What does it mean when a girl says...
 

After a couple dates, talking on the phone, etc. I get the "I'm not looking for a relationship right now but I still enjoy your company and want to hang out with you..."

A) her way of saying no way.
B) just want to be friends.
C) give it time, there may be a chance later?

Happened many times... it's without a doubt B.

She likes the attention and free stuff, but she wrote you in the "No" category already.

If you want a friend by all means keep seeing her (just dont pay for her stuff). If you want a relationship put your sail back up and keep searchin.

Yes, definitely B

Darn, I was hoping it was C :(

If a girl said that to me, i would think, personally, that she wasnt into me, so b?

would have to be (B) Just wants to be friends

maybe she means that she's not sure if you're bf material yet and that you guys need to hang out more for her to decide??

I'm sorta crossing my fingers on this. I guess this falls under C

I'm gonna have to add another B I'm afraid... a lot of the time C is wanted though...

I'm sorry to say it, but I also think that it's B... she just wants to be friends...

I have never personally seen this work out. b

B. Definately. Time to move on.

Sorry but if she wasnt sure she wouldn't have said anything.

Look if a girl is into a guy she wont make excuses not to see him, she wont mention anything about not wanting a boyfriend, she wont say anything of the sort.

She flat out said she isn't interested, she never said anything about maybe when she figures things out, she said no.

Sorry bro, it sucks, but the best thing you can do is say "thanks anyways" and find a girl who is ready.

It can be a C, but prepare to bang your head against the wall of friendship for 1-2 years. Get out, find someone else.

B

I say B. "right now" implies that it could be a C, but I think that most girls say that to be nice.

Coming from a girl here, I say "A."

Move on.

B

I agree with Seaver. If she wasn't sure, she wouldn't have said anything.

Rough Female-to-Standard English translation:

"I'm not looking for a relationship right now but I still enjoy your company and want to hang out with you..."
=
"I like male attention, I like free stuff...and he is NEVER seeing me naked".

Could be wrong, but that's what I think....

it really means she doesn't think you're good looking enough for her, not that you're bad looking, she just might be a bitch

B is the answer

a little from column a, a little from column b

and I'm afraid c isn't happening...

Like somebody else already said: if you want a friend, by all means keep communication open. If that's not what you're looking for, cut it off, because it'll just be a waste of time.

Sorry, I know it sucks :-/

It means: You're a nice guy, but I have no desire to see you naked... :)

I'm thinking A unfortunately. She just said A nicer than usual so it kinda sounded like B. Don't get your hopes up for C. There are plenty of chicks out there.

Hmm, Id go half way between B and C.. but don't push, and assume B

A and B are synonomous here. It sucks, you just have to move on.

No way C dude - sorry it is an A. Looks like you'll have to keep looking.
By the way I've had that sort of comment twice and it has never lead to C.

I think I would have to agree with the consensus, I would take it as meaning B

I would say A, unless she still calls you and actually wants to hang out. If she does then it could legitimately be B, but in all likelihood, she's just blowing you off

99 out 100 times i've heard this...either directly or a friend of mine had same situation, its A and/or B....both the same answer....no booty 4 U!!!

Well, in my life it means that she's really religious and thinks I'm the Anti-Christ. She just wants to hamg out in hopes of turning me to God. But this may not be the case with you.

I'm now leaning towards B too.

Right after she told me "the line" she also said to call her on thursday before she leaves for vacation so that we can figure out something to do when she gets back.

So looks like C is definitley out of the question as you all have pointed out. B is the likely answer and given that she wants me to call her and hang out, A is out too.

I guess on the bright side, I've made a new friend.

I'm the mayor of the friend zone.

[Entering Ladder Theory Mode]

B is the only possible meaning of what she said. B will always be how she feels about you. Persuing options other than B with said female will only push you deeping into B-land. B is your only option, move on if you want more than a friend.

[Ending Ladder Theory Mode]

Take it as a solid B. If she falls for you after being her friend, that'll change to C. If you're a cad, it'll turn into an A.

Just be her friend. It's only a mixed signal at this point if YOU mix it up.

B. Everytime in my life. Without fail. And I don't really know anyone who would say different - although we all hope it is C.

I would definitely say B

i would say A because every girl that i've gotten that from i have fallen out of touch with once i stopped initiating conversations etc.

