bonehed1

I need some advice..

My wife is always horny which is great for me but she nags all the frikin time so it makes me not want to get my groove on. What would you do if your wife nagged the moment you walked in the door from getting home from work and continued to nag till you went to bed.

Anything???

juanvaldes

after you give it to her good, sit down and thank god

Minx

Your wife is always horny and you are upset??? May I be the first to say WTF?

*Minx scratches her head......very confused......gives up and walks away vowing to never try to figure men out.......

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Peetster

Would you rather be with a woman that nags and ISN'T into sex? Count your blessings.

Jim Kata

For everytime you think "I don't want sex now", think of us who aren't getting it everyday (just for a second), and then go fulfill your manly duties and thank the maker for a wife like that.

numist

I can see how the nagging would be a block to enjoying having sex, so let me give this a shot.

Sit her down, and tell her that you find it difficult to perform when she is nagging, because nagging is un-sexy. Having a sex crazed SO is great (I'll admit) but nagging for it completely takes away from the experience.

Tell her this, have an attempt at understanding. Tell her that the best way to get you in bed is _____. Romance, sweetness, a quick feel, whatever gets you going, and tell her that if she tried that instead of nagging, youd be a lot more likely to oblige; hell, you'd be better too.

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MooseMan3000

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For all of you who are saying "Dude, just do it," thanks. That's really helpful. Seriously.

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Understandably, most consider you lucky because you have a horny wife, but the simple fact of the matter is that if she is always nagging about it, it will get annoying. Really fucking annoying. [/bad pun]

Have you tried talking to HER about it? I know it's difficult, and you don't want to feel like the loser, but if you don't say anything to her, she probably won't stop. If she doesn't stop, I only see this going bad places. Sit her down one night, and tell her how you feel about it. Let her know that you love her, that you love sex with her, and everything wonderful like that, but stress the fact that when she nags you, you simply aren't interested in it. Good luck with that.

Oh... I would also be curious what the ladies of the board respond to this. What have your experiences with naggy husbands been like? You probably have a better idea what to say than I do.

lurkette

Point of clarification: Is she nagging about wanting sex, or is she nagging about other stuff?

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BCD

Here is the question I have: Is she nagging you about having (or not having) sex or just nagging in general (e.g., "you never come home on time", "you never help me around the house", "why did you leave the lights on?", etc.) ? If she's simply nagging you about having sex, seems like she would be amenable to curtailing the nagging if you assured her that you would have even more sex (with her, of course) if she stopped. If she nags about everything, but also likes lots of sex, my guess is that even with the promise of more sex she will continue her nagging. All things considered, if I'm going to be continuously nagged I might as well as get some sex out of it.

BCD

Damn, lurkette, great minds think alike. Didn't see your reply while I was writing mine.

bonehed1

She is naggy about other stuff.....the sex has never been an issue. She nags about anything and everything. I know I am blessed because she is horny as a mofo but like numist said...it does take away from the experience.

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lurkette

Ok, so the real problem here is that she's naggy in general (and you just told us she's also super horny to make all the men jealous )

You need to address this by COMMUNICATING with your wife. Tell her you don't like to be nagged (suggestion, from experience: women do NOT react well to the use of the word "nag" - try "hounding me" or "bugging me to get stuff done" or else you've got an instant and very negative reaction). If she's bothering you about stuff that you really should be doing but are not, and she has a legitimate point, then suck it up and do what you should be doing and quit resenting her for reminding you. If it's just general nagging about your weight and why you don't bring her flowers and why can't we take a longer vacation this year and blah blah blah, tell her that you feel she's overly critical, and that makes you feel resentful and not at all amorous. If she has constructive things to say to you, great! But if it's just "why don't you ever do this, why do you always do that," it's not really productive.

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Ustwo

Ok bonehed1 ask yourself some questions: Do the nags have merit? Is she nagging about things you know you should be doing but aren’t? If the answer is yes, then maybe you should do some of those things.

If she is just nagging to nag, one way to fix it is to 'do' something every time she nags. It doesn't mean beat her but tickling or something which she wouldn't really enjoy is a good training method. Negative reinforcement works. My wife used to say '...quit being a pain in my ass' or 'you are a pain in the ass'. She doesn't say that anymore *hehe pinch pinch*.

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bonehed1

lol trust me...I have tried all the communication in the world....I have written notes, typed out letters, used frikin hand signals, sat her down and talked but she doesn't get it. She likes to nag about things that have nothing to do with me but somehow she brings me into it...The one thing I can't stand the most is when I walk in the door and she starts to go off about how come I am home so late. I get off at 5:30 and I get home around 6:15-6:30 but if I am home later then that she thinks I am going somewhere or cheating on her. She isn't used to California traffic since she has lived in Missouri all her life so she doesn't really know how bad traffic gets here. I frikin hate the 60 and 91 flippin freeways.....

