What is it with guys and anal?
 

Not that I mind it, I enjoy it, actually. But is it the tightness? that it's "forbidden" ? Why do guys like anal so much? Just wondering. I 'd like the point of view of men and women.

For myself its the tightness but that "forbidden" aspect of it also makes it alluring. Just my two cents. =)

Well put, TheOne. My girlfriend absolutely refuses to do so, though, but thats ok with me.

I think it's the novelty and the fact that it's "naughty."

I've only done it with one girl, many years ago. She really got into it, which made it all the better.
Anyway, I think it's so alluring to most guys because its more mysterious than pussy. Most guys have felt a pussy or two on their dick. Many have never felt an anus.
I remember that it was very tight at the entrance, but then it seemed to balloon out like a cavern. A pussy generally feels just as tight at the entrance as at the bottom.
Hope this is helpful.
By the way, Shyla Loral, you said you like it, so what do you like about it? Does it feel particularly good? Can you orgasm from it? Or what?

Tightness. Not so much the yummy odors.

novelty and taboo... that's the fascination. It's just so delightfully nasty!

It's freakin tight!

never tried it... i guess i'm open to new things but I find pussies more fascinating... maybe it's cause we've all got assholes! I guess it would be... as toxic put it... delightfully nasty... I'm just not sure about it.

I wish my gf got off on it....

It's a whole different sensation - vaginal intercourse grips the whole penis, but more gently than anal, where as anal is a tighter, localised ring.

There's also a significant psychological element, as you note - it's a more intimate /rarer thing that many women either won't do or will only do under the "right" circumstances.

I think a big reason guys like it is that the girl has got to be pretty damn horny to want their ass fucked.. And, there's nothing sexier than a girl who needs you.

At least that's probably why I like the idea.

A lot of guys like it for the fact that their girl is in pain, and getting pleasure at the same time.

done properly there should be no pain.

perhaps a degree of discomfort, and it's totally up to her to decide where she draws the line with that.

but no, no pain.

Actually, a lot of women say anal the first time hurts a lot. I mean, the size of the hole compared to the size of the cock as usually a big difference.

This says it for me, Wombat. I think you're on to something. A horny woman is a desirable woman. THE MOST sexy thing in the world is a woman having an orgasm. Sex without her pleasure and orgasm is empty. I live to experience her orgasm.

I have never tried anal..and probably never will.

Just too many nasty thoughts.

It's really tight, and seems to push different buttons than with vaginal intercourse. I can defintely orgasm from it, I call them "assgasms", heh. Some sort of fluid starts to come out of the ass at those times, it's white and thick, don't know what it is.
This isn't something I do often, but it can quite pleasurable. If the ass is played with first, made to feel "at home" (you know, fix it a cup of tea, etc. :P ), use a dildo, go just inside, and then out--a lot, then the ass gets the idea that something is going to be in and out of it a lot.
Does that help?
:crazy:

it can be a lot of fun if she is able to relax and is into it!
the guy has to be patient and know what he is doing as well!
if done while she is playing with her clit it will make for a very intense clitoral orgasm!
i used to date a girl that always wanted me in her ass while she fingered herself cause she could cum faster and it was more intense too!

The idea of having yet another oriface being filled is alluring.

Personally, I've got no interest in it.

Most certainly! heh :P If he plays with my clit w hile I have a dildo up my ass, I will almost certainly ejaculate.

I'm sure you just hit the nail on the head. For some guys at least.

Found this on craiglist, thought it was funny

http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/bos/16362236.html

It intrests me as i am not allowed in there....

Id say the taboo is up there. But also, that's like going with "why the oral sex" too. It just one more place for a guy to put his penis that has a different sensation than either of those afore mentioned places.

i was watching a show on tv...maybe a video on the internet...but thats beside the point.

what i'm getting at is that this video had a quote in it.

