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Recently I slept with a guy who told me after sex that I didn't feel the way he thought I would after having two kids. He went on to say I feel like a virgin each time. I'm not sure if that is supposed to be a compliment or what. It got me thinking about how sensitive a man can be to vaginal elasticity. I kegel every single day. I kegel during foreplay and right before penetration I tighten up again because it creates more tension. As he enters me I feel the resistance. Is this something important to a man?

The_Jazz

Ummm, yes. It is important.

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KirStang

QFT. Yes, it's very important. And yes, we can tell. It's frustrating to feel like a hot dog in a hallway.

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I guess I'm shocked a bit because I wasnt expecting to hear it. I'd never put that much thought into it. So guys wonder how tight someone is... like you can't tell until you do it. Must liken it to wondering about penis size....I need to let it go and keep on kegeling.

Plan9

Not as important as having a giant porn cock, apparently.

/society

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I haven't had sex with a woman that has had children, so I have no idea if all of this is an urban legend or not.

Will do my best to find a woman that has pushed out a few runts so I can test her petri dish with my swizzle stick.

My hypothesis is that most of it is complete man-bullshit in the category of "women with large labia are loose."

I'm sure it's not 100%, but I'm also sure that it isn't a case of being able to "drive a Mack truck through it."

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curiousbear

I think it is not about how tight or loose it is
It is about whether it can respond. While I am inside if it can contract and grip... The Pulsating is a rocking experience!

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BTW a huge hug to you for doing kegels Keep Kegeling

Plan9

Story. Time now. What was her name?

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Charlatan

My wife has had two kids and she is the same now as she was when I first met her.

I don't buy it that babies change the tightness. It's all about how you are made, not what you do to it in the meantime.

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Daniel_

A sample of one is not a statistically valid study.

Tightness itself is not a goal. The combination of tightness and response is the best thing. I don't want it to feel like I'm trying to jemmy open a safe with my cock, but if it feels like a pulsing warm wet funhouse, I'm loving it.

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Plan9

Rumor has it there are more than a few cucumbers and thigh-sized dildos out there calling bullshit on you, Charlatan.

Go Google "Great American Challenge Dildo" for an example. After I saw that in a sex toy shop in NC I didn't sleep.

I contend that 99% of women are normal. And that 1% out there has an internal backpack that can hide a football.

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jewels

It's all in the kegel. Never stop.

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Cynthetiq

I thought it was the episiotomy from childbirth that changes the tightness.

I've never been with a MILF, so I can't compare.

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jadangel

I do kegals daily. My bf says he loves when I tighten up on him. Sometimes he doesn't want me to squeeze so much because he wants to cum to quick when I keep it real tight.....He says I'm the first woman he has been with that has had that kind of control....I thought all women knew that little secret, but apprently not....

jewels

Not at all. The practice of kegeling gives the woman total control of both his and her orgasms after just a wee bit of practice. Good for all.

If there is any truth to the vaginal walls stretching after childbirth (not sure on that one), a woman's kegels will ensure the man would never guess she's given birth.

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J86

Sums it up.

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I told my friend about kegels and she was shocked. We are both 34! I thought everyone knew the secret too. She said she didn't have her first orgasm until about 3 years ago. After her first child she had some sort of vaginal explosion not sure what the medical term she used was. She said her vagina had lost its elasticity. After the second kid she said that sex was just sick. After the third kid she started having bladder problems after going to the Dr she found out she had a prolapse of some sort. After several operations her vagina was reconstructed. They tightened her up, hung her bladder on some mesh and sent her on her merry way. She said the first time she ad sex after the surgery she could feel her husband! She felt the orgasm and didn't know what it was. She figured it out and was like, oh that is what theyre talking about! I will have to conduct research on that!

curiousbear

That is great jadangel. I had never felt that so far

Seaver

Daily Kegals are the best thing a woman can do for her man aside from daily blowjobs.

Do both and your marriage will never be happier.

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jadangel

I'm so sorry to hear that some men have never been with a woman that had control. Curiousbear, I hope you run across one someday....you'll never be the same....lol..

