Vaginal Pains? - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

Jim Kata · 08-11-2004, 06:31 AM

Let me just jump right into this.

Last night me and my lady were getting it on...and after about 5 pumps in (I'm surprised I lasted that long

), I noticed that something was bothering her by the way she was moving...I stopped and asked if she was ok, and she said it kind of hurt and she just wanted me to finish real quick. Knowing she was in pain, I decided to just stop right then (like I'm sure most of us would do).

Anyway, I asked her what was wrong (not just down there but everything in general) and she said sometimes when we are having sex it hurts her.

Now I want to be like "Yeah its my big package giving you all that hurt" but in reality I have a average if not below average penis so I'm sure the size isn't hurting her. She was also very very wet so I don't think it was too dry down there. Plus there have been times when I thought I was hurting her but she just wanted more and more.

She did have a yeast infection a few weeks ago, but that has been gone for well over a week. And this is the first time we tried having sex since.

So I'm just seeing if anyone has any suggestion on this...is this something mental (since I see my dentist more often than we have sex)? Is it possibly physical? She does have regular check ups at her OBGYN (I think).

maleficent · 08-11-2004, 06:38 AM

Pain During Intercourse/Dyspareunia

This is from Aetna's website - pretty much anything could cause it - including a yeast infection...

Were condoms used? Different brand?

If she didn't have pain before, and there was plenty of lubrication, I'd suggest a call to her doctor... The yeast infection may not be completely gone.

(Oh, and on behalf of women everywhere, thank you for noticing her discomfort and taking the action or rather inaction

that you did...

Bentley Little · 08-11-2004, 06:41 AM

JK, honestly, you see your dentist, what, twice a year?! Are you being dramatic or are you really only having sex every few months. If so, that may be an issue (maybe?). Does she give you specifics of how it hurts? Is it like a sharp pain or dull pain? That may give you some clues. Although I have no idea what it could be, I thought I would try and help anyway. Maybe PM someone in the Ladies Lounge and ask if any of the women have had a similar problem. And since you said that sometimes when you are having sex, it hurts her, and this being previous to her yeast infection, I would say that it has nothing to do with it.

Jim Kata · 08-11-2004, 06:44 AM

I was just joking about the Dentist thing....I was just saying that we hardly have sex anymore.

She did say it was a sharp pain. I am going to have to convince her to go to a doctor..even though she hates/gets embarrassed when she goes.

Oh and thank you two and thank all you others in advance (I forgot to put that in my original post)

maleficent · 08-11-2004, 06:49 AM

if the pain was there before, Endometriosis is extremely common, and pain during intercourse is one of the symptoms. In many cases it's also easily treatable.

I don't think anyone looks forward to or enjoys going to the gynocologist, but... we gotta do what we gotta do...

Bentley Little · 08-11-2004, 06:53 AM

I agree with Malificent, going to the OBGYN is the best idea. You don't want your wife's pleasure area turning into a vast waste field if you know what I mean.

Wax_off · 08-14-2004, 04:10 PM

From personal experience (well, my GF's) I know that most OBGYN's know almost nothing about vaginal pain. To the point where it almost not worth going. Seriously. You will be told "it's all in your head" or "use more lube" or "it'll go away" Still, it probably worth going, you might get lucky and find someone who actually cares and is willing to do some research.

One possible, less extreme, explanation might just be lack of use. I've had girlfriends who, after a break from sex due to distance or whatever, needed a bit of time to get used to it again. It was uncomfortable for the first couple times, then started to feel good again. So maybe a solution would be to see your dentist less frequently (or, alternatively, have more sex!)

maleficent · 08-14-2004, 05:11 PM

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Originally posted by Wax_off
From personal experience (well, my GF's) I know that most OBGYN's know almost nothing about vaginal pain. To the point where it almost not worth going. Seriously. You will be told "it's all in your head" or "use more lube" or "it'll go away" Still, it probably worth going, you might get lucky and find someone who actually cares and is willing to do some research.

I'm sorry but that is complete and utter bull.. any doctor who would say that to a woman has no busniess practicing medicine. and no woman would ever go to that doctor. At one point, cramps were considered "all in our head" those days are long since gone. Doctors do pay attention. Endometriosis IS a well accepted and easily diagnosed condition. The patient just had to talk to the doctor. The doctor can't guess that something is wrong.

ratbastid · 08-14-2004, 06:22 PM

Speaking from my lovely wife's experience: find a female gynecologist. Makes a big difference to be working with somebody who actually owns a set of the plumbing in question.