"There's only one way to make sure she doesnt get pregnant johnny" "Anal sex."

for me personally, sex is kinda scary at times...theres alot of risk involved, what happens if i get the broad pregnant goes through my brain every time i have sex.

so to be honest i like anal because i consider it more "worry free gratification."

it's good to change things up once in a while. i wouldnt want to do it like all the time, but the naughtiness combined with the fact that you dont get to do it that often makes it supererotic.
;)

It's just another way to enjoy the beauty of a woman,
and give her pleasure.

If done right, and she is comfortable with it, she will enjoy it.

If she's not comfortable with it, I don't enjoy it.
Selfishness is not a part of the act.

No interest whatsoever. I consider that area of the woman's body exit only :)

Not much interest here either. If a chick wanted me to, I'd do it, though that seems highly unlikely.

I have read somewhere that anal can stimulate a girls G- spot and this may be why it can induce orgasms indepently of the clitoris- have met several girls who came from anal w/o clit stim or in addition to clit orgasms.

i think i like it so much beacuse my girl loves it. She likesi tb etter than vaginal sex. It gives her a much more intense orgasm especially if you pay attention to the clit at the same time. Hell i can't complain it all feels good to me.

The tightness and the security it gives, it's not like she can get pregnant that way.. It's those aspects that makes it different from vagina intercourse. Different, not better not worse.
Then it is the fun of doing something rare. Not too many women put up with it and enjoy it.. at least in my experience..

I have yet to explore the "back door" personally.
Although my experimental boyfriend and I had an interesting experience last weekend that involved a rubber glove, a whole lot of Astroglide, and a blindfold. I'll leave the rest to the imagination but let's just say he had a mighty good time. Don't knock it til you've tried it.

Only done it there a couple of times with old girlfriends. Wife is not in to that ;( oh well but it was the thrill of doing some thing bad or forbiden....

what is with the disparity of guys that think anal is hot with women, but then turn around and use it to bash gay guys?

My 2bits
First, it is possible to get pregnant from anal if you're not careful. There was a study somewhere that said the risk from leakage is around 8%.
Also, look on p-2-p services for a file called "How to get a girl to have anal sex" it's friggin hilarious.

Well me and Shyla just started getting into it and I've yet to get it down exactly the best way.. For me it's just very tight and I love doing anything she enjoys, so we're both being open here.. We're finding the best ways to do this, can anyone recommend positions to us?

Thanks :)

I think it's the power trip that gets me going. A woman is Never more submissive than when she's offering her ass.

This guy is NOT into it. Just what I want - a shit covered dick! No thanks, next...

try this!
 

lay her on her back!
let her finger herself while you start with a finger,then two and maybe 3 before going on!

use tons of lube! its almost impossible to use to much!
be VERY patient and dint move faster than she wants you to!

do this and she will be begging for an ass ramming when all is said and done!

:lol:

Never had anal sex with a chick. Been everywhere else and back again. Definitely want to pound a chick in her ass, without a doubt. It WILL happen. One day...

I like doing it. The feeling is good, but more importantly is this- i'm petrified of ejaculating inside the vagina because of the risk of kids, even with birth control- anal does not have this problem, and I can blast away.

I think it partly a novelty. I don't care if I never try anal with a woman. I figure why stick it in that whole when there's a perfectly better hole an inch away.

If the woman asks for it, I certainly would try it.

Just because there is a hole doesnt mean you should put your dick in it.

Tightness doesnt really do it for me, i guess i havent masturbated all my nerve-ending off (yet)...that and the fact that shit comes out of that hole.

My wife's pussy is just as tight as her ass. But the THOUGHT of anal gets me all excited. It's all in my head, for sure.

You've still gotta consider disease and hygiene, not to mention that it's really unpleasant to be shitting out jizz. I'm sure you'd agree that it's not something you'd enjoy if you were on the receiving end.

Just saying, that's all.

