change in my girlfrend and having sex... need help - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

ledzep · 07-23-2004, 08:43 AM

we have been going out for a year and a half about. last summer we had sex like once or twice a day, and when she was on her period she would be more then glad to give me a blowjob.

lately it seems she never wants it EVER. we are lucky to have sex like once a month. it seems she never wants to give me a blowjob and when she does she acts like its the worst thing and keeps asking me how much longer it will take.

she teases me SO MUCH. she will rub my penis or take off her clothes infront of me and she knows it torchers me and then ill ask for sex and she will get mad.

i dont know what is it. by the way, im 19 and shes 17.

and at our young age i think that she would maybe be a little more horny especially that we were doing it so much last summer?

thanks for the help

SpikeQX99 · 07-23-2004, 08:51 AM

Not all teens are horny all the time...

Besides, maybe you shouldn't put so much emphasis on having sex? She's only 17 you know... I'm sure she's got other things on her mind than just making you cum on a daily basis.

If she's not putting it out, why don't you just rub one out??? You get to the same desired result right?

Or just ask her about what's going on. Communication is the key to long lasting relationships.

And just for the record... She's only 17 man, give it some time.

jaco · 07-23-2004, 08:57 AM

I don't see what age has to do with this problem considering the past experience. I would guess either its just the natural slackening of sex drive in relationships that you see past a one year mark or possibly emotional/hormonal problems.
Though i think a females perspective on this issue would be more welcome and accurate.

la petite moi · 07-23-2004, 09:07 AM

For one, you shouldn't be having sex with her because she's a minor and you've been an 'adult' for at least a year. Two years apart is not a good thing in the law's eyes, I'm pretty sure.

Anyway, enough with the rant- communication is key. Talk to her, instead of us. And maybe she feels like YOU'RE not putting out enough?!

Church · 07-23-2004, 09:22 AM

I think 17 and 19 is alright. If she were 16, that would be a different story. At least thats my understanding of it.

Redlemon · 07-23-2004, 09:26 AM

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Originally posted by Church
I think 17 and 19 is alright.

It would be best not to guess; the rules vary greatly. If we are talking about the USA, try Statutory Rape Laws by State

Peetster · 07-23-2004, 09:42 AM

While off topic, I think it's important to say that 17 and 19 is legal in most states. Check http://www.ageofconsent.com/ageofconsent.htm

maleficent · 07-23-2004, 09:50 AM

She was 15 when you started going out with her, she's 17 now -- a person and their attitudes can change a lot in that time frame. Never make an assumption about a person, just because she's a teenager, that she's got sex on the brain, she may have other things going on up there, like thinking about her future, or college plans...

Have a chat with her...

MSD · 07-23-2004, 09:54 PM

Maybe she's having some sort of problem that she isn't telling you about. It's possible that she thinks all you want out of the relationship is sex, or her sex drive might be way down due to medication. Talk to her.

Aladdin Sane · 07-24-2004, 03:52 AM

Have you considered talking to her about it?

When I was 19 my gf was 17. She was incredibly horny all the time. We had sex at least twice a day.

ibis · 07-24-2004, 10:20 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by la petite moi
For one, you shouldn't be having sex with her because she's a minor and you've been an 'adult' for at least a year. Two years apart is not a good thing in the law's eyes, I'm pretty sure.

Anyway, enough with the rant- communication is key. Talk to her, instead of us. And maybe she feels like YOU'RE not putting out enough?!

Depend on the state you live in. Different states have different ages of consent.

Check out this site:
http://www.actwin.com/eatonohio/gay/consent.htm

ibis · 07-24-2004, 10:24 AM

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Originally posted by Peetster
While off topic, I think it's important to say that 17 and 19 is legal in most states. Check http://www.ageofconsent.com/ageofconsent.htm

Damn, you beat me to it.

Jim Kata · 07-24-2004, 06:26 PM

What's the best way to kill a woman's libido?

Marry her.

Or in this case be in a long term relationship. It seems everybody I know has been put on (pardon my french (why is that the term anyways?)) "pussy probation". Me, my boss, 3 of my friends, and it looks like a few people here. There must be some type of conspiracy.

Anyways....try talking to her. That will probably change her for a month or so, and then it will be back to another dry spell....so goes the cycle.

Bottom line is that talking to her about it may help...it may not, but most likely will help you understand why you are on the pussy probation.

P.S. I know not everyone is like this, but thats how it is with some of the people I have talked to about this subject.

lordares · 07-24-2004, 10:19 PM

I'm in the same *exact* situation
same ages
2.5 years together
first year was heavy sex
the second year was *no* sex
this 1/2 year i finally got her back into it, about once every other month

I dont know what to tell you..
my girl is quite depressed and her parents havent had sex or even slept in the same room in ~10 years, real complicated, she has no interest in sex usually... porn (lesbians) turn her on, but once she is turned on, she likes some deep cock

the teasing problem, you definitely need to talk to her about it, i've gone through that same bs..

advice given to me: RUN FROM HER.

I'm a sensitive puss bag so I don't leave my girl for not understanding my needs, but to each his own.

good luck.

