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nextlevel1 · 10-11-2003, 07:30 AM

Ok. about a week ago me and my wife were at some friends of ours and we were all drinking. Well during the course of the night me & my buddy were picking on our wives about having a twosome with each other. The next thing we know they were in the bedroom feeling on each other so we turned on the video camera and let them have at it. About 30 minutes later they came out and put the video in the vcr and we began to watch thier sexual adventure. It was great and very sensual. But the problem is my buddy wants me to have sex with his wife and he wants to watch. I havent really talked to my wife a whole lot about it but she says shes cool with it if its me, my wife and the other women but she really dont know about the other guy yet.

I dont know what to do because I have respect for my friendship with the guy but he keeps bringing it up that he wants me to have sex with his wife and shes up with it to. I just would like a little imput on this. I wouldnt mind doing it but I just really dont know where I stand on this!?!

numist_net · 10-11-2003, 10:04 AM

wow..

well, it depends on how YOU would like to do it. There are risks and benifits involved.

First, its something you may never be able to do again, but it may put your friendship at risk, or may take it places you haven't been before.
If you don't take the opportunity, then your friendship will probably stay as it is now, but now that you made the first jump, it may degrade on its own anyway, as any friendship does without proper maintenence.

If my girl were cool with it, and the guy and his wife are cool with it, and all of this is for sure, just make sure your all clean and go for it!

yankeefatboy · 10-11-2003, 10:14 AM

Beware of the cosequences. He may want to have sex with your wife, etc. Is that what you want? Be very careful.

analog · 10-12-2003, 09:01 PM

Ok you fucked my wife, now I get yours. Seen it happen. Beeeeee careful.

Johnny Rotten · 10-12-2003, 09:06 PM

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Originally posted by analog
Ok you fucked my wife, now I get yours. Seen it happen. Beeeeee careful.

That's the first thing that came to my mind as well. He could just be looking for an in with your wife, and not ashamed to offer up his own surruptitiously.

vveronica · 10-13-2003, 08:48 AM

Dear penthouse...... ohh wait I'm on tilted...
Go for it...

Minx · 10-13-2003, 09:13 AM

I agree with the "be careful" theme.
And it seems to me that if you aren't sure where you stand on the idea then deep down it's not something you want to do otherwise you would have jumped at the opportunity.

pocon1 · 10-13-2003, 09:26 AM

Only if your wife is going to commit, because he will want to sleep with her. If you all are ok with it (after all, your wife already had sex with his wife), then go for it. I wish I were in your shoes.

absorbentishe · 10-13-2003, 01:01 PM

He'll secretly video tape it, then it's on the internet... then he wants to do your wife, then a foursome, and then total orgy. Think about the relationship (with your wife) consequenses first.

rockbehemoth · 10-13-2003, 04:29 PM

Don't do it.

skysooner · 10-13-2003, 04:59 PM

It sounds very risky to me.

Aladdin Sane · 10-13-2003, 05:57 PM

Is your relationship with your wife strong? If your answer is no, and you want it to be strong, then don't get involved anymore with this couple. If you have kids, keeping the family together is your number one priority. If your relationship with the wife is strong, and you have no worry that this kind of outside activity will hurt it, go for it.
In most cases, when a partner wants a threesome, or to swing, it is because they are really trying to sabotage the relationship. And usually it works.

i8one2 · 10-13-2003, 09:32 PM

Let the ladies rule. Let the ladies build a realtionship first, if they choose to go there.

Your wife will/can tell you its an option worth presuing further.
Communication, communication, communication...and as the others have said be careful.

darkallaround · 10-13-2003, 10:10 PM

the way you ask us, it seems you want an out, or at the very least you dont feel right about it deep down.
stick with your gut.

