Ogre840

aight i got a question... like you didnt know that all ready...

I was in choir and there was this girl. we would make eye contact, smile and do that shy giggle shit that you see in the movies. finnally i got tired of it and asked her for her #, and got rejected... "sorry i dont usually give out my number"...

so now im in the musical at my school, and so is she. I catch her looking at me in the same way that she did before, but im playing it off like "yeah, i tried..."

so now i have a question... do girls really act this way if they are not interested or what. Or is there a chance i could hook up with this girl? would it even be worth trying?

this girl is not just cute, shes gorgeous, and beautiful, she haunts my dreams, and most of my thoughts (yeah i know i sound cheesey, but its true)

should i just move along, and worry about another girl that im working my charm on (i think i have an even longer shot though, even though i actually talk to this one lol)?

theres more to the story too, if you need that information... this is just the main points...

bigoldalphamale

choir girl wants to be fucked. period. if she doesnt give out her number, then just make plans with her in person, ie "...ok great, so i will meet you somewhere at 8pm this friday." if that doesnt work. you could either curb her ass, or simply give her YOUR number and tell her to call if she ever wants to go out...and then go back to working on your other long shot.

JStrider

i think bigoldalphamale prolly has it right...
she prolly is trying to make you work for it... which would bug me...

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TrollInvestigtr

find out who her friends are and ask one of them out instead. watch how fast she comes around.

TrollInvestigtr

oh and as soon as a girl says "sorry i dont usually give out my number" always reply "thats ok i ususally dont ask for girls numbers either. but i took a chance with you so how about you take a chance with me" they eat that shit up

Ogre840

damn having to be all smooth and able to think on my feet...

i can try some of them now... but her friends are no where near cute... kinda sad... for them...

clockworkgreen

I think the line about giving her your number is money. It's at least initiation, and it get things off your plate...

Radio Monk33

I wouldnt pursue her...I'm thinking attention whore.

Her loss right?

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Daval

instead of going for the number first, why not try becoming freinds with her first. talk to her, joke around with her. After she see's your a cool guy she may decide your worth pursuing.

start slow.

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Ogre840

aight, all good advice.

but now her friend has been talking to me randomly at practice and i joke with her (trying that whole friends with her friends thing i guess, or maybe her friends doing some recon work for her...) so ive been playing it smooth with her. along with that i see her friends looking at me and trying to judge my character by my actions when im at rehersals, and in the other classes i have with her friends (choir).

i dunno, its getting confusing, and kinda depressing. starting to have those weird as dreams, wondering if im just being obsessive, and if so im hoping it ends soon... thanks for all the help guys! and probably girls !

reverendjay

Musicals, Choirs? I take it this is High School then. Your hormones are running rampant, that's where the dreams come from, so don't worry about waking up one day to find yourself stalking her.

It sounds like she's being coy and flirtatious, which is fairly typical of HS girls that are cute. You may have to face the realization that she's getting nailed on the side by some college dude though...

Eh, if she's worth it to you, pursue it until it's dead. The worst she can say is no, right? If she's not worth it, it sounds like her 'not quite pretty' friend is interested. Which reminds me, Beautiful girls that surround themselves with not-so-beautiful girls tend to be two things. Vain and Attention Starved. Be careful.

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analog

Took the words out of my mouth- as soon as you said her friends weren't attractive, it sent up the big red flag. They also sometimes tend to be VERY high-maintenance, since they're used to being followed around and listened to all the time by their "friends" trying to look cool by being with the "hot" girl.

Be direct. This kind of girl is not your coy, naive little princess, she is a fully-intentioned, gets-what-she-wants type. Tell her what you want, be firm, but do it as smooth as you can pull off. DO NOT waver. If she starts asking you questions, don't let yourself down-shift into being answering questions evasively- "oh, i don't know" or "why don't you tell me?" stuff like that. The word here really is DIRECT.

This only works for this type of girl, don't try this on any other type. Not valid in Canada- void where prohibited. Made in America.

Ogre840

its not high school, its college...

but she could still be stuck in high school mode, i know a few people like that, even I have my moments that I wish I could have the carefree days of high school (looking back they were carefree, if i had only known then...)

shadowmaster

i say go for it. Just watch out, don't give it to much hope. Hope is good, but to much can be a very bad thing.

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fienna

awesome advice - i'm behind analog 100%

with girls like this - it's all or nothing. when she said "i don't usually give out my number" it's time to say something like "i think you should make an exception in my case" or maybe "i'm not a usual guy" or SOMETHING to differentiate yourself from the rest of the world...

don't be a guy who wants to be better then he is - be a guy who IS better then he is

confidence is KEY.

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