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mikepeca18 11-27-2003 08:18 AM

Sex: How many times a week?
 
Ive been married for less than a year, once a week is the norm.

Just curious how much eveyone else is getting down.

junglistic 11-27-2003 08:23 AM

Least once a day. Sometimes when theres not much else to do it can be 3 or 4.

Also, im 20, in my prime, and my gf loves it.

I hope it will stay like this, but, i doubt it.

mikepeca18 11-27-2003 08:34 AM

unfortunatley, it wont

mtsgsd 11-27-2003 09:09 AM

The first time I was married I was 26 and working at a store with a lot of retired people doing part time. Several of the old men shared the "bean theory" with me before I was married and it is too true.

Place a bean in a jar every time you have sex with her before you are married. After you marry, take one out every time you have sex with her. You will never empty the jar. :(

TheOne 11-27-2003 09:12 AM

once a week if i am lucky but that is cause my girlfriend lives on the other side if the city. Seeing her is not as often as i would like

Holo 11-27-2003 09:37 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by mtsgsd
The first time I was married I was 26 and working at a store with a lot of retired people doing part time. Several of the old men shared the "bean theory" with me before I was married and it is too true.

Place a bean in a jar every time you have sex with her before you are married. After you marry, take one out every time you have sex with her. You will never empty the jar. :(


I'm going to go slice my wrists now. :(

GoldenOuroboros 11-27-2003 10:30 AM

about once every 3 months.. but when I get to see the girl for that week we try to make up for it as best we can :D

She's moving up here soon so the frequency should increase then :cool:

JStrider 11-27-2003 11:13 AM

in my first sexual relationship it was prolly 1 or 2 times a week...

in most recent it was prolly like 5-7 times a week....

tommy thompson 11-27-2003 12:15 PM

First Marriage- in the beginning at least once, up to three times daily. Twoards the end, I damn near had to beg!

Second Marriage– maybe not everyday- but 4-8 times a week. Some days none, others lots!

vveronica 11-27-2003 02:19 PM

you have to count?
you can remember how many?
Wow never heard of that.... heheheheh yeah that would just not do

rufgti 11-27-2003 02:44 PM

Before I got married, it was around 6-7 times a week, sometimes more. By the end, it was 1-2 times a year.

With the new gf, it started with 10-15 times a week. It went down to 3 times a week, and now its around 1 a week.

This sucks.

I think I should get a new gf everytime the frequency drops below once a day ;)

BigDonkey2 11-27-2003 02:44 PM

i'd say about 2 or 3 times a week....maybe 4

ratbastid 11-27-2003 03:23 PM

Lurkette and I have been averaging probably 1.6 a day or so for the last couple weeks. I think we missed one day, maybe like Monday of this week. But apart from that it's been once-to-twice daily for us.

This IS a hot streak, mind you. But I don't see it ending anytime soon...

skysooner 11-27-2003 06:36 PM

That bean theory won't work for me. She was a virgin prior to marriage. The first 5 years of marriage it was about 2 or 3 times a week. After 13 years, it is 3-5 times a week.

31Friction 11-27-2003 06:38 PM

me and my g/f average about 4 times a week although we both wish there was time for more...

OFKU0 11-27-2003 06:46 PM

I go in spurts. Might not get it for six months but the next six, I get so much it bores me. Hence the six month thing.

BuddyHawks 11-27-2003 06:52 PM

zero

la petite moi 11-27-2003 08:06 PM

I dunno...Ask Nwlinkvxd [that's his sn here].

It's probably like every two weeks...sometimes every month. It depends. I only get to see him every other weekend, and sometimes we can't do anything. . .

...sniffle.

cheerios 11-28-2003 01:35 AM

every other day or so... we're both stressed and busy... we don't as much as he would like, I think, hell, I know ;)

Viking1064 11-28-2003 05:09 AM

Wow. You guys are all over the place. I think he was looking for results from married couples. Also, it would be interesting to know how old responders are and how long they are married.
1. I am 39 she is 37
2. I have been married for 14 years
3. The first year we were married it probably averaged out to be about once a day, possible more.
4. Now it is probably around 4 to 5 times a week. Sometimes less, sometimes more.
5. We have to small children, both under 7 years old, so you can't use kids as an excuse for not having a good sex life.

Nancy 11-28-2003 08:23 AM

In my case we do it several times a week even though we've been together for 1˝ and live together.... :D

rmarshall 11-28-2003 09:13 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Nancy
In my case we do it several times a week even though we've been together for 1˝ and live together.... :D
My sweetie and I have also been living together for 1 & 1/2 years and have sex about 6 times a week. Since I work 4 days a week out of town that 6 times is spread over 3 days. :lol:
I'm 47 and she's 45. We have 2 kids living with us (9 and 13).
Last week it was once friday night, once sat morning, twice sunday morning, once sunday night and once monday morning before I left for Toronto. This week is looking good. Three times since last night! :)

absorbentishe 11-28-2003 09:20 AM

Well, if you exclude the last 3 months, then 3 - 5 times a week. In the last 3 months, she's been "too tired" or what ever her excuse is, then 1/2 per month. Untill Tuesday, then it's been every day this week. I can't figure it out, but oh well, take it as you get it.

