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Rudel73 · 06-10-2004, 05:51 PM

I've been feeling pretty depressed the last few days, recently broke up with my girlfriend and i have not been able to stop thinking about her. Seriously, i'll try as hard as i can but nothing can get my mind off of her! Its getting to a point where i really like dont want to go out with friends and stuff and just want to stay home and do nothing instead!

Do any of you guys have any tips about how i could possibly get my mind off of her? Its over and i want more than anything else to stop thinking about her its just so hard!

ibis · 06-10-2004, 06:07 PM

THis is on the second page:
http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthr...threadid=55244

My advice:
You've gotta try to occupy your time, if not you won't be able to stop thinking about her.

For me, it's excercising. The day I broke up with my G/F I added 10 pounds to my max bench press and otherwise had a wonderfull workout.

Hang out with your friends, they are invalueable right now.

My breakup happened just 2 or 3 days ago, so trust me. I know it's tuff but you must move on.

Good luck man.

Spidey · 06-10-2004, 06:30 PM

time heals, but to pass the time like ibis says occupy yourself, and if that doesn't work think about all the bad things about your girlfriend and why she wasn't the one meant for you. When it happened to me i just reminded myself of all the shit things she did to me and made me angry.

ibis · 06-10-2004, 10:05 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Spidey
When it happened to me i just reminded myself of all the shit things she did to me and made me angry.

True.

Man I caught hell for going to Hooters. The sad part was we got there 5 minutes before closing and they wouldn't even serve us.

Next chance I get, I'm there!

This is the stuff we get to look forward to

The.Lunatic · 06-11-2004, 12:03 AM

Umm, i dunno how adept you are with the ladies, but if you could go find yourslef a rebound girl.. not one to date or anything as it might be too soon for that. but just let her know your situation and she'll be all sympathetic, and suportive if not "more than supportive" I know it doesn't sound like what you wanna do, but it would help.

All other advice is true also.

Time heals all, but you suffer threw the rest.

I think my g/f is fixing to dump me.

so I should be in the same boat soon.

which is sketch to say because she reads these fourms, but i don't post that often so i bet she doesn't read this.

Kazic · 06-12-2004, 07:38 PM

I feel for you guys. I just got dumped myself and for sure, time does heal all wounds. I have a shit load of pain inside and the only thing I can hold onto is what I did to get here.
Without going to far into my own situation. I find that writing down what I am thinking helps. It keeps my thoughts on paper and for a bit out of my head. I do occupy my time with going to the gym and have started to gain my muscle back from all the stress and anxiety.
Another thing is I know right now staying home seems awsome and if I could I would too. But getting out will make the pain go away. soon the pain will be less and less. I look forward to when I go a whole day with no pain. Good luck man you are not alone.

And I want to thank you people at this forum. I see that alot of the things I am going through others are too. Situations differ but the end result is we are going some of the same things at the same time.
And I also notice alot of positive advice good to see that people are like that to one another.

em1014 · 06-13-2004, 01:12 PM

Like a couple other people have said... exercise is your friend (as well as your real friends of course). It gives you a goal to focus on and lets you burn off some extra steam. A good workout has also been proven to boost your mood. Also, if you went to a gym there would be other people to socialize with (people who you don't know and who you and your gf didn't hang out with). Besides, if you still can't think of anything other than your ex, at least you are getting a little more fit in the process.

If exercise isn't your thing... try to find something else productive to focus on. Just try not to get obsessed (It makes finding a new girl when your're ready difficult.)

Also, I'm not too sure how healthy it is to dwell on the bad things in your past relationships when trying to recover. Personally, I think it would make me doubt new relationships I entered. But hey...Different strokes for different folks!!

Good Luck!!

timalkin · 06-13-2004, 09:17 PM

I'll add to the exercise suggestion. I like to go on runs that last for miles and miles, until my body is hurting so bad that I can't possibly take another step. I'm too tired to think of anything but eating and sleeping when I'm done.

Just make sure you stretch before and after.

