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Boris37 · 04-23-2003, 09:37 AM

OK, this is very complicated but ill try to explain it. I met this girl in september at school, she was a sister of one of my friends from home. Anyways we started dating and at first i wasnt that serious, i had just got over a relationship of 2.5 years. Well i definately fell in love with this girl and we dated for about 5 months. She then broke up with me, but there was no real reason for it, she was goin through a tough time with a death in her family and stuff. I was pretty sad and though it was all over. She has called me twice since then and we have gotten together to talk about things. During both those times she preceeded to kiss me and act like she was still so interested in me and told me how much she has missed me and how sweet i was was, etc. The last time she was crying that she was sorry for ruining everything between us and things similar to that, yet we still are not together......
She said she wants to start hanging out again but i havent seen her in a week or so. I am really confused about the whole thing because i really really like her. I would definately do anything just to be with her. But at the same time i dont know if i should get my hopes up again. I
I was just wondering what others might make of this situation and what they think i should do. any advice is appreciated because i am royally confused.

Memalvada · 04-23-2003, 09:46 AM

I think she's confused too, and is not quite sure what she wants. But I do think she is looking for support, and you should give it to her.

Grimlok · 04-23-2003, 09:48 AM

Man.. girls are confusing.

My advice... Talk to her friends and find out if she's dating someone else... maybe stalk her to see if she's spending the night at home...

How good of a friend was her brother? I'm betting he might have told her something or said something.

The Simplest most easy way to find out is to ask her.

"Sweety, I understand you have a lot on your mind. I know you're confused right now but believe me when I say, I'm just as confused as you are. I really really like you... and I so want to Love you but I don't know where we're headed if indeed we're headed somewhere.

So tell me... what do you want from me?"

Shove flowers in her face after that to accent the question...

Flowers always work.

clues_blues · 04-23-2003, 09:54 AM

"We were betting the ranch, that's certain," he says. "But you've got to bet the ranch, do you know what I'm saying? You've got to be willing to take the gamble." To risk anything less, says Kennedy, is to doubt your vision. The gamble paid off.
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unfortunately with love, it is a big risk. i have found the greater risk to be not to try at all. if it is worth anything to you, pursue it. take things slow so you won't get hurt; but if you really love her, don't let her pass you by!

btw- parker kennedy owns a restaraunt where i live. he was talking about risks involved in opening his restaraunt. i still think it is a great (and very applicable) quote.

c_b

The_Dude · 04-23-2003, 01:39 PM

i think she wants u back, but take it slowly

Boris37 · 04-23-2003, 03:10 PM

thanx for all the replies, the common theme seems to be just give it time. that is what i will do i guess, i appreciate the advice heaven knows i needed it, wish me luck!

shotofgmplease · 04-23-2003, 07:00 PM

definetly don't push...let her come to you and let her know your there for her. just try to keep your distance when she needs it though

bigoldalphamale · 04-24-2003, 10:10 AM

not to be insensitive, but who cares about her troubles and her situation. are you not troubled by your own situation? well then, confront her and demand answers. if the conversation leaves you with anything less than peace of mind, MOVE ON!!!!

liquid_dreams · 04-24-2003, 11:05 AM

keep your hopes up it well all be fine i'm sorta in that situation my self so thats all i can make of it

Golux · 04-24-2003, 03:03 PM

Confrontation doesn’t have to be abrasive. You can tell her how you feel and that you want to make sure that you’re not interpreting signals the wrong way and such. Just be honest and tell her that you want to provide the type of relationship that she is looking for. Tell her that you don’t want to pursue a relationship with her if that’s not what she wants because her happiness (unless I’m severely mistaken) is important to you. Just let her know how you’re interpreting her advances and let her set you straight if you’re wrong, or so that you can properly respond if you’re right. Honesty really is the best policy for both of you. You both need to know how you’re feeling, if she’s not sure how she feels than she might need to talk it out also. It might not be a pleasant conversation, but at least it’s one that will help to alleviate the confusion. Just be kind and let her know that you are concerned for her happiness and well-being.

Antagony · 04-25-2003, 01:03 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Grimlok
Flowers always work.

. . . for girls who enjoy things that are trite and unoriginal.

