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Irishsean · 09-23-2004, 02:02 PM

I'm currently in a long distance relationship with a wonderfull girl that lives about 2000 miles from me right now. We used to live in the same town, but I moved away to help take care of my dad when he got sick. I'm planning on moving back in the next 6 months or so, but lately things just haven't been going well.

About two weeks ago she went on a short vacation, things were getting kind of stressfull at work, so she went off for a week. She ended up getting caught in the hurricane down south, and couldn't get ahold of me for a week. When she got back, she called me on the phone and let me know what was going on, but I was leaving for work and had to run, so we made plans to catch up the next morning. That was a week ago, and I still haven't heard from her. I talk to her brother and her dad almost everyday, and they've told me she has been really sick, but I haven't heard anything from her. Not a phonecall, email, instant message, nothing.

Am I being too clingy that I would like to hear from her occasionally? In 2 weeks I have talked to her for maybe 10 minutes. To put it into perspective, on average the month before that we probably spent about 30 hours on the phone. Just looking for some advice, as I'm kinda depressed and frustrated right now.

Homey_V · 09-23-2004, 04:54 PM

After two weeks of not hearing anything, why wouldnt you have called her?
Personally I would have been worried after two days of waiting for a phone calle and called from Untitled.

09-23-2004, 04:55 PM

If she's really sick, you are not going to be her first priority... getting better is. It seems to me that you might think to call HER if she's really sick.
But thats just my two cents.

*edit* I guess great minds think alike. Good post, Homey_V

Irishsean · 09-23-2004, 05:07 PM

I've tried to call her, unfortunately her house sits right in a cellular dead zone, so if she is at home all the time, ie sick, I can't get ahold of her. We usually talk online, but she hasn't been on lately. She's also been having problems with an ex of hers, he came over to her house the other night and keyed the words "fucking bitch" into the side of her truck. I'm just worried because she's sick, and emotionally upset right now and I can't talk to her.

09-23-2004, 06:14 PM

Question: Does she not have a real phone?

farcryer · 09-23-2004, 06:17 PM

Good luck, maybe you could send a letter (the concerned kind, with maybe a dash of lovey stuff)? We've got a pretty good postal service, and the old-fashioned things always went well for me. In the meantime, you can and ought to try and keep calling- probably.

Irishsean · 09-23-2004, 06:26 PM

Who has a real phone anymore? =P I haven't used one outside of work in a couple years now.

I did go and get her a gigantic get well card today, one of those 1 foot by two foot ones, gonna write a big letter, add a dash of the cologne and send it off to her.

Irishsean · 09-29-2004, 08:05 AM

Quick update if anyone cares:

Finally heard from her this morning. She got kidnapped, by her mom. Took her to europe for a week to get away and didn't tell anyone where they were going. Even her dad thought her mom was at a conference, not in europe relaxing at a spa.

I got some great pictures this morning, and a nice conversation, things are looking up!

bonehed1 · 09-29-2004, 09:01 AM

WOOT WOOT....gratz bro....glad to hear you heard from her and hope everything goes well for you. I did the long distance thing, got married, girl turned into a wench, getting divorced now. I hope your's ends up better then mine. GL

09-23-2004, 02:02 PM	#1 (permalink)
Irishsean edited for content Location: Austin, TX	Long distance relationship over? I'm currently in a long distance relationship with a wonderfull girl that lives about 2000 miles from me right now. We used to live in the same town, but I moved away to help take care of my dad when he got sick. I'm planning on moving back in the next 6 months or so, but lately things just haven't been going well. About two weeks ago she went on a short vacation, things were getting kind of stressfull at work, so she went off for a week. She ended up getting caught in the hurricane down south, and couldn't get ahold of me for a week. When she got back, she called me on the phone and let me know what was going on, but I was leaving for work and had to run, so we made plans to catch up the next morning. That was a week ago, and I still haven't heard from her. I talk to her brother and her dad almost everyday, and they've told me she has been really sick, but I haven't heard anything from her. Not a phonecall, email, instant message, nothing. Am I being too clingy that I would like to hear from her occasionally? In 2 weeks I have talked to her for maybe 10 minutes. To put it into perspective, on average the month before that we probably spent about 30 hours on the phone. Just looking for some advice, as I'm kinda depressed and frustrated right now.

09-23-2004, 04:54 PM	#2 (permalink)
Homey_V Psycho Location: Canada	After two weeks of not hearing anything, why wouldnt you have called her? Personally I would have been worried after two days of waiting for a phone calle and called from Untitled. __________________ You did what with a duck? Last edited by Homey_V; 09-23-2004 at 06:17 PM..

09-29-2004, 09:01 AM	#9 (permalink)
bonehed1 Psycho Location: California	WOOT WOOT....gratz bro....glad to hear you heard from her and hope everything goes well for you. I did the long distance thing, got married, girl turned into a wench, getting divorced now. I hope your's ends up better then mine. GL __________________ Stuff is Good

09-23-2004, 04:55 PM	#3 (permalink)
Untitled Guest	If she's really sick, you are not going to be her first priority... getting better is. It seems to me that you might think to call HER if she's really sick. But thats just my two cents. edit I guess great minds think alike. Good post, Homey_V

09-23-2004, 05:07 PM	#4 (permalink)
Irishsean edited for content Location: Austin, TX	I've tried to call her, unfortunately her house sits right in a cellular dead zone, so if she is at home all the time, ie sick, I can't get ahold of her. We usually talk online, but she hasn't been on lately. She's also been having problems with an ex of hers, he came over to her house the other night and keyed the words "fucking bitch" into the side of her truck. I'm just worried because she's sick, and emotionally upset right now and I can't talk to her.

09-23-2004, 06:14 PM	#5 (permalink)
Untitled Guest	Question: Does she not have a real phone?

09-23-2004, 06:17 PM	#6 (permalink)
farcryer Upright	Good luck, maybe you could send a letter (the concerned kind, with maybe a dash of lovey stuff)? We've got a pretty good postal service, and the old-fashioned things always went well for me. In the meantime, you can and ought to try and keep calling- probably.

09-23-2004, 06:26 PM	#7 (permalink)
Irishsean edited for content Location: Austin, TX	Who has a real phone anymore? =P I haven't used one outside of work in a couple years now. I did go and get her a gigantic get well card today, one of those 1 foot by two foot ones, gonna write a big letter, add a dash of the cologne and send it off to her.

09-29-2004, 08:05 AM	#8 (permalink)
Irishsean edited for content Location: Austin, TX	Quick update if anyone cares: Finally heard from her this morning. She got kidnapped, by her mom. Took her to europe for a week to get away and didn't tell anyone where they were going. Even her dad thought her mom was at a conference, not in europe relaxing at a spa. I got some great pictures this morning, and a nice conversation, things are looking up!