Confrontation doesn’t have to be abrasive. You can tell her how you feel and that you want to make sure that you’re not interpreting signals the wrong way and such. Just be honest and tell her that you want to provide the type of relationship that she is looking for. Tell her that you don’t want to pursue a relationship with her if that’s not what she wants because her happiness (unless I’m severely mistaken) is important to you. Just let her know how you’re interpreting her advances and let her set you straight if you’re wrong, or so that you can properly respond if you’re right. Honesty really is the best policy for both of you. You both need to know how you’re feeling, if she’s not sure how she feels than she might need to talk it out also. It might not be a pleasant conversation, but at least it’s one that will help to alleviate the confusion. Just be kind and let her know that you are concerned for her happiness and well-being.
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