04-23-2003, 09:37 AM	#1 (permalink)
Boris37 Crazy	hopelessly in love OK, this is very complicated but ill try to explain it. I met this girl in september at school, she was a sister of one of my friends from home. Anyways we started dating and at first i wasnt that serious, i had just got over a relationship of 2.5 years. Well i definately fell in love with this girl and we dated for about 5 months. She then broke up with me, but there was no real reason for it, she was goin through a tough time with a death in her family and stuff. I was pretty sad and though it was all over. She has called me twice since then and we have gotten together to talk about things. During both those times she preceeded to kiss me and act like she was still so interested in me and told me how much she has missed me and how sweet i was was, etc. The last time she was crying that she was sorry for ruining everything between us and things similar to that, yet we still are not together...... She said she wants to start hanging out again but i havent seen her in a week or so. I am really confused about the whole thing because i really really like her. I would definately do anything just to be with her. But at the same time i dont know if i should get my hopes up again. I I was just wondering what others might make of this situation and what they think i should do. any advice is appreciated because i am royally confused.

04-23-2003, 09:46 AM	#2 (permalink)
Memalvada Psycho Location: South of the border	I think she's confused too, and is not quite sure what she wants. But I do think she is looking for support, and you should give it to her. __________________ "The weak are food for the strong, so die and let me feast!" - Makoto Shishio (RK)

04-23-2003, 09:48 AM	#3 (permalink)
Grimlok Tilted Location: Central Illinois	Man.. girls are confusing. My advice... Talk to her friends and find out if she's dating someone else... maybe stalk her to see if she's spending the night at home... How good of a friend was her brother? I'm betting he might have told her something or said something. The Simplest most easy way to find out is to ask her. "Sweety, I understand you have a lot on your mind. I know you're confused right now but believe me when I say, I'm just as confused as you are. I really really like you... and I so want to Love you but I don't know where we're headed if indeed we're headed somewhere. So tell me... what do you want from me?" Shove flowers in her face after that to accent the question... Flowers always work. __________________ Your future looks very very grim!

04-23-2003, 09:54 AM	#4 (permalink)
clues_blues Tilted Location: 3 feet high and rising	"We were betting the ranch, that's certain," he says. "But you've got to bet the ranch, do you know what I'm saying? You've got to be willing to take the gamble." To risk anything less, says Kennedy, is to doubt your vision. The gamble paid off. --- unfortunately with love, it is a big risk. i have found the greater risk to be not to try at all. if it is worth anything to you, pursue it. take things slow so you won't get hurt; but if you really love her, don't let her pass you by! btw- parker kennedy owns a restaraunt where i live. he was talking about risks involved in opening his restaraunt. i still think it is a great (and very applicable) quote. c_b __________________ nothing to see here Last edited by clues_blues; 04-23-2003 at 10:01 AM..

04-23-2003, 01:39 PM	#5 (permalink)
The_Dude The GrandDaddy of them all! Location: Austin, TX	i think she wants u back, but take it slowly __________________ "Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity." - Darrel K Royal

04-23-2003, 03:10 PM	#6 (permalink)
Boris37 Crazy	thanx for all the replies, the common theme seems to be just give it time. that is what i will do i guess, i appreciate the advice heaven knows i needed it, wish me luck! __________________ Fear attracts the fearful....

04-23-2003, 07:00 PM	#7 (permalink)
shotofgmplease Upright Location: NEAR DC	definetly don't push...let her come to you and let her know your there for her. just try to keep your distance when she needs it though __________________ whadata my damie.

04-24-2003, 10:10 AM	#8 (permalink)
bigoldalphamale Loser	not to be insensitive, but who cares about her troubles and her situation. are you not troubled by your own situation? well then, confront her and demand answers. if the conversation leaves you with anything less than peace of mind, MOVE ON!!!!

04-24-2003, 11:05 AM	#9 (permalink)
liquid_dreams Banned Location: ketchikan	keep your hopes up it well all be fine i'm sorta in that situation my self so thats all i can make of it

04-24-2003, 03:03 PM	#10 (permalink)
Golux Tilted Location: This side of heaven.	Confrontation doesn’t have to be abrasive. You can tell her how you feel and that you want to make sure that you’re not interpreting signals the wrong way and such. Just be honest and tell her that you want to provide the type of relationship that she is looking for. Tell her that you don’t want to pursue a relationship with her if that’s not what she wants because her happiness (unless I’m severely mistaken) is important to you. Just let her know how you’re interpreting her advances and let her set you straight if you’re wrong, or so that you can properly respond if you’re right. Honesty really is the best policy for both of you. You both need to know how you’re feeling, if she’s not sure how she feels than she might need to talk it out also. It might not be a pleasant conversation, but at least it’s one that will help to alleviate the confusion. Just be kind and let her know that you are concerned for her happiness and well-being.