cait987

Ok, Well I finally got the courage to ask this since its been bothering me for a long time ..

Pretty much, I have been concerned because alot of times when I ejaculate from mastrabation I dont really orgasm. I used to orgasm then one day I guess they just stopped orgasming?

I really dont know what caused it but I remember when I was younger I used to be able to do it easily now I just dont seem to orgasm anymore, now dont get me wrong it still feels good and so on its just I dont have the same feeling I used to get when mastrabating and its been concerning me Im wondering if there is something wrong or something?

The only real other disorder I have I guess is I sorta have a tight foreskin or something of the sort? When I ejaculate alot of times the semen wont all come out and it will just sorta dribble out.

(im uncircumsized btw)

anyone got any advice or anything Ide really prefere to avoid a cirumcision or something of the sort ..

ringla

As far as the tight foreskin goes, there's really nothing you can do but go to a doctor and get... well you know... *snip snip*. As far as the orgasm bit goes, your best bet is to find a partner. I understand it's easier than done but I can say I've had this problem. I very very very rarely orgasm while masturbating but when I'm with the girlfriend... no problems . Try it out and let me know what happens.

P.S. It's one of those mental things. Just stop giving a flying fuck and it'll be one of those things that'll happen when you least expect it.

Rlyss

As for the tight foreskin, you don't need to get circumsized to clear up that problem. And yes, I do think it is a problem. When you're erect your foreskin should either already be retracted past the head, or you should be able to do it manually with no pain. If you can't retract it that far you're going to get all sorts of gunk building up in there. What you probably have is called phimosis.

I had the same problem, and got it checked out. The doctor prescribed me a cream to put on a few times per day and to keep gently retracting it and the skin will stretch. After a few weeks you'll have no problems. Go to a doctor for a quick, five minute check up and it'll be smooth sailing.

Since you didn't mention ejaculating during sex I take it you're either not having sex or this problem is only related to masturbation. If it's the former then if you don't do anything about your tight foreskin it might rip when it's pulled back if you're thrusting in and out while having sex, and that would be very painful.

And finally, if it's because this only happens during masturbation, and not during sex, then it sounds to me like you do it too often and, like anything repetitive, it's probably just getting a little dull. Your senses might be dulled because of the strength of your grip (nowhere near as soft as a vagina!), so the pleasure just isn't as big as when you were younger.

My advice is exactly the same as the advice someone else on these boards gave me a long time ago when I posted one of my very first posts, which, believe it or not, was almost the exact question you've asked: quit masturbating for a few weeks and regain you sensitivity (don't worry, it comes back, it's not lost!), use a looser grip and, if you have a partner, play with them more than with yourself

Polyphobic

I second that advice. This occasionally happens to me and I just quit for a while. When you come back to it after a few weeks the experience comes back (and then some). Another way to tell if you are just plain worn out is the amount you ejaculate. If it is a small amount, you are most likely worn out or bored.

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cait987

Thank you everyone for the advice. Im not really sure if I would orgasm during sex (ide love to find out lol) but currently im a virgin and pretty proud :P

about the foreskin pretty much heres the problem: I can easily get my foreskin back but the thing is when I mastrabate it will sorta get stuck when I get near an orgasm in a sense I beleive it is because of more blood flow and then eventually when I finally ejaculate it tends to almost always get stuck and then it hurts a bit.

I really dont mastrabate often maybe once every 3 days but I will try stopping for a few weeks and see if it helps and I will lighten my grip a bit thanks everyone

cait987

Sigh, been 7 days and its becoming very long How long should I wait to get sensitivity back lol? I can literarly tap myself and get an erection ;/ (ok not really but tap + porn = fast erection) ;/

Rlyss

Keep going cait, you're doing well. Getting horny that quickly is exactly the sign that you want!

Whenever you feel the need to masturbate just do something else, exercise or do something physial. Give it a couple of more weeks, and then after perhaps another week or two, you can masturbate again, but go very gently, and don't grip too hard. Pretend your hand is a vagina so it's very soft, and see how you go

jazzwyld

One thing you wanna try is control. If you're finding that masturbating isn't really doing it for you. I wouldn't stop like some are suggesting the sensitivity is probably there. Elongate your orgrasm www.sextutor.com has some great tips. It is a very big control issue. When I masturbate anymore if I just ejaculate the first time i feel like it, not that mind blowing. Now I can elongate it for 10 times (read and you'll know). And my orgasms are phenominal. It will also make you a better longer lover, give you a stiffer rod. And will drive your partner wild and when you go, you will explode. Just practice man....what's the worst thing that could happen.... you go blind?

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jdjammer

You guys have given me a lot of information I have always wondered about. Never before have I found a board on the internet like this, where people can freely ask these questions and have good quality responses.

I have a lot of the same problems, including the foreskin, and I have never really looked into what to do about it. I really appreciate this post!

cait987

Hmm, Realize this is a huge bump and all but, how long do I have to go without mastrabation for sensitvety to return becuase im getting sad, about to hit 3 weeks (I cummed on accident about a week in before and got back my determination)

Been 2 weeks 5 Days or something, All I know is 5/24/04 is 4 and a half weeks from the day I started lol

WarWagon

There's no real way to tell. It sounds like a lot of it is mental. If you keep getting discouraged by it, you'll stop enjoying it, and it will just keep getting worse and worse. If you masturbate to something you find is really, really hot or enjoyable, it will probably come back to you. Its all about association.

Rlyss

If you've got a partner then try your luck with them But if you don't (and it seems you don't, otherwise [hopefully] you wouldn' need to masturbate so much!) then I think it's safe to say you can get yourself off now

It's been long enough, have your fun, but be very gentle, and take as long as you want. Don't hurry it and certainly don't squeeze your penis too hard. Pretend your hand is a vagina and you should be ok from now on. Just don't do it too often.

If you masturbate too often you won't go blind or get hairy palms, but I do believe that you'll get used to it. Guys get off from the 'up and down' feelings. If you get so used to a hard, rough hand doing it, a nice soft vagina won't have a chance!

WarWagon's right when he said a lot of it is mental. It took me many months to actually be able to come during sex with my current girlfriend. Months of being single, and before that, a bad relationship where I had <i>never</i> ejaculated during sex for an entie year, meant that I simply couldn't come during sex. And getting no 'bang' out of sex meant that I became less and less interested, and after a while not only could I not come, but I couldn't even get it up half the time, and the time that I could it just didn't feel good. My girlfriend was patient and understanding, we tried and we talked a lot, and now I can last for three hours if I want and almost come on demand!

tisonlyi

semen is dribbling out?

doctor.

now.

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jgrayson_au

yeah everyone seems to have given the same advie... go without for 3 days or so... but get the tissues handy!!!

Nitrox

cait987, for the record, it's

Masturbation

thespian86

COUGH spelling nazi COUGH

I guess it comes down to, are you a frequent snake petter? How many times a week do you masturbate? If it's a high number like once a day or more, even six or five times... Try going a week and then you'll feel it. I had the same problem but if you get out of the groove for awhile it makes you feel like an adventrous 14 year old again hitting your first orgasm. Just try it.

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Nitrox

Sorry, normally I don't go after spelling problems, but the word masturbate holds a fond place in my heart (as well as other place)

thespian86

Agreed, sorry about that, I just find it to be annoying when people point out others spelling mistakes unless it's helping them out.

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