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Originally posted by lady
Trust me, he gets 'unsolicited bj's' all the time. I don't know if this will make sense, but he doesn't consider bj's as "sex". It only counts if we have intercourse.
*shrugs*
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Unless you are Bill Clinton, a hummer get's scored down in the "sex" column in my book. He's getting off without putting any work into it, which is exactly what he wanted. That covers most of his "demands" in my opinion.
Like I said about my wife - sometimes it IS frustrating having to spend a lot of time (and by this I'm saying like half an hour or longer) to get her fired up for intercourse. But, if you care for the person, it's something you do to make them happy. We aren't huge into lubes so we don't use them to expodite things as easily as it could be.
It just sounds like he views sex as more a chore than a pleasure. Do you guys use anything to make foreplay any more fun? Toys, oils, drinks, food?
Just to kind of mix it up and make it not so monotonous? For toys, something as simple as a little vibriting pellet for him to use on you will give him something to play around with while giving you a little kickstart along the way.
Or if you wanted to bust out the heavy artillery, you could pick up a hitachi magic wand for him to use to give you a massage and then "soften up" other areas to get your ready and in the mood.
Dunno...I'm just throwing out some suggestions that work well for my wife and I.