P.S. The frequency has actually increased the longer we've been married. 8 years now.

ratbastid 11-28-2003 02:45 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by OFKU0
I go in spurts.
You might want to have that looked at.

Ba-dum-bump. Thank you, thank you. I'm here all week.

Just to address the Beans absurdity: lurkette and I put a LARGE number of beans in the jar. And we've taken them out FAST. I don't know whether we've emptied the jar or not, but it sure seems likely.

We've been married for 8 years, together for 4 before that.

SabrinaFair 11-28-2003 04:19 PM

At the moment...not too often, considering my relationship was (is?) on the rocks. And it's a long-distance relationship, blah. But when we did see each other regularly, it was two or three times every time we saw each other, which was usually once a week or once every two weeks. So...yeah. Sadly, this is probably the more active of my two sexual relationships. Which is my own damn fault for not discovering, "Hey, I *do* like sex" until I had already broken up with number one.

DonnieBoy 11-28-2003 07:58 PM

BAH,

In January it will be 2 years since me and my wife have had sex... that was the night my son was concieved...

This shit sucks....

My wife didn't have much interest in sex before my son was born but now its nill....

well we did have sex once about 3 months ago but she made me stop before i could climaxe so I don't count that...

blah... now masterbation is even getting boring....

sigh... guess i'll just go watch TV

DB

Jizz-Fritter 11-28-2003 10:22 PM

*cries one tear*

Quote:

Originally posted by DonnieBoy
BAH,

In January it will be 2 years since me and my wife have had sex... that was the night my son was concieved...

This shit sucks....

My wife didn't have much interest in sex before my son was born but now its nill....

well we did have sex once about 3 months ago but she made me stop before i could climaxe so I don't count that...

blah... now masterbation is even getting boring....

sigh... guess i'll just go watch TV

DB


doncalypso 05-19-2006 03:56 AM

Right now I feel like I'm lucky if I get sex even just once a week. I'm very busy as a full-time graduate student and Teaching Assistant, and my girlfriend is a middle-school science teacher and just finished working on her second master's degree while working full time.

I understand that we've both been very busy this past academic year, but still... I often feel as though sex is something reserved for others but not me because I want it 24/7 and she's just not in the mood most of the time. She says that she feels pressured because she knows I want sex 24/7 and that it makes her feel like she's expected to give it to me all the time and therefore doesn't get the chance to want it enough to jump my bones.

Am I the only guy in here who wants it 24/7 and is feeling super-frustrated?

Evileyez 05-19-2006 07:34 PM

when i was in a relationship it was like everyday....sometimes twice a day
but when the relationshi got sour and we were on the verve of breakin up it was like twice a month

TotalMILF 05-19-2006 10:22 PM

I'm 23, he's 29, and we've been married 2 years next Sunday. We "get down" once or twice a week. It used to be almost every day, but it's tough with a new baby. My libido is still recovering, but the sex is becoming more and more frequent as the weeks go by. I hope to get back to "normal," or close to it, relatively soon :)

Honestly, he could have sex 2-3 times a day and be happy as a clam. I'm about ready to clone myself just to get him off my back! :lol:

amire 05-21-2006 05:37 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BuddyHawks
zero

Unwillingly celibate brothers holla. I'm in the same category. I imagine that things will pick up eventually...we'll see.

Ample 05-21-2006 06:42 AM

With my exwife

Year 1, about 10 times a week
Year 2, about 6 times a week
Year 3-6, about 3-4 times a week
Year 7, about once a week
Year 8, about once a month
Year 9, three times.

You need some spice if you are only getting once a week, during your first year.

Daoust 05-21-2006 07:43 AM

Almost a ditto here too. I forget the last time I had sex. Married 3 years. Wife is pregnant with #2.

Quote:

Originally Posted by DonnieBoy
BAH,

In January it will be 2 years since me and my wife have had sex... that was the night my son was concieved...

This shit sucks....

My wife didn't have much interest in sex before my son was born but now its nill....

well we did have sex once about 3 months ago but she made me stop before i could climaxe so I don't count that...

blah... now masterbation is even getting boring....

sigh... guess i'll just go watch TV

DB


SAM821 05-21-2006 08:41 AM

Wow, thats very tough what ysome of you married guys are going through. I cant imagine that for myself. I hope to god when I get married that doesnt happen to me. Right now I'm 24 and my fiance is 22, We probably do it about 3 times a week, It would definitly be more but I go to school full time and work full time, likewise for her; so I dont get to have her over my place that often.... I will strive to make sex as common as breathing air while we are married.

insidious_machinae 05-21-2006 11:37 AM

Another super-old post revived?