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bonehed1

I think I will try that Ustwo...her nagging doesn't have any merit whatsoever but I think I will try the tickling part since she can't handle that.

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lurkette

How about every time she nags you she has to put a quarter in a jar? And then every couple of months you get to use the jar fund to do whatever you want - buy tickets to a game or a concert (and go without her! ha!), or buy her lingerie she HAS to wear for you, or ooh ooh - she owes you a blow job for every dollar in the jar. She can't nag if her mouth is full.



WHERE the fuck did all this testosterone come from?

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Bill O'Rights

Uh...yeah...I was kinda wondering the same thing.

But...good idea, nonetheless.

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ratbastid

Didn't work on me, of course...

bonehed1

That is a good idea Lurkette...hilarious...but good idea

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bermuDa

maybe tell her that all the nagging is a turn off?

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bonehed1

done that

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bermuDa

well i'm fresh out of ideas, tell her you're into domination and invest in gag? The hard part would be getting her it all the time

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arch13

And here i was trying to not be a smart ass and say that. How come you get to say it without seeming sexist

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lurkette

Cause I'm a girrrrrl. Neener

(It's still sexist, even if I say it. I just don't get in trouble. Who said life was fair?)

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LStanley

have sex with her all day every day til I die with my toes curled up...

I'm a horny bastard too

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raeanna74

Is she home alone all day? or with kids all day? You might get better results if you relieve her from her daily duties like take her out to a dinner for the two of you. THEN explain that when she brings her problems to you the moment you step in the door you feel attacked. I try very hard not to give hubby even a long rundown of my trials of the day when he gets home. I vent to other friends or my mother during the day so that I'm not desparate to share that in his face the moment he comes in the door. Also I try to let him have some time alone first things after he comes home. You'll have to ask him but I think he appreciates that. Maybe suggest that she can "nag" all she wants later but she needs to give you some space first thing when you get home so you can wind down and be ready to face her. If she can at least give you that then maybe she'll "cool off" too and you both can deal with each other better. Also don't ignore the possibility of a counselor - even for just a couple sessions. Us telling you here what can be done won't be the same as some impartial person hearing the story from both sides and helping you both understand each other and find common ground. Good Luck to you both.

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bonehed1

I take her out every friday night. She is stuck at home with the baby for now because she WANTED that. She wants to go back to work part time but she wants to be a house wife. I buy her jewelry, take her out every friday night, I even went as far as getting her a monthly visit to a local hot tub resort to relax and get a full body massage. Everything was fine before we got married then she started acting like this. I am confused about the whole thing but I got some ideas to try out on her now.

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*Nikki*

Nagging is what we do best.

Sex is the other thing we are also good at.

omega2K4

Quite true.

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Vyk

have ya'll tried marriage counseling? it can really make a difference.

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GSRIDER

What are some specific nagging examples?

Is she nagging about YOU or just life in general.

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Boo

When the wife nags I attempt to take care of what is bothering her (if possible) OR leave her alone to be in her own misery. No reason for both of us to have a bad time.

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raeanna74

Half the time when we complain about stuff it's only venting. We don't ALWAYS want you to fix it. Just sympathize and understand why it bothers us. Women need the emotional connection as much as we want the problem to go away. Just listening is half the battle.

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cas305

You said that you guys moved to california, who's ideal was that? Could that play a factor in it?

skysooner

Yes, my wife and I had this problem early in our marriage. She would immediately start talking at me the minute I walked in the door. It was overwhelming and would seem like nagging. She was actually just venting out her emotions for the day on me. This was her way of connecting with me. I finally told her I couldn't handle it the second I got home as I was still tense and stressed from work. Now we take 30 to 45 minutes to just be with each other quietly without talking about anything stressful. Then we sit down and talk about our days. This has made everything go much more smoothly. She gets to talk about her day, and I'm not stresses out or overwhelmed listening to it.

bonehed1

It was a miracle....I walk in the door and she was taking a nap with my 6 month old daughter. I did some cleaning and made dinner and as soon as I set her plate on the table she walked into the kitchen and was all smiles. She didnt nag once at all that night. The entire night was awesome and I guess all it took was ME making her dinner for once. Let's see what happens tonight!!

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31Friction

give it to her raw... butt nekkid...

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bonehed1

last night I did......from 10 to 2.....its all good

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