jerseyboy

Alright there is this girl who is extremely annoying and I absolutely abhor her. Unfortunately it seems as if she is obsesses with me and I cant get rid of her. Here is some of the stuff she does:

1) She makes up cute nicknames for me and wont call me by anything but them.

2) Whenever I am near her she constantly hangs off me.

3) She asked me my schools senior gala 7 months before it happens!

4) She flashed me on my birthday and has no hesitations about changing in front of me.

5) and tonight she asked me to run with her in my school's annual prefinals mass streak!!!

How the hell can I give this girl the idea that I am not interested. I am completely unresponsive to any of these things she does, but I dont want to come out and hurt her feelings because I live near her and see her often and she can make my life a living hell.

SO what can I do?

wilbjammin

Start talking to her about how you have this big crush on another girl maybe?

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rainheart

Duh duh duh duh duh!!!

First off be as UNENTERTAINING as possible!
'How was your day?'
"What?"
'How was your day?!!'
"Oh............. it was okay."

Don't lead on the conversation!

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Next, start saying things that are extremely controversial and even straight out bad.

"I think abortion is okay untill the third trimester. Really, I would personally perform an abortion even if it was nearing the end of the third trimester."

"I thought rape was a bad thing but recently I'm beginning to discover that some women deserve to be raped." (heh try not to laugh if you see her reaction to this one)

Extreme forms of misogyny will without a doubt make her want to put as much distance between herself and you.

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Repelling girls is a lot easier than attracting them, so I don't know why you need advice.. those two points alone should be enough to get her away from you. Hell they worked for me last week- and I didn't even have to do the second part.

JStrider

sleep with her... and as soon as she thinks shes won you over pull a dirty sanchez and/or donkey punch...

ok seriously... i dont know what to tell ya... prolly just gonna have to tell her off one day...

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wilbjammin

I advise against this one, simply because it could leave a legacy with you. But, a good thing to do is to find out various things that she values (you ought to know by now what she really cares about) and tell her how stupid they are. Keep doing it and then pretend that you forgot that she was "into that stuff", then act distracted and walk away. This is great because it gives you an excuse to get away from her and it alienates her simultaneously.

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googleplex

There's nothing wrong with a DS or a DP. That'll teach her who's boss.

motdakasha

In my experience, this can make women think they can "convert" the man to love women.

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AfterBurn

Being unresponsive to her shows her you're a challenge and that is why she might be so obsessed with you. Start treating her like a friend but when you get to know things about her (like previously stated) tell her how stupid they are and how her values mean nothing.

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Pragma

You could always try brutal honesty: Sit her down and explain that you have no feelings like that for her, you are flattered she thinks of you like that, but that there is no chance for a relationship and you won't change your mind.

It'll be a pretty harsh conversation, and she's gonna get mad, but it's better than leading her on.

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Zorvox

Just say, No.

wilbjammin

Ok, I've done this talk at least 4 times, and the girl kept on going after me every time but once. I think that I provided some kind of special challenge that they wanted to break or something. I ended up doing things to offend them out of necessity. People can be very selective with their hearing, or simply don't care that they're not wanted. "What you don't want me? Oh well, that doesn't mean I can't keep up with this old habit"... something like that, once persuit becomes a habit it is hard to break, even when it is a lost cause.

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empu

...which would be different from what she's doing now... um... how exactly?

Shut. Her. Down.

Astrocloud

Flat out tell her that you think she's hot but that she would drive you out of your mind if you ever hooked up. If she pushes for details just say that she isn't right for you and you want to be friends.

It's either that or invite her to your house and intentionally just ignore her by playing on the computer until she gets completely bored and leaves...

Bloodslick

Anger is always the answer. Repeat after me.

Anger is always the answer. Anger is always the answer. Anger is always the answer.

A well-timed "FUCKING STOP, ALL RIGHT?! GET THE HELL OFF ME!!!" will not only work, but it might even make her cry. She could come off hating you and trying to make your life miserable, but the odds lie with her hating you and simply never wanting to see you again.

One last time: Anger is always the answer.

Oh, QuickEdit addition: try hard to come off as a hulking brute when you get angry. The bigger you seem, the more she'll want to fight back, but the less she'll think she can.

vonstalhein

she might have De Clarembaults. Suggest this to her, and she probably won't know what it means. Then, you have a brilliant oppurtunity to be as much of an intellectual snob as humanely possible. Girls hate big heads apparently. Failing that, tell her you have a small cock.

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ratbastid

Well I sure didn't know what it means. Google to the rescue:

De Clerambault's Syndrome or Erotomania was originally described as a delusional disorder in which a woman believes that an older man of higher social status is passionately in love with her. The patient's relentless pursuit of the delusional love object, often with escalating intrusiveness, may eventually involve threats or overt acts of retaliation, in response to repeated rejection, unrequited love, or alleged betrayal. Cases from the literature are reviewed in which the delusional romantic attachment involves the patient's psychiatrist or another medical specialist. The authors present a case involving a patient suffering from erotomania who develops a delusional fixation on her psychiatrist and, after her advances are repeatedly rejected, sues him for malpractice, alleging she had a sexual relationship with him in the course of treatment. The implications of the litigious paranoid, who uses the legal system to act out delusional concerns and retaliatory fantasies, are discussed. This is the first known case of an erotomanic patient claiming malpractice on the grounds that her psychiatrist had a sexual relationship with her.