Holo · 07-25-2004, 07:11 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Jim Kata
What's the best way to kill a woman's libido?

Marry her.

Or in this case be in a long term relationship. It seems everybody I know has been put on (pardon my french (why is that the term anyways?)) "pussy probation". Me, my boss, 3 of my friends, and it looks like a few people here. There must be some type of conspiracy.

Amen brother! I've read this and I still don't understand why this has to happen. I just think a lot of women figure they got you once you seriously commit or they "test your love" by taking away or severly diminishing your sex life.

Anyways....try talking to her. That will probably change her for a month or so, and then it will be back to another dry spell....so goes the cycle.

Yeah, I wouldn't worry until this is something that goes on more than 6 months or so. Then if you find sex is even less frequent and you can't deal then break it off.

Bottom line is that talking to her about it may help...it may not, but most likely will help you understand why you are on the pussy probation.

Talk to her...but dont' bring it up too often if the talk doesn't yield answers and it continues. The more you hound the more she'll pull away sexually. Have a talk once and let it drop and just be a bf and do the things you were doing before. If she comes around she'll do it on her own.

P.S. I know not everyone is like this, but thats how it is with some of the people I have talked to about this subject.

Toecutter · 07-25-2004, 09:14 AM

Teenage girls by nature are clinically insane. Does she have a friend who's willing? Do you have a female friend who might have that special ache for you? You're too young to be putting up with that bullshit. Go out and get all the poonanny you can get (with no strings!!!!). Sounds like you girls is playing mind games with you, time to change up. IMHO

crow_daw · 07-25-2004, 10:23 AM

Well my girlfriend is seventeen too, and we go through our little spells. Our record is five times in one day. And we'll go through stages where we fuck every day, more often than not twice a day. And then we go through stages where we fuck once a week. It just depends I guess. Things in life fluctuate. I wouldn't worry about it yet.

The Phenomenon · 07-27-2004, 03:02 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by la petite moi
For one, you shouldn't be having sex with her because she's a minor and you've been an 'adult' for at least a year. Two years apart is not a good thing in the law's eyes, I'm pretty sure.

Anyway, enough with the rant- communication is key. Talk to her, instead of us. And maybe she feels like YOU'RE not putting out enough?!

Age of concent is 16 here, so what he did is not Illegal, atleast not over here.

Doos · 07-27-2004, 03:55 AM

From a physiological view, all that fucking from age 15 cannot be good for her. And this is a time of tremendous change in a girl's life, sex is just complicating things further.

My advice, if you want to fuck now, fuck someone else; preferably older than you; it'll be good. And if you really love her and want to fuck her only, you'll wait.

The Phenomenon · 07-27-2004, 07:00 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Doos
From a physiological view, all that fucking from age 15 cannot be good for her. And this is a time of tremendous change in a girl's life, sex is just complicating things further.

My advice, if you want to fuck now, fuck someone else; preferably older than you; it'll be good. And if you really love her and want to fuck her only, you'll wait.

w00t! A fellow South African!

Prince · 07-27-2004, 12:25 PM

Sounds like she's either bored with you, or simply the long-term feel of the relationship has finally set in. You can always dump her, if you are not willing to ride this out and see where you land, or you can play some mind games - which I personally do not approve of, but it does seem to me that when women become too accustomed to the stability of the relationship, they begin to take you for granted. Essentially, they realize that whether they give it up or not, you're still gonna be there to fix the car. Don't be that man.

07-23-2004, 08:43 AM	#1 (permalink)
ledzep Upright	change in my girlfrend and having sex... need help we have been going out for a year and a half about. last summer we had sex like once or twice a day, and when she was on her period she would be more then glad to give me a blowjob. lately it seems she never wants it EVER. we are lucky to have sex like once a month. it seems she never wants to give me a blowjob and when she does she acts like its the worst thing and keeps asking me how much longer it will take. she teases me SO MUCH. she will rub my penis or take off her clothes infront of me and she knows it torchers me and then ill ask for sex and she will get mad. i dont know what is it. by the way, im 19 and shes 17. and at our young age i think that she would maybe be a little more horny especially that we were doing it so much last summer? thanks for the help

07-23-2004, 08:51 AM	#2 (permalink)
SpikeQX99 The Best thing that never happened to you Location: Silverdale, WA	Not all teens are horny all the time... Besides, maybe you shouldn't put so much emphasis on having sex? She's only 17 you know... I'm sure she's got other things on her mind than just making you cum on a daily basis. If she's not putting it out, why don't you just rub one out??? You get to the same desired result right? Or just ask her about what's going on. Communication is the key to long lasting relationships. And just for the record... She's only 17 man, give it some time. __________________ I'm so in love with a girl... she is my everything

07-23-2004, 08:57 AM	#3 (permalink)
jaco Crazy	I don't see what age has to do with this problem considering the past experience. I would guess either its just the natural slackening of sex drive in relationships that you see past a one year mark or possibly emotional/hormonal problems. Though i think a females perspective on this issue would be more welcome and accurate. __________________ "How soft your fields so green, Can whisper tales of gore" "Thou art god"

07-23-2004, 09:22 AM	#5 (permalink)
Church Tilted F*ckhead Location: New Jersey	I think 17 and 19 is alright. If she were 16, that would be a different story. At least thats my understanding of it. __________________ Through counter-intelligence, it should be possible to pinpoint potential trouble makers, and neutralize them.