Well, anyway...oddly enough, my average is still about once every 2 weeks to once a month, like La Petite Moi mentioned, though we live together now.

analog 05-21-2006 11:48 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ratbastid
Lurkette and I have been averaging probably 1.6 a day or so for the last couple weeks. I think we missed one day, maybe like Monday of this week. But apart from that it's been once-to-twice daily for us.

This IS a hot streak, mind you. But I don't see it ending anytime soon...

I'm curious how you have a 0.6 sexual encounter. Must be something new and kinky. ;) lol

snowy 05-21-2006 12:01 PM

We average about 3x a week. When I wasn't working full-time, it was usually 2x a day. Now it's harder because our schedules don't always match up, and we don't always feel like it at the same times. And some weeks are definitely hotter than others, that's for sure!

Sweetpea 05-21-2006 12:07 PM

depends on schedules for the most part. :)

We average once a day. :) On a really busy week... maybe 5 times a week. (and we've been married 4 years...) I think we have sex more now than when we first got married... in my opinion, if you explore and learn new tricks... the sex will just keep getting better and better :D

sweetpea

toxic515 05-21-2006 12:25 PM

married 13 years, 36 / 37 and we do it between 4 and 7 times a week. would prolly do it more but kids are nosey and good listeners.... The bean theory won't work here either. We've had occasional dry spells (2 kids will do that) but we do it as often now as when we were dating as time permits.

Lead543 05-21-2006 10:10 PM

In previous long term relationships (ie. 1 year or longer) it was like, twice a month maybe (even in the beginning)? Even when I didn't have the parent factor to contend with.

Now it's like 4 times a night, 2 nights a week or whenever we sleepover (though we're only 1 month official, I've known him for 4 years). I've found my spark. :)

healer 05-22-2006 12:31 AM

We've been together for almost 3 years and while the frequency has dropped off some, the quality is only getting better. It's been pretty sporadic the last few months because I'm living so far away and we only get to see each other once or twice a week.

But I've gotten some the last two nights in a row, and I'm seeing her later tonight again. :thumbsup:

nmm 05-23-2006 05:59 AM

15 to 20 times a week and we have been together for 8 months... It used to be more a bit more tho...

doncalypso 05-23-2006 12:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by nmm
15 to 20 times a week and we have been together for 8 months... It used to be more a bit more tho...

You lucky mofo...

Lady Sage 05-23-2006 05:18 PM

Hes 38 i'm 29... 2-4 times a week due to the shifts we work(i work 9-8pm he works 4-midnight) *pout* otherwise it would be more.

noodle 05-23-2006 05:36 PM

We've been together on and off for two years. Since we live together again it's about 2-10 times a week. We're so sporadic. He recently injured his back in a motorcycle accident and then I ruptured two ovarian cysts during my cycle, so thank goodness that 10 day drought was over today. We were both about to lose our minds. :lol: Usually we go no more than three or four days without, but both of us have intensely stressful jobs. Though it is a nice stress management tool..

aJ2718 05-23-2006 09:00 PM

my $.02: If you want sex, stick your head between her/his legs while s/he's watching TV. Pretty soon s/he'll want it too.

the best way to kill a good sex life is talk (unless it's steamy)

nmm 05-23-2006 11:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by doncalypso
You lucky mofo...

Yer I know :D

But before when I was married had sex barely once a week, so need to make up for it now :)

thespian86 05-24-2006 06:11 AM

Ranges from once every three days (when we are both really busy) to 3 times a day (when we do have time on our hands)

MoonDog 05-24-2006 02:05 PM

Well, I've been married for about 14 years now...and if I had my way, we would be every day! However, I've been told that my wife has a say in the frequency of said interactions, so it is usally more like 2-3 times per week. 2 kids and various other activities leave her pretty tired, which makes her want to sleep. For me, the tiredness takes a back seat to sex.

leftwingx 05-26-2006 12:56 PM

After being married for seven years it's about 1-2 per week. We're at the point were schedules have siginificant influence on the frequency, unfortunately.

opus123 05-28-2006 02:38 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mikepeca18
Ive been married for less than a year, once a week is the norm. Just curious how much eveyone else is getting down.

TOCOTOX, actually, but here is the basic short answer.

I personally like quality sex rather than quantity. Sex everyday seems too much, as it seems like it would become a habit. My favorite is randomness I guess..... I like sex 5 times a month, but I like sex to take 2-3 hours or so with about 15 minutes of chatting in the middle. Ya know, sexy banter and catch up on important relationship issues and stuff and giggling. *smile*

But last summer was the best ever, I had my wife and she had two boyfriends and I had 3 girlfriends and I think sex was super awesome about 7 times a month. Sleepovers and breakfast in bed and just amazing sex and trying new things. Now I have only one girlfriend and my awesome wife and she has one last boring boyfriend that travels too much. Anyway, before marriage we also had the open relationship/polyamory going on, so I don't think the frequency of sex has changed over the ten years of marriage. My wife and I were together 6 years before marriage and the sex was so new that it blew my mind away, but now it is a little more challenging to find new things to try and sometimes we find we don't want anything new to try. *grin* Just a relaxing sex I guess.....

