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Xsas · 05-07-2004, 01:09 AM

Okay, so, I was thinking, lately (past year+) I've been really bitter, and all hopes of romantic love or whatever have been totally lost. I've just been going on casual hookups and never really tried to delve into the emotional side of relationships.

But lately, I've been thinking, what if there is some kind of connection beyond just physical attraction, like, I could really trust someone and get to know her better, even after all the initial liking (which may or may not be one-sided, you don't know).
So you sit and ponder, talk to her everyday, and you think things are going great. So then you tell her how you really feel.

And then she says she just wants to be friends.

(This post is meant to say that although I'm bitter, I still hope that there can be something more than just hookups, but if you try to get too far (emotionally), the girl will let you fall right back onto your ass.)

fallenangel · 05-07-2004, 12:58 PM

everyone has bitter periods where you feel lost and really don't know how you want to feel or how you're supposed to feel because quite honestly, you can't control either.

Don't lose hope, without the rain, how can you appreciate the rainbow? Just keep holdin out hun... Don't make it the focus of your life, throw yourself into something else, and some day when you're least expecting it, BAM it'll hit you again. (or at least i hope for my own personal sanity)

kcgirl · 05-07-2004, 04:16 PM

When I was with my ex-boyfriend he didn'd tell me about his feelings for me, I thought the relationship was going nowhere, so I broke it off.

Now he tells me he loves me and he just didnt realize it when we were together.

I would have loved to have him tell me that when things still could have worked out. Don't loose hope, there are some girls out there that want relationships.

kurty[B] · 05-07-2004, 05:17 PM

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Originally posted by Xsas
But lately, I've been thinking, what if there is some kind of connection beyond just physical attraction, like, I could really trust someone and get to know her better, even after all the initial liking (which may or may not be one-sided, you don't know).
So you sit and ponder, talk to her everyday, and you think things are going great. So then you tell her how you really feel.

And then she says she just wants to be friends.

I was extremely bitter for a year or two, and ruined what could have been some completely wonderful relationships (straight used some lovely beautiful girls for my intentions, and then dropped them). I know I crushed a couple hearts (after having mine severely crushed). Now, for the last two years I've been wondering if I'm getting the reciprocity of that.

I've gotten to that point with a couple girls where I'm extremely attracted, like (wouldn't call it love, I'm hesitant to use that word anymore), and confide in these women. Yet, one of them when I expressed how I felt she did something similar. I can tell she watches me, and gets a kick at knowing how I feel (she hasn't told me how she feels towards me), but she also makes it clear we're just friends (which is actually more than fine with me, there's some other complications in there I won't go into). Although, with the other, I'm almost afriad to share my feelings. I don't know her all that well, and vice-versa, and I don't want to share how I feel just to have her say "I just want to be friends", because call me selfish, but that's not what I want.

I guess I should get over myself, and just tell her how I feel and accept the cards I'm dealt, but when you find someone so beautiful, so intelligent, and who actually has similar standards as yourself (unlike most women I've seemed to meet these last two years who simply lie, cheat and steal) I dunno, I'm rambling, but I know exactly how you feel Xsas.

Xsas · 05-07-2004, 07:29 PM

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Originally posted by kurty[B]
I've gotten to that point with a couple girls where I'm extremely attracted, like (wouldn't call it love, I'm hesitant to use that word anymore),

Yah, same.

I don't believe in love anymore, but I wish it were true.

Tuffy_McGee · 05-07-2004, 10:38 PM

For me, all women make me feel completely differently.
Some women dress slutty and want you to check out their big booty.
Some women just want to fuck with you.
BUT, The great thing is that some women not only are attractive and compelling, but they make you feel strong inside. I can already stay in shape and do my job, keep a house, etc. But some women make you feel really good inside. For these women you should go the extra mile. The extra thousand miles.
I think a lot of you guys know what I'm talking about.

05-07-2004, 01:09 AM	#1 (permalink)
Xsas Banned	Love/Liking Okay, so, I was thinking, lately (past year+) I've been really bitter, and all hopes of romantic love or whatever have been totally lost. I've just been going on casual hookups and never really tried to delve into the emotional side of relationships. But lately, I've been thinking, what if there is some kind of connection beyond just physical attraction, like, I could really trust someone and get to know her better, even after all the initial liking (which may or may not be one-sided, you don't know). So you sit and ponder, talk to her everyday, and you think things are going great. So then you tell her how you really feel. And then she says she just wants to be friends. (This post is meant to say that although I'm bitter, I still hope that there can be something more than just hookups, but if you try to get too far (emotionally), the girl will let you fall right back onto your ass.)

05-07-2004, 12:58 PM	#2 (permalink)
fallenangel soaring Location: near the water	everyone has bitter periods where you feel lost and really don't know how you want to feel or how you're supposed to feel because quite honestly, you can't control either. Don't lose hope, without the rain, how can you appreciate the rainbow? Just keep holdin out hun... Don't make it the focus of your life, throw yourself into something else, and some day when you're least expecting it, BAM it'll hit you again. (or at least i hope for my own personal sanity) __________________ all I wanna do is - give the best of me to you

05-07-2004, 04:16 PM	#3 (permalink)
kcgirl Upright	When I was with my ex-boyfriend he didn'd tell me about his feelings for me, I thought the relationship was going nowhere, so I broke it off. Now he tells me he loves me and he just didnt realize it when we were together. I would have loved to have him tell me that when things still could have worked out. Don't loose hope, there are some girls out there that want relationships.

05-07-2004, 10:38 PM	#6 (permalink)
Tuffy_McGee Crazy	For me, all women make me feel completely differently. Some women dress slutty and want you to check out their big booty. Some women just want to fuck with you. BUT, The great thing is that some women not only are attractive and compelling, but they make you feel strong inside. I can already stay in shape and do my job, keep a house, etc. But some women make you feel really good inside. For these women you should go the extra mile. The extra thousand miles. I think a lot of you guys know what I'm talking about.