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Originally posted by blackdas
Can the pill lower the user's sex drive? what about insecurity about one's body?
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It has lowerd her sex drive, but she thinks it might be that shes not doing track this year, and that might account for her lack of testostrone or whatever makes you want the sex
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Originally posted by motdakasha
In my experience, people whose attitudes and behaviours are affected by taking the pill were already probably not stable to begin with. With unstable people, it tends to exaggerate what may have already been there, but was either not noticeable or irrelevant at the time. It sounds like this is the case and there could be many reasons for it.
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She is and always has been somewhat unstable, and I don't think she is serioulsy bi-polar, but ovbiously is somewhat as she became depressed for around 2 weeks serveral times last year, but shes generally not manic for 2 weeks either, then again I find that i myself deal with this same cycle often which is one thing that we really loved about eachother as we could really understand what one another was going through.
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Originally posted by aintyoboyfriend
It sounds like she could be bi-polar, but it sounds like she didn't act this way until you two were seperated.
It really sounds to me like she may have found someone else, and is snapping at you subconsciencely to allow herself to apologize and get rid of some of the guilt. That would explain why she has such mixed feelings for you.
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I suspected that as well, but I've talked to her a lot 5-10 seriously heart to hearts, and I would 99% chance rule out another man. She just seems to be really confused about her feelings, and her life. Also rather stressed out shes a 4.0 student who does college track, has a job, teaches a class, and many hobbies. Maybe theres just no room for me.
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Originally posted by Craven Morehead
She sounds conflicted by her feelings for you. Part of her wants you, part of her doesn't. Is there someone else? Is she being torn between you and someone else. I think she still cares for you but for some reason wants to break away. Only way you'll find out is too talk to her. Ask her why.
good luck
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One thing i've never had problems with is really talking with her and figuring out what her feelings are and I see no reason why she would lie to me. She'll often tear up a bit and say that she doesn't know whats wrong and she doesn't want to hurt me, but doesn't feel for me what she once did. Also she feels that it would be a diservice to me to go out with her again as she doesn't want to put me through anymore pain and thinks this is a bad time in her life for a relationship.
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Originally posted by lurkette
BC pills can sometimes play havoc with hormones but it's rare that they cause significant problems, and even if they do cause mood swings it's likely that the pills just amplify what's already there, not "cause" completely new feelings.
What you're describing doesn't sound pill-related, it sounds like your ex is confused and maybe a little depressed. I think maybe you should give her a little space to figure things out for herself. If things weren't that great when you were together, and they're still confused now, why put yourself through that kind of misery? You could tell her that you care about her but you don't want a relationship with someone who runs hot and cold. She should figure out what she wants (for HER life, not just for your relationship) and if she still wants you, then you can ask yourself if you still want a relationship. But for now, I'd say let her figure things out on her own.
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Thats the best adivce I've read, and the first as well i'm going to take that to heart i think. We're still friends, and she still will run as you said "hot" last night I put myself in a stupid situation if I want a friendship with her as we lied together on the couch. We were rather entangled, and just laid there in eachothers company comfortable for about 10 minutes talking, (another stupid think is we almost kissed) and what not then she became agitated decided it was a bad idea and went to the kitchen. We talked some more, or rather i talked and she would say "i don't know Ryan." her classic resons now which is okay with me i've given up understanding her feelings as she can't understand them and all i really want is for her to be stable enough to be my friend.
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Thanks for all the advice i don't have internet at the moment, and am using the college wireless at the commons daily. So i'll check back on this thread tommorw to see if there is any other insights, as i've been stumped and would love to understand whats could of lead up to this situtation.
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