That said, I have a few friends that I kiss occasionally and sometimes that is so hot, that I don't really need sex after it. Other friends I have flirt heavily with me, but we are not sexual. We sit on each other's lap at monday bowling league or sleep at each other's houses, but the heavy flirting is so fulfilling that I really don't want more from them. They may or may not want more from me, but I am waiting for them to ask me I guess. LOL

One gal that flirts with me is monogamous and her husband seems fine with the flirting, but it is cool that they are secure in their relationship to handle it. I've known her for 4 years or so.

Another gal I date once every 6 months, as she is in graduate school. The orgasms are pretty damn hot after waiting that long inbetween. She has a teenager and owns a horse, so that eats into any free time she has. I've known her for 5 years or so.

I am on the verge of starting to date a couple. Going slow. Kissing and snuggling only so far. (^:

(Everyone mentioned above knows and has met my wife and knows all about our open relationships.FYI)

Jonathan

billege 05-28-2006 08:37 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mtsgsd
The first time I was married I was 26 and working at a store with a lot of retired people doing part time. Several of the old men shared the "bean theory" with me before I was married and it is too true.

Place a bean in a jar every time you have sex with her before you are married. After you marry, take one out every time you have sex with her. You will never empty the jar. :(

I can only tell you I'm laughing so hard my sides hurt becuase I'm seeing the truth to this statement.

Married 2.5 years, she's 26 I'm 27.

We're currently at a once (barley) a week, and it's boring as hell. Fuck if I know the reasons.

I fondly remember oral sex. That was fun.

There's this bell curve that seems to peak before marriage...

Thing is, I don't get understand the reasons at all.
If you asked me, I'd say we're pretty darn happy with each other, and still as in love, if not more so than when we got married.

She's supportive and wonderful, and she says awfully nice things to me too. Far as I can tell, we should be naked a lot more often.
But we're not, and it sucks. Very frustrating.

Moyaboy 05-28-2006 11:34 PM

Almost hit a year now and it is about 2-3 times a week.

But that is also due to conflicting schedules.

I am 3rd Shift and he is 2nd Shift.

Prior relationships had sex a few times a month.......

rmarshall 05-30-2006 10:28 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by rmarshall
My sweetie and I have also been living together for 1 & 1/2 years and have sex about 6 times a week. Since I work 4 days a week out of town that 6 times is spread over 3 days. :lol:
I'm 47 and she's 45. We have 2 kids living with us (9 and 13).
Last week it was once friday night, once sat morning, twice sunday morning, once sunday night and once monday morning before I left for Toronto. This week is looking good. Three times since last night! :)

Interesting! I wrote that 2.5 years ago and it hasn't changed much. The kids are 12 and 16. They're old enough to leave alone so we leave them at home and go into the city and sleep on the boat. We keep our boat in a marina in Kingston. Even more opportunities for sex!

hotzot 06-08-2006 01:29 PM

If I'm a good boy and mind my "P&Q's" I'll get it twice a month..maybe. It's been that way for 26 years of marriage.(Yes I am pussy whipped)

Irishsean 06-08-2006 05:48 PM

I know this one because my dear wife has been keeping track because were trying to have kids. Over the last 6 months we average 1.83 times per day. :p

tycho_brahe 06-10-2006 03:55 AM

Been married 10 years. I'm 40. My wife is 38. First year, about 5 or 6 times a week. Now, still about 5 times a week. There was about one year in there early on where it was almost twice a day - she made a deal with me where if she didn't have to work, she'd gladly have more sex, and I said "yay !"

When it's that time of the month, we have 'other' types of sex, but it's still about 3 or 4 times a week then. Suffice it to say, I really love her !

We both still enjoy sex a great deal, but at 40 years old, 5 times a week is fine ! If I didn't come home tired from a job, I would probably want more. Work kills. Obviously, the more you are around someone the more you want to have it. Vacations and weekends I seem to want more, and so does she.

What I'm getting at is, we have no children and of course this gives us more free time and maybe this has something to do with it ?? I've been 'fixed', so they'll be none in our future. Kudos though to the married with children people who posted here about still having sex with great frequency - you rule.

Tophat665 06-10-2006 03:56 PM

Mrs. Hat and I have been married 11 years and 50 weeks and we're both in our late 30s. Used to be we'd make the beast with two backs nightly except when her aunt Flo was visiting, and that was still good for about 3 sex-like acts a week.

These days, we're sharing space with two insomniac chaos elementals cleverly disguised as small girls. This means that the oportunities for becoming horizontal and superimposed are limited to when the spawn are engrossed in a video, or after they hit the sack.