I would just like to say that a woman can get pregnant if a man ejaculates into her during anal sex without a condom. (Not because they're supersperm and go through the anal wall, but because the cum can leak out through the anus and get mixed into the vagina.)

I'm greek so its almost required for me to live. Greeks rule.

Geia sou Ickma! Ti kaneis? Methaino Ellenika alla den xero polloia.

Correct me if my grammar's bad. :)

I believe the first quote I ever heard by a woman on the subject was, "It's fun, but don't do it if you don't want cum dribbling out of your ass for the next 8 hours."

For the same reasons people climb mountains:
It's another thing that's possible.
You get a great view.
It's a challenge. A woman has to really trust you and want to please you. It is also a challenge to give a woman real pleasure with anal sex.
It's a little bit crazy.


That being said, it's not that great, at least with someone who isn't excited about it. There are lots of taboo things that are much more worthwhile. They tend to have the added bonus of not being a pain in the ass.

I would say:

*ÃåéÜ óïõ ñå ãáìéÜ!!! :lol:

Good effort there, I am Greek but never got anything, let alone ass:p

*edit: Fucking Greek don't work here "Geia sou re gamia"

Hehe. If this says what I think it says, then I'm flattered, but I'm already taken. ;)

My thoughts exactly!

I have to agree there, at least for me.

I've given my current GF anal sex. She really loves having either the dildo, or my hand up her ass. I love getting her off, so I do that for her. On the other hand, I cant stand more than her thumb in my ass, ans even that is really too much. The entire time I let her ass fuck me I thought I was going to shit, and that is the opposite of erotic. I dont really know why she likes it so much, and my very best straight (maybe bisexual) woman friend just loves anal, and her husband loves taking it (her dildo) up his ass too. I love this crazy world.

ive seen it...damn funny !
well..i expect half the college to have seen it also

What I don't understand is, when did guys become bored of the vagina? Since when has the vagina become obsolete? Why would you want to put your weiner in a place where poopoo comes from?

Call me cooky...

I don't think guys have become bored of the vagina. I think anal sex has been around as long as, well, vaginal sex. Before lube was invented I'm sure it was a lot less comfortable but I'm willing to bet it's been around since the dawn of time.

You just have to read everyone else's reasons above to see why some guys enjoy anal sex. It's not a matter of the vagina being obsolete, it's a matter of it being an option.

It all boils down to 'If it feels good, do it.'

Well, I'm sure it feels good to do a lot of things, but you won't see me screwing a cow, a priest, a clown, and a Care Bear, while shoving a bottle of Yoo Hoo up my ass...

See what I'm saying?

Sadly, most of the bases are covered in this conversation already.

I can only add that I agree that it is probably the forbidden factor, its unusual...but then again, I've never experienced it.

I wouldn't mind, but the girl would have to be into it.

mostly the taboo and rareness of actually getting it, as she has to be in the mood for it and if she is she loves it but if she isnt she hates it

Re: What is it with guys and anal?
 

not all of us do......

i understand the taboo aspect everyone's talking about, but i just don't find the idea a pulling my joint out with poo on it erotic at all. perhaps i have "anal" tendencies about the cleanliness of my thang? (pun intended.)

I really do not see the appeal of anal. I don't have any desire to stick my dick in financee's ass. I would rather continue to go for the opening less than 2 inches underneath the ass.

"Most guys spend 9 months trying to get out, and the rest of their lives trying to get back in." hrmmm what does this say about anal? :) ;)

:lol: :lol: :lol: Bunch of shits.

I definately have to be in the mood to let my b/f, or I really have to want him. Sometimes it just isn't what I want. Although if he takes the time and does it right, the feelings are great, different from vaginal intercourse, but great all the same.

The first time he wanted to I was like NO, then I thought about it and decided why not! There have only been a few times where I wasn't prepared or didn't really feel like and then it wasn't all that pleasurable.

the first time i ever had anal, she actualy did everything and totaly caught me off guard. (she was on top). I would defianly have to agree that the woman has to be very horny to want you to nail her in the bum...

