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RemyLebeau97 · 10-12-2003, 08:40 PM

Ok so here's my problem. When me and my girl go out places she wears some of the most skimpiest, tightest, revealing clothes I've ever seen. She wears those really tight shirts exposing most of her stomach and hugging her boobs, pants so tight and low you can almost see the crack of her ass, those lil ass shorts with Cheer and shit on the back of em, and low cut dresses. I know that she has a damn good lookin body and wants to show it off but sometimes I feel like she wants that attention from other people, like she's trying to catch someone elses eye when she is with me. I can't go to the mall with her without 1000 guys staring at her like she's a damn piece of meat. Im trying to figure out if she just likes attention from other people or if she is putting herself on the market for another boyfriend. We have been together for almost 2 years and she's done this for as long as I've known her. Just wondering if I should confront her or just chill. It's really not that big of a problem cause I like seein her in those clothes myself, just wondering if I should say something??? Thanks.

Mojo_PeiPei · 10-12-2003, 08:47 PM

That seems kind of shady, but if she's been with you for two years and hasn't dogged you why would she do it now? I mean at least she is consistent. If it really bothers you just be straight with her, don't be a dick about, obviously it really does bother you and it isn't unreasonable by any means.

mew · 10-12-2003, 09:00 PM

Women like to feel that their still attractive and still desired. I dont dress that severe, but a little body snug shirt always makes me feel attractive at times. Not just necessarily to attract other people, but ..I mainly do it to attract my bf. I dress for him and try to be pretty for him.
I heard that some guys like it when their women dress to impress..make other guys jealous of their SO-you know an ego boost. Though thats not why I do it. Maybe you can look at her attire in that manner.
Though, if shes mooning people ever time she sits down then..I suggest a seriouse talk to her. Cause she can attract the wrong people and get hurt.

Litespeed · 10-12-2003, 09:08 PM

She's probably dressing this way to spoil you, though you obviously don't take it that way.

She's advertising "Hey, I'm hot, look who I'm with!"

I'm sure if you discuss your discomfort on this issue, she'll change her ways.

If she wants any advice on tasteful, yet elegant attire, send her my way. I'd be happy to help her out.

On a side note, it can be very difficult attempting to find nice-looking clothes that aren't revealing for someone with a nice figure (I speak from experience). Keep this fact in mind as you're critical of your GF's choice in attire.

Johnny Rotten · 10-12-2003, 09:08 PM

Whenever my ex-GF did that, it was to make me proud to have her on my arm. An ego boost for her, too, I'm sure, but she liked making me feel like a pimp. God, I miss that cheating bitch.

Vaultboy · 10-12-2003, 09:14 PM

I feel that the same situation might develop with the girl I'm dating at the moment. In the end bro, the way she looked is obviously one of the things that attracted you to her, so I think its a bit unreasonable of you to complain now.

analog · 10-12-2003, 09:16 PM

If she's been doing it all along, it means she's proud of her body and has a good self-image and is secure being with you and dressing how she pleases. If she'd started this recently, then i'd say she's penis-fishing.

You're that guy I look at and think of ways to kill you because of your hot girl. Relax, man. Bask in her hotness, and tag that shit as hard and often as you can.

Sleepyjack · 10-12-2003, 09:43 PM

this is somewhat unrelated, but reminds me of this really funny thing my friend at uni said the other day.
We were just outside the library waiting for a friend to come out and some guy and his really hot girlfriend walked by. Just as they past he said "hmmm, i'll have what he's having"

i guess you had to be there but at the time it was gold.

Harshaw · 10-12-2003, 11:59 PM

I was in canada walking around Vancouver with my girlfriend on my arm. Someone stopped me, walked up and said "Thats a nice looking girl you have there". It was odd, I didn't know what to say (I'm not responsible for the way she looks, I'm just a happy bystander) but it was a nice ego boost.

I think if she has been with you for two years, you have very little to worry about. Sounds like she is willing to commit herself, I would just chill.

h45e · 10-13-2003, 12:19 AM

/me crosses legs

Sledge · 10-13-2003, 01:05 AM

After two years you should be close enough to talk about it. Why not ask her?

sixate · 10-13-2003, 02:14 AM

After 2 years why ask her? I fail to see a problem, and this is why relationships die. Because people create problems out of nothing.....

SecretMethod70 · 10-13-2003, 02:18 AM

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Originally posted by sixate
After 2 years why ask her? I fail to see a problem, and this is why relationships die. Because people create problems out of nothing.....

