08-19-2003, 11:50 AM | #1 (permalink) |
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Do birth control pills fuck with girls heads?
I'm sure its not totally this, but i'm wondering if it would be worth a try to stop the treatment.
Anyway my girl and I were sepreated over summer break from college. We talked quite a bit for the first month and a half, then kinda trailed off, but still talked just not nearly as often. So i came down to see her, and shes recently been very cold to me. But not always sometimes shes really happy, and fun and loving. But other times shes just annoyed at everything i do. We were getting books at the book store, and i offerd to find some for her as i was done with mine she snapped at me and said that she could find the. Later she appologized and said that she felt like i was saying that she was incapable of finding the books. This is a recuring theme. Shes all over the place, and she says that her feelings for me have been pretty numb. We don't kiss anymore or screw or do anything. I've since split with her, but she says she still has feelings for me just not what it used to be. I told her if her feelings should for some reason re arise than she could come to me and discuss it within the month and i would take her back. It was her idea to split btw. And i'm getting more mixed signals now than ever. Shes really nice to me for a little bit then like does a 180, and just kinda ignores me. She comes up gives me a hug not the kind you give a friend, but then gets all sketched out and acts cold and will often go back to her apartment by herself with no TV no internet no nothing. I'm confused. Should i just let this one go, i do still love this girl
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08-19-2003, 12:23 PM | #2 (permalink) |
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BC pills can sometimes play havoc with hormones but it's rare that they cause significant problems, and even if they do cause mood swings it's likely that the pills just amplify what's already there, not "cause" completely new feelings.
What you're describing doesn't sound pill-related, it sounds like your ex is confused and maybe a little depressed. I think maybe you should give her a little space to figure things out for herself. If things weren't that great when you were together, and they're still confused now, why put yourself through that kind of misery? You could tell her that you care about her but you don't want a relationship with someone who runs hot and cold. She should figure out what she wants (for HER life, not just for your relationship) and if she still wants you, then you can ask yourself if you still want a relationship. But for now, I'd say let her figure things out on her own.
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08-19-2003, 12:42 PM | #3 (permalink) |
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She sounds conflicted by her feelings for you. Part of her wants you, part of her doesn't. Is there someone else? Is she being torn between you and someone else. I think she still cares for you but for some reason wants to break away. Only way you'll find out is too talk to her. Ask her why.
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08-19-2003, 01:27 PM | #4 (permalink) |
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She might be bi-polar and not know it.
Also, she might have a hormone imbalance. It might be that she has the wrong dose of some of the BC hormones. She needs to talk to a doctor. BTW: is her mood swing cycle 28 days? If not, think Bi-polar and suggest she see a "regular doctor", i.e. not a gynocologist. |
08-19-2003, 03:29 PM | #6 (permalink) |
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It sounds like she could be bi-polar, but it sounds like she didn't act this way until you two were seperated.
It really sounds to me like she may have found someone else, and is snapping at you subconsciencely to allow herself to apologize and get rid of some of the guilt. That would explain why she has such mixed feelings for you. |
08-19-2003, 04:14 PM | #8 (permalink) |
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Mostly, from what I understand, the pill convinces a woman's body that she is already pregnant and so doesn't need to produce an egg.
Pregnant woman are legendary for mood/emotion swings. Do the adding and subtracting.
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08-19-2003, 10:14 PM | #9 (permalink) |
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In my experience, people whose attitudes and behaviours are affected by taking the pill were already probably not stable to begin with. With unstable people, it tends to exaggerate what may have already been there, but was either not noticeable or irrelevant at the time. It sounds like this is the case and there could be many reasons for it.
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08-19-2003, 10:26 PM | #10 (permalink) |
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sounds like she could be bi-polar, although there are many different types of BC pills simply because some f them cause horrible hormonal imbalances which can sometimes result in violent (quick, intense) mood swings. Have her tell her doctor (gyno is fine, if it's needed she'll likely be referred to another doctor, although if she CAN go to a more mainstream doc, that's better) how she feels all the time, and to discuss the frequent mood swings. They might be able to put her on a different kind of BC if they think that's what's causing it.
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08-19-2003, 11:30 PM | #14 (permalink) |
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guys. the pill is hormones. it changes the chemical balance of your body, slightly. This CAN (note that doesn't say "always does") change things like behavior, and sex drive.
BUT! If this becomes a problem it is the responsibility of the patient and doctor to work together to find a viable alternative. something as simple as birth control should NOT cause problems like this. |
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///// Thanks for all the advice i don't have internet at the moment, and am using the college wireless at the commons daily. So i'll check back on this thread tommorw to see if there is any other insights, as i've been stumped and would love to understand whats could of lead up to this situtation. /////
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