sounds silly, but it works.

Yes, do this. Learning how to please a woman in this way is the greatest gift a guy can ever give to himself.

Oral sex karma, as it were.

jillian · 12-22-2004, 07:42 PM

false... i will talk anyones earoff and several guys have given me pornstar blowjob ratings.... i could give gauge or ashley blue or any of the other great blowjob artists afew tips and pointers on deepthroating

Firefighter24 · 12-27-2004, 05:24 PM

its all relative i guess. all the times a girl went down on me were good, maybe i just like getting head. maybe its all in our minds, because of the fact we we're miserable with the girl during a date and then after the date we get head, all you think about is how she wouldnt shut up. or maybe it just sucked because her mouth is all tired from all her talking.

longbough · 12-27-2004, 07:29 PM

Firefighter24, there IS such thing as lousy head. I wouldn't have even believed it if I hadn't experienced it myself. I told this story in a different thread, but I'll tell it again.
I was dating this girl who bragged how good she was at giving head, but she just put me in her mouth and licked around the head for a while - She didn't move her lips and ignored the shaft entirely. When I tried to show her what felt good she just said, "That looks stupid." She insisted that I'd like her "technique" more. I couldn't have been more bored in my life.

12-21-2004, 09:55 AM	#1 (permalink)
longbough Soylent Green is people. Location: Northern California	chattiness = bad head I must admit that lousy head can be a deal-breaker with a girl no matter how nice she looks. It'd be great to know these things in advance - before the moment of truth, but that's not possible... or is it? I've noticed a tendency, among the women I've dated, for their oral skills to be inversely proportional to their "chattiness." Put another way - the women who talk A LOT (i.e. gossip about anything and everything - you know, the ones who do more talking than listening - where you catch yourself thinking, "Please just shut up!") tend to give terrible head. The best head always came from the women with whom you can have a "normal" conversation - who don't seem to need to project a "socially adept" persona. I'm curious if other guys have found this to be true (or untrue). I won't confound the topic by trying to explain it for now. But what's your experience, guys? (Please don't attack me for being sexist. For the record, I'm not saying that either of these qualities (chattiness vs. normal) is specific to the female gender - I'm just offering an observation to some of the men.)

12-21-2004, 10:02 AM	#2 (permalink)
theburner Canadian Beer Ambassador Location: Cumming, GA	Longbough.. I have to agree to an extent, only because I can only remember the absolute worst head giver I ever had (Girl from Boston that yapped like a poodle!) and the best head (girl from Florida that was shy and reserved in public!). So, I do agree. __________________ Take Off Eh!

12-21-2004, 11:31 AM	#4 (permalink)
Stompy Banned from being Banned Location: Donkey	I vote true. __________________ I love lamp.

12-21-2004, 11:34 AM	#5 (permalink)
Cynthetiq Tilted Cat Head Administrator Location: Manhattan, NY	I vote NOT TRUE I never liked oral until I met this gal who just loved it. she was really good at it and had NGR (no gag reflex) It was great initially but then got tiresome because I'd come home from a long day and just plop onto the couch to read or watch TV and she'd just pull my dick out and start sucking on it. __________________ I don't care if you are black, white, purple, green, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, hippie, cop, bum, admin, user, English, Irish, French, Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, indian, cowboy, tall, short, fat, skinny, emo, punk, mod, rocker, straight, gay, lesbian, jock, nerd, geek, Democrat, Republican, Libertarian, Independent, driver, pedestrian, or bicyclist, either you're an asshole or you're not. What's the best nation in the world? DO-NATION!

12-21-2004, 11:37 AM	#6 (permalink)
Acetylene Addict Location: under a rock	As I girl, I can imagine this to be true because most chatty girls are somewhat insecure and compensate by being ultra-friendly. Whereas shy girls may also be insecure, but they would compensate with actions, not words. So you'd get a chatty girl who tries to make you like her by talking nicely and telling jokes, and a shy girl who tries to make you like her by baking cookies and giving head. It's no surprise the guys don't like chatty girls, if my theory is true. [edit] plus also when you take a break to say something, it kind of ruins the flow. __________________ There's no justice. There's just us.

12-21-2004, 10:03 AM	#3 (permalink)
Glory's Sun Registered User	I haven't really noticed a trend like that but that's usually just because I don't pay attention until I start getting head.. ok just kidding. I think it's just really all about experience. I've had girls that were quite chatty that gave exceptional head and vise versa. So I guess to answer your question I find your theory to be false.

12-21-2004, 11:40 AM	#7 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	Im chatty (not gossipy) and I love giving head.....and Im told Im the best....so I have to disagree __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

12-21-2004, 11:41 AM	#8 (permalink)
noodles Psycho Location: sc	i vote probably not for the hypothesis, but the results as per my experience prove it true edit: whoopsies, forgot. i can think of a counterexample, i now vote false Last edited by noodles; 12-21-2004 at 11:43 AM..

12-21-2004, 12:10 PM	#10 (permalink)
KirStang Future Bureaucrat	Well, I've heard that the shy ones are the freakiest ones...Maybe this applies to giving head too? I wouldn't know though =P

12-21-2004, 12:41 PM	#12 (permalink)
pinkie Helplessly hoping Location: Above the stars	I'm pretty chatty, and I've been told I give head better than a guy.

12-21-2004, 02:54 PM	#14 (permalink)
Vincentt Addict Location: Tokyo, Japan	I vote false. I'd say it has more to do with upbringing. I've had more then one girl say "only sluts do that", or "i'm not dirty". These girls were quieter types.

12-21-2004, 04:16 PM	#15 (permalink)
brianna Addict Location: nyc	are we seriously having this discussion? i'm embarrassed.

12-21-2004, 05:45 PM	#16 (permalink)
AquaFox WaterDog	i wish i had enough experience with enough diffrent women to confirm it.... but sounds like it could be mostly true __________________ ...AquaFox...

12-21-2004, 06:28 PM	#17 (permalink)
Ruse Crazy	I would imagine the more the girl is into it, the better its going to be.. that being said, I (sadly) have yet to meet a girl that enjoys it.

12-22-2004, 10:25 AM	#22 (permalink)
kutulu Junkie	My wife is chatty and she gives great head.

12-22-2004, 07:42 PM	#24 (permalink)
jillian Crazy Location: indiana	false... i will talk anyones earoff and several guys have given me pornstar blowjob ratings.... i could give gauge or ashley blue or any of the other great blowjob artists afew tips and pointers on deepthroating

12-27-2004, 05:24 PM	#25 (permalink)
Firefighter24 Upright	its all relative i guess. all the times a girl went down on me were good, maybe i just like getting head. maybe its all in our minds, because of the fact we we're miserable with the girl during a date and then after the date we get head, all you think about is how she wouldnt shut up. or maybe it just sucked because her mouth is all tired from all her talking.

12-27-2004, 07:29 PM	#26 (permalink)
longbough Soylent Green is people. Location: Northern California	Firefighter24, there IS such thing as lousy head. I wouldn't have even believed it if I hadn't experienced it myself. I told this story in a different thread, but I'll tell it again. I was dating this girl who bragged how good she was at giving head, but she just put me in her mouth and licked around the head for a while - She didn't move her lips and ignored the shaft entirely. When I tried to show her what felt good she just said, "That looks stupid." She insisted that I'd like her "technique" more. I couldn't have been more bored in my life.