Telethon

Ok, I've been wondering, what do girls mean when they say things like "aww you're such a sweetheart' or "wow, you're so nice" or "wow you're so quiet and mysterious!" but WTF does this all mean?

Averett

Well, it most likely means...

You're a sweetheart
You're nice
You're quiet and mysterious

But that's just in my no bullshit world. I don't tell guys things that I don't mean. If I say you're sweet, you are. If I say youre nice, then you are.

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Telethon

Lol, Ok, thanks...I'm such a dork

gabshu

sweetheart, so nice = I like you but I'm not sleeping with you, sorry.

you're quiet and mysterious = please take me right now you're so weird and hot

But that's just me in my bullshit world, I guess you should really take it on a case by case basis.

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kinkybob0

gabshu has it, you're not getting any.......or i'm just being an asshole. one of the two.

Devilchild

shes just flirting, most probably, act a lil embarrased and comment about how nice she looks and stuff

Telethon

Haha well in reality all I want is to get laid but that's not happening unless I get plastic surgery or something... Oh well...Post more things girl say that possibly have hidden meanings..

OFKU0

If you haven't banged her yet,you won't. If you have, she wants it harder and nastier.

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Telethon

Yeah I know I won't bang anyone, I think I should consider getting a Real Doll...Ahahahahahaha

diddagirl

Damn telethon.....dont be so hard on yourself. If a girl says you are a sweetheart, that IS a good thing...and you are on your way
Oh BTW- girls like confidence in a guy...... it might help you if you work on that.

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analog

Damnit, someone beat me to it.

Yeah, if you're already seeing her, she loves you and wants it nasty... if you're still friends, you will ALWAYS JUST be friends. Sorry man, she considers you a friend, and nothing more. I'll bet she has or will call you something like, "you're like a brother to me!" If this EVER happens, for all of you out there who don't know it, you are SHUT OFF- move on.

Keep looking, there are tons of options, and you're young yet.

Anomaly_

I would take it with a grain of salt. Even I've heard that so... well you know.

On a semi-facetious thread digression, wouldn't it be nice if guys with no confidence like Telethon and myself could be converted to the other sexual orientation? Years of oppression and STD risk notwithstanding, it would be ideal. You could just show up to one of those pride group meetings with your pitiful self and be cornholing 5 minutes after it gets out. There would no longer be that limiting reagent of sexual chemistry called the female. Getting confidence seems much more difficult.

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cameroncrazy822

I'd say you have to take the comments in the context of the situation but for the most part I think those lines mean you're nice but not the kinda guy I wanna date...

sadistic midget

Most of the time when women used to tell me I was so Nice and a Sweetheart, it meant I wasn't going to have a chance in hell with them. It is usally followed by " you are such a good friend".

Just in my experiance though, so don't count yourself out yet.

Sapper

Some people are sooo harsh!!

Really though ... you can't be the nice guy ... try to be the confident guy who is also nice, but wants some ass ...

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Telethon

Honestly I try but when a girl looks disapointed or something when I'm talking I always think it's cause of my face and my self esteem and confidence goes out the window from there.

Jedbeck

Confidence is a weird thing. It is not something that is uniform. In some situations you may be "master of your domain" and in other circumstances you may feel like you totally unsure and nervous.

One thing to remember though is that everybody is just another person. They share the same thoughts feelings and experiences that you do. Nothing makes them better or worse. It is just how they are precieved that makes people think they are different.

jw_toyboy

I honestlly have no idea... particuarlly without knowing the context or tone of her voice.

Sleepyjack

this is so true. Its not waht you say (to an extent) more so how you actually say it!

Body language, facial expression, tone of voice, context and everything else is just as important for flirting and other sexual innuendo. Unfortunatley things aren't normally black and white.

sillygirl

Telethon- it's your attitude. Any guy has the potential to attract a girl. It's that simple. If you keep saying how you're not gonna get any, you won't. If you keep saying you're ugly, you'll stay that way until you do something about it (as in, get some self confidence). Girls know if all you want is sex. We're not THAT dumb.

What do you think is so wrong with you that no girl would want to be with you?

Oh, and I basically agree with Averett. Unless there is a blatantly sarcastic tone to it, I mean what I say with something like that. If I tell a guy he's sweet, it's probably because he did something that was sweet, etc.

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Telethon

That's true but I'm just expressing my feelings here and I don't know what could be done to change my looks, unless you people wanna give me tips (which would be cool :P)

rainheart

You know what your problem is? (I've already explained, no self esteem)

You think too negatively-- hear me out, you are in control of your own life, and you are the person that can make everything change-- you are not doing bad because things that are out of your control (i.e. your looks, your socio-economic status, or whatever else). Untill you take that to heart and actually learn this one valuable lesson you're not going anywhere.

Telethon

Yeah I already know this and I guess I sort of want to change, I just don't know how :P

Averett

You don't need to change your looks, it's the attitude.

Somewhere along the line you got it in your head that you're ugly. You just have to change that.

I'm the same way really. Most of the time I don't think I'm attractive at all. It helps to be told every now and again that I am. I'm still working on believing it when people say it..

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Telethon

Yes I need to change my looks because like everyone I know says I do, I think my attitude would be adjusted when my looks are too heh

Averett

Wow. It sounds like you need some new friends too.

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Telethon

Nah, my friends are fine just people I know from my school tell me this stuff, they're not mean about it or anything

analog

I wear nothing but black. Some of my friends support it and back me up for being steadfast with it, some say i'd get more chicks if i dressed "normally". I tell them, but i AM dressed normally- for me.

To deny something that is such a large part of me, my personality, and the way I live my life, would be stupid. If a girl is going to like me, it's going to be for ME, not for how I dress.

Hell, my ex-girlfriend of 3 years loved the hell out of me and still to this day dislikes that I wear all black. You think it mattered to her?

And THAT is true for everyone. People will come to love you for you- not your dressing up, not your hair gel, not your club clothes, not your GAP or Abercrombie clothes, but the real you behind the clothing and underneath the look you might falsely portray.

Telethon

Lol thats so cliche...Looking great = feelings great!

motdakasha

in my world:
sweetheart - sweetness is a positive boyfriend quality, compliment
nice - again something good, compliment. i say it sometimes when i'm interested in the guy and sometimes it's just a compliment.
quiet and mysterious - "talk more, i want to know you"
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like others said, it's all about body language and context.

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gabshu

I was just kidding with my post. I don't know the situation in which the girl told you that, but I think my boyfriend is a sweet guy and I tell him and still sleep with him.

Really girls are not so full of crap as everyone thinks, and if she doesn't want to sleep with you oh well, you'll find your perfect girl some other time.

Please don't be so hard on yourself and I'm sorry if I was being a little insensitive.

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Telethon

Haha no problem, but honestly I'm not being hard on myself I honestly think that about myself, it doesn't really bring me down

diddagirl

Seriously Telethon- do whatever you have to do to make yourself feel better about who you are. Why are you so hard on yourself? Nobody is perfect... and everyone in this world has something to offer both mentally and physically.

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spads

Those lines mean she thinks you're goddam submissive beta-male pussy. So strap on a pair, sack-up, and start acting like a man.

NEVER EVER, believe a thing a woman says. Base your opinion on what they do. Theres usually a huge difference.

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