Exactly. Just talk to her. I can't believe that in two years you haven't become comfortable enough to simply discuss things in an adult manner yet.

Holo · 10-13-2003, 03:17 AM

Get used to it man. I would kill for a girl that dresses sexy all the time. Most of my gfs got tired of it and/or complacent and stop dressing nice but for occasions. Just remember the old phrase:

Be careful what you wish for...you just might get it.

Redlemon · 10-13-2003, 06:05 AM

Other than her dress style, does she give you any indication that she's thinking of leaving you? It doesn't sound like it to me. Feel confident and enjoy the attention she gets, knowing that she is yours. The more uncomfortable you feel about it, the more likely that others might "move in" on her. Don't show fear.

Loup · 10-13-2003, 06:15 AM

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Originally posted by RemyLebeau97
Ok so here's my problem. When me and my girl go out places she wears some of the most skimpiest, tightest, revealing clothes I've ever seen. ... We have been together for almost 2 years and she's done this for as long as I've known her. Just wondering if I should confront her or just chill. It's really not that big of a problem cause I like seein her in those clothes myself, just wondering if I should say something??? Thanks.

Chill. She's been that way all this time and you're ok with it. No worries bro. One of my ex's was the same way, and I enjoyed seeing guys oogle her - I trusted her. When we went to a hockey game once, she walked 4 feet in font of me and I just counted (out loud) how many guys turned there heads, stared, jaws dropped, etc. My current gf doesn't dress up when we go out and I do miss that secondiary attention that I got with my ex. Kinda makes me sound selfish, eh?

Ripsaw · 10-13-2003, 08:17 AM

*sigh* Wish I had your problem. Sweatshirts just don't do my fiance justice.

BonesCPA · 10-13-2003, 11:47 AM

This situation came up with a friend, and he couldn't find the right way to discuss it. I unwittingly helped him start the conversation after a group of us went to the movies - she had dressed in this really slinky dress with slits up both sides of the dress. I joked that she didn't have to dress sexy just to go to the movies with us, and she responded that she didn't - she wore that to work that day. She works in net design, so I couldn't believe it. Later he had a "conversation" with her. Since she was from Fla. and we were in PA, she blew it off as being the way she always dressed. He wasn't too happy, and she did change slightly, but not enough. (Of course she didn't eventually cheat on him - after breaking up only a couple of hours earlier. I don't want to suggest that your girl would do the same, this wasn't unusual for this girl.)

I would say that you bring it up, but not in a confrontational way. If you are having issues, and you want to keep a good relationship going, you need to be open and honest. I don't think that she gets a pass becuase you "put up" with it for two years, it didn't bother you before, now it does. People change, live with it.

The.Lunatic · 10-13-2003, 12:12 PM

You shut the fuck up right now buddy. Live the flipside of that where your girl is really attactive, but doesn't put much effort into her looks.

My ex Is athletic (school track team), tall, decent bewbs like high B low C, Curley really dark brown hair.

This is her on a normal day.. Sweat pants sometimes a nappy hat or she ties her hair up in some ugly braided thing. Never wears makeup (not that she needs it, but she looks so good with it) She wears these old neon shirts from highshcool which she used to use as night sleeping shirts. Its really pathetic who shes really attractive, but doesn't show it.

She's a very consevitive very intelligent person (intelligence is why i was with her.) I don't thinks she really gets a thrill out of getting attention from guys, as i don't think she's ever been in the position before.

There is something to it for a man that he wants his girl to look good not to him so much, but to others. You get that whole brag factor, and respect/jelously from your friends, because you've landed a good looking one. Knowing that a girl that looks like that is yours is really satisfying. However not to be shallow that isn't why you date somebody, you do that for their personality, and your chemistry together how you make eachother feel that sort of thing. But if your girl alwasy looks like crap and you know she could be so much more it is slightly taxing on the relationship, and it makes you feel like your S'O' isn't living up to their potential

This isn't why she's my ex we had to go back home for the summer from college, the distance didn't do to well as we could never talk. She worked 2 jobs and had a rigourus workout schedule, and I worked a really hard job where i had to get up early, and feel asleep by 10 every night. It sucked because she couldn't talk untill 10 my time when she got off work, and by then i was dead tierd and often so was she. The whole situation sucked, but she felt something was lost, and we just ended up feeling bad around eachother, because things were off not to mention we're still to young for the kind of relationship we had. So we ended it. One of the hardest things thats ever happend to me, but i'm grateful for the life experience