What with Mrs. Hat's pedagogical career, waiting for the kids to slumber tends to be a perscription for faux necrophilia. (She wakes up with the birds, and toddles off to the land of Nod with the sun.) I'd say the average sexage is about weekly, but it certainly goes in cycles. Some weeks it's nightly or more, and some weeks it's zippo.

(Given my druthers, it'd be thrice daily at a minimum: once to wake, once to sleep, and once to try something new. Then again, I'm a bit sex-pated.)

maestro62371 06-10-2006 07:33 PM

O.K., any of you posting that you do it more than once a month are definitely not married. I'm lucky if it happens once a month. Twice a month if its a blue moon, and that's not sex, that's any sexual activity whatsoever...hey, I'm married, I have to take what I can get.

sweetcha0s 06-18-2006 03:31 AM

Everytime me and my girlfriend see each other =)

Been like that sense we started dating and a little before that

But theres also times were we usually couldnt or had to keep it discreet as f*ck and maybe quick heh

But basically everyday unless i dont see her....then itd be the next day

Val_1 06-18-2006 12:47 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mtsgsd
Place a bean in a jar every time you have sex with her before you are married. After you marry, take one out every time you have sex with her. You will never empty the jar. :(

I found this to be very true, even though I was married for 10 years, and only dated for 2 before hand.

Peladinho 06-18-2006 08:19 PM

On a normal basis 3-4 times a week but there is times though that we go crasy and do it 2-3 times a day for 3-4 times a week.
Married 5 years lived together 9 years.
No difference from then vs now except i last longer and take longer between

Blackthorn 06-18-2006 08:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mtsgsd
The first time I was married I was 26 and working at a store with a lot of retired people doing part time. Several of the old men shared the "bean theory" with me before I was married and it is too true.

Place a bean in a jar every time you have sex with her before you are married. After you marry, take one out every time you have sex with her. You will never empty the jar. :(

Trust me...being single aint no walk in the park in terms of frequency. Work on it with your spouse and your frequency can increase. Work on it when you are single means a lot of time spent getting to know yourself.... ;) I'd much rather be drawing beans out of the jar than looking for a jar to put them in in the first place.

Gilda 06-18-2006 10:11 PM

Married going on four years now, together for five. I'm 29, soon to be 30, she just turned 25.

We do something an average of 3-4 times a week.

Gilda

xepherys 06-19-2006 08:49 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TotalMILF
I'm 23, he's 29, and we've been married 2 years next Sunday. We "get down" once or twice a week. It used to be almost every day, but it's tough with a new baby. My libido is still recovering, but the sex is becoming more and more frequent as the weeks go by. I hope to get back to "normal," or close to it, relatively soon :)

Honestly, he could have sex 2-3 times a day and be happy as a clam. I'm about ready to clone myself just to get him off my back! :lol:

Hmmm... Is it cheating if I have a herum of my own wife? :love:

Love you hun! :p

TotalMILF 06-20-2006 01:18 PM

*blushes*

I feel so loved :icare:

Average_Joe 06-21-2006 11:27 AM

Before marriage: 10X per week
After 8 years of marriage + 4 kids: 1X per week

joofoo 06-26-2006 09:39 PM

Before marriage and the first few years, about 14 times a week. years four thru eleven (up to today) Maybe 1 time a week, if I ask nicely. Oh well...

insidious_machinae 06-26-2006 10:35 PM

New Answer: zero.

We haven't had sex in over a month.

Andy_ 06-26-2006 11:04 PM

Me and the good lady tend to go through trends as opposed to a constant value. I have bone problems so when I'm bad...nothing for a week, maybe more. A normal working week would probably be around 3-4 times, but depending on what we're spending our free time on can often go for 10-15 times a week for a couple of weeks - though that tends to get kind of sore after a while.

opus123 07-22-2006 10:33 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Irishsean
I know this one because my dear wife has been keeping track because were trying to have kids. Over the last 6 months we average 1.83 times per day. :p

Don't have sex for a month and you will be more fertile.

Jonathan

It also should be noted that both men and women decrease in testosterone as they age. So having less sex is not always mental.

http://www.askmen.com/sports/health_...ns_health.html

Jonathan

Sp00n 07-23-2006 04:44 AM

2/3 times a week, used to be at least once a day but the mrs is always so tired after running around at work looking at children!

bt925 07-29-2006 07:45 AM

Once a month tops....on a good month twice (typically missonary only...clasify it as a quicky). Have had dry spells last for at least 3 months. We've known each other since high school (lots of activity), married 14 years, 37 & 37 with 2 kids. I even got snipped to reduce the fear of having another (so she could relax), no change.

Like most on here I would prefer at least 3 times a week and sprinkle in a few sex-like acts. I work typically 10 hour days (+hour to decompress), she has a business and takes the kids where they need to go so being tired plays into it. I subscribe to the philosophy of I'll get enough sleep when I'm dead. My drive is always available, her drive is practically nil.