10-11-2003, 07:30 AM	#1 (permalink)
nextlevel1 Upright Location: louisiana	Friend Problem. Ok. about a week ago me and my wife were at some friends of ours and we were all drinking. Well during the course of the night me & my buddy were picking on our wives about having a twosome with each other. The next thing we know they were in the bedroom feeling on each other so we turned on the video camera and let them have at it. About 30 minutes later they came out and put the video in the vcr and we began to watch thier sexual adventure. It was great and very sensual. But the problem is my buddy wants me to have sex with his wife and he wants to watch. I havent really talked to my wife a whole lot about it but she says shes cool with it if its me, my wife and the other women but she really dont know about the other guy yet. I dont know what to do because I have respect for my friendship with the guy but he keeps bringing it up that he wants me to have sex with his wife and shes up with it to. I just would like a little imput on this. I wouldnt mind doing it but I just really dont know where I stand on this!?! __________________ "To be old & wise, you must first be young & stupid."

10-13-2003, 08:48 AM	#6 (permalink)
vveronica Psycho Location: northern california	Dear penthouse...... ohh wait I'm on tilted... Go for it... __________________ ...We find ourselves in a struggle for our very right to exsist... We will not go quietly into the night... We will not give up without a fight...

10-13-2003, 09:13 AM	#7 (permalink)
Minx Junkie Location: Up yonder	I agree with the "be careful" theme. And it seems to me that if you aren't sure where you stand on the idea then deep down it's not something you want to do otherwise you would have jumped at the opportunity. __________________ You've been a naughty boy....go to my room!

10-13-2003, 05:57 PM	#12 (permalink)
Aladdin Sane Degenerate Location: San Marvelous	Is your relationship with your wife strong? If your answer is no, and you want it to be strong, then don't get involved anymore with this couple. If you have kids, keeping the family together is your number one priority. If your relationship with the wife is strong, and you have no worry that this kind of outside activity will hurt it, go for it. In most cases, when a partner wants a threesome, or to swing, it is because they are really trying to sabotage the relationship. And usually it works. __________________ Ceterum censeo Carthaginem esse delendam.

10-13-2003, 09:32 PM	#13 (permalink)
i8one2 COMPLETED and A TRAINER Location: BEAN_TOWN	Let the ladies rule. Let the ladies build a realtionship first, if they choose to go there. Your wife will/can tell you its an option worth presuing further. Communication, communication, communication...and as the others have said be careful. __________________ LEATHER, LATEX and LACE "SSC" "Nothing That Gives Pleasure is Bad" Quality is for those who know what they want and are at peace with what they have. "S/M is about emotion; the erotic tension between my impulse toward something and my resistance against it."-- Virginia Barker

10-11-2003, 10:04 AM	#2 (permalink)
numist_net Banned Location: UCSD	wow.. well, it depends on how YOU would like to do it. There are risks and benifits involved. First, its something you may never be able to do again, but it may put your friendship at risk, or may take it places you haven't been before. If you don't take the opportunity, then your friendship will probably stay as it is now, but now that you made the first jump, it may degrade on its own anyway, as any friendship does without proper maintenence. If my girl were cool with it, and the guy and his wife are cool with it, and all of this is for sure, just make sure your all clean and go for it!

10-11-2003, 10:14 AM	#3 (permalink)
yankeefatboy Addict Location: northern california	Beware of the cosequences. He may want to have sex with your wife, etc. Is that what you want? Be very careful.

10-12-2003, 09:01 PM	#4 (permalink)
analog Banned	Ok you fucked my wife, now I get yours. Seen it happen. Beeeeee careful.

10-13-2003, 09:26 AM	#8 (permalink)
pocon1 Banned	Only if your wife is going to commit, because he will want to sleep with her. If you all are ok with it (after all, your wife already had sex with his wife), then go for it. I wish I were in your shoes.

10-13-2003, 01:01 PM	#9 (permalink)
absorbentishe Boy am I horny today Location: T O L E D O, Toledo!!	He'll secretly video tape it, then it's on the internet... then he wants to do your wife, then a foursome, and then total orgy. Think about the relationship (with your wife) consequenses first.

10-13-2003, 04:29 PM	#10 (permalink)
rockbehemoth Junkie	Don't do it.

10-13-2003, 04:59 PM	#11 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	It sounds very risky to me.

10-13-2003, 10:10 PM	#14 (permalink)
darkallaround Tilted	the way you ask us, it seems you want an out, or at the very least you dont feel right about it deep down. stick with your gut. __________________ the darkness it surrounds me, consumes my very soul. within this worthless existence i shall never be made whole.