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10-10-2003, 10:12 AM
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confusing boys
Ok so I just read the "confusing girl" post so I had to get advice on the confusing boy issue I am in right now. There is this guy I am interested in. We have only know each other for like a month or so but I think I know him pretty well. Well last thursday he gets drunk and comes back to the dorms and holds my hand all night. I pass this off as a slight attraction but he was drunk. Then Saturday we hang out in this other girls room (who is a lesbian) he stayed the night there and apparently told her he wanted to date me and such. Then sunday night we watch a movie he is completely sober and he holds my hand and falls asleep on me. Then the next night he is watching another movie and we basically are all over each other. He tells my roommate that he is going to keep his stuff in my room so he has an excuse to come back. Ok so next day, he's soooo distant and he takes all his stuff back to his room. Then Wednesday I am depressed because I really like this guy, my solution get drunk with him so I will yell at him without restraints. What actually happens is I am really drunk and all over him and he is sober and going along with it. So now we are on today and I haven't seen him really since Wednesday. What is going on in his head?
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10-10-2003, 11:28 AM
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Location: Northern VA
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It could be a number of things. Maybe he thought he was into you but isn't. Maybe he found someone else in that short period of time. Maybe he is gay. Maybe he is just making out with you cause you are willing to make out with him. Its too hard to say.
Just see whats going on with him. Hang out with him more and hell, bring it up. Just ask him. This way you won't be bothered about it anymore. But hey, what do I know? |
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10-10-2003, 11:36 AM
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don't ignore this-->
Location: CA
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those brain cells are rattling around in there, but i don't think they're doing anything.
maybe you should ask him what the fuck is wrong with him? it sounds like he keeps second guessing himself or his desire to be with you or someone else has convinced him to act this way... or it's also possible that this guy is just a jerk.
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10-10-2003, 11:55 AM
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Location: Somewhere just beyond the realm of sanity...
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Maybe your just reading into it to much, and he doesn't want to see you 24/7. He probobally thinks things are hunky dorry, and when he gets horney or feels lonely he'll probobally come your way again. Either that or hes got more than one girl hes looking at right now and has yet to decide. In this case... Just be yourself, if your the kind of girl he wants than he'll make that choice.
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10-10-2003, 12:05 PM
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Location: Oklahoma
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Coming on too strong for either sex is a mistake. We all know what it is like to ache intensely for someone when you meet them, but as we get older we realize that what you are feeling is infatuation. It makes you do strange things and feel more intensely about someone than you really do. Give it some time and space and see how it ends up. Be yourself is great advice from Lunatic. I made multiple mistakes early in my dating career until I just approached it in a relaxed way and then I met the woman I would marry (and love intensely).
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10-10-2003, 05:08 PM
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Re: confusing boys
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"I've hung out with this girl 6 times and all we ever do is get drunk and/or make out. I'm not even getting head or a hand-job out of this, let alone sex. Screw leaving my stuff here, I changed my mind, I got NEEDS. (sorry, had to say that. lol)" OR He's getting nervous because he's a decent guy and that's what lots of decent guys do when they start getting close to a girl and really feeling for them. He may feel like he doesn't know how to act around you. If this is his case, he's also likely to believe he might be "dumped" at any time. It's a defense mechanism against being hurt by being told he's a loser or not worth dating, etc. This is especially true if he's light in the experience department, which I think might be the case considering he falls asleep during movies and you're not even dating yet. It's a nice-guy kinda thing to do. Cheer up, you may actually have found something quite nice there. Talk to him. If you like him, TELL HIM YOU LIKE HIM. I only yell because all too often the nice guy gets shafted by a simple misunderstanding- like not getting any (*see below) hints the girl likes him enough to want him to continue his advances. He may think he's not getting the "go ahead" from you to step to the next level- actual dating, going steady, whatever. Either that, or he's a horny guy who finds your lack of sexual freedom disagreeable (read: thinks you're a prude cuz you don't fuck fast enough). Let us know what happens, good luck!! EDIT: *I say any, but it's more like "enough" hints. Some guys are thick. Some guys need a lot of "go ahead"s from you to continue, because they're afraid of going too fast and freaking you out. Still others are so infatuated (sounds like your guy here) they are blinded to the details you throw them... even though they're important ones. lol Last edited by analog; 10-10-2003 at 05:13 PM.. |
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