08-11-2004, 06:31 AM	#1 (permalink)
Jim Kata Swollen Member Location: Northern VA	Vaginal Pains? Let me just jump right into this. Last night me and my lady were getting it on...and after about 5 pumps in (I'm surprised I lasted that long ), I noticed that something was bothering her by the way she was moving...I stopped and asked if she was ok, and she said it kind of hurt and she just wanted me to finish real quick. Knowing she was in pain, I decided to just stop right then (like I'm sure most of us would do). Anyway, I asked her what was wrong (not just down there but everything in general) and she said sometimes when we are having sex it hurts her. Now I want to be like "Yeah its my big package giving you all that hurt" but in reality I have a average if not below average penis so I'm sure the size isn't hurting her. She was also very very wet so I don't think it was too dry down there. Plus there have been times when I thought I was hurting her but she just wanted more and more. She did have a yeast infection a few weeks ago, but that has been gone for well over a week. And this is the first time we tried having sex since. So I'm just seeing if anyone has any suggestion on this...is this something mental (since I see my dentist more often than we have sex)? Is it possibly physical? She does have regular check ups at her OBGYN (I think).

08-11-2004, 06:38 AM	#2 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	Pain During Intercourse/Dyspareunia This is from Aetna's website - pretty much anything could cause it - including a yeast infection... Were condoms used? Different brand? If she didn't have pain before, and there was plenty of lubrication, I'd suggest a call to her doctor... The yeast infection may not be completely gone. (Oh, and on behalf of women everywhere, thank you for noticing her discomfort and taking the action or rather inaction that you did... __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.

08-11-2004, 06:41 AM	#3 (permalink)
Bentley Little Insane Location: In my head...	JK, honestly, you see your dentist, what, twice a year?! Are you being dramatic or are you really only having sex every few months. If so, that may be an issue (maybe?). Does she give you specifics of how it hurts? Is it like a sharp pain or dull pain? That may give you some clues. Although I have no idea what it could be, I thought I would try and help anyway. Maybe PM someone in the Ladies Lounge and ask if any of the women have had a similar problem. And since you said that sometimes when you are having sex, it hurts her, and this being previous to her yeast infection, I would say that it has nothing to do with it. __________________ That is my 2 cents.

08-11-2004, 06:49 AM	#5 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	if the pain was there before, Endometriosis is extremely common, and pain during intercourse is one of the symptoms. In many cases it's also easily treatable. I don't think anyone looks forward to or enjoys going to the gynocologist, but... we gotta do what we gotta do... __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.

08-11-2004, 06:53 AM	#6 (permalink)
Bentley Little Insane Location: In my head...	I agree with Malificent, going to the OBGYN is the best idea. You don't want your wife's pleasure area turning into a vast waste field if you know what I mean. __________________ That is my 2 cents.

08-11-2004, 06:44 AM	#4 (permalink)
Jim Kata Swollen Member Location: Northern VA	I was just joking about the Dentist thing....I was just saying that we hardly have sex anymore. She did say it was a sharp pain. I am going to have to convince her to go to a doctor..even though she hates/gets embarrassed when she goes. Oh and thank you two and thank all you others in advance (I forgot to put that in my original post)

08-14-2004, 04:10 PM	#7 (permalink)
Wax_off No Avatar, No Sig.	From personal experience (well, my GF's) I know that most OBGYN's know almost nothing about vaginal pain. To the point where it almost not worth going. Seriously. You will be told "it's all in your head" or "use more lube" or "it'll go away" Still, it probably worth going, you might get lucky and find someone who actually cares and is willing to do some research. One possible, less extreme, explanation might just be lack of use. I've had girlfriends who, after a break from sex due to distance or whatever, needed a bit of time to get used to it again. It was uncomfortable for the first couple times, then started to feel good again. So maybe a solution would be to see your dentist less frequently (or, alternatively, have more sex!)

08-14-2004, 06:22 PM	#9 (permalink)
ratbastid Darth Papa Location: Yonder	Speaking from my lovely wife's experience: find a female gynecologist. Makes a big difference to be working with somebody who actually owns a set of the plumbing in question.