confusedhubby

Im gonna try to make this as short as possible. My wife recently told she is not in love with me anymore. I was shocked and of course my first thought was "is there someone else?" Of course she denied it but my gut feeling told there was. So i investigated and found out there was.
So let me get to the point, she never had intercourse with the guy but every time we talk about it, it gets us both turned on. She wants to have sex with him really bad and I dont know if i can go thru with it. First off this guy is hung like a horse and im tiny compared to him. She states that she is curious and wants to know if she will orgasm cuz apparently i havent been able to accomplish that. My fear is that she will enjoy it and want to do it with him more often. SHe has told me every detail about their 3 encounters and there was a lot of passion behind them. Also I asked her if she will let me watch and she said no cuz she wouldnt feel comfortable. Let me know what you think, thanks...

Wes Mantooth

Wait a minute.

She said she's not in love with you anymore, lied to you about seeing another guy and now the two of you are talking about how big his junk is, which one of you can make YOUR wife orgasm and if its okay for you to watch while he gives it a shot?

If you guys want to go down that path then more power to you but it doesn't sound like a very fun sexual game if your wife doesn't love you anymore and doesn't want you around for the fun parts...it just sounds like an affair that got outed a little to soon.

Personally I'd have slapped her with divorce papers and kicked her out the front door long before we ever got around to discussing her new lovers penis size.

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confusedhubby

Yes as would most guys, but we already reconciled. She has admitted to everything and I also told her that I had an affair 6 years ago, and I honestly think that had a big impact on her. We have had numerous talks and we have bonded like never before and have had sex more in the past week than the last 2 months. She has told me she loves me and she constantly tells me( which before she wouldnt). So should I keep this thing a fantasy, its more intense now that there is a name and face....

Baraka_Guru

Wait....

She loves you, she loves you not?

She still wants sex with Anaconda?

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The_Jazz

You mean the marriage, right? 'Cause that's over. It's pretty clear she's going to keep seeing him, regardless of what you think or want. If you're willing to explore a plural marriage, that's something different, but that's not what you're talking about.

If you want permission to go watch some guy fuck your wife, go for it. Not my thing, but far be it from me to get in the way of someone else's enjoyment. But if you're not playing out your fantasy as a part of your OP, it seems to me that unless you're one of those incredibly rare souls that gets off on being cuckolded, you're better off finding a competent divorce lawyer than anything else.

And if she catches you watching after she's explicitly told you she doesn't want you to watch, then you should probably invest in a steel cup too.

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Wes Mantooth

Well that puts a little different spin on it. If you've reconciled (as in really truly have worked passed it and its not just a desperate attempt to avoid an ugly divorce) then I suppose you could have a little fun with it if you're both interested. But if she doesn't want you watching, then whats the point?

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Baraka_Guru

It sounds like, "I love you, but I need some serious deep dicking."

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confusedhubby

@ Wes Mantooth....whats the point? Man you are absolutely correct, thanks...

Wes Mantooth

If as you say the two of you have reconciled (is he still in the picture or has she broken it off?) then why not tell her about this fantasy and maybe the two of you can do something with it together on fair terms...pick somebody up together, talk about it while you have sex or make a little game out of it.

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The fact that she won't let you watch makes it a useless experience as far as I'm concerned.

hunnychile

Dude, buy her a big fat dildo and tell her that you are ready to keep her happy, one way or the other.

I'd say that the two of you could (might?) work this out if both of you are up front with the daliances... but she should give up Anaconda (unless YOU are okay with her using him.) But then that takes a man of steel. And she can't get in your shit if you find the younger, tighter fine young lady who rings your orgasm bell.

Yep, it's complicated. Perhaps that's the beginning line of your one-on-one with the wife. What's it worth? SOme great marriages are extremely open and that means the two main "players" are "pen& Honest"

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Brad1989

I know I'm young and all, but I am confused with what the problem is. If it was sex then its no big deal. There are a ton of ways to work that out. First off its not your size dude. I am huge and it took a lot of work and communication with my girlfriend so that I won't hurt her. Average male size is 5 to 6 inches. Its all about technique. Second there are open marriages for those who are into that and know there relationship is strong. I think what you need to realize is the problem is she said she doesn't love you. Thats not going to change if you packing a 12 incher and you bring home 5 other studs for a gang bang. I know it sucks to lose so one you love, but if they don't love you then you really didn't lose anything that was worth a thing to begin with. Give yourself some time and remember it is her lose not yours. You should believe that you worth more and deserve more then to be with someone like that.

LAW2

I'll qualify my statements by saying that I beleive in a traditional marriage and a monogamous relationship. In that sense your marriage is over. Once a woman says she doesn't love you she never will. I don't care what people say about reconciliation and foregiveness. If anything people get back together out of guilt and loneliness. I had this happen to me. My ex uttered those very words. We went to counseling. I made every effort I could to save the marriage and in the end it came out she was a cheat.
Just move on. Everyone will be happier for it. Sounds like right now the sex is good. Maybe she's thinking of the other guy when she's w/you. Are you strong enough (confident) to live with that idea in your head? Since she's already had "encounters" with this guy and knows the size of his junk I'll take the under that she'll be with him shortly.
I'm sorry that this crap happens to people but no one's perfect.