Well, does she not want a relationship with ANYONE or just you? That can be a factor.

However...just try to forget her and move on asap

Think of it this way.....
It definitely starts out as an A. Once you appear to lose interest, she will start to gain interest. This will get you to step B. She's gained your trust and knows you were not just trying to get in her pants. She knows you can be trusted as a friend. Tell her one day that you have a date and was wondering if you could have her opinion on a shirt you are wearing on the date. She will come over, see what a hunk you are, then keep it in the back of her mind that you have now progressed to level C. Face it dude, if you have one chance in a million to get her, it is still a chance.

if i say that to a guy....usually it means C
but that's just me

A word on option C:
I think it's unsafe to assume that it's C even when there are women like ariekitten (and myself) that sometimes do mean it that way. It's just polite to give a woman her 'romantic space' (I don't know what else to call it) when she says that because that's what you know she wants for sure... or she wouldn't have said it! Besides, I think when C is the answer, it's obvious enough in her body language and tone that there is less of a question about it. (Then again, a lot of the ways that women communicate can be confusing for men... so I hear. ;) )

Another note on option C:
A "chance" is neither a promise nor guarantee.

Utterly insane, and completely stupid, but...

Why not try
"Well, I am looking for a relationship, and I am attracted to you. If you want to get together and do stuff as friends, sure, you are a fun person: but that won't kill my attraction to you."

I must note, absolutely nothing good would come of saying this, other than the fact I would find it funny.

I vote for option C.

Is this not a good line to use on a guy?

This thread changed something for me.
I asked a girl out a while ago, and she said that she wasn't interested in any sort of relationship, she doesn't want to get bogged down. I saw her a few times since then, and we have been more than friendly with each other, arms round each other etc. in public, and kissing etc. in private.
I took this as a symbol that we were getting on very well, so I asked her out again, on Feb 29th. She was really embarrassed etc. and said that she really liked me but couldn't and she knows how I feel about her but she just can't go out with me. Really upset me at the time. For some reason this thread just made me get over her. Still wish she would say yes though.

Somebody hasn't read ladder theory or simply doesn't buy it...

sounds like a no dude. "Freinds" usually means, "go away."

Girls are so confusing. I swear, if somebody came up with a manual they'd be freaking rich.

I think the reason why I'm hoping its C is because this is the first person that I've fallen for since my ex broke up off a 4 year relationship. I don't know what it is but I've fallen fast and fallen hard for this girl. I was totally infatuated with this girl after I first saw her and surprisingly got the courage to ask her out a couple weeks later when I saw her again. Maybe I'm just used to being in a relationship and am hoping that this girl would take my ex's place so that my life would have some resemblance of normacy.

B) just want to be friends.
Definitely B

just don't get caught in the 'maybe something may happen between us later, but at the moment lets just be friends trap', because you hope vainly that something may happen before realising it's a choice A for life.

It's B. Time to see what else is in the catalog.

B

It's simple. Take it at face value, because once you start doubting it never ends. She wants to be friends? Fine. Act with her as you would with any friend. Friends call each other (both initiate conversations) and never push for anything else. Treat her as one of the guys.

However, she ASKED YOU TO CALL HER so that you can make plans. This, IMHO, puts you squarely in the "A" category. I mean, if she wants to hang out, why can't she call you? Asking someone to call just makes no sense to me in that context. Mercifully, she's trying to let you down gently. Now, what remains to be seen is if she's the type of girl who likes to keep guys hanging until she "feels" like getting some personal attention. Stay away from those girls.

Agreed.
and the "PC" way to say this is: "I'm not looking for a relationship right now but I still enjoy your company and want to hang out with you..."

B, ... maybe C... but definitely B

if you are not in a hurry there is a pretty good way to find out

I had the "just want to be friends" speech once....I was really hung on the girl and that really threw me for a loop...

I ran across some good advice...Give her a good lettin alone

Don't call, don't email, don't drive through her neighborhood.
Do this for a good two maybe three weeks then just "happen" to run into her somewhere. (Or call, or email, etc...) then see what happens. If sparks don't fly...you fly.

It is amazing what clarity the separation will give the both of you

It worked with my wife of 12 years

Oh this question brings up bad memories. REALLY REALLY hoping for C.