Let's hope for your sake that you just have a small cock.

blade02

is she attractive? I know its maybe not the best way...but if shes in it just for the challenge then maybe sleeping with her is the way to go. Then you can be really bad and make it just a "friends with benefits thing"....then you've got yourself a girl to put out when you want it. She thinks you're giving into her...but really you have her on call. Maybe it doesnt solve anything, but not too many things really can, and this way you atleast get some action, if shes attractive.

bscox00

I would make myself unavailable at all times. If she calls, get off immediately (a case of bad mexican food can make someone not interested quickly!)

Also, if she physically touches you, kind of jerk back, startled. A lot of girls will touch you hoping you'll respond. Don't give in.

Sex and other fun have physical rewards, but in this case, they have mental consequences. I would think about dating someone else pretty publicly. Go to the movies in a group of friends and leave with just one female. Make it clear, but don't be mean.

Remember, it is one thing to burn a bridge, but it is another to blow up the dam, too.

jerseyboy

I think bscox's advice is probably the best. As seen by my previous threads I have been looking for someone else to go out with so as to make it clear I am looking for anyone but her.

When she does touch me (and she does it often) I usually just stand there unresponsive. Like if she hugs me I will just stand there like with my arms at my side not returning the embrace. However one day she really seemed to enjoy pinching my ass, and she could see that I got very upset with her but that just made her do it more.

Believe me if she were in anyway attractive I would go on with this. But this girl is unattractive in almost everyway. She is alright physically, but from a personality standpoint she is horrible and is extremely demanding and even if it were just a one night stand she would try to whip me.

Bloodslick

Why does no one believe that anger is always the answer? I'm hurt.

Plan9Senior

Blow her off completely. Cut off your ties, but dont be an asshole. You don't want to burn bridges, but you certainly don't want to lead her on either. Keep being unavailable and keep saying no long enough and she will get the hint.

WarWagon

Tell her you're gay.

Pragma

You never know, if the girl is that obsessed, she just might try to show him what he's "missing out on" by trying even more to have sex with him.

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Frozen North

I think the fact that you're letting her know you're not interested is what's driving her on. Two things that will almost never work when trying to get rid of a girl are ignoring her and rejecting her. In my opinion, the best thing you can do to get rid of her is to NOT try to get rid her because she can't chase you if you don't run. Let her crush on you run its course, sooner or later she'll get bored and move on.

analog

^^^Took the words out of my mouth. Ignore her. Move on. Start hanging out with other girls.

jerseyboy

This whole thing has been going on for a year now. Its kinda weird because he ex boyfriend visited last semester and they pretty much just fucked the entire time he was visiting. But she always latches on to me when I am around. I try to avoid her at all costs but she lives in a flat with 3 people I am friends with so if I want to see them I run the risk of seeing her. I have managed to go 2 weeks at a time without running into her but she always picks up where she left off when she sees me.

Bloodslick

Is her name Shannon? This sounds exactly like someone I knew, who was convinced that we were the best of friends no matter how much I tried to show her otherwise. She might have been romantically interested in me, but I always played completely oblivious to any moves she made in that respect.

The sick thing is that this girl kept turning up in my life. When she did, she'd always try to talk like we were buddy-buddy. It was revolting. I mean, this is the girl who called my house, talked to my parents for a bit, then kept me on the phone while they went into my closet and found the carton of cigarettes I'd stashed there. I really despise her, even though I saw her last a few years ago. That time, she kept subtly trying to one-up me by telling me how well she was doing in life, how she had a nice new Apple computer and a good job.

She finally shut up when I told her about how I was basically living with and being taken care of by a 27 year old woman. (I was 19 or 20.) Haven't seen her since, and good riddance. Bitch.

skysooner

She sounds just like one of my former roommates that was trying to hook up with me the whole time we were living in the same apartment. She had fucked a friend of mine for awhile, and I generally saw her as untouchable as I never really respected the women who went for him. After she moved away, she kept trying to get me to come and visit her. After I got married to my wife, she kept in touch and basically asked how we were getting along, etc. for years. She would comment on how she and her husband no longer had sex and that she missed it. I finally saw her 2 years ago and had her over to our house for dinner. Once she saw the life that my wife and I had, I haven't heard from her since then. I never really told her off as she never made direct overtures, but the signs were certainly there. I did this to be nice and out of respect for an old friendship (we were kind of friends when we were roommates). Sometimes you just have to beat someone over the head to get them to relent.

ratbastid

Don't be hurt. Be angry.

OFKU0

Are you gay? If so tell her. If you are not you should be fucking her every which way possible.Take it from me,..when I was younger I thought I was in the right to pick, choose and refuse.How things change.Wait til the day when the only variety you're getting is switching hands. Besides you could be passing on the best fuck of your life.How will you ever know?

Besides, you'll kick yourself, err,...punch yourself if one day soon you become a paraplegic and your dick ends up useless.

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tritium

I feel strongly enough about this to say that you need to be painfully honest with her. Just tell her that you are really beginning to hate her relentless pursuit and that its time to stop.

I don't know ... quote Billy Crystal from "When Harry Met Sally" or something.

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