--Friend needs help, his GF cant orgasm!-- - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

SkateBmx · 12-22-2003, 07:41 PM

hey all, first off im a newb to the forums and my search function doesn't work (so dont hate me

). second, i know ill get flamed in a hearbeat anyways, but, i do not have a girlfriend. this is seriously for my friend. third, allow me to introduce myself

. my names Joe, i live in New Jersey, and im a guy.

anyways, my best friends GF seems to have an awkward problem of not being able to get off. she says when they are doing what they are doing, she is having fun and getting pleasure, but she always stops/pushes him off because she feels that it is going to take her too long to come.

ive been talkin to her online, she told me that she's never had an orgasm, even though she's tried pleasuring herself. she cant finger herself the way her bf (my friend) can, but she has tried rubbing her clit. though, she said it didn't feel good. she said it felt weird, and no real pleasure.

i told her to just try rubbing herself in whatever way feels best and just stick with it for a bit (she only tried for a couple minutes). but, what else could i suggest she try? what could possibly be the reason she isn't able to orgasm, or doesn't get pleasure when she masterbates?

SkateBmx · 12-22-2003, 09:43 PM

24 views and not one reply, come on people

MSD · 12-22-2003, 10:01 PM

If she hasn't had one before, she doesn't know what feels best. Tell your friend to try a vibrator and take his time to please her; most women on this board have agreed that it's the best way to get there the first time. He should also read up on the best ways to use his mouth, and I don't mean talking dirty.
If they aren't old enough to get into an adult store and get a vibrator or other pleasure aids (I'm guessing you're all mid to late High School age based on the age group this question often comes from,) then you can do them a huge favor and get it for them. There are places that require age 18+ instead of 21+.

absorbentishe · 12-23-2003, 06:38 AM

If she hasn't had one yet, she certainly doesn't know what she's missing, but once she does have one, watch out. As MrSelfDestruct said, she or your friend need to get your hands on a vibe, and use that while touching, performing oral on her, and just tell her to relax and let it happen. If she doesn't relax, then it will never happen, and don't get discouraged if it doesn't happen right away, but it will.

Averett · 12-23-2003, 06:53 AM

Sounds like she needs to relax and let things happen...

Jesus Pimp · 12-23-2003, 07:12 AM

Sounds like she's in-secure.

Viking1064 · 12-23-2003, 07:12 AM

Age might be a factor. How old is she? Many younger women are not completely comfortable with their bodies and sex yet. As woman age, they get more comfortable and in tune with their bodies. Also, how happy would your friend be that you are discussing this with his GF? Has she discussed it with her? If he does not know you are talking this over with her, I'd stay away or you might lose him as a friend

Aladdin Sane · 12-23-2003, 08:12 AM

Lots of younger women don't orgasm during sex. And some don't orgasm at all. Many women of every age don't orgasm from penetration alone. These facts I have learned from "Loveline" with Adam and Dr. Drew. So the first thing I suggest is that this girl listen to their radio program.

She should continue to experiment with masturbation. She needs to discover what she likes.

I knew a women who couldn't orgasm. She never had one. It was a mental block resulting from being raped. My wife of 15 years cannot orgasm from penetration alone. She must have clit stimulation from a finger, tongue, or something else for it to happen.

I hope this is helpful. You might also read stuff in the Womens Forum. They have a thread about orgasms that might help.

SkateBmx · 12-23-2003, 10:09 AM

my friend and i talk about it, and i dont think he minds that i speak to her about it (im trying to help them out). reason i didn't give age is cuz i didn't wanna get booted from the site

, im 16, my friend is 17, and his gf is 18 (close to 19).

lots of good info, ill keep it in mind. so, shes gotta relax and let stuff happen. thats good, cuz she always says shes feels bad about him having to do work. next, since she's never had an orgasm, im sure she is insecure.

about the vibrator though, what should she use it for her clit, penetration, or just whatever feels best? thanks a lot everyone, please keep the good info comin

.

Starfish · 12-23-2003, 10:36 AM

I'm the same age as the girl. The tips were all good. My first time was not all that long ago. Maybe your friend needs to try different things in bed and try to last long. Have him take a couple minutes rest when he feels that he's comming. Go at it again until the girl feels good pleasure. Another thing that might work is if he gets a little rough in bed. Make her feel as if she is sexy, wanted, good, etc..... He needs to get her excited. Make sure that she's in the mood before they start. Take it easy if it is susposed to be between them it will be. They both need to be comfortable with eachother. Youre a good friend to help them out like this. tell your friends good luck!

phredgreen · 12-23-2003, 10:48 AM

what is this, guys anonymous?

Quote:

Originally posted by SkateBmx
my names Joe, i live in New Jersey, and im a guy.

(everybody together)

hi, joe.

(realizes joe is 16 years old)

bye, joe.

