thejollycompany

Hello. I'm new here. I came for... well... stuff... but i decided that this community is pretty awesome. I have a question. I'm a shy 18 year old. I want to talk to girls but I'm shy. I was wondering what the best pickup lines are... like when you first meet a girl, and you ask her out and stuff. Or ones you've heard that are good and actually work.

There's also this girl that i like, and we're kinda friends, but i want to ask her out, but i'm not sure how to do it. any advice?


Just a little background... i'm asian, but i grew up in the good ol usa. i prefer white girls . the girl i like is white... not that it should make much of a difference...

pmb145

Pick up lines almost never work. Just be honest.

Donkeypuncher

agreed.

The one that's always worked best for me is, "hi."

It's having the confidence to go up and talk to a woman that works, not so much what you say.

edit:
you should also check the advice in this thread:
Please help me hook up


and ummm... welcome aboard!

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thejollycompany

thanks, i read that one donkeypuncher... i was like... hick car HICK CAR!!!!!

but um, where do you go after the hi?
Hi... i start to muble and become incoherent

Donkeypuncher

yeah, ok... so I had "Bitchin' Camaro" running through my head when I first saw it, but you know... to each his own.

But the question is a similar one and a lot of people have thrown in on it...


After the, "hi"? I dunno - depends on where you are. It can really be as simple as "I saw you walk by and couldn't help notice you... would you like to go for coffee?" Or dinner, or a drink, whatever... kinda depends on my take on her appearance and what she might be into. Really, it doesn't matter - if she likes you, it's not gonna matter much where you are. SO you meet up and just talk. Sometimes, it'll be really awkward and the conversation won't go anywhere... no chemistry. Oh well. Sometimes, you get kicked out of the restaurant because everyone wants to go home. Ask that one to go out again.

The big thing is to just do it. Yeah, you'll feel like a tool sometimes, but everyone goes through that. It's not the end of the world and the more you do it, the more comfortable you'll be doing it. The single biggest benefit you'll get from it is losing a lot of your fear of talking to someone you don't know... it won't matter with most of them but when a girl walks in the room that really flips you, you'll be SO glad you weren't paralyzed by that fear.

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Minx

I think the best advice I could give would be to tell you to just be open, approachable and friendly (a big old smile always works!) and above all....just be yourself!
Most pick up lines are pretty cheesy and just gets us rolling our eyes. A friendly hello will usually get you a friendly hello back and then you've broken the ice.

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Donkeypuncher

...and I've always been pretty sure I wouldn't be interested in any woman who fell for one.

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bermuDa

see my sig

nahh none of it works

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anti fishstick

pick up lines are cheesy and don't work. over-excessive compliments don't work either. i don't buy that shit. just be friendly. be yourself. and talk about things you may both share interests in. get to know her.

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yoshi

No pick up lines. Be yourself especially since you are friends already.

ratbastid

Try this:

Say "Hi", then let HER talk. Ask questions about her. BE INTERESTED. You're not trying to get anywhere, here, you're actually intered in HER. Then let the conversation just happen.

mirevolver

I found that "Hello" works pretty well. Then just let the conversation progress naturally.

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deve

just be yourself man, its all about being true to yourself and communication.

btw--its not a camaro, its a Firebird...but a bitchin' one at that

trialzin

I think everyone nailed it, just talk normaly. Hey your not alone, I think most guys here could say that they are sometimes shy and afraid to talk to women, but you know once you say hi and the convo starts its just happens and everything is OK.

Donkeypuncher

"Bitchen' Camaro" is a song. Hence the quotes and having it "running through my head," but... you know... thanks for the help anyway.

=)

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anti fishstick

hahhaha it's a funny ass song at that.

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juanvaldes

That is all the advice you need.

Welcome btw.

MSD

While you're talking to her, try to move the conversation toward something relationship related, maybe drop hints that you're single and looking if it seems appropriate, then mention at some point (you'll probably be able to tell when it's a good time) that being friends with her has shown you that she's the kind of person you're looking for, judge her response, and then just come straight out and ask her out.