06-10-2004, 05:51 PM	#1 (permalink)
Rudel73 Psycho	Getting over a girl... I've been feeling pretty depressed the last few days, recently broke up with my girlfriend and i have not been able to stop thinking about her. Seriously, i'll try as hard as i can but nothing can get my mind off of her! Its getting to a point where i really like dont want to go out with friends and stuff and just want to stay home and do nothing instead! Do any of you guys have any tips about how i could possibly get my mind off of her? Its over and i want more than anything else to stop thinking about her its just so hard!

06-11-2004, 12:03 AM	#5 (permalink)
The.Lunatic Psycho Location: Somewhere just beyond the realm of sanity...	Umm, i dunno how adept you are with the ladies, but if you could go find yourslef a rebound girl.. not one to date or anything as it might be too soon for that. but just let her know your situation and she'll be all sympathetic, and suportive if not "more than supportive" I know it doesn't sound like what you wanna do, but it would help. All other advice is true also. Time heals all, but you suffer threw the rest. I think my g/f is fixing to dump me. so I should be in the same boat soon. which is sketch to say because she reads these fourms, but i don't post that often so i bet she doesn't read this. __________________ Proud memeber of the Insomniac Club.

06-12-2004, 07:38 PM	#6 (permalink)
Kazic Psycho Location: Fortress of Solitude	I feel for you guys. I just got dumped myself and for sure, time does heal all wounds. I have a shit load of pain inside and the only thing I can hold onto is what I did to get here. Without going to far into my own situation. I find that writing down what I am thinking helps. It keeps my thoughts on paper and for a bit out of my head. I do occupy my time with going to the gym and have started to gain my muscle back from all the stress and anxiety. Another thing is I know right now staying home seems awsome and if I could I would too. But getting out will make the pain go away. soon the pain will be less and less. I look forward to when I go a whole day with no pain. Good luck man you are not alone. And I want to thank you people at this forum. I see that alot of the things I am going through others are too. Situations differ but the end result is we are going some of the same things at the same time. And I also notice alot of positive advice good to see that people are like that to one another. __________________ "Computer games don't affect kids; I mean if Pac-Man affected us as kids,we'd all be running around in darkened rooms, munching magic pills and listening to repetitive electronic music." -Kristian Wilson, Nintendo, Inc, 1989

06-10-2004, 06:07 PM	#2 (permalink)
ibis PIKE!	THis is on the second page: http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthr...threadid=55244 My advice: You've gotta try to occupy your time, if not you won't be able to stop thinking about her. For me, it's excercising. The day I broke up with my G/F I added 10 pounds to my max bench press and otherwise had a wonderfull workout. Hang out with your friends, they are invalueable right now. My breakup happened just 2 or 3 days ago, so trust me. I know it's tuff but you must move on. Good luck man.

06-10-2004, 06:30 PM	#3 (permalink)
Spidey Crazy Location: Wellington, New Zealand	time heals, but to pass the time like ibis says occupy yourself, and if that doesn't work think about all the bad things about your girlfriend and why she wasn't the one meant for you. When it happened to me i just reminded myself of all the shit things she did to me and made me angry.

06-13-2004, 01:12 PM	#7 (permalink)
em1014 Crazy	Like a couple other people have said... exercise is your friend (as well as your real friends of course). It gives you a goal to focus on and lets you burn off some extra steam. A good workout has also been proven to boost your mood. Also, if you went to a gym there would be other people to socialize with (people who you don't know and who you and your gf didn't hang out with). Besides, if you still can't think of anything other than your ex, at least you are getting a little more fit in the process. If exercise isn't your thing... try to find something else productive to focus on. Just try not to get obsessed (It makes finding a new girl when your're ready difficult.) Also, I'm not too sure how healthy it is to dwell on the bad things in your past relationships when trying to recover. Personally, I think it would make me doubt new relationships I entered. But hey...Different strokes for different folks!! Good Luck!!

06-13-2004, 09:17 PM	#8 (permalink)
timalkin Addict Location: watching from the treeline	I'll add to the exercise suggestion. I like to go on runs that last for miles and miles, until my body is hurting so bad that I can't possibly take another step. I'm too tired to think of anything but eating and sleeping when I'm done. Just make sure you stretch before and after.