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Upright
Location: Florida
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older woman need advice
I was just wanting some advice, I have liked this girl for a long a while now but I have never acted on my feelings because we have a big age difference. She is 5 years older than me, even with the age difference I feel that we are on pretty much the same level, as i like to think of myself mature for my age. Well me and her talk almost everyday and most of the time she is the one who calls me, but i still am not sure of her feelings. At times i just want my feelings for her to go away but i cannot. We hang out alot but never really talked about anything close to a relationship. I fear that I have gone into the gray area in which i just am the guy friend she can trust. Any advice in either how to make my feelings go away or whether i should act upon my feelings and just go for it?
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More Than You Expect
Location: Queens
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If you two can connect and make it all work then go for it.
A relationship is what you make of it - don't worry about the age difference if there's something there.
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TFP Mad Scientist
Location: Philadelphia, PA
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I dunno how things work in your culture, but back home in Haiti women are terribly prejudiced against younger men. If that's anything like where I'm from then she probably considers you only as a friend and wouldn't consider dating you. However, if she can look past your age and see you and a person independent of your chronological age then I'd say she may be interested. Nevertheless it is better to err on the side of caution and assume she's not interested rather than let your feelings be known and get shot down with the whole "I like you more as a friend" bullshit women feed us when they turn us down but want to keep us around as a shoulder to cry on.
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Crazy
Location: IN
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I met my wife when she was 23 and I was 34. 6 years later were motoring along fine. However, the one thing I have going for me is that once the biological clock started dinging with my wife, my "wild years" were well behind me. That is the only potential downside I would see for you.
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Loser
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Listen to Nitrox. Especially the part about the tick, tick, ticking of the biological clock. Every (EVERY!!!) woman hears its call and has to decide whether to act on it. Does this woman have kids already? Do you know if she wants kids? Do you want kids? Do you want kids NOW, if she presses the matter? If she decides to stop partying/drinking/playing PlayStation/etc. in the next year and wants you to stop, too, will you be ready?
I feel that age and the current stage of a person's life are two very different things. Age means little. Your respective life stages mean everything. |
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Crazy
Location: North of the Border
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hm, age is should never really be an issue. My gf is 6 years younger than me and my ex-wife was 5 years younger--no major issues related to age, though.
Go for it if it is something you want.
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Crazy
Location: everywhere else
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Her feelings for you, don't worry. I say, go for it. I don't really like all the what-if stuff. You know what I mean? Just try. If you get the just-friends answer, you know you have to move on. That's it.
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Cracking the Whip
Location: Sexymama's arms...
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Five years is nothing.
After you hit 21 you won't notice any practical differences. If you two really have something, go for it!
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Inspired by the mind's eye.
Location: Between the darkness and the light.
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Go for it, I'm dating a girl that's three years older than me. Did I have some apprehensions? Yes. Do I have any regrets about asking her out anyway? No.
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Insane
Location: ...We have a problem.
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Plus, biological clocks don't start really ticking until women reach 35. ![]() ![]()
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Observant Ruminant
Location: Rich Wannabe Hippie Town
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18 and 23? As others have said, if you both seem to be on the same wavelength, the age difference is meaningless. On the average, the difference between 18 and 23 is a lot less than, say, 15 and 18. A five-year difference just gets less and less significant as you get older. After age 25, it's pretty much meaningless.
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