Arsenic7

....without orgazm?

I say yes.

A few nights ago me and my girl got really turned on and I was determined to please her. We screwed for around an hour until she came and promptly slumped down onto her face (we were doing it doggy style.)

She wanted me to come to but I didn't have the energy, I had put everything I had into pleasing her and guess what...

...I felt fantastic.

Similiar situation last night. We had GREAT sex for an hour and a half in about 5 different positions. Felt great, I came twice which I rarely do.

Sadly, my girl wasn't quite able to make it happen for herself but she agreed it was some of the best sex we've had.

So again...

Can you have great sex without orgazm?

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ratbastid

No question about it. Sex is a journey, not a destination.

If you treat sex like it's all about the orgasm (note the spelling, btw), you're missing out on 90% of the fun.

jaco

I concur with ratbastid, to me its better to be doing the action than finishing.

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tooth

A resounding YES!

While fucking hard and having an intense orgasm can be awsome. I can have just as much of a mind-blowing experience when we spend a hour or two making love, whether or not I cum.

Dwayne

You can have amazing sex with out an orgasm, but its sort of not as good. The orgasm is basically the fun ending to a great time.

repeater

I agree, the orgasm is always nice, but not always necessary.

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Esco

Orasms are very nice ... but it's the shared intimate moment that makes the whole experience special.

I say yes.

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*Nikki*

Maybe I am selfish, but I feel "complete" after sex with an orgasam.

Sex with no orgasm?? Leaves me wanting one.

ruggerp11

Yes! The girl I am talking to said that the other day. "sometimes I just like to get fucked and don't really care about the happy ending"

fair enough.

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yes, i have- it's a mental thing. I enjoy every minute of it, not just focusing on an orgasm.

ngdawg

yes-sometimes it becomes more of a chore than an enjoyment if there's only the goal of orgasm in mind. best sex I ever had was orgasmless for me...but the sheer fun and joy of being together was overwhelming.

Arsenic7

Kind of what my experience was last night. She was just so into it that the orgasm ceased to matter.

Still, I think I'll go buy a more powerful vibe for her so we can complete the experience next time around.

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xxSquirtxx

Does she have difficulty achieving orgasm? If so, I'm wondering if a more powerful vibrator will further desensitize her. Making orgasm by less powerful means nearly impossible?

Kazic

Your damn rights you can. Its all about the feeling and the excitement and the feelings and the yeah, its all good.

Not saying the orgasm isn't great but the fun of kissing and the rolling around together is awesome.

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ibis

OH sure. My girlfriend isn't on birth control yet. So... it's nothing but condoms for me. Unfortunetly, I can never finish with a condom. At first this really disappointed me - but I've gotten used to it.

It's not as bad as it sounds really, I get to focus more on other sensations.

Our sex is wonderfull, even if I don't orgasm.

*** thank god for blow jobs ***

Kalnaur

Yes, yes indeed you can.

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ultra_agent9

Ditto. Sometimes I feel that I'm about to come so I slow down or stop just so I can extend the fantastic feeling of sex.

"Orgazm?" Incorrect spelling but I love your thinking.

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joeb1

This all depends on your outlook of the person, yourself, and situation before the act.

It's all about the connection....

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Average_Joe

I agree that great sex can happen without orgasm. Usuallyafter we both come, the sex is over, and sometimes I wish I didn't come because I didn't want the experience to end.

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anti fishstick

Of course. You shouldn't concentrate on having an orgasm. How can you enjoy something when you want something else that hasn't happened yet? I enjoy every moment of sex, including afterwards when I hold him in my arms. Sex is good to me regardless if I come or not. But lately, I always do.

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Arsenic7

I'm not asking if sex is enjoyable BEFORE the orgasm...I'm asking if it can be considered great without orgasming at all...even at the end. A few of you don't seem to get that.

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tooth

I get it. You can definitely have great sex without finishing.

anti fishstick

i get it too and my answer was yes

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Arsenic7

Well maybe i wasn't talking about you

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Kalnaur

I got it, and my answer was and is yes, sir.

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Xapphire

Definitely, though sometimes I just need that release at the end, but Jaid and I have had great amazing killer sex that didn't result in orgasm, for either of us and it was still great amazing killer sex!

Dawson70

I have no idea. I'll have to ask my wife.....

Tastless joke...I'm sure I'll pay for this one later!

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ariekitten

yes, yes indeed you can. i have never gotten an O from sex.....and most of the sex i've had, i can say was great! it's all about having fun and really getting into it. being into the person you're with and all.

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scarletletter

OK, now that was definitly me...

repeater

Of course you can. For guys it doesn't seem to happen nearly as often but I've still had great sex where she's come and I didn't. It's hard to explain that to the other person though sometimes.

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Well, now that I'm horny...

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Talon Valdez

Resoundingly, yes you can. It helps if you actually have a strong connection with your partner of course, but it's possible without having that.

Also yes, I agree with Repeater it can be incredibly awkward trying to convince your partner that you're ok with it, especially if you're new together.

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plyswellwthself

well this goes along the same lines, what about having AWESOME sex amazing great sex but he can't finish without be jacked. He can't finish inside? anyone got any answers. Not that it's a problem just curious??????

Nancy

Of course! I often get more satisfied by sex than the orgasm

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DigitalD17

See, that's a strange little thing there. I can have great sex without orgasm, but my gf always ends up cumming left and right. (She's really good at getting long strings of multiples going). I feel wonderful every time I get her off, and usually get so into it I can't bring myself to orgasm myself.

Meier_Link

Sorry, but unless I orgasm I don't think that from my perspective I can say the sex is great. I mean it's like building up to something and then just abandoning it. I guess if I came once and then kept it up and went for awhile longer without cumming again, that could be considered great sex still. If she told me she didn't cum I don't think I could cosider it great sex either... Just great for me maybe.

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