Wow to write that and read it...now I feel sad.

Prince 07-29-2006 08:06 AM

We've been married for 3 years. We have sex about 3-4 times a month, I'd estimate.

Daniel_ 07-29-2006 01:33 PM

First Marriage - when it got to 3 months of no sex, I stopped counting and stopped asking.

When it sudenly went to sex twice a day and a shouting match when I asked why the sudden change, I realised she was having an affair. :(

======================

Fast forward to the present day.

Some days none, some days several - generally not more than a couple of days go by.

We've been together for 2 1/2 years, and maried for 5 1/2 months.

ktthequeen 08-01-2006 07:41 PM

around 20 times a week...well, for last week that is.

long distance relationship will do that to ya...this is gonna last us at least a month, hopefully not anymore than that, but who knows

(yeah, i know, I'm bragging, but my god, it had been almost 2 months!!)

essendoubleop 08-01-2006 08:17 PM

10x a week before I broke up with my g/f. Our record was 6x in one day. I haven't since.

American 08-07-2006 10:45 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by opus123
Don't have sex for a month and you will be more fertile.

Jonathan

It also should be noted that both men and women decrease in testosterone as they age. So having less sex is not always mental.

http://www.askmen.com/sports/health_...ns_health.html

Jonathan

This is untrue. Testosterone levels rise at the age of 18 and fall at age 70. The ability to utilize it is what changes.

If your wife is displeased with you, you almost never get it. This only serves to worsen the situation.

Paq 08-07-2006 01:04 PM

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Originally Posted by OFKU0
I go in spurts. .


Doesn't everybody :p

before gf moved away, 3-7 times a week for the past 20 months...

can't wait to see her again.


and yeah, i've heard that sudden changes from your partner are indications of affairs...so sad

opus123 08-29-2006 09:26 AM

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Originally Posted by American
This is untrue. Testosterone levels rise at the age of 18 and fall at age 70. The ability to utilize it is what changes.

Are you a doctor ?

Your post is more untrue than mine is. Unless you actually have websites to back up what you say ?

"As men age, their testosterone levels gradually decline. After 30 years of age, levels decrease by about 1.5 percent per year. Low testosterone levels can result in decreased muscle mass and bone density, insulin resistance and low sex drive, as well as less energy, more irritability and feelings of depression, the researchers noted."

http://www.medicinenet.com/script/ma...ticlekey=63459

Jonathan

agoodbadhabit 08-29-2006 08:51 PM

It's all about priorities...
 
Khym and I shagged like minks for the first two years, averaging a bit over 7 times per week (even though at times we didn't get to see each other every day). Then various life things (back injury, moving cross-country and getting new jobs, acquiring children, et cetera) knocked us down to 1-3 times per week.

This frequency went on for about ten years. It turned out that neither of us was happy with the drop, but both of us were too busy keeping the household going to take the necessary time to think it over and communicate effectively. Once we quantified what was going on, and how it was affecting our quality of life (sex being one of the activities we both enjoy immensely), we made the effort to bring it back into the forefront.

Since then (for the past 7 years), we're back up to over 7 times per week; if we miss a day here and there we definitely make up for it. We're both still as enslaved to our libidos as we were when we first got together.

We've seen the more common phenomenon (lots in the beginning, a tapering off, then the dissolution of the sexual relationship and often the whole relationship) many times amongst our friends. Seems that candid conversations about sex, and sexual needs, is a very hard topic for most folks to master.

cheers,
Matt (and Khym)

air45 08-31-2006 12:53 PM

i have some sex all the days, but it is not always with a lady.

uptown 09-08-2006 02:21 PM

1-2 per week, always roughly at the same times of day, always pretty much the same positions and activities.

After a few years of going for it whenever he offered because I like sex and figured if I don't take it when I can get it I'll go without, I've grown tired of feeling like I've had to beg for it or like he's performing some sort of obligatory chore.


I initiate a lot less now, I also find that I say thanks but no thanks when he does decide to offer.I hate feeling like some sort of needy beggar. I quietly just masterbate and take care of my own needs most of the time.

I love the man,he's got a lot of good qualities but most of my sexual drive
and passion has basically been wrung out of me at this point.

SugahBritches 09-08-2006 04:29 PM

Married over 26 yrs and the average is 3 to 4 times a week. RIGHT, the children are grown and gone.

DEI37 09-22-2006 07:12 PM

I know full well that after being married for 8 years, the bean theory would be toast by now! We get it on about 5-6 times a week. We're in a funk right now, though...haven't had much of it lately. It's annoying. We are both horny people, and no sex kills us both! In the last three weeks, I think we've had more sex with other people than each other. :eek:

robot_parade 09-23-2006 06:06 PM

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Originally Posted by mtsgsd
The first time I was married I was 26 and working at a store with a lot of retired people doing part time. Several of the old men shared the "bean theory" with me before I was married and it is too true.