07-23-2004, 09:50 AM	#8 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	She was 15 when you started going out with her, she's 17 now -- a person and their attitudes can change a lot in that time frame. Never make an assumption about a person, just because she's a teenager, that she's got sex on the brain, she may have other things going on up there, like thinking about her future, or college plans... Have a chat with her... __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.

07-23-2004, 09:07 AM	#4 (permalink)
la petite moi Filling the Void. Location: California	For one, you shouldn't be having sex with her because she's a minor and you've been an 'adult' for at least a year. Two years apart is not a good thing in the law's eyes, I'm pretty sure. Anyway, enough with the rant- communication is key. Talk to her, instead of us. And maybe she feels like YOU'RE not putting out enough?!

07-23-2004, 09:42 AM	#7 (permalink)
Peetster Right Now Location: Home	While off topic, I think it's important to say that 17 and 19 is legal in most states. Check http://www.ageofconsent.com/ageofconsent.htm

07-23-2004, 09:54 PM	#9 (permalink)
MSD The sky calls to us ... Super Moderator Location: CT	Maybe she's having some sort of problem that she isn't telling you about. It's possible that she thinks all you want out of the relationship is sex, or her sex drive might be way down due to medication. Talk to her.

07-24-2004, 03:52 AM	#10 (permalink)
Aladdin Sane Degenerate Location: San Marvelous	Have you considered talking to her about it? When I was 19 my gf was 17. She was incredibly horny all the time. We had sex at least twice a day. __________________ Ceterum censeo Carthaginem esse delendam.

07-24-2004, 06:26 PM	#13 (permalink)
Jim Kata Swollen Member Location: Northern VA	What's the best way to kill a woman's libido? Marry her. Or in this case be in a long term relationship. It seems everybody I know has been put on (pardon my french (why is that the term anyways?)) "pussy probation". Me, my boss, 3 of my friends, and it looks like a few people here. There must be some type of conspiracy. Anyways....try talking to her. That will probably change her for a month or so, and then it will be back to another dry spell....so goes the cycle. Bottom line is that talking to her about it may help...it may not, but most likely will help you understand why you are on the pussy probation. P.S. I know not everyone is like this, but thats how it is with some of the people I have talked to about this subject.

07-24-2004, 10:19 PM	#14 (permalink)
lordares Upright	I'm in the same exact situation same ages 2.5 years together first year was heavy sex the second year was no sex this 1/2 year i finally got her back into it, about once every other month I dont know what to tell you.. my girl is quite depressed and her parents havent had sex or even slept in the same room in ~10 years, real complicated, she has no interest in sex usually... porn (lesbians) turn her on, but once she is turned on, she likes some deep cock the teasing problem, you definitely need to talk to her about it, i've gone through that same bs.. advice given to me: RUN FROM HER. I'm a sensitive puss bag so I don't leave my girl for not understanding my needs, but to each his own. good luck.

07-25-2004, 09:14 AM	#16 (permalink)
Toecutter Tilted Location: Montana	Teenage girls by nature are clinically insane. Does she have a friend who's willing? Do you have a female friend who might have that special ache for you? You're too young to be putting up with that bullshit. Go out and get all the poonanny you can get (with no strings!!!!). Sounds like you girls is playing mind games with you, time to change up. IMHO

07-25-2004, 10:23 AM	#17 (permalink)
crow_daw Idolator Location: Vol Country	Well my girlfriend is seventeen too, and we go through our little spells. Our record is five times in one day. And we'll go through stages where we fuck every day, more often than not twice a day. And then we go through stages where we fuck once a week. It just depends I guess. Things in life fluctuate. I wouldn't worry about it yet. __________________ "We each have a star, all we have to do is find it. Once you do, everyone who sees it will be blinded." - Earl Simmons

07-27-2004, 03:55 AM	#19 (permalink)
Doos Crazy Location: South Africa	From a physiological view, all that fucking from age 15 cannot be good for her. And this is a time of tremendous change in a girl's life, sex is just complicating things further. My advice, if you want to fuck now, fuck someone else; preferably older than you; it'll be good. And if you really love her and want to fuck her only, you'll wait. __________________ Don't be alarmed, I'm an African. Conscience is what hurts when everything else feels good.

07-27-2004, 12:25 PM	#21 (permalink)
Prince /nɑndəsˈkrɪpt/ Location: LV-426	Sounds like she's either bored with you, or simply the long-term feel of the relationship has finally set in. You can always dump her, if you are not willing to ride this out and see where you land, or you can play some mind games - which I personally do not approve of, but it does seem to me that when women become too accustomed to the stability of the relationship, they begin to take you for granted. Essentially, they realize that whether they give it up or not, you're still gonna be there to fix the car. Don't be that man. __________________ Who is John Galt?