However that said things that really blew about her apperance

He closet looks like a nordstroms rack so many clothes
So many hot clothes
She has so many buety supplys its not even funny she has to box them, cause they wont' even fit in her bathroom

(mind you she still has them all cause she doesn't use them)

Banging body behind sweatshirt = BOO

My friends never though she was hot, so i ended up feeling like i was dateing a dog when i really wasn't

Know that i'm single and looking again I notice most of the chicks that are around here are not as good looking, and most definitly not as good in other aspects sucks, but they do bring other things to the table.

rogue49 · 10-13-2003, 01:03 PM

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Originally posted by sixate
After 2 years why ask her? I fail to see a problem, and this is why relationships die. Because people create problems out of nothing.....

No worries...I have a friend who is exactly this way.
I've known her for 12 years.
Dresses VERY sexy, but only has relations with her S.O.
Some women just like the power of their bodies,
the challenge of the tease.

I wouldn't worry about it,
just watch for hungry wolves around your hen,
who don't respect property rights.
You know what I'm sayin'?

Redhook · 10-13-2003, 02:05 PM

Women are ravenous animals when it comes to complements. You need to work on complementing on her appearance more, especially in presentations you prefer.

Tell her what you like her in, what is sexy to you etc. Do not tell her how to dress. Go shopping with her and do a lot of pointing at things you like, help her pay. But don't pick up stuff and tell her to try it on, because you'll inevitably pick the wrong size/color and she'll flip. Let her know how sexy the right casual clothes can be, and how hot suits and business attire are on the right body.

And then compliment her a million times more, even if what she is wearing isn't exactly to your tastes.

skysooner · 10-13-2003, 05:00 PM

Take it as a compliment to you. She wants to look good for you and herself. My wife thrives off of compliments from me mostly but others as well. She doesn't dress very provocatively but with things that show off her athletic figure.

Jedbeck · 10-13-2003, 06:13 PM

I wish I had your problem as well. I love my fiancee's body, however most days it is jeans and a t-shirt and a hooded sweatshirt jacket. When she does get all dressed up damn I love it.

10-12-2003, 08:40 PM	#1 (permalink)
RemyLebeau97 I stole my boyfriends TFP, hehe !! Location: Galveston, TX	Girl Friend dresses too sexy.... Ok so here's my problem. When me and my girl go out places she wears some of the most skimpiest, tightest, revealing clothes I've ever seen. She wears those really tight shirts exposing most of her stomach and hugging her boobs, pants so tight and low you can almost see the crack of her ass, those lil ass shorts with Cheer and shit on the back of em, and low cut dresses. I know that she has a damn good lookin body and wants to show it off but sometimes I feel like she wants that attention from other people, like she's trying to catch someone elses eye when she is with me. I can't go to the mall with her without 1000 guys staring at her like she's a damn piece of meat. Im trying to figure out if she just likes attention from other people or if she is putting herself on the market for another boyfriend. We have been together for almost 2 years and she's done this for as long as I've known her. Just wondering if I should confront her or just chill. It's really not that big of a problem cause I like seein her in those clothes myself, just wondering if I should say something??? Thanks.

10-12-2003, 08:47 PM	#2 (permalink)
Mojo_PeiPei Kiss of Death Location: Perpetual wind and sorrow	That seems kind of shady, but if she's been with you for two years and hasn't dogged you why would she do it now? I mean at least she is consistent. If it really bothers you just be straight with her, don't be a dick about, obviously it really does bother you and it isn't unreasonable by any means. __________________ To win a war you must serve no master but your ambition. Last edited by Mojo_PeiPei; 10-12-2003 at 08:49 PM..

10-12-2003, 09:00 PM	#3 (permalink)
mew Psycho Location: Canada	Women like to feel that their still attractive and still desired. I dont dress that severe, but a little body snug shirt always makes me feel attractive at times. Not just necessarily to attract other people, but ..I mainly do it to attract my bf. I dress for him and try to be pretty for him. I heard that some guys like it when their women dress to impress..make other guys jealous of their SO-you know an ego boost. Though thats not why I do it. Maybe you can look at her attire in that manner. Though, if shes mooning people ever time she sits down then..I suggest a seriouse talk to her. Cause she can attract the wrong people and get hurt. Last edited by mew; 10-12-2003 at 09:02 PM..