Place a bean in a jar every time you have sex with her before you are married. After you marry, take one out every time you have sex with her. You will never empty the jar. :(

I love the 'with her' qualifier on this story. Those old dudes got around, I bet! ;-)

And, for the record, less than once a week... :-( Though it tends to be 'sporadic' - once a day for a few days, then nothing for a couple of weeks. Very disheartening.

hrandani 09-24-2006 11:33 PM

Seriously this is the most depressing thing I've ever read.

Schindler's list was one thing. But this. Jesus Christ. I'm referencing this thread in the footnotes of my suicide note.

Paq 09-24-2006 11:42 PM

right there with ya, hrandani...

ok, what if you never marry the girl, but you two are together for 50-60 yrs.

Vindicated0411 09-25-2006 04:50 PM

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2 years now and we pretty much live together. We are both in college and both have apartments so we sleep in the same bed every night. I say the average for us is about 3-4 times a week. I would say we are about the same as a married couple. We both have classes and homework, so we know what its like to go to bed exhausted. Which when your tired your sex drive is dead as well. Some weeks we have sex more than others, it just depends. I must say I think my sexual appetite is bigger or moreso than his. Which I have researched and I am younger than him and supposedly still in my "horny age." Which leads me to a question, as you get older does your sex drive minify?

Jozrael 09-27-2006 07:54 PM

Thanks for some of the tips on here - though I'm years away from where I want a sexual relationship, it's nice just reading about some of the techniques you guys go through to keep a healthful physicality in a relationship. Communication, it seems, is key (as I would expect for any aspect of a relationship).

When the time comes for it, I think I'll be very happy with the frequency my gf and I will have. Previous to knowing her and coming to this forum, I was under the impression that all women were like some of the 'horror stories' on this forum - once a month if you're lucky and you behave perfectly for that time.

I'm sorta glad I won't have to worry about that in the future :D. Her drive is comparable to mine, which while nowhere near some of yours, is quite healthy. I mean, 20 times a week would be pretty rad for a bit but I think I just lack the endurance to do that for an extended period of time.

SugahBritches 09-28-2006 05:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Jozrael

I'm sorta glad I won't have to worry about that in the future :D. Her drive is comparable to mine, which while nowhere near some of yours, is quite healthy. I mean, 20 times a week would be pretty rad for a bit but I think I just lack the endurance to do that for an extended period of time.

LOL! Not to mention repetitious! It kinda takes the fun out of it, I would think. Especially if it's done randomly. What is it that they say? Quality instead of quanity? :D

Things that come up as a complete surprise or out of the blue are much more fun, IMO. And then you appreciate those times. I personally think when you don't have family (meaning kids) you can tune in better to your mate. Not to mean you can't while you have a family, just saying that things are more focused on the just you and your partner.

But, you and others here are right about the communication part, without some small contact (outside of the bedroom), how do you expect to relate well in the bedroom? After talking and hearing some couples, even the bedroom light goes out completely without other outside activities.

MichaelFarker 09-29-2006 05:40 PM

I have been married for 7 years. I'm 30, she's 28. No kids born yet.

We have averaged once a week. That includes holidays where it's twice daily and those frequent times where it's less than twice monthly. I just don't understand the dry spells.

I think we've been in love for 6 of the past 8 years, and we're more in love today than ever. I try to make sure we get caught up each day on what has happened. She seems to believe my love for her. We trust each other. We go out on a date almost every week and get away together 2-3 times a year.

We engage in foreplay almost daily. When we do get together in bed her pleasure comes first. But that's not very often. And somehow she manages not to miss it.

No matter what we only have sex occasionally.

It makes an otherwise wonderful life pretty frustrating.

SugahBritches 09-29-2006 05:53 PM

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Originally Posted by MichaelFarker

No matter what we only have sex occasionally.

It makes an otherwise wonderful life pretty frustrating.

Have you mentioned to her that you would like to have sex more?

The one thing that I have found (in our early years) was the fact that we didn't see each other much. The boss worked out of town alot so when he came home, it seemed that we really stayed in tune with each other. I don't know if it made a difference in staying together so long (over 26 yrs), but it seemed like it helped IMO.

But, it's easy to let life kinda pass you by. I think that as long as you stay in communication and are able to read (or stay in tune) your spouse's/partner's moods then you know what they are thinking without guessing. I personally know when the boss is .........well, "in the mood" and I try and meet that need, even if I might at the time....not be in that mood. But, once in the throws..........well....I ain't complainin' and I'm pretty much in the mood he is in! :D

Sometimes women need more of the romancing method Micheal. I know it seems like a little bit more "work", but if you love her.... and it's worth it, you won't really regret it. :)

MichaelFarker 09-29-2006 07:32 PM

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Originally Posted by SugahBritches
I think that as long as you stay in communication and are able to read (or stay in tune) your spouse's/partner's moods then you know what they are thinking without guessing. I personally know when the boss is .........well, "in the mood" and I try and meet that need, even if I might at the time....not be in that mood. But, once in the throws..........well....I ain't complainin' and I'm pretty much in the mood he is in! :D

That is awesome. I admire you for that. It sounds like you are both really lucky.