As a guy, I don't really enjoy anal sex that much. I've only had anal sex around 3-4 times ( GIVING, not receiving.:lol: ), that was with an ex, she enjoyed it, but only every once in a while. It wasn't tighter than a vagina, it just felt a little different.

I don't think I like anal, personally. It jus doesn't feel right when they're even close to it even more when it's something with another intention. Krazy IMHO.

Re: What is it with guys and anal?
 

It's very tight, and it's excellent for bareback sex since a woman can't get pregnant from it (unless she's careless to let the cum dribble down from her ass to her vagina).

I think it's partly the thought that my girl loves me so much that she's willing to let me do it. I know that while she gets pleasure out of seeing my pleasure, she does not actually get "sexual stimulation" type pleasure.

Also it is just more forbidden than other things. It's the same reason that kids experiment with cigarettes.

from a bi guy's perspective:

Have had it done to me by other queer fellas, kinda neat
Have been the actor once or twice, need some practice
(Insert Carnegie Hall joke here)

Am looking forward to a lady friend drilling me w/ a strap on one day (One can hope, can't one?)

Perhaps in some cases, for some guys, (like myself) it is a way to explore ones "feminine side"?

i used to get anal a lot. but then my gf think she got roids (she dint) and i hurt her pretty bad when i got a lil too excited. now im forbidden from even going there. kinda depressing if you ask me. i like anal more than vaginal sex. its sooooooooooooooooo naughty. thats why rocco is my pr0n idol.

It absolutely has to do with the fact that anal is not as common as regular sex, so when a woman is willing to give it up, it must mean she really wants us.

Don't forget, for guys its about acceptance. Giving up the booty is about a higher level of acceptance. :-)

Imagine for a moment that Superman was into ass play, could his sperm, which I would imagine are also super, go through the anal wall ?

Ive never had any anal sex and I definitely dont wanna. There's just nothing even slightly sexy about it or the whole idea of it to me, personally.

*edit!*

hey, I am an equal opportunist, i am willing to trade for it.

:hmm: what?!?




Dunno if that "any" was a typo, as in any=anal, or not. But, I will assume, for the moment that it was a typo. If so, then I would agree. It's never been anything that I've been even remotely interested in, and somehow, I can't see me ever devloping one. OK for others, I suppose, it's just...not where I wanna be.

yes, I meant any *anal* although I havent had any sex at all for quite a while now, I would definitely like some more.

Well, according to the classic Larry Niven short article Man of Steel, Woman of Kleenex, "All known forms of kryptonian life have superpowers. The same must hold true of living kryptonian sperm. We may reasonably assume that kryptonian sperm are vulnerable only to starvation and to green kryptonite; that they can travel with equal ease through water, air, vacuum, glass, brick, boiling steel, solid steel, liquid helium, or the core of a star; and that they are capable of translight velocities."

It gets much worse... follow the link for more information.

/end threadjack

Probably quoted some other time before... but here it is just in case.

Re: What is it with guys and anal?
 

I don't know why they like it so much, shyla :)

but I am crazy about bum sex too, I LOVE being taken! Drives me crazy. :love:

I definitely agree it has to do with domination/submission. Thats why giving and receiving get me equally hot.

It's the forbidden fruit on the vine, the place you're not supposed to be, going where no man has gone before. That's my take on it.

Um... for my $0.02, I'd only add that if you've already been having sex for a long time... what else is left (in THEIR minds)?

Plus then there's the tightness, of course, and I think on some level many guys like seeing that look on her face- not pain, mind you, but just.... "heyyyyyyyyyyyyyy", "that's a lot in there" which can be restorative for a smaller or thinner guy (penis-wise). It's just something else to try and conquer, plus IMO the feeling is way different.

I hope the next mainstream sexual taboo will be more bondage. Mmmmmm... :)

It's dirty, and guys are dirty.
Perfect for each other.

