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Another note on option C:
A "chance" is neither a promise nor guarantee. |
Utterly insane, and completely stupid, but...
Why not try "Well, I am looking for a relationship, and I am attracted to you. If you want to get together and do stuff as friends, sure, you are a fun person: but that won't kill my attraction to you." I must note, absolutely nothing good would come of saying this, other than the fact I would find it funny. |
I vote for option C.
Is this not a good line to use on a guy? |
This thread changed something for me.
I asked a girl out a while ago, and she said that she wasn't interested in any sort of relationship, she doesn't want to get bogged down. I saw her a few times since then, and we have been more than friendly with each other, arms round each other etc. in public, and kissing etc. in private. I took this as a symbol that we were getting on very well, so I asked her out again, on Feb 29th. She was really embarrassed etc. and said that she really liked me but couldn't and she knows how I feel about her but she just can't go out with me. Really upset me at the time. For some reason this thread just made me get over her. Still wish she would say yes though. |
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sounds like a no dude. "Freinds" usually means, "go away."
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Girls are so confusing. I swear, if somebody came up with a manual they'd be freaking rich.
I think the reason why I'm hoping its C is because this is the first person that I've fallen for since my ex broke up off a 4 year relationship. I don't know what it is but I've fallen fast and fallen hard for this girl. I was totally infatuated with this girl after I first saw her and surprisingly got the courage to ask her out a couple weeks later when I saw her again. Maybe I'm just used to being in a relationship and am hoping that this girl would take my ex's place so that my life would have some resemblance of normacy. |
B) just want to be friends.
Definitely B |
just don't get caught in the 'maybe something may happen between us later, but at the moment lets just be friends trap', because you hope vainly that something may happen before realising it's a choice A for life.
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It's B. Time to see what else is in the catalog.
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It's simple. Take it at face value, because once you start doubting it never ends. She wants to be friends? Fine. Act with her as you would with any friend. Friends call each other (both initiate conversations) and never push for anything else. Treat her as one of the guys.
However, she ASKED YOU TO CALL HER so that you can make plans. This, IMHO, puts you squarely in the "A" category. I mean, if she wants to hang out, why can't she call you? Asking someone to call just makes no sense to me in that context. Mercifully, she's trying to let you down gently. Now, what remains to be seen is if she's the type of girl who likes to keep guys hanging until she "feels" like getting some personal attention. Stay away from those girls. |
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and the "PC" way to say this is: "I'm not looking for a relationship right now but I still enjoy your company and want to hang out with you..." |
B, ... maybe C... but definitely B
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if you are not in a hurry there is a pretty good way to find out
I had the "just want to be friends" speech once....I was really hung on the girl and that really threw me for a loop... I ran across some good advice...Give her a good lettin alone Don't call, don't email, don't drive through her neighborhood. Do this for a good two maybe three weeks then just "happen" to run into her somewhere. (Or call, or email, etc...) then see what happens. If sparks don't fly...you fly. It is amazing what clarity the separation will give the both of you It worked with my wife of 12 years |
Oh this question brings up bad memories. REALLY REALLY hoping for C.
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