To answer your question my wife and I have talked about it. She knows that I want more sex.

I'm not sure what you mean by romance.
Some aspects of it seem natural and important to me. Weekly dates, flowers, frequent love notes, the daily "I love you" & "You look beautiful because...." I enjoy it.
I think we stay caught up and can read each other well. I know I enjoy knowing my wife and how she sees things most of the time.

Maybe I need to wash the dishes and wash her car more often. Is that what it takes for some women to be ready to open up generously?

Is it possible a lot of wives put sex on the back burner while their career or children consume their attention? Their focus would be on things that come naturally and are emotionally easier than sex.

Anyway, I appreciate the advice. I didn't even know this was on my mind until I read the excellent posts here.

SugahBritches 09-29-2006 08:20 PM

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Originally Posted by MichaelFarker
That is awesome. I admire you for that. It sounds like you are both really lucky.

To answer your question my wife and I have talked about it. She knows that I want more sex.

I'm not sure what you mean by romance.
Some aspects of it seem natural and important to me. Weekly dates, flowers, frequent love notes, the daily "I love you" & "You look beautiful because...." I enjoy it.
I think we stay caught up and can read each other well. I know I enjoy knowing my wife and how she sees things most of the time.

Maybe I need to wash the dishes and wash her car more often. Is that what it takes for some women to be ready to open up generously?

Is it possible a lot of wives put sex on the back burner while their career or children consume their attention? Their focus would be on things that come naturally and are emotionally easier than sex.

Anyway, I appreciate the advice. I didn't even know this was on my mind until I read the excellent posts here.

Buy her a dishwasher! LMAO! I'm sorry, but I grew up as a young teenage girl with a dishwasher, I marry the boss and wash dishes for over 20 yrs! Move to a new home with a dishwasher and now we have sex at least 3/4 times a week! :D :D :D

NO! HA! Sorry, that is not really the whole truth, however, it sure gave me more TIME to do other stuff! LOL!

Okay....I'll be serious. Actually I never thought much about sex until I hit my late 30's really. I think it was because I no longer had "other things" to really focus my time on. Other than work, that is.

But, you are right, I think some women, if they don't have children, tend to devote their time on other things...such as careers. I think most women just have a lot of clutter in their minds.

It personally sounds like you two are solid Michael. I think you both need to do a few things together that you wouldn't ordinarily do. Like go to an amusement park and ride the merry-go-round, drive bumper cars, race go-carts or play putt putt golf. But, do something fun and relaxing that you wouldn't normally do.

Flowers and going out to dinner are nice, but I think being spontaneous can bring out a "renewal" of sorts. I'll never forget the simplicity of the boss coming home with a grin and said, "Hey! Pack us some sandwiches dear! We are going to the river fishing!" His excitement, made me pause and then laugh. For that is how he asked me out on our first date!!! :D

genuinegirly 10-05-2006 02:21 AM

It has been 4 months since Turbotom and I have lived in the same city, so our average is pretty lousy these days. Since we haven't seen one another more than 2 times in the past 4 months, we tend to try to cram as much in as possible when we can. Before I moved, we had issues with finding a place of our own, so it was only a couple of times a month at best. We've always seemed to have a binge mentality about it. Only get it so often, so go overboard when we can.

Tt is moving out here next week. It should be fairly difficult to adjust to a normal schedule. I wonder what it will do to realize that we can do it whenever we want. Does that decrease the frequency? I expect our average to improve. But considering that I'm working 2 jobs, and going to school full-time...

surferlove007 10-15-2006 07:22 PM

With my guy now its about 5 times a week, I'd like more but it's hard (pardon the pun) to find a place to be alone without roommates interruopting. Very happy with it so far.

Warlock! 10-16-2006 05:09 AM

I'm 39, been married for 16 years, and have 3 kids. Twice/month or a little less is the norm for me.

Thankfully, my computer is filled with porn. :D

soldsoul4foos 08-31-2007 01:19 AM

37, married almost 11 years. 2 great kids (boys..whew). 3-7 times a week. I couldn't imagine not having sex AT least every other day when i'm busy. More when there's not much going on. Kids need their own house :)

Clare 08-31-2007 01:36 AM

me and my boyfriend are long distance, but when i see him we do it enough to work out as about once a day maybe a little bit more. we've been togeter for 5 months .....i cant see it being less then that in the future as apparently im insatiable and he as a very high sex drive :D i woudnt have it any other way...........infact id have it more if i could haha


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