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I have always been under the impression that as you get older, and more experienced, the better sex becomes. I have been having sex since I was 17ish. Back in those good 'ol days, I could go pretty hard for a good 1/2 an hour (not including foreplay) before ejaculation. I am now 25, and would be lucky to 10 minutes (not including foreplay) before losing my load. I must admit that the quality of the sex is now better, but should this come at a cost to quantity?
I've only ever had one partner since I lost my virginity, and am still with the same lovely lady. My recent sexual ineptitude is getting really depressing, for me and my GF. At 25 years young, have I reached the peak of my sexual glory? Is there anything I can do to regain my endurance of yesteryear?

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queedo

Yup, older means experienced!

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Chuckles

kegal exercises!! :P they are listed here somewhere just gotta search around

analog

May have little to do with physical endurance and more with mental stressors... you might be "in a rut", so to speak.

Sure, it seems better and all, but maybe if you tried spicing things up a bit you'd find the LOTS and LOTS of other ways to give pleasure- for both you and her- that aren't just pounding the organs together.

Change up the positions, try some new things- go together to an adult store and shop for sex novelties. You never know how much fun you can have until you're having it.

Acton1775

You need to put some more spark in to the situation. The more excitement, the longer you will last. At least that's what I have found.

clavus

Have her stick a finger in your ass. Slows the urge to blow your load, and can feel pretty cool (unless you are somehow concerned that having a chick touch your butt makes you gay...in which case you probably ARE gay, but just don't know it, hence the decline in your sexual prowess with the fairer sex).

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Averett

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Hmm. I found that I could last _longer_ as I got older, through my 20s and 30s. But everybody's different. You may just be having trouble with the control muscles -- kegels might help, so does vitamin C, believe it or not. I'm in my late 40s now and find that I don't have the control I used to, to stop myself at the very edge of ejaculating. But C does help.

To follow another path, maybe you're getting more and more sensitive, or you and your partner are so good together that you're setting yourself off early? Well, there's always throwing a condom on -- kind of a wet blanket solution (literally), but if your problem is that you're revving up too fast, it'd cut back on sensation a little and make you last longer.

Of course when you get into your 40s, the real problem with endurance can be maintaining hardness for a long period of time, not ejaculating too soon. And that can be solved by extended foreplay and fantasy play -- really getting in the mood, in other words. (So yeah, you do learn more about sex as you get older, sometimes because it's a necessity!)

absorbentishe

Regaining endurance? Like said above, Kegals are the way to go. Doing it longer doesn't always mean better. You could buy some kind of cream that sort of deadens the nerves on your schwanson, and you could go for hours and hours, but is that better? To me, the connection is what makes the sex, not just a release. In my years of marriage, our sex has only gotten better because we're both into each other more and more.

suviko

Started when I was 12. Sex was best from 15-17 and 18-20 so far.. In new serious realtionships, that is. Then it starts to get routinized. :I

tisonlyi

So, from 15-20 then?

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Charlatan

I definately find that the quality of sex is better now that I am older... as both my partner and I have broadened our horizons and opened ourselves to different things, sex has become way more intense.

Physically, I find that I don't "require" sex as much as I did when I was young. I actually find that it comes in waves. I am extremely horny for a month and then not so much for another.

This works well because I am getting the quality and not desiring the quantity...


PS: when you factor children into the picture you now have exhaustion and timing to take into consideration as well...

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skysooner

My quality of sex is better, and I have much better physical control than I had in my 20s.

hunnychile

Oh yeah, the orgasms are much more intense as you get older...though there is just too much time between 'em. "wink wink"

By now you've zeroed in on those different locations that give the various types of orgasms (clitoral vs. vaginal ) and that swollen little g-spot is much more eager to perform and much more sensitive to stimulation.

And no boys, the clit isn't the g-spot.

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HLP

I would suggest foreplay and even though you know whats good and whats gets you off, make sure to experiment with just about anything, you never know when you find something else wonderful

Craven Morehead

Yeah, its gets better which somewhat makes up for the decrease in frequency. I'm 51, I think I'm better now that I ever was. And honestly, I get better every year. I may not be able to go four times in one day but then again, I don't need to do it to have great sex, either.

Dano069

HELL YES! It gets better with age. The sights are better, the touch is better, the smells are better. It's better all the way around. Hell, my wife and I are both almost 42 and we're going at it almost daily. So relax and enjoy the ride.

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bparker805

There is deffinately something to be said for youthful exhuberance. But it has been my experience that sex gets better with a deeper intamcy level. Granted maturity might have something to do with that and also may go hand in hand with growing older.

tekaweni

Most of the advice given seems to be valid to me

Im 45, used to go for hours but now only 15 mins or so before i either lose my load or my stiffy.. but given an entire afternoon to complete the job have no problem raising interest several times.

Your focus changes as you grow older. You and your mate get to understand each other more and what works best for you both.

In any case, having a shorter time to blastoff would most likely indicate you find her more sexy now than ever before.. as long as youre not a one-shot-wonder theres no problem at all.

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uptown

I don't find sex to be getting more enjoyable as I age.It's getting harder and harder to keep a slim appearance and every day a new wrinkle seems to sprout up on my face.Frankly after viewing the pics on some of those "mature women" on porn sites(which horrified me) I'm considering giving up sex altogether,lol, as it seems inappropriate and unseemly to continue.Better to age gracefully and surrender the things of youth over to the young!

Boo

It is better because:

We know each other and what our needs are.

We no longer care who hears us or if we use all the hot water in the shower.

We can enjoy 10 minutes or 2 hours. It just don't matter anymore.

Advice for the youngins:

Get/Stay in shape. Watch your posture. Eat right. Practice. Lose weight. Take your vitamins. Stretch to maintain flexability. Practice some more. Kegels. DO NOT SMOKE!

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txlovely

Too funny!
But really, if you feel like you're about to lose it, slow down a little and do something different - switch positions, stimulate her instead of her stimulating you, etc. You can slowly train yourself to hold off but it will take a little practice. My SO is really good at it

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