10-12-2003, 09:08 PM	#5 (permalink)
Johnny Rotten lost and found Location: Berkeley	Whenever my ex-GF did that, it was to make me proud to have her on my arm. An ego boost for her, too, I'm sure, but she liked making me feel like a pimp. God, I miss that cheating bitch. __________________ "The idea that money doesn't buy you happiness is a lie put about by the rich, to stop the poor from killing them." -- Michael Caine

10-12-2003, 09:14 PM	#6 (permalink)
Vaultboy Addict Location: Third World	I feel that the same situation might develop with the girl I'm dating at the moment. In the end bro, the way she looked is obviously one of the things that attracted you to her, so I think its a bit unreasonable of you to complain now. __________________ "Failing tastes of bile and dog vomit. Pity any man that gets used to that taste."

10-12-2003, 09:08 PM	#4 (permalink)
Litespeed Loser Location: Thousand Oaks, CA	She's probably dressing this way to spoil you, though you obviously don't take it that way. She's advertising "Hey, I'm hot, look who I'm with!" I'm sure if you discuss your discomfort on this issue, she'll change her ways. If she wants any advice on tasteful, yet elegant attire, send her my way. I'd be happy to help her out. On a side note, it can be very difficult attempting to find nice-looking clothes that aren't revealing for someone with a nice figure (I speak from experience). Keep this fact in mind as you're critical of your GF's choice in attire.

10-12-2003, 09:16 PM	#7 (permalink)
analog Banned	If she's been doing it all along, it means she's proud of her body and has a good self-image and is secure being with you and dressing how she pleases. If she'd started this recently, then i'd say she's penis-fishing. You're that guy I look at and think of ways to kill you because of your hot girl. Relax, man. Bask in her hotness, and tag that shit as hard and often as you can.

10-12-2003, 09:43 PM	#8 (permalink)
Sleepyjack Fast'n'Bulbous Location: Australia, Perth	this is somewhat unrelated, but reminds me of this really funny thing my friend at uni said the other day. We were just outside the library waiting for a friend to come out and some guy and his really hot girlfriend walked by. Just as they past he said *"hmmm, i'll have what he's having"* i guess you had to be there but at the time it was gold.

10-12-2003, 11:59 PM	#9 (permalink)
Harshaw Is mad at you. Location: Bored in Sacramento	I was in canada walking around Vancouver with my girlfriend on my arm. Someone stopped me, walked up and said "Thats a nice looking girl you have there". It was odd, I didn't know what to say (I'm not responsible for the way she looks, I'm just a happy bystander) but it was a nice ego boost. I think if she has been with you for two years, you have very little to worry about. Sounds like she is willing to commit herself, I would just chill. __________________ This too shall pass.

10-13-2003, 12:19 AM	#10 (permalink)
h45e Tilted	/me crosses legs

10-13-2003, 01:05 AM	#11 (permalink)
Sledge Pasture Bedtime	After two years you should be close enough to talk about it. Why not ask her?

10-13-2003, 02:14 AM	#12 (permalink)
sixate Registered User Location: Somewhere in Ohio	After 2 years why ask her? I fail to see a problem, and this is why relationships die. Because people create problems out of nothing.....

10-13-2003, 03:17 AM	#14 (permalink)
Holo A Real American	Get used to it man. I would kill for a girl that dresses sexy all the time. Most of my gfs got tired of it and/or complacent and stop dressing nice but for occasions. Just remember the old phrase: Be careful what you wish for...you just might get it. __________________ I happen to like the words "fuck", "cock", "pussy", "tits", "cunt", "twat", "shit" and even "bitch". As long as I am not using them to describe you, don't go telling me whether or not I can/should use them...that is, if you want me to continue refraining from using them to describe you. ~Prince

10-13-2003, 06:05 AM	#15 (permalink)
Redlemon Devoted Donor Location: New England	Other than her dress style, does she give you any indication that she's thinking of leaving you? It doesn't sound like it to me. Feel confident and enjoy the attention she gets, knowing that she is yours. The more uncomfortable you feel about it, the more likely that others might "move in" on her. Don't show fear. __________________ I can't read your signature. Sorry.

10-13-2003, 08:17 AM	#17 (permalink)
Ripsaw Chef in Training	sigh Wish I had your problem. Sweatshirts just don't do my fiance justice. __________________ "We are supposed to be masters of space, but we cant even line up our shoes?" One life, one chance, one opportunity.

