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BuDDaH · 07-01-2004, 12:48 PM

Peet, you got to understand, ShaniFaye HAS a different taste in her sexual preferences...

ShaniFaye · 07-01-2004, 12:54 PM

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Originally posted by Peetster
Say what now? Your statements are diometrically oppossed to your sig.

If you understand my sig is a blowjob reference no they arent

ShaniFaye · 07-01-2004, 12:55 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by BuDDaH
Peet, you got to understand, ShaniFaye HAS a different taste in her sexual preferences...

I'm not quite sure I understand what you meant by that

fearwall · 07-01-2004, 12:56 PM

To me, sounds like you are both a little in the wrong.

His attitude about it is pretty immature, but his "demands" are pretty easily met.

All it takes is a wake up BJ that he wasn't expecting or for you to be fired up and ready to go every now and then without any work on his part. He isn't wanting to forego the foreplay each and every time, it's just some times he wants a little nookie without working for it.

My wife can be frustrating at times. She'll be emotionally fired up for sex - but because of her depo shot the pluming isn't always cooperative. Short of busting out the lubes it can take up to 30 minutes of "tongue time" to get the juices going. If you have to routinely do that as a guy, it can get frustrating.

She repays me for my efforts with an unsolicited BJ while I'm just sitting on the couch or browsing the web. She knows that it takes work to get her going at times and that she appreciates the work that I have to put into it.

You never know - simple little things like that may make him quickly forget about this...or at the very least much less of an issue than it is.

lady · 07-01-2004, 01:11 PM

Trust me, he gets 'unsolicited bj's' all the time. I don't know if this will make sense, but he doesn't consider bj's as "sex". It only counts if we have intercourse.

*shrugs*

fearwall · 07-01-2004, 01:53 PM

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Originally posted by lady
Trust me, he gets 'unsolicited bj's' all the time. I don't know if this will make sense, but he doesn't consider bj's as "sex". It only counts if we have intercourse.

*shrugs*

Unless you are Bill Clinton, a hummer get's scored down in the "sex" column in my book. He's getting off without putting any work into it, which is exactly what he wanted. That covers most of his "demands" in my opinion.

Like I said about my wife - sometimes it IS frustrating having to spend a lot of time (and by this I'm saying like half an hour or longer) to get her fired up for intercourse. But, if you care for the person, it's something you do to make them happy. We aren't huge into lubes so we don't use them to expodite things as easily as it could be.

It just sounds like he views sex as more a chore than a pleasure. Do you guys use anything to make foreplay any more fun? Toys, oils, drinks, food?

Just to kind of mix it up and make it not so monotonous? For toys, something as simple as a little vibriting pellet for him to use on you will give him something to play around with while giving you a little kickstart along the way.

Or if you wanted to bust out the heavy artillery, you could pick up a hitachi magic wand for him to use to give you a massage and then "soften up" other areas to get your ready and in the mood.

Dunno...I'm just throwing out some suggestions that work well for my wife and I.

BuDDaH · 07-01-2004, 03:24 PM

Last time I looked, it took two to tango.

So it looks like what supposed to be a "50 - 50" job, isnt...

lady · 07-01-2004, 03:49 PM

not sure what you're saying buddah

ShaniFaye · 07-01-2004, 04:05 PM

I clarified with Buddah to make sure we were on the same page...he was referring to my BDSM lifestyle

Peetster · 07-01-2004, 05:17 PM

After an extended conversation, where I mainly listened, I think I'm not in a position to comment. I'm sorry, and I retract it all.

If what I said hurt you, I apologize.

ShaniFaye · 07-01-2004, 05:25 PM

Peetster if that apology is for me its really not needed, You didnt know the meaning of my siggy.... but thank you...

07-01-2004, 12:48 PM	#41 (permalink)
BuDDaH The Matrix had a point... Moderator Emeritus Location: 10th Mountain ASB Fort Drum, N.Y.	Peet, you got to understand, ShaniFaye HAS a different taste in her sexual preferences... __________________ I'd hit that so hard whoever could pull me out would become King of England!

07-01-2004, 01:11 PM	#45 (permalink)
lady Addict Location: Vancouver, BC	Trust me, he gets 'unsolicited bj's' all the time. I don't know if this will make sense, but he doesn't consider bj's as "sex". It only counts if we have intercourse. shrugs __________________ Our doubts are traitors, And make us lose the good we oft might win By fearing to attempt.

07-01-2004, 03:24 PM	#47 (permalink)
BuDDaH The Matrix had a point... Moderator Emeritus Location: 10th Mountain ASB Fort Drum, N.Y.	Last time I looked, it took two to tango. So it looks like what supposed to be a "50 - 50" job, isnt... __________________ I'd hit that so hard whoever could pull me out would become King of England!

07-01-2004, 03:49 PM	#48 (permalink)
lady Addict Location: Vancouver, BC	not sure what you're saying buddah __________________ Our doubts are traitors, And make us lose the good we oft might win By fearing to attempt.

07-01-2004, 04:05 PM	#49 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	I clarified with Buddah to make sure we were on the same page...he was referring to my BDSM lifestyle __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

07-01-2004, 12:56 PM	#44 (permalink)
fearwall Upright Location: Bum Fuck Iowa	To me, sounds like you are both a little in the wrong. His attitude about it is pretty immature, but his "demands" are pretty easily met. All it takes is a wake up BJ that he wasn't expecting or for you to be fired up and ready to go every now and then without any work on his part. He isn't wanting to forego the foreplay each and every time, it's just some times he wants a little nookie without working for it. My wife can be frustrating at times. She'll be emotionally fired up for sex - but because of her depo shot the pluming isn't always cooperative. Short of busting out the lubes it can take up to 30 minutes of "tongue time" to get the juices going. If you have to routinely do that as a guy, it can get frustrating. She repays me for my efforts with an unsolicited BJ while I'm just sitting on the couch or browsing the web. She knows that it takes work to get her going at times and that she appreciates the work that I have to put into it. You never know - simple little things like that may make him quickly forget about this...or at the very least much less of an issue than it is.

07-01-2004, 05:17 PM	#50 (permalink)
Peetster Right Now Location: Home	After an extended conversation, where I mainly listened, I think I'm not in a position to comment. I'm sorry, and I retract it all. If what I said hurt you, I apologize.

07-01-2004, 05:25 PM	#51 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	Peetster if that apology is for me its really not needed, You didnt know the meaning of my siggy.... but thank you... __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*