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repeater · 08-02-2004, 07:09 AM

Does anyone know any good books or anything or who to talk to about helping someone who was a victim of rape? I need some advice with helping a friend who says she can't feel anything any more. From the little bit I know I think that's a common reaction, but I have no idea how I can help her. Thanks.

maleficent · 08-02-2004, 07:13 AM

This topic was sort of covered somewhere in one of these threads...

helping her is best done by doing nothing. Let her know you are available to listen, if she wants to talk, that you will support her, if she needs it. Just be a friend and be patient.

What I would stringly suggest is that she find a support group for rape victims, where should could be with other people who will understand what she's going thru, and what her emotions are.

onetime2 · 08-02-2004, 07:36 AM

Support groups are good for some people but others need a bit more privacy. Counseling of some sort is a good idea. I would also look into psychotherapists in the area that specialize in rape counseling.

In any event, it takes a lot of time to work through it.

maleficent · 08-02-2004, 07:43 AM

Check the phonebook in her area, or do a google for Rape Crisis Centers -- most every community has one... They will be able to point her in the right direction...

08-02-2004, 07:09 AM	#1 (permalink)
repeater Crazy Location: Chicago	dealing with a rape Does anyone know any good books or anything or who to talk to about helping someone who was a victim of rape? I need some advice with helping a friend who says she can't feel anything any more. From the little bit I know I think that's a common reaction, but I have no idea how I can help her. Thanks.

08-02-2004, 07:13 AM	#2 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	This topic was sort of covered somewhere in one of these threads... helping her is best done by doing nothing. Let her know you are available to listen, if she wants to talk, that you will support her, if she needs it. Just be a friend and be patient. What I would stringly suggest is that she find a support group for rape victims, where should could be with other people who will understand what she's going thru, and what her emotions are. __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.

08-02-2004, 07:36 AM	#3 (permalink)
onetime2 Junkie Location: NJ	Support groups are good for some people but others need a bit more privacy. Counseling of some sort is a good idea. I would also look into psychotherapists in the area that specialize in rape counseling. In any event, it takes a lot of time to work through it. __________________ Strive to be more curious than ignorant.

08-02-2004, 07:43 AM	#4 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	Check the phonebook in her area, or do a google for Rape Crisis Centers -- most every community has one... They will be able to point her in the right direction... __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.