10-13-2003, 11:47 AM	#18 (permalink)
BonesCPA No. It's not done yet. Location: sorta kinda phila	This situation came up with a friend, and he couldn't find the right way to discuss it. I unwittingly helped him start the conversation after a group of us went to the movies - she had dressed in this really slinky dress with slits up both sides of the dress. I joked that she didn't have to dress sexy just to go to the movies with us, and she responded that she didn't - she wore that to work that day. She works in net design, so I couldn't believe it. Later he had a "conversation" with her. Since she was from Fla. and we were in PA, she blew it off as being the way she always dressed. He wasn't too happy, and she did change slightly, but not enough. (Of course she didn't eventually cheat on him - after breaking up only a couple of hours earlier. I don't want to suggest that your girl would do the same, this wasn't unusual for this girl.) I would say that you bring it up, but not in a confrontational way. If you are having issues, and you want to keep a good relationship going, you need to be open and honest. I don't think that she gets a pass becuase you "put up" with it for two years, it didn't bother you before, now it does. People change, live with it. __________________ Back into hibernation. Last edited by BonesCPA; 10-13-2003 at 12:26 PM..

10-13-2003, 12:12 PM	#19 (permalink)
The.Lunatic Psycho Location: Somewhere just beyond the realm of sanity...	You shut the fuck up right now buddy. Live the flipside of that where your girl is really attactive, but doesn't put much effort into her looks. My ex Is athletic (school track team), tall, decent bewbs like high B low C, Curley really dark brown hair. This is her on a normal day.. Sweat pants sometimes a nappy hat or she ties her hair up in some ugly braided thing. Never wears makeup (not that she needs it, but she looks so good with it) She wears these old neon shirts from highshcool which she used to use as night sleeping shirts. Its really pathetic who shes really attractive, but doesn't show it. She's a very consevitive very intelligent person (intelligence is why i was with her.) I don't thinks she really gets a thrill out of getting attention from guys, as i don't think she's ever been in the position before. There is something to it for a man that he wants his girl to look good not to him so much, but to others. You get that whole brag factor, and respect/jelously from your friends, because you've landed a good looking one. Knowing that a girl that looks like that is yours is really satisfying. However not to be shallow that isn't why you date somebody, you do that for their personality, and your chemistry together how you make eachother feel that sort of thing. But if your girl alwasy looks like crap and you know she could be so much more it is slightly taxing on the relationship, and it makes you feel like your S'O' isn't living up to their potential This isn't why she's my ex we had to go back home for the summer from college, the distance didn't do to well as we could never talk. She worked 2 jobs and had a rigourus workout schedule, and I worked a really hard job where i had to get up early, and feel asleep by 10 every night. It sucked because she couldn't talk untill 10 my time when she got off work, and by then i was dead tierd and often so was she. The whole situation sucked, but she felt something was lost, and we just ended up feeling bad around eachother, because things were off not to mention we're still to young for the kind of relationship we had. So we ended it. One of the hardest things thats ever happend to me, but i'm grateful for the life experience However that said things that really blew about her apperance He closet looks like a nordstroms rack so many clothes So many hot clothes She has so many buety supplys its not even funny she has to box them, cause they wont' even fit in her bathroom (mind you she still has them all cause she doesn't use them) Banging body behind sweatshirt = BOO My friends never though she was hot, so i ended up feeling like i was dateing a dog when i really wasn't Know that i'm single and looking again I notice most of the chicks that are around here are not as good looking, and most definitly not as good in other aspects sucks, but they do bring other things to the table. __________________ Proud memeber of the Insomniac Club.

10-13-2003, 02:05 PM	#21 (permalink)
Redhook Upright Location: Seattle, WA	Women are ravenous animals when it comes to complements. You need to work on complementing on her appearance more, especially in presentations you prefer. Tell her what you like her in, what is sexy to you etc. Do not tell her how to dress. Go shopping with her and do a lot of pointing at things you like, help her pay. But don't pick up stuff and tell her to try it on, because you'll inevitably pick the wrong size/color and she'll flip. Let her know how sexy the right casual clothes can be, and how hot suits and business attire are on the right body. And then compliment her a million times more, even if what she is wearing isn't exactly to your tastes.

10-13-2003, 05:00 PM	#22 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	Take it as a compliment to you. She wants to look good for you and herself. My wife thrives off of compliments from me mostly but others as well. She doesn't dress very provocatively but with things that show off her athletic figure.

10-13-2003, 06:13 PM	#23 (permalink)
Jedbeck Crazy Location: Ohio, USA	I wish I had your problem as well. I love my fiancee's body, however most days it is jeans and a t-shirt and a hooded sweatshirt jacket. When she does get all dressed up damn I love it.