Konichiwaneko

just be you..though I admit...I have created some fine pick up lines out of shear boredom.

This one worked on my friend when I used it on her. I guess she was being nice, but she really liked it.

"Girl you better paint your ass red, cause when I saw it I just had to stop"

Yep that's a Trent original right there.

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eci

If you're finding you don't know how to ask your friend out, just walk up and do it without thinking. That'll stop the nerves kicking in and tying you up, and get the whole thing out in the open. Whatever happens, you'll feel relieved and who knows - you might surprise yourself

Walk up and say "hi, fancy going for a coffee / drink?" and in your head you'll go 'holy fuck, did I just do that?!' heh.

Oh, and if you want a slap, try saying: "fancy going halves on a bastard?"

hehehe.

Donkeypuncher

more thoughts on the subject:

Confidence, without arrogance is a turn on to most women. Don't whine. Learn to dance and/or cook. Laugh out loud. Have your own opinions and be willing to state them, whether or not the lady at the table agrees with it. Don't try to survive on "lines," most women will see right through that and you've lost before you ever got started. Definitely don't change your approach to suit the input you're getting from her... be consistent. Be you. Believe it or not, this is showing her far more respect than just trying to morph into whatever you think she wants.

If you're going to strike out, then go for it. Big. Being exactly who you are. And if you strike out, don't hold it against her just because she didn't dig your vibe -- it didn't work out, move on. No harm, no foul and at least you took the shot at the buzzer. There is nothing more annoying than insecure and/or inept guys blaming the women that they go after for their own mistakes. Grow some balls and get into the game, or nurse your drink and stay satisfied with what you have on the sidelines and in your chat rooms.

You hear so much about "nice guys finish last" and that just isn't true. Insecure guys finish last. Too many guys who are "nice guys" figure that they have to change who they are to get someone, or keep a portion of themselves hidden away before getting to know someone. That never works or, rather, never works well. No one likes an emotional and conversational wind-sock.

Dating, by nature, involves a bit of risk... emotional as well as a bit of physical in today's climate. Women won't just go out with any old guy out of pity if they don't have some inkling that they want to be with him. Or, the ones that will do that have some issues you don't want near you anyway. It's an investment of time and effort, and why waste it on some insecure guy who doesn't make the leap? Might as well go for the long haired guy from England (with apologies to Too Much Joy), at least he's in the game. Too many guys only play half court in the dating game, and are constantly complaining about others who are making the full court press. You can't do it in halves, you can't just dip your toes in the dating pool. If you're in, JUMP in. Have a good time, and if you're still not getting what you were looking for, you might want to take a look at what you're putting out there, as well as the women you keep approaching. You might try a change of scene, a change of venue, or you might want to stop trying to make small talk when all she really wants is for you to shut up and dance...

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nulltype

I think I once heard that the best pickup line is "Hello, my name is <name>, what's yours?" And go from there.

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slunk007

How about...

"Nice shirt. Wanna fuck?"

j/k...

Everybody here said it just right.
Remember: The hardest and most important part is to just try.

Slims

You need an ice breaker.

Something to put you in a position where you and the girl can feel comfortable talking to each other. Like if you hold her hair while she vomits.

Seriously though, if you are shy, you need to look for an opportunity for effortless, natural conversation.

Good things to do are:

Join a club where you will be expected to meet and talk to the female members.

Go places with an asshole friend so you can apologize for him to the ladies.

Talk to girls in class (esp. the first couple weeks of the year, since they are trying to make friends too), but always start with something harmless like "hello, my name is xxx what's yours?" or "Is this seat taken?"


For the girl you like:

Just ask her "Can I take you out some time? or something similar. You don't have to take a stand in order to ask her out. If she is interested, she will respond well. If not, she will be able to let you down graciously and without hurting your friendship.


Pick up lines can be funny, but I think that most people try them out because they find them amusing and want to see how women react to them, rather than as serious attempts to get women.

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