12-22-2003, 07:41 PM	#1 (permalink)
SkateBmx Banned	--Friend needs help, his GF cant orgasm!-- hey all, first off im a newb to the forums and my search function doesn't work (so dont hate me ). second, i know ill get flamed in a hearbeat anyways, but, i do not have a girlfriend. this is seriously for my friend. third, allow me to introduce myself . my names Joe, i live in New Jersey, and im a guy. anyways, my best friends GF seems to have an awkward problem of not being able to get off. she says when they are doing what they are doing, she is having fun and getting pleasure, but she always stops/pushes him off because she feels that it is going to take her too long to come. ive been talkin to her online, she told me that she's never had an orgasm, even though she's tried pleasuring herself. she cant finger herself the way her bf (my friend) can, but she has tried rubbing her clit. though, she said it didn't feel good. she said it felt weird, and no real pleasure. i told her to just try rubbing herself in whatever way feels best and just stick with it for a bit (she only tried for a couple minutes). but, what else could i suggest she try? what could possibly be the reason she isn't able to orgasm, or doesn't get pleasure when she masterbates?

12-22-2003, 10:01 PM	#3 (permalink)
MSD The sky calls to us ... Super Moderator Location: CT	If she hasn't had one before, she doesn't know what feels best. Tell your friend to try a vibrator and take his time to please her; most women on this board have agreed that it's the best way to get there the first time. He should also read up on the best ways to use his mouth, and I don't mean talking dirty. If they aren't old enough to get into an adult store and get a vibrator or other pleasure aids (I'm guessing you're all mid to late High School age based on the age group this question often comes from,) then you can do them a huge favor and get it for them. There are places that require age 18+ instead of 21+. Last edited by MSD; 12-22-2003 at 10:14 PM..

12-23-2003, 06:38 AM	#4 (permalink)
absorbentishe Boy am I horny today Location: T O L E D O, Toledo!!	If she hasn't had one yet, she certainly doesn't know what she's missing, but once she does have one, watch out. As <B>MrSelfDestruct</B> said, she or your friend need to get your hands on a vibe, and use that while touching, performing oral on her, and just tell her to relax and let it happen. If she doesn't relax, then it will never happen, and don't get discouraged if it doesn't happen right away, but it will.

12-23-2003, 06:53 AM	#5 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	Sounds like she needs to relax and let things happen... __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

12-23-2003, 07:12 AM	#6 (permalink)
Jesus Pimp The Original JizzSmacka	Sounds like she's in-secure. __________________ Never date anyone who doesn't make your dick hard.

12-22-2003, 09:43 PM	#2 (permalink)
SkateBmx Banned	24 views and not one reply, come on people

12-23-2003, 07:12 AM	#7 (permalink)
Viking1064 Insane Location: New Jersey	Age might be a factor. How old is she? Many younger women are not completely comfortable with their bodies and sex yet. As woman age, they get more comfortable and in tune with their bodies. Also, how happy would your friend be that you are discussing this with his GF? Has she discussed it with her? If he does not know you are talking this over with her, I'd stay away or you might lose him as a friend

12-23-2003, 08:12 AM	#8 (permalink)
Aladdin Sane Degenerate Location: San Marvelous	Lots of younger women don't orgasm during sex. And some don't orgasm at all. Many women of every age don't orgasm from penetration alone. These facts I have learned from "Loveline" with Adam and Dr. Drew. So the first thing I suggest is that this girl listen to their radio program. She should continue to experiment with masturbation. She needs to discover what she likes. I knew a women who couldn't orgasm. She never had one. It was a mental block resulting from being raped. My wife of 15 years cannot orgasm from penetration alone. She must have clit stimulation from a finger, tongue, or something else for it to happen. I hope this is helpful. You might also read stuff in the Womens Forum. They have a thread about orgasms that might help. __________________ Ceterum censeo Carthaginem esse delendam.

12-23-2003, 10:09 AM	#9 (permalink)
SkateBmx Banned	my friend and i talk about it, and i dont think he minds that i speak to her about it (im trying to help them out). reason i didn't give age is cuz i didn't wanna get booted from the site , im 16, my friend is 17, and his gf is 18 (close to 19). lots of good info, ill keep it in mind. so, shes gotta relax and let stuff happen. thats good, cuz she always says shes feels bad about him having to do work. next, since she's never had an orgasm, im sure she is insecure. about the vibrator though, what should she use it for her clit, penetration, or just whatever feels best? thanks a lot everyone, please keep the good info comin .

12-23-2003, 10:36 AM	#10 (permalink)
Starfish Tilted Location: Illnois	I'm the same age as the girl. The tips were all good. My first time was not all that long ago. Maybe your friend needs to try different things in bed and try to last long. Have him take a couple minutes rest when he feels that he's comming. Go at it again until the girl feels good pleasure. Another thing that might work is if he gets a little rough in bed. Make her feel as if she is sexy, wanted, good, etc..... He needs to get her excited. Make sure that she's in the mood before they start. Take it easy if it is susposed to be between them it will be. They both need to be comfortable with eachother. Youre a good friend to help them out like this. tell your friends good luck! __________________ Evil Milkman: "So I wonder what it would taste like now?" Me: "Like a big floppy penis that hasn't been washed in a couple days."