Maybe someone can do a public service announcement....I'm sure men all around the world would appreciate it if their women learned how to do it also...For the life of me I can't remember how I learned about them but I have been doing them since my early 20s and I'm 35 now....

snowy

I learned about them in Cosmo when I was 15 or so and have been doing them every day since Hubby loves 'em.

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jewels

LMAO! Same here! I think I was about 15 and read it in Cosmo! Shit, I wonder if my daughters have already read that article!

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Ourcrazymodern?

You can't fit a pencil in mine.

How can you not tell he can?

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TheCrimsonGhost

Yes guys can tell. I have been with girls that feel like a black hole, like your penis isn't even touching the walls of the vagina... while others are like a glove. Though I do think it has a lot to do with the size of the girl, "how she was made" as another put it... I also believe that having babies and being promiscuous also can loosen things up down there. It is, only flesh and muscle, and it can't stay tight forever. Though doing those kegels Im sure keeps it tighter longer.

rr1024

Yes but it totally depends on the woman, some you can and others you can't

KirStang

Yea...Kegels actually makes a huge difference. Had an ex who was really 'meh' but once she did kegels it was great.

But I ended up finishing too fast so she never did them again. Ugh.

Plan9

*imagines said woman opening Bud Light with Nature's Bottle Opener (TM)*

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gooder

I am an average guy you bet I can tell the difference. Kegels are right up there with a woman getting her hands involved in the ol' in and out and stimulating both her and I.
Why be lazy? Work it. Make it better. Men can do Kegels too. Good muscle tone from hard work and exercise make it all better as well. Good topic keep spreading the word.

Wilhelm

It is possible to tell the difference for sure, although I don't like anyone more or less for that matter

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curiousbear

I guess the only way I can experience this is my SO learns this. If I know one and for feeling/experiment sake may be I can use my finger LOL!!! And possibly make her try her finger too!!!

I wonder whether there are profession coaching on kegels for men/women! Like I use to wonder whether there are people performing 'slow masturbation' to improve men's prolonged activity....

You know my name is curiousbear!

jadangel

Women that don't know how just need to google it. I did a search and all kinds of instuctional material on "how to" was brought up.... I think with a little practice any woman can master the technique.....

Calypso15

Awww ... the wonderful kegel makes the vagina a magical place to be.

66mustang

During college and for a time after college I used to hook up with this tiny little co-ed that had the most magical vag I've ever been in. She was able to take me no problem, no surprise, but she could pulsate and flex her vaginal muscles quite rythmically. She said that her mother taught her how to do this and her grandmother taught her mother. Her mother was from India or somewhere. She would slide down onto me, taking almost the whole 10, and she would then massage my bone without ever moving anything other than her vag muscles, similar to the kegels mentioned here, but with incredible strenght and control. I've always encouraged kegels for every young lady I have been with since. Yes, kegels rock, and you can tell a difference when they are done or not done.

Calypso15

If it wasn't kegels then I wonder what it was!

Amaras

Apparently, kegels rock. By the by, I hate the hotdog down a hallway feeling. It messes
with my self confidence.

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Plan9

Wow, I'm really glad all you guys are "banging the loose ones" for me.

I have yet to slide into a partner that was anything but tight like a tiger.

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Amaras

That's because you probably have a large penis.
And how is a tiger tight?

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Plan9

LOL! Nah, bro. Nah.

I'm hung like a dehydrated Vienna sausage. Just ask anybody who has had the misfortune of seeing "it."

Imagine fucking Bruce Lee's fist. The kinda tight where it feels like she's got you with some rubber-covered vise grips, squeezing.

I don't know about this thread. I've never had a "loose" girl before. I almost always have spectacular ohgodmyface! orgasms, too.

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Amaras

Imagine fucking Bruce Lee's fist. The kinda tight where it feels like she's got you with some rubber-covered vise grips.

Sounds painful

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Lendari

Definitely noticeable and "important".

intak758

I never knew that this stuff was really an issue to some men... how can it not feel tight in there is what I gotta say! Maybe only the little guys really feel much of a difference...