Never really had any interest in it myself...
Sticking something in a hole designed soley for the purpose of exiting waste is not my idea of a fun time...

To each their own though

reasons why it's hot:

tighter and feels different
more personal/intimate
kinky
dominance/submission thing



I want to be buried with my cack in a girl's ass

Hmmm, maybe mine's a little different point of view. I'm married, and if she did give me a chance, it would mean that there was no more of her physical self to give. She'd be given me everything she could. That being said, if we did, and she was sure she couldn't ever like it, that would definitely be the end of it. I mean really , she gives me the most incredible blow jobs, 98% of the time we have sex. Could I ask for much more? Yeah, I love'er a lot.

I take it you don't frequent the Wayside. I would imagine that you two have a lot more to "give" eachother, you just haven't thought of it yet.

Ya know I find it unappealing. Have any of you had a Lower GI? Do any of you know what that is? Well I have had one, it's not fun. It's similar to the hole anal-sex issue and I found that it was far from fun.

Ok, don't tell me TMI cuz I know...

A lower GI involves having the doctore put a small tube with a ballooning end up your ass. Then they slowly fill you up with barrium so they came take x-ray pics of your inards... It was kinda cold actually. It wasn't a very big tue either and it hurt, WITH the lube stuff. Look it was not fun and I don't intend on repeating it for any reason, medical of intimate.

Heh, well you got me there, but I'm talkin anatomically, not different experiences... Make sense? She'd probably try most anything else, if I wanted to.

I'm NOT into it at all. I've done it once with an ex when I was in the shower...felt like I had to take a huge shit the whole time. My current boyfriend is REALLY into it and keeps throwing out the idea...Remember to "just say no" I'm a pretty modest person, I haven't gotten to the stage in our relationship where I can take a shit in front of him yet...so him tooling around down there doesn't sit right.

OK, the first time for me was an accidental. She had her legs over my shoulders, which rotated her hips quite a bit. We came apart a few times, and then one time I lined up wrong to re-enter. I thought the tightness as her kegel contractions from coming. She also was gasping, like having a good hard cum, which we'd been working on for some time. So I came. But then she asked me to pull out right away. Only after that did she tell me I'd been there.

She let me try it again later, but we didn't know about using lube, etc. and it wasn't good for her. Now I fantasize about anal a lot, but I don't ask me wife to let me. It really doesn't feel much different. It is the naughtiness and the receiver's submission that are hot about it.

Same with my gf......absolutely refuses to do it.....but there is just something that intrigues me about anal

From the women that I have been with it, it is like a second "G" spot. Their orgasms are harder and longer, and they are usually more "wore out" afterwards.
For me, I like the idea of her being aroused enough to "WANT" me to play with her and get "more" intimate with her. That means I am doing enough to please her enough for her to want me to go further.
Done right it should NEVER hurt. I have NEVER had a women hurt during anal sex or play. But I have also read alot, learned alot, and most of all asked a lot while playing with her ass to know whether it is hurting or whether she is enjoying it and wants me to go further, deeper, harder, faster, ect. Talking during ass play is a MUST. You have got to know where she is at to know what is going on. I have had a women tell me she wanted it harder and deeper, AFTER lots of finger play and lube.
LUBE and SLOW is the key.
The same as the first time the same girl went down on me and stuck a finger in me while going down on me, I was a little tripped out, but she went slow and asked, and I had one of the biggest orgasms of my life.
Together we had a blast. But we both went SLOW, talked and used lots of lube. After that she wanted it a lot. While she played with herself, during sex, ect.
The key is to talk to your partner, go slow, and use lots of lube. Also doing it AFTER she is already turned on is a key.
DrChezman

I personally like it, but only with someone I love. I think the sexiness is in that it is giving up a whole new part of her, that she rarely has shared with anyone else.

Plus, it is tight and nice. :)

Too true. :lol: