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blizzak · 03-04-2004, 11:34 PM

now I wouldn't say this person is close to me, but it's one of those touchy situations where you don't wanna mess things up

like if you were dating a friend of a friend....mess things up and you might lose your original friend

my situation is different (and a bit worse if it were to become awkward), but how do you approach such things and end up not screwing yourself in the end (if) things go sour (which hopefully they wouldn't)? does it just take time, or being careful, or what?
thx in advance

SparklingDot · 03-05-2004, 12:13 AM

Being careful and taking your time are very important. Don't put any pressure on the person you are interested in. I would suggest starting with a casual group outing. Then as you get to know said person, perhaps move more toward hanging out minus the group, and then toward a date-type outing.

Should things not work out, for whatever reason, it may create a temporary rift, but should not permanently damage the friendship in question. Just don't be a jerk about it, and your friend (if indeed they are a good friend) shouldn't have problems.

Good Luck.

jazzwyld · 03-05-2004, 07:54 AM

Yes, i completely agree. Take your time. Remember friendships come first as great as romance can be it could be only fleeting where friendship could last much longer. Just take a breath and get to know him/her that way you will be ahead.

03-04-2004, 11:34 PM	#1 (permalink)
blizzak Crazy	dating someone close to you now I wouldn't say this person is close to me, but it's one of those touchy situations where you don't wanna mess things up like if you were dating a friend of a friend....mess things up and you might lose your original friend my situation is different (and a bit worse if it were to become awkward), but how do you approach such things and end up not screwing yourself in the end (if) things go sour (which hopefully they wouldn't)? does it just take time, or being careful, or what? thx in advance __________________ Fueled by oxytocin!

03-05-2004, 12:13 AM	#2 (permalink)
SparklingDot Insane	Being careful and taking your time are very important. Don't put any pressure on the person you are interested in. I would suggest starting with a casual group outing. Then as you get to know said person, perhaps move more toward hanging out minus the group, and then toward a date-type outing. Should things not work out, for whatever reason, it may create a temporary rift, but should not permanently damage the friendship in question. Just don't be a jerk about it, and your friend (if indeed they are a good friend) shouldn't have problems. Good Luck. __________________ 17 seconds is all you really need - Smashing Pumpkins

03-05-2004, 07:54 AM	#3 (permalink)
jazzwyld Upright Location: Outside Reality	Yes, i completely agree. Take your time. Remember friendships come first as great as romance can be it could be only fleeting where friendship could last much longer. Just take a breath and get to know him/her that way you will be ahead. __________________ You keep searching, but what you're looking for is inside. Forget about who you thought you were, and accept who you are.