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st33lr4t · 06-18-2004, 08:19 AM

this is inspired by What do you look for in a mate

while dating how important is your mates salary? if you are all ready connected on a physical and mental level how important is their salary?

i just came out of a relationship and have been doing alot of thinking. one day while feeling sorry for myself that i lost this wonderful girl i mentioned to a friend that we would have had a great future together as i have a well paying job and so did she (yes there was more to the relationship).

so again if your mate had a crappy paying job BUT you were connected mentally and physically could you see yourself in a longterm relationship with them?

***edit***
lets focus on salary and not job type.

Church · 06-18-2004, 08:38 AM

Sure, jobs can change. However, say they had no post secondary education, then I may think twice.

maleficent · 06-18-2004, 08:53 AM

I'm going to get accused of being a gold digger, which I am not... however, job? doesn't matter? Salary, I'd prefer that he made as much or slightly more than I do.

One of the last guys I dated, made a lot less than I did. He liked what he did, and he was good at it, but it was just never going to pay a lot. nature of the job. Job satisfaction is important and that matters more than salary, to a point.

He used to complain incessantly, that going out to dinner would cost x amount of dollars (I'm not high maintenace at all, but don't even try McDonalds for me) Going Dutch was just too weird for me, and if I picked up the check (which also got to be a bit much for me after a while) he'd feel odd.

I dated another guy who made a lot more money than I did, his idea of fun was to go to Vegas for the weekend, or to the islands. Yah, once in a while it's great, but I can't afford that every other weekend, and some weekends I just want to stay home and do laundry.

Job doesn't matter any. Equivelent lifestyle and ability to support that lifestyle does.

la petite moi · 06-18-2004, 01:31 PM

Like Maleficent said, it's about the lifestyle more than the job salary. If they make a lot of money, it might go to their head too. I think it's better to leave that out of the relationship and focus on how compatible you are.
However, if your mate makes NO money or hardly tries, that could signify lack of motivation.

pig · 06-18-2004, 01:55 PM

In short, yes I could. However, I concur with Mal's point to the extent that I think it's much more probable that you'll ckick on a physical and emotional level with someone that has a similar ability to care for themselves as you do, and similar lifestyle expectations. I've seen the exception to the rule work out, but it usually involves a lot of discussion and people coming to terms with their egos and expectation.

I only date hot rich slutty women, so I kind of expect to have cool gifts bestowed on me and lots of fun kinky sex.

/sarcasm

06-18-2004, 08:19 AM	#1 (permalink)
st33lr4t Psycho Location: Dallas, Tx	your mates job. this is inspired by What do you look for in a mate while dating how important is your mates salary? if you are all ready connected on a physical and mental level how important is their salary? i just came out of a relationship and have been doing alot of thinking. one day while feeling sorry for myself that i lost this wonderful girl i mentioned to a friend that we would have had a great future together as i have a well paying job and so did she (yes there was more to the relationship). so again if your mate had a crappy paying job BUT you were connected mentally and physically could you see yourself in a longterm relationship with them? *edit* lets focus on salary and not job type. Last edited by st33lr4t; 06-18-2004 at 01:03 PM..

06-18-2004, 08:38 AM	#2 (permalink)
Church Tilted F*ckhead Location: New Jersey	Sure, jobs can change. However, say they had no post secondary education, then I may think twice. __________________ Through counter-intelligence, it should be possible to pinpoint potential trouble makers, and neutralize them.

06-18-2004, 08:53 AM	#3 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	I'm going to get accused of being a gold digger, which I am not... however, job? doesn't matter? Salary, I'd prefer that he made as much or slightly more than I do. One of the last guys I dated, made a lot less than I did. He liked what he did, and he was good at it, but it was just never going to pay a lot. nature of the job. Job satisfaction is important and that matters more than salary, to a point. He used to complain incessantly, that going out to dinner would cost x amount of dollars (I'm not high maintenace at all, but don't even try McDonalds for me) Going Dutch was just too weird for me, and if I picked up the check (which also got to be a bit much for me after a while) he'd feel odd. I dated another guy who made a lot more money than I did, his idea of fun was to go to Vegas for the weekend, or to the islands. Yah, once in a while it's great, but I can't afford that every other weekend, and some weekends I just want to stay home and do laundry. Job doesn't matter any. Equivelent lifestyle and ability to support that lifestyle does. __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less. Last edited by maleficent; 06-18-2004 at 08:59 AM..

06-18-2004, 01:55 PM	#5 (permalink)
pig pigglet pigglet Location: Locash	In short, yes I could. However, I concur with Mal's point to the extent that I think it's much more probable that you'll ckick on a physical and emotional level with someone that has a similar ability to care for themselves as you do, and similar lifestyle expectations. I've seen the exception to the rule work out, but it usually involves a lot of discussion and people coming to terms with their egos and expectation. I only date hot rich slutty women, so I kind of expect to have cool gifts bestowed on me and lots of fun kinky sex. /sarcasm __________________ You don't love me, you just love my piggy style

06-18-2004, 01:31 PM	#4 (permalink)
la petite moi Filling the Void. Location: California	Like Maleficent said, it's about the lifestyle more than the job salary. If they make a lot of money, it might go to their head too. I think it's better to leave that out of the relationship and focus on how compatible you are. However, if your mate makes NO money or hardly tries, that could signify lack of motivation.